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Better to have loved and lost... I guess.
Ok. so last year (or the year before i guess) I really really liked this guy. I mean, he was just my idea of an angel. He was sweet,funny, cute and smart. Well, he found I liked him, and I found out that he wasn't so sweet. He completely flipped, and I was heartbroken. I told people I didn't care because it softened the reality, but It took me a long time to get over that.
Well, a couple of days ago I met this AMAZING guy. He's funny, smart, he loves music as much as I do, he's adorable, and he is really really sweet.. Well, I just met him and I fell hard, and a lot of people have told me that we'd be cute together and blah blah blah. I find it kind of hard to believe that I like him as much as I do because we just met, but thats just my logic talking, but when I see him, or just think about him, my heart goes crazy and I can't help but smile.
I really like this guy, but I guess I'm just afraid of getting hurt again.
I don't really know how to word my question, but if you know what I mean, advice would be greatly appreciated. =]
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Try and just be his friend for a while. When you get very comfortable around him, kick it up a notch and try flirting! You know, the classic hugs goodbye, casual touches of the arm, laughing at his jokes, hanging out, the works. See if he flirts back. My test to see if a guy is interested .. smile. Smile at him from across the room, if you get an eager smile back; its a yes!
And don't worry about getting hurt. The way I think of it is that if you get hurt in the end, it only makes you stronger. Try to relax and enjoy your young age. Love hard, live easy.
Good Luck<3
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You got hurt and don't want to get hurt again. That is normal and appropriate to feel defensive. However, we all have to go through rejections in life whether they are with love interests, jobs, college applications, or whatever. Rejection actually is a good thing sometimes, it just never feels good. The key to be successful in life and getting more of what you want is to learn to stay soft on the inside, and hard on the outside...at least enough so that every rejection does not penetrate and wound so easily. This developing of a thicker skin comes from experience, and also the maturity to distinguish between real losses and merely potential losses or disappointments. You learn to say, well it was a bummer that did not work out, or his loss, rather than oh my gosh I am such a loser no one will ever love me. Ask yourself if you are strong enough to be rejected by someone before you put yourself out there completely. You are so ready to pour your heart and soul into a guy, but most guys are not emotionally ready to handle that kind of intensity and do not want the pressure. So, it is not about rejecting you, but about the situation and everything that comes with it. Take it slow and easy and don't set yourself up for unnecessary disappointments. You won't find Romeo at 15, but you could have a lot of fun exploring and experiencing dating a range of guys and keep it simple. Save your heart and emotions for someone that proves worthy over TIME and is mature and ready for a real woman...this is more likely to occur in your later life. You will find love, but it is not something that is handed to us or won when we find the right guy. It is something two strong and unselfish people decide to give to each other over and over again, even on days it feels impossible, and it is something that develops during this mutual interchange of loyalty and respect. It is perfectly okay not to have this right now...it is perfectly okay just to keep things light for now and know that you will have the amazing love you desire when that fruit has the chance to ripen and come to maturity.
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Yah. I catch your drift. You fear he's going to dump on you like the other guy did. You shouldn't base the future guys in your life off of what the guys in the past did.
So the other guy ended up being a jerk. We do tend to come across some of them now and again. But that doesn't mean they are ALL jerks by a far stretch.
He may turn out to be the world's most amazing guy, and you'll never know if you don't give him a chance. So... give the boy a chance! :)
ygs-29/f
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Everyone is afriad. Relationships are scarry.
Everyday you trust someone you give them a chance to betray you.
That is just the truth of the universe, but fear is not the path to happiness. If you want to be happy and trust another person you have to let go of a bit of your fear.
Remember your experiences, keep your eyes open for the same patterns and don't waste you time when someone isn't good for you.
This isn't your logic talking, that is your fear. Don't give it too much power. Just keep your eyes open and you'll be just fine, even if you do get hurt agian! Most of us get hurt a few times. We learn. We survive. We thrive.
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If really like this guy do'nt let your past interfer just go for it and see what happens.I wish you luck!
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get to knowe this new guy in your life. you really didnt know the other boy.so before you get your hopes up see who that boy really is. and get your friends to talk to him to incase he's lieing to you. and if all goes good then go for it!.but only if your sure he's all right. dont let your heart do all the talking. sometimes even if it feels right it really isnt
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