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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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It hurts me wen my girlfriend dont tell me the small things like when her son started school or what she did on her day off/ I am not psycho I just wanna be able to communicate since shes 3 hours away. Gut recently its got tot he point where shes had trouble with her blood sugar and geting dizzy and she didnt tell me. It hurt and it caused an arguement and I said really hurtful things, and I hurt her and shes upse with me. What should I do?
Long distant relationships are extremely hard, It usually never works out unless you two have serious plans on moving into together in the future. A 3 hour relationship is hectic and in all honestly if you both don't plan on living together in the future then you really should start recognizing that maybe this one isn't going to go the way you hoped it would.
There could be a few issues here: Either she just doesn't think to tell you everything or maybe she is backing off a little bit.....I really couldn't tell you. Are you the father of this child? Are you involved in his life?
If I was dating someone who lived 3 hours away and they weren't very involved with me or my child I probably wouldn't tell them certain things to protect the privacy of my kid. If you really would like to know why then you should ask her. Communication is the key in a relationship
Im 17 & my boyfriend just turned 20. My boyfriend that ive only dated for four monthes is talkin to his ex girlfriend again that he dated for four years. They broke up a month before he got with me and they lived together. The first two weeks we dated he broke up with me & said that he just couldnt stop thinking about her and he was gonna see if he could get back with her cause they always use to break up and get back together. But they didnt this time and sge said they could be friends but me and him got back together & I said they couldnt. Now im pregnant with his kid. I deleted her off his facebook & he added her back sayin he wanted to talk to her aometimes to see how she was doing and that I disnt understand how he feels because theyve been together for four years. He said he would not cheat on me but he wants to be friends with her. But I know you cant be friends with someone you dated for that long. What should I do? End it? Please reply!! Asap :/
You are heading for some real pot holes.....
A month is not nearly enough time to get over someone especially if you've been dating that person for 4+ years. That is just reality, It would be kind of unrealistic if someone were over it that fast. You've pretty much got flags right in front of you and you technically should of seen this coming from the very start. If he were completely over his ex, There wouldn't be a damn reason why he'd care to know what she is doing. This guy says he wants to remain friends with her, Lets face it she is an ex and he was with her for several years and he still very much cares about her. Would he admit it? Probably not nobody wants to admit they still have feelings for someone else. I'll tell ya what I was with my ex for 5 years and it took a lot longer than a month to just forget and move on.
To be honest with you, I believe you know that you made a huge mistake. Therefore I will not lecture you. I DO think you may want to start preparing to raise this kid on your own because likely this guy isn't going to be staying in the picture much longer as the obvious points too he is already on his way out. You can decide what you wish to do, This is your baby and it's your body but I really think you may want to think about what would be best for you and the baby's future. :/
Well I made a very big mistake and I slept with one of my teachers at the university.he is married and he has one kid.I know where his house is.well I was trying to stop the sex so I didn't go to his office anymore and he kinda found out and he accused of me being a pervert girl that goes around to be with guys.(while this is actually the first time in my life sleeping with a married man).and he broke up with me!!!!and let me tell you though he didn't even help me a little bit when he wanted to give the grades last semester and i got an A my self!.now i am so pissed at him and i want to black mail him that if he doesn't give me a good grade this semester I will tell his wife about our relation ship.I know that what i did was wrong but he had no right to accuse me as a slut!!I mean this relation ship had nothing for me!!and I am mad as hell!!I need help!How do i black mail him??
I agree with Razhie 100%
I wasn't going to answer this question because she pretty much nailed it but I just have one thing to add......
If this man threatens your education then you could let him know that if he wants to play games and put your education at risk then you will exploit him to the school. However, There isn't really any guarantee something will really happen he MIGHT get fired but I'm not sure if a Student/Teacher relationship is not allowed at a college or what as you are now of age to legally consent. You're best move would be to accept you made a mistake and move on, This is would be the mature thing to do. Don't be stupid
Hello, hopefully I can get a fast reply - it is needed. I've recently broke up with my girlfriend, the only thing is, this is a long distance relationship, she lives VERY far away from me... anyway, I dumped her because she has become far too obsessive, I can't talk to any girls in real life or online, if I do then that means I am automatically cheating on her... she is emotionally blackmailing me because I no longer want her... I can't get in touch with her family so yeah. :/ /Please help?
This girl is trying to grasp sympathy and attention by threatening self bodily harm, This is her way of controlling and manipulating you. I am not trying to sound like a dick when I say this but if she does decide to harm herself it isn't your responsibility. Nobody really needs a self obsessive partner and here your "ex" girlfriend has crossed the line. You have dumped her, Good for you I seriously give you props for recognizing that this one is excessive baggage.
I'll be honest, Although anything is possible and self bodily harm should very well be taken seriously based on what posted above I'm just going to assume this girl is talk. However, I really think you should try and get in contact with the girls parents if you can and tell them what is going on. Remember though as much as it does suck she is putting stress on your shoulders.....Dude if she does decide to do anything then it really is nothing more but her self insanity speaking. Nobody can be held responsible if they dumped a person as nobody is entailed to live out of misery. Also, There isn't a whole hell of a lot someone can do to prevent things in such distant anyway.
would u really think it would be ok if i let my dog eat me out?
Is this a serious question?
This is classified as beastuality and it's illegal
You may find this article handy
http://www.pitbull-chat.com/showthread.php?90624-Woman-Dies-of-Allergic-Reaction-to-the-Dog-She-Had-Sex-With
Also, That is extremely disgusting if you have an urge to take care of business then I would really suggest taking care of it on your own rather than doing something really gross and illegal.
Dumbell :(
My bf fucked me in my ass and he also came in my ass. It did not drip down to my vagina. Can i be pregnant? Im really nervous!
Very unlikely and next time maybe find a better way to word the question....
CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!
i haven't pooped in like 2 days! i can;t get it out! i tried so hard and idk what to do! i tried medimucial and it didnt work, i tried eating fruits and water and it didnt work! i can;t buy anything at the store and i cant go to the doctor and im NOT telling my parents!
PLEASE HELP ME! any suggestions?
thanks!!!!
How is your diet? Are you getting enough fiber? This could be the problem.
Make sure you eat plenty of fruits and vegetables, Now two days isn't entirely concerning if you haven't had a bowel movement it's somewhat normal. However, If you mean you've been constipated for two days then you NEED to see a doctor. As embarrassing as it is too admit I have gone through a problem like this once before in my life.
And this is what the doctor told me kid:
Going too long being constipated can overtime cause a deadly toxin to your body.
Feces is nothing but waste passing through your body and to ignore a problem can cause great consequences. Try taking a stool softener and wait about an hour to see if that helps any, Stay away from greasy food and dairy products as to much can become a big problem. However like I said if you've been constipated for two days then you NEED to go to the emergency room. This is nothing to be embarrassed about and I can tell you from my experience it's way better to go and get over with then to suffer the pain.
i got a 5 rating in less than 24 hours in this site (which is really awesome in helping out people)
and i give advice to others but i cant seem to advice myself well...
i just love helping others i guess.
my situation is:
why do i even expect his messages when he obviously doesnt care as much as i do?!?! the question is:
who is supposed to love more the girl or the guy? and how is this gonna work? who is supposed to know what? is it 50-50? of course compromise etc. but cause i feel girls should be loved more by the guy...confused...
Relationships are supposed to be 50-50, We help each other and we are supposed to love one another equally.
As far as "How is it going to work" It only works if you two work together, Communicate and work things out. Relationships/Marriages are not just about love they are about companionship and learning from one another. You both rely on mental, physical and emotional support. If one isn't willing to work things out then the relationship is pretty much doomed to fail.
BB cat started killing animals this March. Barb got him from the SPCA when he was a kitten 7 yrs ago, he spent most of his time in the closet, coming out only to eat. He has cleaned the hair from his nipples and wants to eat all the time. He has killed a bat, rats, mice, birds, and gofers. Earlier this week he dismembered a mouse and yesterday he killed a humming bird. If we try to keep him in he breaks things, claws the speakers, the doors,the windows, and cries loudly all night until we let him out. What's going on, why is he acting out!
Alright I've got just a little more to add to from your previous question......
Has this cat been spayed? Is he up to date on his shots etc?
Cats also tend to act out when they are in heat or possibly have rabies.
BB cat has started killing animals every day starting this March. His owner got him from the SPCA when he was a kitten. He was a closet cat. He is now 6 or 7 yrs old. He cleaned the hair from his nipples and he wants to eat all the time. Yesterday he didn't just kill the mouse he dismembered it but he didn't eat it. We tried to keep him in at night but he starts breaking things until we let him out. He has killed bats, birds, mices, rats, goffers and yesterday he killed a humming bird? What's going on, what made him change?
Your cat killing small animals is nothing out of the ordinary, I wouldn't worry unless he start to charge other animals like a dog or another cat. However from what you've described is normal cat behavior.
My mother owns a cat, She is a 2 year old female that kills moles, birds, mice, chipmunks you name it. This is simply cat nature and it's what they do.
Now as far as breaking things, I'm not exactly sure what you meant here but you mean knocking things over? Cats do love to jump on furniture this is something that can be a simple fix by training your cat. Whenever they jump up on a table you say "No" and put them on the floor. etc
Cats biting themselves can be a sign of fleas or a skin infection. If your cat is biting to the point where it is causing self harm then you need to pay a visit to the vet. This is the season for ticks and fleas and a cat should be frontline every 3 months to prevent skin irritation and fleas spreading. This cat may just need love and affection as you said he once was a closet cat. Many animals I've owned were abused or neglected, Things can all be changed if you spend time with them and train them to behave into a better pet.
So I am a junior in highschool and my boyfriend is starting his first year in college so he's a freshman in college and we've been going out for 10 months and we love eachother and always talk about our future together but anyways his college is in the same city I live in so I'm not to worried about that but I'm scared he might cheat? Or break up with me? What do I do?
I'll be honest.....
College is a whole new world compared to high school, Right now you both are in love and have been together for a while but whether you both want to except it or not you will meet new people it just happens.
You are a junior in high school and still have about another two years left. You haven't even had the chance to taste what it means to be independent and out in the real world and I can tell you life is much different after you graduate. Your boyfriend has already experienced it or is about too anyway. I'm not trying to burst your bubble here but I'm just pointing out the truth...
Right now, He may assure you that everything will be fine and maybe it will be but I wouldn't really get my hopes up. :/
I would try to meet new people and try to find someone who will be where you are in life.
We havent put metal or spilled anything in the microwave. This microwave is brand new and its sparking when we put food in it. We had another microwave a couple of weeks ago that we threw away because it was sparking and making weird noises. What is causing these microwaves to spark and make noises, they also turned black in the corner inside of it. Why is the new microwave doing this and why did outr old one do it when we havent done anything wrong with it? Could it be the plug on the wall we are using?
Excuse the double post....Oops!
We havent put metal or spilled anything in the microwave. This microwave is brand new and its sparking when we put food in it. We had another microwave a couple of weeks ago that we threw away because it was sparking and making weird noises. What is causing these microwaves to spark and make noises, they also turned black in the corner inside of it. Why is the new microwave doing this and why did outr old one do it when we havent done anything wrong with it? Could it be the plug on the wall we are using?
If your microwave is old, Then it's time to get a new one. Do not keep on using it if it sparks as this can be a fire hazard.
Sparking could be caused from split wire or a spill that has leaked into the back of the microwave etc. If it is a new one, Return it and get it exchanged.
My brother and father have a problem with my boyfriend.I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 18, I don't see the problem here.My boyfriend is best friends with my brother, but my brother doesn't like the fact were dating.My dad doesn't think that i'm old enough for him.Me and my boyfriend aren't into anything sexual.What's the problem with us dating?
Your boyfriend is 18 years old, Legally this would be classified as statutory rape and sweetheart as much as you don't see anything wrong with this one your boyfriend could very well be forced to register as a sex offender if any charges were to be bought against him. It is wrong on all degree
You are only 13, This man is 18 years old and is way to old for you, You are very lucky because if I were your father I would of probably been hitch hiking to his door and you know the rest of it.
You do not need to have a sexual relationship for this man to get in trouble. Also, You honestly don't see anything wrong with a 18 year old man dating someone your age? He is 5 years older than you and is legally an adult. You are a minor and under the state law you are and will legally be a child until you reach age 18.
I highly suggest you end the relationship and find someone who is your age, This is just sick on his part.
How do I get my mother to speak to me?
At the end of April I couldn't take anymore silence, the way she took hundreds of pounds from me and tried to stop me going to family events. After a very bad weekend at work I found out that my mum and the rest of her family had done an easter meal without me while I did a ten hour shift on the sunday, when for the past 15 years or more (I am 20 and female).
I had been bullied at work that weekend and was literally only working to give her money as she never got food or anything for me when she went shopping despite me giving her just short of £200 a month which was more than half of my wages.
I was heartbroken and stayed at a friend's for a few days before I tried to talk to her but she just sent me nasty text messages saying everything was my fault.
While staying at my friend's I split up with my fiance and started a new relationship with someone I now used to work with. He is 34 and separated from his wife. When my mum found out she text my ex saying she was sorry our relationship ended, however she emailed me and called me a marriage wrecker as she heard from a friend that my boyfriend was still married.
After a few months my friend threw me out and my Nana is now letting me stay at her house while I get a new job and while me and my boyfriend find somewhere to live. However every time mum comes round I get asked to leave because she has no interest in building brides or having anything to do with me.
What do I do? She does not answer any form of contact that I give her and I always ask my Nan how she is when I know she has been round.
She hasn't been the best mum in the world but despite her being anti social towards me I just want her back.
Have you tried to confront your mother about how you feel? Write her a letter even?
If your mother chooses to ignore you then as hard as it may be somewhere down the line you will need to come to terms with it. You are old enough to be independent and if your mother chooses to not have anything to do with you then I promise you it's her loss. It was wrong of your mother too take money from you and spend it on herself but at least you know now not to do it again.
I lost touch with my father 2 years ago, It wasn't exactly the same situation but it is in the aspect of he just simply won't talk too me. I complained to my mother for awhile and expressed how I wish I could have him in my life but my mothers saying "Sometimes we need to except and move on and the only person you should depend on the most is nobody but yourself" It's true and as hard as it was I learned in time that she was right.
Your grandmother is probably still in contact with your mother because she hasn't or doesn't want to accept the truth. However, If your mother tries to contact you then you can choose to ignore any calls or text messages from her. If she is going to continue to put you down then you could confront her and say "As long as you keep putting me down I do not wish to be in contact with you" You need to believe and depend on yourself, If you can't seem to accept it on your own counseling always helps.
never liked my emo classmates...they're dark and creepy and stiff. i never understand why'd they have to be like that,they always looked sad and unhappy...almost all the time and gives a really creepy look at me. and i have to deal with it every time i go to school.and whenever i try to talk to them? they never talk to me.i can't puzzle them, it's very weird and not easy to understand. takes away all the happy energy and happy thoughts that i have.how i wish they could just fuck off my life.any advice?
note: all of them are emo, or almost.
18 year old guy, college and asian
Try and understand from their point of views is probably the only way to somewhat understand.
Emo people tend to be self expressive, They show how they feel by the way they dress. Sometimes it's not the most attractive look or way but in today's society it's mostly about the emo/goths.
Have you ever tried to talk to them? You may actually be surprised that not all of them are creepy and dark. Sometimes they just appear to be, You may find some of these people to actually be pretty cool folks. Remember that old saying "Looks can be deceiving"
Well, It's been a long time since I were in HS but I'll tell ya what way back in the day I was a goth. I wore anything from skulls, chained baggy pants, sweatshirts on top of having pretty much anything pierced. You name it, I did it. Now I may of appeared to be creepy and dark but if you had tried to speak to me, I was a pretty down to earth person and very laid back. How I dressed did not define my identity. Try talking to one of them, You may be surprised in what you find.
I've never been on this web site before. Anyway. I am 13 and my boyfriend is 13. His brother is tremendously rood.The first time I met him he says hi sexy do you want to be my girlfriend of course I say no.His brother comes(my boyfriend) I tell him what he said to me.my boyfriend was so mad.One day I go to my boyfriend's house and his brother answers the door and I walk in he just starts grabbing my butt and saying I should go out with him. I don't like my boyfriend's brother at all. How should I tell him to leave me alone.
Assuming your boyfriends brother is also very young, It is normal for boys to be immature jerks at such a young age.
However, If he continues to put his hands on you then you tell him to knock it off and if he doesn't then you confront his parents about it. This is harassment and it's wrong, When you do go over to your boyfriends house you completely ignore him. If he asked you out again just simply walk away and like I said if he proceeds to put his hands on you then let someone know and he'll get the punishment.
When Me And My Bf Fuck His Dick Always Goes To The Side (With Boner) And Not Straight Like Its Suppose To.... I Told My Friends About This And They Said It Was Beacause He Has Sex Alot Or Cause He Had Sex The Day Before..... I Dont Know What It Is Can Someone Tell Me What's Sup With That??? :/
Don't believe everything your friend tells you, Sometimes people think they know everything...
Downstairs can come in different shapes and sizes, Every dude has a different penis and for it to go left is completely normal. No there is nothing wrong with the guy!
do birth control pills make your boobs bigger??
Not that I know of
Your breast usually grow when you are going through puberty or if you are producing milk from a pregnancy.
Well, I have been thinking about my ex [ A 1 ] still , but I've mannaged to stay away for a while I don't know if I should text him because if he and I were still together today would've been 2 Months , but we broke up so I guess not . Well I did start liking someone else, actually recently, but he was someone I use to like a while back the recent guy [ A 2 ] . I dont know if it's wrong for someone to move on so fast I haven't really talked to [ A 1 ] in about a month, it's as if we are complete strangers . I do get those days where I just wanna text him but I don't because I know how to stay on the Down Low and he is someone I won't forget just like nothing , yes I do miss [ A 1 ] but [ A 2 ] is like a new start but I do like him he told me he feels the same , but he is an 8th grader I do not care if he is younger it's just that that people will talk and we wont be able to see eachother and that's what I think is really holding me back , yes I do think he is cutee and everything but [ A 1 ] is still in the picture . I would go for it with [ A 2 ] but I gues I am scared to let go of [A 1.]. But good thing is that [ a 1 ] isnt going to the same High School as me and I can forget about him faster then I've ever forgotten about anyone because time is the best medicen yet . Well, well my question[s] are basicly ,
Is it wrong for someone to move on so fast . ?
Is it right to like some one else while still having so many feelings for someone else . ?
Should I just start getting closer with [A 2] even if he is an 8 th grader . ?
You cannot truly move on if you are still hung up on someone else. Imagine if you were dating someone and they still constantly thought about their ex all the time. How would it make you feel? Would you feel led on? Yes.
The question is: Why is your ex an ex? What happened between the both of you? This is usually the key question to whether you would have a successful shot at making it work again.
Honestly? I think you really should stay away from dating other people until you are over it. Stop using this new guy as a fall back, It's not cool to play with peoples feelings.
Also, Keep in mind you stated that your ex will not be attending the same school as you, This means that he will move on and meet new people and so will you. The new guy, Assuming because he will be in 8th grade will also be in another school. This will make it very hard to keep your relationship balanced as like I said before you will all meet different people. I think your best bet is to wait until school starts and try to meet new people, You may find someone who is right for you but neither A or B sound like the right dude.