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What should I do about my boyfriends ex? :(
Im 17 & my boyfriend just turned 20. My boyfriend that ive only dated for four monthes is talkin to his ex girlfriend again that he dated for four years. They broke up a month before he got with me and they lived together. The first two weeks we dated he broke up with me & said that he just couldnt stop thinking about her and he was gonna see if he could get back with her cause they always use to break up and get back together. But they didnt this time and sge said they could be friends but me and him got back together & I said they couldnt. Now im pregnant with his kid. I deleted her off his facebook & he added her back sayin he wanted to talk to her aometimes to see how she was doing and that I disnt understand how he feels because theyve been together for four years. He said he would not cheat on me but he wants to be friends with her. But I know you cant be friends with someone you dated for that long. What should I do? End it? Please reply!! Asap :/
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You are heading for some real pot holes.....
A month is not nearly enough time to get over someone especially if you've been dating that person for 4+ years. That is just reality, It would be kind of unrealistic if someone were over it that fast. You've pretty much got flags right in front of you and you technically should of seen this coming from the very start. If he were completely over his ex, There wouldn't be a damn reason why he'd care to know what she is doing. This guy says he wants to remain friends with her, Lets face it she is an ex and he was with her for several years and he still very much cares about her. Would he admit it? Probably not nobody wants to admit they still have feelings for someone else. I'll tell ya what I was with my ex for 5 years and it took a lot longer than a month to just forget and move on.
To be honest with you, I believe you know that you made a huge mistake. Therefore I will not lecture you. I DO think you may want to start preparing to raise this kid on your own because likely this guy isn't going to be staying in the picture much longer as the obvious points too he is already on his way out. You can decide what you wish to do, This is your baby and it's your body but I really think you may want to think about what would be best for you and the baby's future. :/
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You have his kid, so you have to consider that and overall, if your boyfriend is a decent guy then allow the kid to be in his life. I don't think you can control the idea if he wants to be friends with his ex. I know the feeling of paranoia, trust me, but I think you shouldn't end it without proof that he is truly cheating on you. Maybe he really does want to be friends. I mean, his ex can't be nothing in his life. She was once the woman he loved, and she will always mean something to him, but some people choose their ex's to have a positive or negative meaning. Your boyfriend chooses to have a positive meaning with his ex. Don't do anything rash, especially since you're now pregnant.
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