about



I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












advice

Me and my friend were really close. We were too close but i would sometimes feel that he is not a true friend. I would do everything possible for him. He started dating a girl I never approved. I somehow managed to separate them on a bitter note. Later, I developed some differences with my friend and meanwhile by utter misfortune got close to his girlfriend...he would think we are dating so he was very upset. I also didnt bother then and unintentionally hurt him. Later, I realized that the girl is not a nice human being. she is fake and very materialistic and it was just an infatuation. I want my friend back. I feel guilty for all that he had to suffer. He doesn't talk to me at all. I tried to say sorry but everytime it ended on a sour note. But, i cant go back to him as i m scared that he would shout at me, abuse me and indulge in physical fight and might create a scene.




You betrayed your friend and he ended up resenting you for it. Your friend doesn't trust you, As much as you may of disapproved of the girl he was dating this is your friends choice not yours and because you came between that it cost you your friendship.


The only thing I can really tell you is to give your friend a little bit of time to cool off and try talking to him again. There may be a scene because he could be the type of guy that will never forget that his friend betrayed him. If you feel more comfortable you could try writing him a letter of apology if that would likely avoid confrontation but again if he isn't willing to read it or talk it out then you may of crossed the line a bit too far. :/

[view]


Welp, I just moved to Columbus and there is a guy named spencer that i like. I think he has a girlfriend but not sure. I dont know him. Like at all. But i want to meet him and date.. What should i do. He is in 7th and i am in 8th.




If you don't know if he is in a relationship or not then you should probably hold off until you know for sure. It would be wrong to try and come between someone's relationship and you don't want to be the girl he points fingers at because if you do try to come between a relationship he'll end up resenting you for it. If you want to talk to him then fine but try to respect his relationship if he's in one.

[view]

I want to lose 2 stone. That's my goal weight. If I do this, and I get loose skin, what can I use to tighten it?




There are no such creams, If you want to tone up you will need cardio exercise. Crunches, Sit ups, Hiking, etc.

[view]

Hi there :)

I'm 16 and am desperate to lose weight. I'm currently around the 11 1/2 stone mark. I've lost 4 pounds in the last two weeks, because I've heard that if you lose weight slowly, you would have less loose skin?

Is it possible to go from 11 1/2 stone to 9 1/2 without having any loose skin?

Thanks :)


If you loose an excessive amount of weight then it is possible you could have loose skin, This is why it is important to exercise and tone up your muscles.


For example: If you walked off 100 pounds...You will have loose skin. If you don't want to have as much loose skin then you may want to try hiking instead of walking where you will work your muscles.

It sort of depends on how much weight you are looking to loose, If you are talking 10-25 lbs then it is unlikely but usually anything 50+ is where you would need to worry. I've never heard of the slower you loose weight the less loose skin your have, I have heard....The slower you loose the weight the longer it will stay off.

Try mixing some cardio in your exercise that will also help tone up.

[view]

This is an EXTREMELY long story. And in order to answer my question you have to know the whole story. Which is long. I'm a girl and she's a girl. I think that's all you need to know to start with.
'Twas the first day of my freshman year. There was an assembly in the auditorium. It was, of course, boring. So I glanced ahead of me and three rows ahead and a few seats over was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen. She was doing something with her hair.. her beautiful hair. I was like, lovestruck immediately. I didn't really see her after that.. until about two weeks later. I saw her walking down the hallway. She looked at me, haha. But I had never seen her before in my life. Then later that week, I was walking down the hallway to my locker and I walked by my English room. I saw her in there and she looked at me. I never forgot that look... anyways. After school that day, I asked my English teacher who the last person who sat there was. She told me (I'm not going to say the name of course). Then I added her on Facebook and blahblahblah. I don't remember how it happened really, but I know she deleted me and stuff. I later found out that she knew about me liking her. I sent her a loooonnnnggg messsage on Facebook saying how I was sorry if I made her feel uncomfortable in any way and such.. and I didn't mean to hurt her.. all that crap. She wrote back and said it was just kind of weird and she didn't know why I couldn't have just talked to her instead of making a big deal out of it. We messaged back and forth a lot. For the next month, actually. I considered that a breakthrough, really. We were good at one point, then she hated me, then I apologized, then she wasn't too sure about it, then we were okay again, then she was mad again. (Yeah, all within one week too). And THEN she sent me a message asking for my email address so she could send me something she wrote about herself a while ago. It said a lot of stuff like she didn't like how she was failing and stuff like that.. I asked her why she sent me that and she told me it was because she thought I had the wrong idea about her. I would always tell her how perfect she was, how there's nothing wrong with her. I admitted that I knew everyone had flaws. But I still told her she was perfect, because she is. I'm terrible at telling stories, I know.
Blahblahblah (It's really extremely boring). Next thing you know, it's November 16th :)
She had told me that she didn't feel comfortable actually walking up to me and talking to me, but if I came up to her sometime it'd be okay. So I did, that morning. November 16th. :) It was INCREDIBLY awkward and I didn't know what to say. I was so nervous and ohhhmygoodness. As soon as I walked up to her locker and said "hi.." she smiled. At. Me. I couldn't believe it. The most beautiful girl in the world smiled at me. (YESSS). So we talked.. then later in the day she smiled AND WAVED to me in the hall...



Sounds like this girl wanted to be your friend but may be a little unsure whether she is comfortable being friends with someone who likes her in that way. If she is straight, Then she's straight. I think your best bet is too talk to her about where you two stand with one another, If she has been ignoring you on facebook for awhile then obviously she may not be very comfortable being in contact with you. You can either try messaging her about it or lay low for awhile and wait and see if she contacts you. I just wouldn't want to keep on messaging her seemly desperate about the whole thing that may end up scaring her off.

[view]

if your byfriend call you a bitch and said fuck you what can i do should i live him?



I would start to think your boyfriend may have some issues to sort out as calling someone names is very disrespectful and rude.


I think you could try to talk it out but if he has said these things on more than one occasion I would think about leaving his ass as nobody deserves to be disrespected by someone who is supposed to love and respect them. So basically if this happened more than once I'd curb stop his disrespectful ass.

[view]

If you are going to be mean with all do respect dont answer.
im 16 years old and im from egypt, im not obese at all, im slightly overweight.. but ive been wanting to get on the biggest loser ever since i saw the show.. and i would do anything to be on that show, is there any possible way i can enter the biggest loser seeing how im from egypt and im not very obese ? =/ or is there no chance and i should drop it.. it means alot to me as stupid as it may sound , i realllllly wanna get in :(, thanks for your help.




The biggest loser looks for people who are way of their weight chart meaning obese/morbidly obese. This is what makes the show, If you noticed many of the cast members or not slightly overweight.

[view]

Hi. I am 20 year old girl from India. This might take a bit long for you to read, so please have patience. I have been friends with a guy of my own age from the past 3 years and we still are really good friends. The problem is that we have been pretty intimate with each other all this time. No, we haven't gone all the way yet but yes, we have been quite close to that. He makes the first move whenever something happens and I just go with it after resisting for a few minutes (and that too never seriously). I let him do whatever he wants to me, just that I've never let him have sex with me. Now, the thing is that, we both aren't in the same cities. He visits often and whenever he's here he lets me know and we go out. I never call him up or text him whether he is in my city or not. He's the one to do it and i reply back to him only when i feel i want to. He takes me out for long drives, lunch/dinner, movies, strolls, etc. He's never shy/afraid of introducing me to any of his friends. He never lets me pay any bills even when i insist to. He has let me in his flat in my city. We have a lot of interests and hobbies in common as well. But that's the only part where i restrict everything to. I never try to sacrifice anything on my part when it comes to meeting him. If i find the time unsuitable for us to meet, i just wholly dismiss our meeting without even trying to make any adjustments or compromises. I have never let him meet any of my other friends, not even one! Neither have i told any of my friends about him. Maybe this is because (here comes another twist) i stole this guy from a very good friend of mine. Not as a boyfriend though, a crush (quite big one!). I have never let him come to my flat ever. I just clearly refuse it when he asks me to. Once he met me after a very long time and told me that he had a Girlfriend now but was having some problems with her and wanted me to help him solve them. I was very pissed listening to this and didn't feel like talking to him or letting him touch me at all! Still I tried talking about it with him. After a month i came to know that he had broken off with her and i came back on the same track i earlier was on and lured him into doing things with me in his car. Again, i didn't let him go all the way.
There has been a long gap since we met now. I totally avoided being in contact with him during summer vacations without giving him any reasons. And in that period of time, i made an actual boyfriend whom i like talking to and everything and never ever try avoiding him at all. But, this new guy, he won't get intimate with me i know. He's not that type. So its clear that he ain't gonna make any moves on me and i'm not the type to make the first move by myself. Now, after a few days, the previous guy whom i was talking about all this time, is coming back. And i know by all means that i want his company and that too in every way possible, even physically. Its getting difficult for me to avoid him now and i dont wanna lose my boyfriend also. I can't tell either of the guys about each other. I wanna know why is this happening to me? Why am i feeling so guilty about all of this? Its not just this time that i am feeling guilty, it has been throughout the past 3 years. Sometimes, i think that i should keep my boyfriend, love him and care for him and keep him unaware of my friend. And for my physical needs, i should rely upon my friend. But then, i know, this would be very wrong from my side. But i just can't control myself. This could mean i would have to lose one of the guys. But i don't wanna lose any one of them. What should i do to get rid of this guilt? I'm not a bad girl, trust me! I'm really very confused and I don't have any idea what to do and still be happy. I am being too selfish, right? Please suggest something to me soon. And please try to keep it somehow in my favour as i'm sick and tired of compromising my life for others' sake now 'cause always it has been me only who has been at loss in life. Now I just want to keep myself happy anyhow but yeah, without feelng guilty about anything.
Tell me, what exactly should i be doing?




What you are doing is wrong, You are taking advantage of your friend. If you have a boyfriend you should not be fooling around with anyone else as this is classified as cheating.

If you love your boyfriend and are happy with him then why do you need to go back to your friend? Are you happy in your relationship?...If your not you should be honest and tell your boyfriend you aren't happy and don't think it's going to work out. You are confused because you are with two men. You are creating one hell of a wrong doing, God help you if your boyfriend were to ever find out. I recommend STOP cheating on your boyfriend, If you don't like what you are doing then don't do it. It's wrong and unfaithful

[view]

im 19 and i plan on going to college for hotel management and that sort of thing.

what kind of par time jobe could i get while im studying in this field?
thanks!



If you want to work in a hotel while going to college, You could look into house keeping that is a great start for part timers.

[view]

19/f

i asked a question about this before but i need to update the info. basically, my boyfriend (of 10 months) broke up with me like 2 weeks ago because i said stupid stuff to him when i was drunk. like horrible stuff like told him i wanted to be single and hook up with other guys but i truly did not mean any of it. the only time we really fought was when we were drunk. i talked to him yesterday and he told me he just wants to be friends. he told me that he's never gonna feel the same about me again and he's 100% sure that he doesn't wanna be with me, but i don't know if i believe that. i think he's just hurt. he told me if we got back together he would be worried that i would cheat on him and still act the same way when i was drunk. i don't know how to prove to him that i've changed in these 2 weeks. he already knows that i haven't been drinking, but he thinks that's stupid. i think he's worried that i'm gonna be horrible and mean and drunk but i know i won't be. i just don't know how to prove it to him. i guess it took losing him to realize that i was just scared to show him how i really felt all along. i wanna start over with him and try to earn his trust back i'm just scared he's really done with me. but he keeps making comments about how he doesn't wanna see me with other guys or how it hurts him to imagine me with other guys. but when i say nice things to him he pushes me away. how can i convince him that things will be better?




Razhie is right


Trying to convincing him is either going to annoy him to the point where he has no choice but to cut all contact with you or to the point where you drive him insane and he snaps.

The guy told you how he felt, He was real about it and as hard as it is to believe you need to respect that. Sometimes things in life suck and don't always go the way we want them too and other times things happen and it's just too late to take them back. If you said horrible things when you were drunk then maybe it's time to lay off the alcohol, It has already cost you your relationship but honestly? Lay low for awhile and don't nag the guy. If he decides to come around in the future he'll let you know.

[view]

Problem: The guy im seeing has this REALLY pretty girl on his facebook and he aws on dating sites and I dont know how he met her.. or how he knows her.. shes new.. and im really scared hes going to cheat on me.. he once said : why do people cheat with fat people... why not pretty people? also I had dreams of him cheating CONSTANTLY!! and the fact that he comments on girls more then he comments on me.. ive put so much so much work into the relationship im scared hes going to hurt me.. what if that girl hits on him.. shes prettier.. I dont know..


IM SO PARANOID




You don't trust him and that is a big problem...


Your boyfriend sounds ignorant to be honest with you and why do I say that?

{he once said : why do people cheat with fat people... why not pretty people?}

[view]

So this guy im seeing five months ago says oh yeah.. I want a picture of us and frame it in my room.. NOW he never ever MENTIONED ONCE we need pictures together we should get a picture together.. NO picture on his profiles of us NOTHING! thats a bad sign isnt it? I hear if they dont put up a picture because they dont want othersd to know or have your options opened.. but with like pictures they know your not available.. is this true??

what do you think?




I think it's odd that you wouldn't at least have a few pictures of your partner. Many people would generally like people to know they are with that special someone. It all depends on the guy, How does he act around you? How does he act around his friends? Does he seem ashamed of you? Well....The ashamed part I would probably start to wonder if he seemed to "Hide" the relationship between the two of you. If he is ashamed to be with you then maybe he isn't good enough for you to begin with. That one would bother me too especially after the first 3 months of a relationship is when you begin to know one another.

[view]

The signs of a cheater and not a cheater.



Signs of a cheater: Tends to ignore conversations lack showing interest in a topic, Acts suspicious, Home late and makes up random excuses not to see a person, Hides things and doesn't want you to know or see certain business, Would rather hang out with others than spend time with you on regular occasions.

Signs of a non cheater: Is interested in what you are talking about, Wants to spend time with you and makes an effort to plan things, Calls you and is sensitive to your feelings, Listens to you, Someone who shows commitment.

[view]

How fat can you get from ice cream...



Depends on how much you eat


Ice cream is very high in sugar, Eating to much can put on weight and probably make you run to the bathroom.

[view]

back in freshman year (i'm a senior now) i started to like this guy. we can call him J. anyway J found out that i liked him through someone else and he told my friend to tell me that he only thought of me as a friend. So she goes up to me and is like "i heard that J only likes you as a friend" i assumed that she overheard it somewhere so i shrugged it off. a few days ago i got curious and I asked her how did she find out and she told me that J told her himself. i ask her why didn't she tell me this before and she was like "you didn't ask" i know this is like a small issue but i'm slightly bothered that she didn't tell me he told her himself. and she didn't even think to tell me for two years and i had to ask her for it in order for her to tell me. am i wrong for feeling kind of hurt?



It really wasn't her responsibility to tell you, If the guy liked you and wanted you to know don't you think he would of told you himself? Your friend probably didn't really want to come between it and that's understandable. The guy doesn't have balls

[view]

So I have a problem.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now (our anniversary is monday) and I absolutely love him! We had a rocky past but everything is going great now. Our past was rocky because I caused some trouble by still being in contact with my ex, and my boyfriend found out and thats when things got worse. But I fixed them and no longer in contact with any exs. However, a few days ago I found out that he's still facebook friends with his ex. I know nothing is going on between them because the last time he spoke of her was the beginning of our relationship and I trust him and know he wouldn't cheat on me. But I can't stop thinking that he has some kind of connection with his ex, even if it is just facebook friends. I don't know why but it just bothers me so much. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for the past few days. And i've noticed that whenever I do think about it, I get a sickening stomach ache feeling. It makes me a little upset that he's still facebook friends with her. I'm not facebook friends with any of my exes.

In fact, one time I had some pictures of me and my ex (it was prom pictures) and my boyfriend got jealous/mad and was uncomfortable with the pictures. It gave him bad memories of our past. So I was kind enough to delete those pictures because I knew he felt uncomfortable with them. Now i'm uncomfortable with something (him still being facebook friends with his ex) but i really don't know what to do.

I feel like this is so juvenille and childish... to get uncomfortable that he's facebook friends with his ex. Am I making this a big deal when its not? Should I talk to him about it? Another thing you should know is that my boyfriend can get angry very easily. Like I said earlier- our 1 year anniversary is coming up on monday. I'm scared that if I bring this problem up, he might get angry because its so juvenille and then our 1 year anniversary would be terrible because he would be mad at me. So i'm not sure if I should mention it or not because I guess it is a little childish problem but it still bothers me.

And another thing, if I didn't talk to him about this, I think it would really get on my nerves. I'm not the one to "forget" about something like this.. I think it would haunt me and especially on our anniversary, I wouldn't get as pleasant feelings. I guess i'm just scared to bring it up because I fear that he will get angry because its such an immature problem. I don't know what to do :( I love him and don't want him to get mad at me over something like this. But still it irritates me that he is facebook friends with her.




Well looks like you both got a taste of what it's like to be in contact with each others exes...


Honestly? Why did you need to be in contact with them in the first place? Exes cause nothing but drama and trouble for your current relationship and unless someone has a child with someone there should be absolutely no need to be in touch with someone from a past relationship.

Anyway, I would sit down with him and discuss with him how it makes you feel that he is still in contact with his exes. This isn't just his wrong doing but yours as well. You BOTH need to stop contacting old baggage if you want your relationship to work. You could tell him that you've been thinking about the mistakes you've made by being in contact with your exes and you feel that you both should start over and clean the plates and not have anything to do with the exes. Communication is the key, You both work it out.

[view]

19/f

So i'm kind of with this guy and he always tells me he loves me. I've been in love before and i know the feeling and I know that I don't love him, therefore i refuse to say it back. When he says it I usually just say "you don't really love me don't say that" or "that makes me kinda uncomfortable" but he usually just says "im sorry i can't help the way i feel." I mean he's a nice guy and everything but I'm 100% sure I'm not in love with him, and he has liked me for 2 years and has been trying to be with me ever since. I just don't know what to do anymore, it freaks me out.



Be honest about it


You could say the next time he brings it up "I know you really care about me but lately I have been thinking about us and I am not feeling the spark in our relationship I'm sorry"

You could also just sit down and talk to him by stating something like: "There has been a long going through my mind lately and I was wondering if we could talk? Well I know you always say how you love me and that is really sweet but I'm just not really feeling it on my part and I don't think it's going to work out between us"


Those are two ways to put it, It's better to let someone know how you feel ahead of time then to lead someone on

[view]

i and my boy friend has dated for 3 and half years and nown we are planing to get married next year but my question is this... early last year i found out that he is having a problem with his sperm, the doctor said he dosent have sperm cell in his sperm. he hasent told me this for the first time even till this moment i found out when he disclosed his email password to me in his sent massage, he sent a prayer reqiuest conferming it (may be forgot to delet it). i really love him and would love to marry him he is may source of happiness i have waited all this years for him to tell me this but he havent why didnt he want to tell me? i want to ask him about it but how do i ask him? please some one should help me out. 22f




Sometimes people are ashamed or embarrassed to talk about things. Also, It could bother him so much he just didn't want to talk about the situation or perhaps it is hard for him to except it.


It could be a number of reasons but I most certainly wouldn't hold it against him. It's almost like telling a women she is infertile. It can be depressing and a big ego killer to some guys just try and talk to him about it but be understanding.

[view]

what does bulimia do to the body?



Bulimia is very very bad for your body


Throwing up excessively can cause tooth decay, Heart failure, Liver and kidney failure, dehydration and it can even cause infertility.

Here is a link with more information:

http://www.bulimia.com/client/client_pages/bulimia8.cfm


If you have it or are thinking of doing so I highly recommend you seek professional help as it can not only lead to these symptoms but death as well

[view]

so now my nearest and dearest r dead for every event i wrote a poem how can i get it on net




poetry.com


You have to register to use the site but it's 100% free

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop
eXTReMe Tracker