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shes lying through her teeth.
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My parents are getting a divorce shortly mainly because my dad is 38 wanting to be 20 again. I have a bestfriend that comes around alot and she thinks my dad is hot and he knows that. He says that she is very attractive and so on. He text her all the time. Me and my friend work together and my dad will go in and talk to her then leave without saying a word to me or he will go in when im not even working like he has for the last 2 weeks according to my friend.
The other night i was pretty drunk and my friend and i were talking to my dad. I laid down on the floor and dosed off and i hard noises coming from my friend ( like her and my dad messing around ) after my sister came in the room i got up and went to the bathroom and started crying. After 10 min my friend came to check on me and i asked her if she was messing around with my dad and she said "no, i would never do that ___ i would never do anything to ruin our friendship". And of course i believe her she my bestfriend.
Lately my dad is very attached to his cell phone every time it chimes i know its my friend.He sleeps with the phone right next to him most nights and if you touch his phone he flips out. Well tonight he left his phone on the table so i snooped and i looked thourgh his pictures and i found one of my friend naked (from the waist up)
IM so hurt by this i dont know if i trust her shes lying to me. We're supposed to be bestfriends. Shes tells me she annoyed by my dad but that pictures proves that thats a lie. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont want to tell her i was looking through my dads phone and found this. I'm Graduating tomorrow and shes going to be there we are supposed to move in tomorrow as in get an apartment.
Please help im falling apart over this
thanks
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Whoa. That's a pretty screwy thing your dad's doing. Tell your friend she needs to seriously stop hooking up with your dad since he's 20 years older than her. It's really perverted. I would just not talk to her anymore, and if she asks why you don't talk to her, just tell her the truth.
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They are both so disgusting! I could never immagine myself in this situation..if i were you i would be so angry..i would confron t my friend and i would definately be very upset. I would neverrr move in with her..i wouldnt even be friends with her! As for your dad, he should be ashamed of himself. Confront him and let him know how sick and selfish he is..make him think about his poor choices and hopefully eventually you guys will be able to work things out. But for the time being i would not feel comfortable around my dad at alll and i would have a lottt of anger towards him. Ditch your lying,slutty friend. Confront your dad as well and let him know how hurt and disappointed you are in him.
I hope everything works out ok!
-=-melissa--=-
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I can understand why you are falling apart over this. Two of the most important people in your life, which you should be able to trust, have violated that trust. Your father should be ashamed of himself. He is flirting with danger here. He may NOT be breaking the law, if your friend is 17 or older, but he is certainly breaking all moral laws. Can you imagin what his friends and co-workers will think of him when they find out. He can't live this down. This relationship is not going to last, but this mistake will follow him for the rest of his life. Even if you don't tell anyone, everyone is soon going to find out.
Your friend is playing with fire. She just likes the attention of an older more mature male, who knows all the right things to say. You know: Oh your so beautiful, or your so sexy, etc, etc. And of course, any 17 year old girl is sexy to a 38 year old man. That's a no brainer!
But in reality they have nothing in common and the lust will soon wear off. Probably on her part first.
I wouldn't share an apartment with that girl. If she can go behind your back, and violate your trust, is shows how much value she puts on your friendship.....little to none. She won't stop there, if she cares only about herself, that will be the main theme during the time that you to share an apartment together.
Her needs, wants and desires will come first. You could end up in the apartment by yourself, with loads of debt. Also who knows what kind of creeps she may bring to your apartment. Since she doesn't care about being used by men, as long as they tell her she's beautiful. They could rob you or hurt you.
If I were you, I would run as fast as I can in the other direction. I hope you are close with your mom. I hope you can stay with her for a while once you graduate,until you can find a more responsbile and reliable and trustworthy friend to share an apartment with.
Too bad you can't find a better dad. You're stuck with that one. When you do ever speak to him, be sure and tell him how ashamed you are of him. It will get him right in his gut, and he will never forget it, and it is a small price to pay for what he had done to you. Good luck honey. I hope you have a good life. You have learned a hard lesson. Some people cannot be trusted. Please be careful.
Michele
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Well you can't always talk to them look them in their eyes as if they havent done anything there both selfish and dirty and you to confront them FACE TO FACE both of them together this is your dad were talking about and you SO CALLED BESTFRIEND tell her you hate what she has dOne it's your choice if you forgive them or if you dont but be honest tell them Tell them you saw the photos is he asks why you went through his phone say cause you knew something was going on the fact that he was so attached to his phone and you just curious and tell him not get mad at you, you havent done anything wrong nothing at all
tC xoxo mwa
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Well, I think I would be up in both of their asses about this. That's right. I'd be hotter than a lit firecracker in July, let me tell you. And I would make sure they DAMN WELL KNEW IT.
Who cares if they know you were looking at your dad's phone? Out of the three of you, you did the lesser evil by looking through his phone. (Though now you've learned a very hard lesson in why it's a bad idea to snoop.)
The fact of the matter is that he has a picture of a half naked teenage girl on his phone- said teenage girl happening to be your so-called best friend.
The fact of the matter is that they are both SO disrespecting, that they were doing things in your FAMILY HOME that they had no business doing at all. YOU WERE SLEEPING RIGHT THERE, for crying out loud!
The fact of the matter is, I know he's your dad, but that is pretty perverted of him to screw around with a girl who is the same age as his own DAUGHTER. Especially considering she is his daughter's BEST FRIEND. (So-called best friend...)
Honestly? I would tell that bitch that she best not darken your doorstep again. (That's right. I said BITCH.) I'm all about best friends and making amends, but this is something I would not be able to mend fences about.
And I certainly WOULD NOT move in with her. Find someone else who won't be having your father over to share her bed.
And no, you don't trust her. Period. She not only lied to you, but she lied BIG TIME. She basically showed she has no respect for you and your friendship.
Your dad basically showed the same amount of disrespect. That's sad. He's your father, and disrespected you.
I would DEFFINATELY let them both know EXACTLY how I felt about it. You would feel a lot better if you got it off your chest and said your piece.
I'm sorry you are going through this, and you have every right in the world to be angry and even sickened with them. EVERY RIGHT.
ygs-29/f
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Your absolutely right for being upset! Your dad is acting completely innapropriate as your father and as a respectful adult. Your friend is no better than he is either. She knew how much that would hurt you and she still did that...thats your dad...and she's supposed to be your best friend?? They may both be adults but there are still unwritten rules and they broke them. Its one thing if your bestfriend hooks up with an old bf of yours (even that's bad) this is worse, and its even more outrageous that theyre putting you in a wierd position. Although I am usually one to say age is just a number, but in this case, your dad should know better than that and he should act his age and be a romodel for you not your friends booty call. I think you need to confront your dad and tell him that what he is doing is hurting you and its one thing to be going through a divorce and dating other women (which is hard enough on you already) but its a whole other thing to be separating with your mom and turning to your bestfriend as a substitute. In a way, he is taking advantage of your bestfriend for his own selfish purposes to make himself feel better or something? Its completely wrong of him especially when your parents aren't even divorced YET. Even if they were, youre his daughter and your feelings and well being should come first not his sexual desires. Its also not fair that he is jeapordizing you and your friends friendship. Nonetheless, your friend is just as wrong for doing that knowing that you and your family are going through a hard time. I think you need to tell her how much her actions have affected you and then re-evaluate whether or not she is a true friend to you if she makes choices like that at your expense. Im sorry for the pain your suffering through and I hope in time everything will be resolved, but I think you should definitely let them both know that what they did is wrong and that its not acceptable and they need to start being accountable for their actions and the pain it is causing everyone.
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i think you should just tell heer you found the picture. if their just messing around, then this is a bad thing. also try talking to your dad about this. just sit your friend down, tell her about the picture that you found, and give her a chance to explain all of this. if she gets mad, she gets mad. she will get over it
you might be able to turn them in if you live in the right state. i hope i helped!!!
~$*Shelby*$~
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you should tell her confont your dad and then forgive them
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