I don't wish to be rude here, but... was your boyfriend telling the truth?
In other words, did you just do something only a bitch would do? If so, would you prefer he lie to you, call you "buttercup" while he is secretly thinking: "Why am I with this bitch again?"
Any time a conversation goes this route, there is a problem. Figuring out what the problem is can be less obvious.
If this came out of the blue, and you are 100% sure you have done nothing that would send him to that place mentally, then it is time to seek counseling (both of you) or get out of the relationship.
Should he resort to calling you names? Probably not. Few people, if adequately provoked, have the coping skills required to be polite in certain situations.
I can't help but wonder about the other folks that answered this with a straight out: "Dump him (more or less.)"
How do you think the conversation would go when they find out their partner is cheating on them? I am guessing all this "Oh there is never a reason to yell at anyone" would be right out the window.
Now, what are you supposed to do from here? If you don't know what caused this outburst, the best thing to do is ask him why he said these things. If he has no answer for you, then it is time to move on.
If he gives you and answer, then you can try to work things out.
By your age, I am going to guess neither one of you have a lot of experience in mature relationship life. Relationships are work. Real, serious work. Now all you need to do is see if there is any reason to work at this one.
WittyUsernameHere answered Monday August 8 2011, 12:03 am: If you're genuinely upset by it, probably yeah.
If you want to you can tell him you don't like it and that he needs to stop and see if he does. Given this sites age average he could be a douchebag or he could be a man/boy-child who doesn't know how to behave himself and is imitating his parents relationship skills or something similar.
Zane answered Sunday August 7 2011, 1:15 pm: I would start to think your boyfriend may have some issues to sort out as calling someone names is very disrespectful and rude.
I think you could try to talk it out but if he has said these things on more than one occasion I would think about leaving his ass as nobody deserves to be disrespected by someone who is supposed to love and respect them. So basically if this happened more than once I'd curb stop his disrespectful ass. [ Zane's advice column | Ask Zane A Question ]
DearAbby92 answered Sunday August 7 2011, 11:42 am: When someone who is supposed to care about you uses those crude words, then it definitely raises a red flag. It shows that he doesn't have respect for you. Now sometimes there are stressful situations where you feel angry or emotional or upset, and those words slip. Thats one thing. But if it happens often or whenever he gets ticked off at you, then that is not acceptable.
Basically, if you let him call you those things, then you are telling him it's okay to disrespect you.
If I were you and my boyfriend couldn't change his attitude and his choice of words, I wouldn't stay with him.
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