|
He told me he is 100% CERTAIN he doesn't want to be with me... but I don't believe him!
19/f
i asked a question about this before but i need to update the info. basically, my boyfriend (of 10 months) broke up with me like 2 weeks ago because i said stupid stuff to him when i was drunk. like horrible stuff like told him i wanted to be single and hook up with other guys but i truly did not mean any of it. the only time we really fought was when we were drunk. i talked to him yesterday and he told me he just wants to be friends. he told me that he's never gonna feel the same about me again and he's 100% sure that he doesn't wanna be with me, but i don't know if i believe that. i think he's just hurt. he told me if we got back together he would be worried that i would cheat on him and still act the same way when i was drunk. i don't know how to prove to him that i've changed in these 2 weeks. he already knows that i haven't been drinking, but he thinks that's stupid. i think he's worried that i'm gonna be horrible and mean and drunk but i know i won't be. i just don't know how to prove it to him. i guess it took losing him to realize that i was just scared to show him how i really felt all along. i wanna start over with him and try to earn his trust back i'm just scared he's really done with me. but he keeps making comments about how he doesn't wanna see me with other guys or how it hurts him to imagine me with other guys. but when i say nice things to him he pushes me away. how can i convince him that things will be better?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Razhie is right
Trying to convincing him is either going to annoy him to the point where he has no choice but to cut all contact with you or to the point where you drive him insane and he snaps.
The guy told you how he felt, He was real about it and as hard as it is to believe you need to respect that. Sometimes things in life suck and don't always go the way we want them too and other times things happen and it's just too late to take them back. If you said horrible things when you were drunk then maybe it's time to lay off the alcohol, It has already cost you your relationship but honestly? Lay low for awhile and don't nag the guy. If he decides to come around in the future he'll let you know.
]
You aren't going to be able to convince him.
Continuing to disbelieve him and trying to win him back has now crossed the line to disrespectful behavior on your part.
He's been honest and clear. You need to trust and respect what he says.
If he changes his mind in the future -- that's great, but you shouldn't make your life all about convincing him.
Just be better. Keep on behaving. Two weeks isn't long enough to earn anyones trust. Be his friend, and be a better friend than you were girlfriend. If he can see past your mistakes someday, he'll let you know.
]
he will push you away because like you hurt him ovbviously but dont worry you know if he DOES want to be with you he will its not your choice to decide its really HIS... he will show you if he wants this relationship or not.. dont worry show him and take him out somewhere do something he really likes wheny ou do , dont hang out with guys... I still think its stupid though about the drinking.. like its not your fault.. he should be there for you .. I think you dont need to change anything why do you want to change for a stupid guy? dont worry it will work out dont try to change itmight be worse or better who knows but once you change it will fade away adn you will be yourself again because you cant change who you are.. everything will work out just give it time! :)
]
More Questions: |