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How do I tell him I don't love him, when he has already told me he loves me?
19/f
So i'm kind of with this guy and he always tells me he loves me. I've been in love before and i know the feeling and I know that I don't love him, therefore i refuse to say it back. When he says it I usually just say "you don't really love me don't say that" or "that makes me kinda uncomfortable" but he usually just says "im sorry i can't help the way i feel." I mean he's a nice guy and everything but I'm 100% sure I'm not in love with him, and he has liked me for 2 years and has been trying to be with me ever since. I just don't know what to do anymore, it freaks me out.
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The guy is a pussy. He is so needy that he has glommed on to someone who has him on the friend list. You're just going to have to tell him that his neediness isn't attractive to you and that there is no chance the two of you will ever hook up. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
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The only thing you can do is tell him straight up.. tell him you dont have any feelings for him and the fact your not ''sure'' if you have feelings for him means you dont really love him at all... maybe you just ''like'' him, I would really consider you sitting down with him and telling him what you told us. There is no need for him to think you love him or like him... plus he should get that through his head because you said dont say that and its uncomfortable... hes not respecting you if you say dont say that and its uncomfortable... he should keep it to himself...wow.. 2 years he must really love you ... tell him it freaks you out and he will probabaly stop if he loves you ... trust me he will think again and not freak you out... you need to tell him yourself... it freaks you out and hes a great guy .but.... your not sure if you have feelings for him.. unfortunatley it sucks right? but tell him straight out tell him and get if off your chest as soon as possible... it will make you feel better.
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its not fair to you or to him to stay in a relationship if you just are not feeling anything. If you dont love him and dont think you will then sit down with him and talk to him let him know that he didnt do anything wrong you just are not feeling the way he is and maybe you would be better as friends... you dont want to stay in a loveless relationship all your life and you should be fair to him and let him go so he doesnt have to be in a loveless relationship either good luck and dont worry you are not doing anything wrong by not loving someone
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Be honest about it
You could say the next time he brings it up "I know you really care about me but lately I have been thinking about us and I am not feeling the spark in our relationship I'm sorry"
You could also just sit down and talk to him by stating something like: "There has been a long going through my mind lately and I was wondering if we could talk? Well I know you always say how you love me and that is really sweet but I'm just not really feeling it on my part and I don't think it's going to work out between us"
Those are two ways to put it, It's better to let someone know how you feel ahead of time then to lead someone on
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