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It hurts me wen my girlfriend dont tell me the small things like when her son started school or what she did on her day off/ I am not psycho I just wanna be able to communicate since shes 3 hours away. Gut recently its got tot he point where shes had trouble with her blood sugar and geting dizzy and she didnt tell me. It hurt and it caused an arguement and I said really hurtful things, and I hurt her and shes upse with me. What should I do?
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tell her that it hurts that she does not tell you things tell her how you feel and she will understand Good Luck :)
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First I would apologize for the unkind and hurtful words and let her know you were just upset and it won't happen again. Next I would explain why you were so upset and that you feel this way simply because you care and love her so much. Tell her if you didn't love her you wouldn't care what was going on in her life and because you are so far away conversation and details of each day really is the key to keeping up a long distance relationship.
I wonder is perhaps she just doesn't want to worry you or perhaps she thinks you aren't interested in certain deatils of her life. I'm not sure how old the two of you and rather or not you have children. But as a 31 year old mother at times I'm so extremely busy keeping up with the kids that I don't have time or energy to put forth on other things. She may be in the same postion but that doesn't make it right. If she wishes to be in a relationship especially a long distant one she needs to recognize the importance of communication. I don't think she is treating you fair in this way.
Sadly, I must say long distant relationships don't usually work out. I hope yours does or that you are able to move to the same area real soon. Good luck :)
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Long distant relationships are extremely hard, It usually never works out unless you two have serious plans on moving into together in the future. A 3 hour relationship is hectic and in all honestly if you both don't plan on living together in the future then you really should start recognizing that maybe this one isn't going to go the way you hoped it would.
There could be a few issues here: Either she just doesn't think to tell you everything or maybe she is backing off a little bit.....I really couldn't tell you. Are you the father of this child? Are you involved in his life?
If I was dating someone who lived 3 hours away and they weren't very involved with me or my child I probably wouldn't tell them certain things to protect the privacy of my kid. If you really would like to know why then you should ask her. Communication is the key in a relationship
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I dont know how old you two are but I imagine her having a child whom is in school you are older than high school. Why cant you just move with her if you want to make this relationship work into the same town make adjusments.
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