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hooking up
so i hooked up with my friend over the weekend. and now all he wants to do is hook up. and we got in this fight yesterday. i found out today he was like "ef her" and saying all these bad things about me to my friends and trying to get them to be on his side. i want to hook up but after what he said, i don't know if I should. i just want to hook up for fun, nothing serious. what should i do? should i or should i not?
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HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELL no. you shouldnt. I think even if you want to for fun why with him. Obviously he doesnt care about your feelings and he is being a jerk. I wouldnt even do it for fun. I say dont for your sake.
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Don't take that from him. If he's going to be a dick then fuck him... just not literally. Eh, I hope you get what I just tried to say >.o I'm not going to tell you to stop hooking up, but I'd suggest it. I used to hook up for fun and it bit me in the ass. People will eventually know if bout it no matter what (if they haven't heard already) and you'll just get a bad reputation. Respect yourself. Don't take shit from anybody.
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Oh, hell no.
Listen, if he is going to throw a little tantrum and say bad things about you, then why on earth would you want to do him any favors?
Yah, you say you want to, but why? What's the point? Mess around with him and then get treated like a dog?
Come now. You deserve better than that.
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That's okay to sometimes have friends with benefits--but you always have to be cautious of your feelings, or even the other person that is involved. Even if you are "hooking up" with someone just for fun, you should never tolerate someone disrespecting you or talking badly about you to your friends or other people. That shows a complete lack of respect. Tell the guy that you like him but you don't like the path things are going down between the two of you and you hope things will be better. Don't continue "hooking up" with him if he is going to continue with his current behavoir. Doing so would tell him that you are accepting and okay with the way that he is treating you and acting. Don't settle, even if it isn't anything at serious. As a girl, you have too much at risk. :)
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If someones going to say anything like that than whats the point of hooking up. So take this advice and dont hook up with a person who talks about you in a very bad manner.
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Why would you want to provide certain romantic favors to a guy who used you from the sounds of it and is bad mouthing you to everyone you or he knows saying things such as "F-- her" ?
You need to be wise and act wise here and don't have anything more to do with him or hook up. You've seen his true colors and he's looking to use you for his own gratification and nothing else and tear you down in front of others afterwards. He's not worthy.
Don't do it period with him. You'll regret it and why in the world would you want to with someone who is saying and doing bad things about you? I'm sure you value your ownself more than that. hooking up again would make him and others think he can say and do anything to you and get away with it.
If he comes asking to hook up tell him simply and with tact that you don't hook up with guys who bad mouth you to their friends and to your friends. He needs to be taught a lesson on how to behave and you my friend have to be the one to do it unfortunately. He's a pig in my opinion. That's a serious insult though to a very intelligent animal.
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