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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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I really have been wondering why guys like the 16 year olds and not me? I mean I know I'm 14 and that's 2 years younger but what's the big deal with me and all the other 14 year old girls?

I'm not a guy, but I can assume it is due to 16 year old girls are not only a little more matured, but also a little more developed, if you catch my drift...

Don't worry, your day in the sun will come in no time.

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how do i ask my mom if i can go to the doctor for bipolar? we dont get along. what do i say.
what do they do at the doctor to see if you are?

Well, when you go to the doctor you will be asked many questions about your current and past thoughts, feelings, and actions. Be sure to always be honest with your doctor when you answer their questions, or they can't give you the help you need.

How do you ask your mom? Say to her you think you feel sick mentally and you feel it has come time for you to seek medical advice. Don't just come out and say "Hey, Ma! I think I'm bipolar!" She will be less likely to take you seriously. Tell her you know something is wrong, and you feel it is best to see a doctor to find out what the problem is. Start out with, "Mom, please, we need to talk about me."

Also, though I understand you don't get along, it may be a good idea to have a good sit-down talk-about with her, and discuss with her what is going on with you- mentally, emotionally, physically. It's hard to do, but you need to make yourself heard. If you need medical attention, then she needs to help you seek it.

I hope she helps you get the help you need and deserve. :)

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all right, it seems like everytime i ask a question about this, i never seem to get a straight-forward answer. so, please.. give me an answer, no matter what the outcome is. Well, here's my story. There's a boy. we went out in 8th grade. (we are now in 10th) When we went out, it was for two and a half months. I still have really strong feelings for him, (i know 2 yrs later, im pathetic) well, i just really want to know if you guys think he still has feelings for me, too. if its possible. When I call him, he doesn't always answer..which is expected. When he does answer, however, we talk for about an hour. When we talk he always makes sexual jokes, and occasionally, he says i love you when i have to leave.In the hallways when we see each other he always gives me a weird look and he does these really weird things, like he'll call me punk, or.. say dweeb.. but i know he's just kidding. Also, one day we were talking, and he said that it feels weird to go out with someone. and i asked if it felt weird when we went out, and he said no. So, my question is: Do you still think he has feelings for me, and is just afraid to tell me? and if so, how can i get him to open up? or do you think he doesnt?

sorry its long.

Well, sounds like him having feelings for you may be the case.
How do you get him to open up? Ask him out!
He said that, other than YOU, it feels weird to go out with someone. Seems to me you are the only girl he has ever gone out with that really ever made an impression on his life.
Yah, maybe he's afraid to tell you. Therefore, you have to be the gutsy one here...

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P.S. Having really strong feelings for someone 2 years later isn't pathetic. Don't ever think things like that.

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Ok. so last year (or the year before i guess) I really really liked this guy. I mean, he was just my idea of an angel. He was sweet,funny, cute and smart. Well, he found I liked him, and I found out that he wasn't so sweet. He completely flipped, and I was heartbroken. I told people I didn't care because it softened the reality, but It took me a long time to get over that.
Well, a couple of days ago I met this AMAZING guy. He's funny, smart, he loves music as much as I do, he's adorable, and he is really really sweet.. Well, I just met him and I fell hard, and a lot of people have told me that we'd be cute together and blah blah blah. I find it kind of hard to believe that I like him as much as I do because we just met, but thats just my logic talking, but when I see him, or just think about him, my heart goes crazy and I can't help but smile.
I really like this guy, but I guess I'm just afraid of getting hurt again.
I don't really know how to word my question, but if you know what I mean, advice would be greatly appreciated. =]

Yah. I catch your drift. You fear he's going to dump on you like the other guy did. You shouldn't base the future guys in your life off of what the guys in the past did.
So the other guy ended up being a jerk. We do tend to come across some of them now and again. But that doesn't mean they are ALL jerks by a far stretch.
He may turn out to be the world's most amazing guy, and you'll never know if you don't give him a chance. So... give the boy a chance! :)

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no body will send me any quetions

No body sends me questions either. Well, every now and again, I suppose.
Don't feel bad about it, because even if they don't ask for your help personally doesn't mean you still aren't helping people by answering their questions in the pool. :)

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As a costume for the talent show, me and my friends will be wearing black dresses, black shoes, black hats, and black gloves. Dresses and shoes are easy to find, but we need to find a place where we can get elbow length gloves, and large church hats. If you could list a place, or somewhere online where we can get the gloves for around 10 dollars, and a place where we can get the hats fairly cheap, that would be great. If your not sure what kind of hat im talking about but you think you could help, pictures of the suggested hat would be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you!

I'm not exactly sure what kind of hat you are looking for, but maybe if you went around to costume shops you could find what you seek? Some will rent the items to you so you don't have to actually buy them.

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Long but please read:



My parents are getting a divorce shortly mainly because my dad is 38 wanting to be 20 again. I have a bestfriend that comes around alot and she thinks my dad is hot and he knows that. He says that she is very attractive and so on. He text her all the time. Me and my friend work together and my dad will go in and talk to her then leave without saying a word to me or he will go in when im not even working like he has for the last 2 weeks according to my friend.

The other night i was pretty drunk and my friend and i were talking to my dad. I laid down on the floor and dosed off and i hard noises coming from my friend ( like her and my dad messing around ) after my sister came in the room i got up and went to the bathroom and started crying. After 10 min my friend came to check on me and i asked her if she was messing around with my dad and she said "no, i would never do that ___ i would never do anything to ruin our friendship". And of course i believe her she my bestfriend.

Lately my dad is very attached to his cell phone every time it chimes i know its my friend.He sleeps with the phone right next to him most nights and if you touch his phone he flips out. Well tonight he left his phone on the table so i snooped and i looked thourgh his pictures and i found one of my friend naked (from the waist up)

IM so hurt by this i dont know if i trust her shes lying to me. We're supposed to be bestfriends. Shes tells me she annoyed by my dad but that pictures proves that thats a lie. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont want to tell her i was looking through my dads phone and found this. I'm Graduating tomorrow and shes going to be there we are supposed to move in tomorrow as in get an apartment.

Please help im falling apart over this
thanks

Well, I think I would be up in both of their asses about this. That's right. I'd be hotter than a lit firecracker in July, let me tell you. And I would make sure they DAMN WELL KNEW IT.

Who cares if they know you were looking at your dad's phone? Out of the three of you, you did the lesser evil by looking through his phone. (Though now you've learned a very hard lesson in why it's a bad idea to snoop.)
The fact of the matter is that he has a picture of a half naked teenage girl on his phone- said teenage girl happening to be your so-called best friend.
The fact of the matter is that they are both SO disrespecting, that they were doing things in your FAMILY HOME that they had no business doing at all. YOU WERE SLEEPING RIGHT THERE, for crying out loud!
The fact of the matter is, I know he's your dad, but that is pretty perverted of him to screw around with a girl who is the same age as his own DAUGHTER. Especially considering she is his daughter's BEST FRIEND. (So-called best friend...)

Honestly? I would tell that bitch that she best not darken your doorstep again. (That's right. I said BITCH.) I'm all about best friends and making amends, but this is something I would not be able to mend fences about.
And I certainly WOULD NOT move in with her. Find someone else who won't be having your father over to share her bed.
And no, you don't trust her. Period. She not only lied to you, but she lied BIG TIME. She basically showed she has no respect for you and your friendship.
Your dad basically showed the same amount of disrespect. That's sad. He's your father, and disrespected you.
I would DEFFINATELY let them both know EXACTLY how I felt about it. You would feel a lot better if you got it off your chest and said your piece.

I'm sorry you are going through this, and you have every right in the world to be angry and even sickened with them. EVERY RIGHT.

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Ok.. my familys not perfect.. and i dont want it to be but i dont even feel apart of it. Everytime i get home from school they jump down my thraot to do this or to do that so i do it then go in my room and listen to music, do homework anything. Then i go over Carolynns and shes my best friend and like 40 years older then me but shes just like my mom even better. she gives me advice and i just wanna live there everythings so much better there. but thats never ganna happen so i just stay there all i can. well then go home for dinner where WE HAVE to ea at the table and talk about the day and i dont eat and dont talk and now there all worried thining im annerxic which i never could be considersing im a fatty! and they say it all the time. HOW DO I GET AWAY! i hate my family.

Well, likely the biggest cause of you not feeling a part of your family is because you are excluding yourself.

We all had to do this and do that when we got home from school. At least, those of us who's parents wanted to teach us responsibility.

Why would you basically mentally replace your mother with your best friend? Sounds like you need to have a good sit-down talk-about with your mom to try to get back on track with her. I used to call my friend's moms "mom", but NEVER EVER could ANYONE replace my mother, nor could ANYONE EVER better than my mother. NO ONE. EVER. PERIOD.

As for having to eat at the table and talk about the day- lucky you. Really. A lot of kids out there don't have parents who care if they have to eat from the floor, let alone care enough to discuss their days. Yet, as lucky as you are, you don't see it and refuse to be a part of it by refusing to partake in the family meals and conversations.

Like I said, you aren't allowing yourself to be a part of your family. Yah, they aren't perfect, and neither is the rest of the families in the world. But you are mostly to blame for feeling excluded because you are doing it to yourself, AND to everyone else in your family.

Stop with this cry baby, poor pitiful me crap and enjoy the family you are so lucky to have. They won't be around forever, you know.

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There's a new guy that moved in next door. He's in my grade and my age and all that. I want to get to know him but I'm too shy and don't know how to introduce myself. How can I introduce myself in a way I'm comfortable with?

When you see him outside, just go over and say "Hi, my name is so and so. I wanted to welcome you to the neighborhood, and let you know if you want someone to show you around, I live just next door."

Hope that is what you are looking for. :)

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hey im a guy, i have medium brown hair like surf hair, and when i wake up in the mornings lol, i look a mess, theres black things under my eyes, my eyes look weird too and my hair always, always sticks up in a frizzy ball thing.i have a deep scratchy voice and i feel tired no matter if ive slept all i want i was wondering whats causing it. to get rid of it i just have a shower but just when im over at someones house for the night lol....

Well, I think most of us wake up looking like that- male and female. I know I do! My grandpa used to call me "Ol' Stone-face" because of my lack of waking consciousness until after that first cup of coffee, LOL. And my hair looks like a thick ball of rat's nest, my face... don't ask...
Take along a toiletry bag, with soap, shampoo, etc., to have a shower in the morning when you stay at a friends house, and get that shower to wake up and look woke up. I'm sure your friend wouldn't mind.

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how can you find out if your bipolar. do you go to the doctor or what. i have most syptoms and i wrote out how i felt for a few days. am i bipolar. people joke saying what are you bipolar or something. and i do seem it. if i say im depressed to my parents id be dead their against how i dress and act. in a way i want to be i know how hard life is with it but id have a reason so i wouldnt always be yelled at for everything i guess. and people say im suicial depressed and a perky bitch then dark mixed. ive tried to hide everything for a long time and im tierd of it. ~the suicidal emo bitch~

Yah, you go to a doctor or psychiatrist. Which, of course, you should do if you think you are suffering from depression, or bipolar.

Why would you be dead if you told your parents you are depressed? Think of it this way, if they are against how you dress and act, maybe they will think "that must be what it is with her..." and get you the help you need and deserve.

Not saying that I think there is a problem with how you dress and act, because that's not the case. I was lucky enough to have parents who accepted me when I was into goth back in the day. What I AM saying, is that you can use their disapproval of your emo style to your advantage in this case. See what I'm getting at, here?

Besides, they are your parents, and they should want for you to be healthy, physically AND mentally. You shouldn't have to fear telling them you feel sick mentally, and think you need to see a doctor.

Don't hide everything anymore. I'm glad you are tired of doing so. You should never feel as though you have to hide how you are feeling.

I hope you get it all straightened out. Keep your chin up.

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how do i know if my bf is cheating on me???its driving me crazy!!!im not in the same grade with him so its not like i can watch him.i only have one really good friend thats in the same grade as him and she tells me that he flirts with alot of girls but shes not really specific about it.i was talking to a friend and she told me she talked to his half sister and she told her that my bf was cheating on me with this girl he was going to go to the movies with this saturday. when i went to go talk to his half sister she told me she didnt think they were going out and not to worry about it!so now i dont know what to believe!i asked one of the girls that my friend said was one of the people he flirted with(and they flirted back) and she says that they never flirted with each other.finnaly i asked him and he said all of it was a lie.im mad because theres a good amount of people that are telling me hes a scum bag who plays all his girlfriends and hes probably cheating on me.on the other hand there are some people saying that hes not cheating on me and not to worry about it.i want to belive him but its so hard because i dont know if hes lying and trying to play me,or if he is really telling the truth!i hardly ever get to talk to him and now school is over!im going to try very hard to go to the movies this saturday. i dont know what to expect.should i brake up with him before i see something that will brake my heart.i know people say dont beleive in rumors but its not just one rumor and its not just one person telling me.i havnt seen him for myself so i dont want to go and brake up with him if he really wasnt cheating.someone please help!i dont know what to do and its driving me crazy.i really like him but i dont want to get my heart broken ethier!

If it were me, I would wait to catch him at the movies. I would catch him red handed, and let him know that I did. THEN I would break up with him. Because I then would have PROOF.
Yah, I know you don't want to get your heart broken, but those people are right in saying you shouldn't believe in rumours.
If there is suspicion of cheating, then get proof somehow, and go from there.
If you do happen to catch him at it, I would kick him in the ass and ask for my shoe back as he's walking out the door. Meaning, I sure as hell wouldn't put up with that BS. You deserve better than that.

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okay heres the deal, i know abuse is bad. and my friend said her mom hit her with her ring, and theres a huge black & blue mark on her face now. however, this girl is known to lie. so i dont wanna say anything, but shes been telling me this for about 2 years now, and i know a good friend would say something, but im afraid of the outcome. one time someone DID say soemthng, and her parents lied their way through the whole thing, what should i do.

In any case where someone is being abused, you need to call the police, the child welfare, S.O.S., something.
Even if the girl is known to lie, you can't just assume that she is.
Even if her parents have lied their way out of it before, turn them in. Maybe they won't be able to do so this time around.
I promise it is the right thing to do. If nothing else convinces you, keep in mind that if something were to happen to her due to abuse, you would have it hanging over your head for the rest of your life that you could have said something to try and stop it. Meaning, don't be afraid of the outcome if you say something- be afraid of the outcome if you don't.
I know you'll do the right thing, won't you?

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so i hooked up with my friend over the weekend. and now all he wants to do is hook up. and we got in this fight yesterday. i found out today he was like "ef her" and saying all these bad things about me to my friends and trying to get them to be on his side. i want to hook up but after what he said, i don't know if I should. i just want to hook up for fun, nothing serious. what should i do? should i or should i not?

Oh, hell no.
Listen, if he is going to throw a little tantrum and say bad things about you, then why on earth would you want to do him any favors?
Yah, you say you want to, but why? What's the point? Mess around with him and then get treated like a dog?

Come now. You deserve better than that.

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My boyfriend (19) is amazing. He has a good job and also goes to school. He basically takes care of his mom, since his salary is good. All of a sudden, he became broke. He owed people money and car bills added up but he still never let me pay on dates. He finally let me pay and now, I found myself paying alot. He used to be the perfect gentlemen and had money at all times. What should I do? He's already really insecure about his money problems.

Well, just because he's broke doesn't mean he isn't still the perfect gentleman. He is a gentleman who has fallen on hard times. It happens.
You can't blame the guy- he's been taking care of his mom. That means he is a GOOD guy.
Have patience with him. Give him time to get his finances straight.
From what you say about him, I highly doubt he would be allowing you to pay if he had another choice in the matter.
Instead of dates out, take some dates in. Like the other columnist said, rent a movie. Cook him dinner. You know, that kind of stuff. It's a lot easier on a strained pocket book.
Or, when you go out, do something that doesn't require a lot of money. Have a picnic, go for a long evening walk, stuff like that.

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i was wondering what you should do if you have "pink eye" or in other cases [conjunctivitis]. What would be some good techniques if i wanted to get rid of it soon & what should i put on my eye,etc. What activities should be avoided?
Any help would be appriciated.
Thanks :]

I had that once- it really sucks.

DON'T RUB YOUR EYE! If you do wash your hands immediately! You can spread it to your other eye, and to other people, it is contagious!

I had to see the doctor and get prescription eye drops. I strongly advise you do the same.

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okay well one of my best friends has a gf that he likes a ton.they have been tgr since september,they are perfect together.but he knows i like him,and he asked me to hook up and do stuff with him.i really really really want to,ive liked him for so long!does this make me a slut?

I don't think it makes you a slut, but considering he has a girlfriend, it sure would make you just as much of an asshole as he is.

Come now. You don't want to be an asshole, right? Find a guy who isn't perfectly happy making you his "on the side".

Both you and his girlfriend deserve a better guy than him. Even if he is your best friend.

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so there's this kid younger than me. he came out to me the other day and i he's always talking about guys now. especially this one guy. anyway, im not like homophobic, but idk how to respond to anything he says. i mean, some of it makes me want to laugh, but i don't want to sound rude.

any advice?
14/f

Maybe he's looking for a friend he can trust to talk with, and maybe he sees this friend in you?

Yah, it would be very rude to laugh at him. I mean, why make him feel bad when he already has a tough row to hoe in a world full of cruel, small minded people?

Talk to him like you would any other friend, and if he talks guys, well talk to him like you would your girl friends.

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Okay. So, me and a few selected people from my study hall, along with the spanish club are invited to go to Italy on June 28th, 2008 for 10 days.

It's going to cost around $2,000 including airfare, breakfast & dinner, transportation everywhere, and the hotel. (SO really, it's not that bad.)

(My friend and I are both in the study hall and we've actually been planning to go after we were done with High school.)

So, I've talked to my two grandmas, and htey think it's a wonderful oppurtunity. They really want me to do it.

My mom, however, says "she'll think about it" because of..
a) the cost (we don't have much money)
and
b) it's really far away and 10 days is a lot of time.
(She let me go to DC in 8th grade, and I understand that's in the country and it was only for 4 days but..)
And truthfully, my dad is pretty overprotective...

However, this summer, I'm having a job babysitting. I also am making my confirmation tomorrow, my birthday's in October, adn then Christmas...So I should have enough money.

The only thing that makes me 2nd guess this whole thing is, I get homesick pretty easily. (I'm a baby, I know..)

So, I don't want to let my friend down & I really want to go....

Hmmm.
Help?

14/f if that helps.

*There will be gender-specified rooms,
&
*There's teachers going.

Well, you are very lucky to be selected for this amazing opporitunity.

As for money, like you said, save, save, save. Make money where you can to help pay the expense.

As for it being a long ways from home for 10 days, think about the learning experience you'll have. A completely different country teaches us a different life, different customs, different foods (Mmm.. Italy..), among many other things you can learn about.
On top of it, there is oodles and gobs of history there. Italy has had cities and towns there for WAY, WAY longer than the US has... So many wonderful things to see and learn in Italy.

I sure hope you get to go. It may be a once in a lifetime chance, because you never know what the future holds.

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I have a lot of problems with my friends, and my family right now. I seem to gravitate to food to make me feel better. I eat like ice cream chips and bad stuff like that. I was wondering if anyone knew anything that i can do instead of eat to relive stress?
thankss

Walking is good. Also starting a journal and writing out all your aggressions.

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