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now i'm paying!
My boyfriend (19) is amazing. He has a good job and also goes to school. He basically takes care of his mom, since his salary is good. All of a sudden, he became broke. He owed people money and car bills added up but he still never let me pay on dates. He finally let me pay and now, I found myself paying alot. He used to be the perfect gentlemen and had money at all times. What should I do? He's already really insecure about his money problems.
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It's the 21st century, it's supposed to be 50/50 when it comes to paying. If he paid for everything in the past, then you really shouldn't mind paying for things now.
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Well, just because he's broke doesn't mean he isn't still the perfect gentleman. He is a gentleman who has fallen on hard times. It happens.
You can't blame the guy- he's been taking care of his mom. That means he is a GOOD guy.
Have patience with him. Give him time to get his finances straight.
From what you say about him, I highly doubt he would be allowing you to pay if he had another choice in the matter.
Instead of dates out, take some dates in. Like the other columnist said, rent a movie. Cook him dinner. You know, that kind of stuff. It's a lot easier on a strained pocket book.
Or, when you go out, do something that doesn't require a lot of money. Have a picnic, go for a long evening walk, stuff like that.
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How about going on cheap/free dates?
My boyfriend and I are both students living on a minimal budget, so we reserve going to movies or restaurants for special occasions. Most of our dates cost 10$ or less.
Some suggestions:
Pack a baguette and some cheese, and go for a picnic in a park. It's really romantic and sweet... even if you just do it in the backyard!
Rent a horror movie and snuggle up under a blanket with some popcorn.
Go for a walk or a hike.
Grab some massage oil and give each other nice long massages.
Make up a plate of finger foods... crackers, cheese, chocolate, fruit. Feed them to each other by candlelight.
There are lots of things you can do that don't cost you anything. That'll take the financial pressure off of both of you.
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Stay with him give him time to get stable cuz if you dump him now...he will think you were in it for his money... let him get back on his feet and all that
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