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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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I'm in like despirate need of a job cuz my mom decided to stop randomly givin me money wich sucks ass... so ne ideas for a 14/f!

babysit
clean for cash
odd jobs
wash cars
vacuum casr
and if u wanted to mow lawns
sum1 said 14 year olds could work at a movie theatre
and um i think u can bag groceries at grocery stores n stuff like that
Hope I Helped

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can anybody tell me exactly what happens when u get ur bellybutton peirced.. i want it done so bad but iwanna know what they do!!

well i kno how they put it in
1st they clean around the belly button with alcohal or sumthin
then they get a needle and stick it thru the belly button
then they put the ring in

my sis got it dun, im not really sure if they do anything else

and if u want a REALLY sterile place to go, go to get it done at the doctos office

thats where i get all my piercings dun, cuz once i'd gotten a piercing on top of my ear, and it was so small and so swolen it got stuck IN my ear

so my dr said if u wanna get a piercing, the doctors is a great place to do it

But idk if it's more expensive, cheaper, or the same price

Hope this helps out a bit

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What do girls my age (14) like in us guys?

nice looking
jock sumtimes i've fallen 4 guys that weren't jocks(my guy rides bulls hehe)
sweet
funny
confident
pretty eyes
smells nice/showers often/cologne
not annoying
doesn't talk too much, but can carry a nice convo
Good personality
sensitive
gives compliments that the gurl doesn't usually hear
umm calls her at nite just to say he cares
acts the same wit his buddies as he act wit her(but a lil more romantic)
not afraid to stand up 4 her
Good Breath


Don't worry, you'll be fine!


SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy

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Okay , me and my boyfriend was talkin on ta phone and he asked me to marry him(AND AT A YOUNG AGE TOO) and I said no , was it the right thing to do ???were both 15.he aint mad but he is kinda sad , he said he wanted to be with me forever,and I let him down. was it the right thing to do???

yes, it was the rite thing to do, maybe if yall are together until your 18 or even outta college, then he asks u that would be perfect, and yall could have a long engagement

see the problem is, your 15 u go thru breakups and all that, you will mature over the years, he mite not, or it mite take 1 of u longer to mature, you could fall out of love by the tyme your adults

you should atleast wait to get married until your an adult, or out of college if ur goin to college

Hope This Helps
GL wit ur man

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ive been criticizing other peoples poems and i would like to know what people think of some of my work...


The knife
Seductively strokes your arm
The sharp pain
The tiny droplet

Nothing

The blade
Drawn down your forehead
The an abrupt bliss
A bloody tear

Nothing

The dagger
Slitting your wrist
A delightful innervation
The extravagant red

Nothing

The switchblade
Cold at your throat
Lack of breath
A graceful fountain

Nothing

The scythe
Ripped down your back
The first true pain
Death’s eyes are beautiful

You find no God

descriptive
and a lil scary
a bit hard to follow, but yes it's good
on 1-10 1 being worst 10 being best i'd arte it a 9.5

this is like out of the BEST POEMS EVER that i've heard, so thats pretty good in my opinion, unless i've seen a spectacular poem, i don't raet 10!

Hope this helps
u do have talent, please don't kill ne1 lol

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I know that guys prefer girls to shave it all off most of the time. But girls,what do you think? Should your man go bald,trim,or natural?

either trim, or nun, i wouldn't want a bushel of hair YUCK!

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k so i've liked this guy since 8th grade(i'm going into 10th)...we've actually been really good friends for almost a year and a half now. I would never tell him how i actually really feel because he's going out with one of my OTHER really good friends,but the other night i snuck out and met this guy at his house...we ended up getting drunk and one thing eventually led to another and we ended up having sex.His girlfriend was out of town for 2 weeks.The next day i went back over there and we ended up drinking again and messing around again. we haven't really mentioned it to each other since...does it sound to you like he was using me since she was out of town? we agreed not to tell her anything. I don't really feel guilty for what I did to her, but for what HE did to her! should i talk to her? or maybe him? please answer this! i need advice!

well, it sort of sounds like he was using her, but moslty if, does he only do this when she's not around

and yes, i think first u should try to confront him, wut if u got pregnant, or got sum STD's

u also need to tell ur friend
she mite get REALLY pissed at you, but she needs to kno wut kind of guy she's goin wit

and i kno this is really up to you, but i wouldn't want to date him, think of wut he'd do if u were outta town or sumthin

Hope this helps, if not then try to ask sum1 else, i'm not totally good on this subjec, but i think im allright!

Hope all is well!!

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This question may sound dumb but what does it mean when a guy "pops your cherry" when you first have sex? I just want to know.

Please answer my answer and I will rate ya :)!

(14/f?

there's this thing called a hymen
and it's a thin layer of skin, and it breaks the 1st tyme u have sex(it could also break just from ridin a bike)
but it means ur no longer a virgin, and a lil bit of blood cumz out

im a virgin still, then again im only 14

and it's not a stupid question i'd never heard the term popping the cherry until a lil while ago

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hey i no that this has been asked alot but i really want to no if i am overweight. i am a 13 yr old girl that is 5'7 or 5'8 and i weigh around 120-130. is this considered overweight or normal?

fo you, it's definitly normal, if it wasn't normal the it'd be underweight

im a 5'2 125 lbs, and normal, and if i gained 5 more pounds(i''d rather lose 5) then i'd still be normal

so your more underweight or normal then over

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My husband beats me, I'm scared I might die. I need advice! Call the cops or not? He has $, he could just bail himself out!...

I rate!


Did I say I rate?!?!

I know that makes you wanna answer my question even more b/c I RATE!!

the best i can think of is to go to the police
after he beats u so u have the bruises to prove it

Have u ever seen the movie Enough with Jennifer Lopez, if not then that'll be a good thing to watch, see what she does after she can't take her husbands beatings

you go to the cops, get the info, get a RESTRAINIG order, and if he cumz near u call the cops, but really i don't like restraining orders, cuz will u have enuff strenght to even call the cops after he beats u when he gets outta jail? Not trying to scre u, but this is big

Do you have ne friends he doesn't kno, or is there a way where u can go sumwhere w/o him finding out

u need to get divorced, and get seperate checking accounts

WATCH THE MOVIE ENOUGH WITH JLO, she's in the same situation as you, well except she kills the guy in the end, but i don't think u should do that, Learn Karate or sumthin, so if he starts beatin u, u can have self defense, then it'd be legal to kill him.

Not tryin to joke around, take any other suggestions offered to you!!

Hope all works will, and his but gets in Jail with NO bail, or a REALLY HIGH AMOUNT of bail money!!

Hope there's not a kid involved, if so then u have big trouble, and if so has he ever tainted him/her?

ILLEGAL, well Hope this helps
and hope u get the Heck outta there safely!!

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Should I have sex with my boyfriend even though he's 20 and I'm 16?

it is up to you
do you love him
are you ready
are u physically and emotionly able to birth a child

if answered NO to any of those questions, then u shouldn't

also a great reason not to do it for another 2 years, is it's illegal, and if ne1 finds out, the man if hauled off to a lil plae we like to call prison!

so no, i don't think u should
but the final decision is up to you

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me and my sister are going out with these really cute guys who are cousins. when my sis had this other boyfriend i liked his brother but he wouldnt go out with me because me and my sis are related and he has a brother and he thopught it was wrong. now with us going out with cousins is that wrong?

i don't really see y it would be wrong

hey, me n my sis went out with twins before

it's not like ur gunna grow up and get married, and if u do, make sure it's in West Virginia, where it's legal (not makin fun of ne1 from WV)

well, even if u did get married, he'd be ur brother in law's brother
only related to u by marriage, and by law
did u kno it's legal for step siblings to get married, or atleast it was idk if it still is

So nah, u cool!! :P:P

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is it bad if u dont know how to kiss???

1st of all, it depends on ur age
but not really no
my first time, i took it slowly, cause i hadn't had experience

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Hi..some people have like anamation backgrounds..like stars that flash or a heart background for their column..how do I do that??

http://backgrounds2001.cjb.net
either that or instead of cjb, its cbj

then u find a code u like
copy it
then go to edit setting, and towards the bottom it will have backround URL or sumthin like that
paste the URL
hit submit
and there u have it

it tooke me a while to get the hang of it
hope all works well 4 u!!

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i need to know how to make a good peanut butter and jelly sandwich

2 pieces of bread
peanut butter on one of them
jelly on the other
put the together where the peanutbutter toches the jelly evenly
then cut it diagnoly
it will be best wit strawberry jelly, and smoother and creamy peanutbutter as opposed to crunchy

then u can either slice in half vertiaclly horizontally or diagnol, i prefer diagnol

then u cut off the crust (unless u like it)

and u eat

I LOVE PB&J YUM YUM

lol

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In the election coming up, I'm just curious to see who people want to win, and why. I know it's not something I need advice on, but I have to do a current event for World History. Personally, I'm going for Bush and I have several good reasons why.. I was just wondering about everyone else?

oddly enuff, i had to do a poll 4 skool
and well i pick bush, he's the best in my opinion

I really like Bush, and i have my reasons, im just not gunna take up room and explain here, since we have the same opinion id have to tell u y!!

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I couldn't agree more. I think that Bush is a terrific president. One, our economy is stronger than it has been in 30 years. More jobs are opening for people to take, more money is coming in. When Bush came in as president, our economy was already inflated thanks to that good for nothing Clinton. I don't know how people can say he was one of the best presidents of our time.. HOW because he taught people how to cheat on their spouses? But anyways, Bush already had to deal with that problem when he got into becoming president, so I think so far he's done quite a nice job of taking care of our economy.. no crap it was going to go down after 9/11.. what did you expect? And the whole gay marriage thing, I'm definatly right with Bush on his desision not to support it. Someone said it was out of "pure discrimination," which I completly disagree. Our constituion has been based on teachings from the bible, and that's going against the bible. Being as though our constitution is one, if not the STRONGEST one in the world.. so why change it now. Whenever Rome and Greece accepted gay marriages, (they were the two strongest empires in their time) They BOTH fell...And the whole "war issue" OMG i'm soo for that... We needed the War On Terror, why sit back and let them plan something else... And as for The War In Iraq... we may have not found weapons of mass distruction, but Sadam was SUPPORTING terrorist.. we needed to get his ass locked up. Alright now onto Kerry, I don't have much more room but he wants abortions, I'm totatlly not for that. It's just like murdering another human being. However i've never been in the situation where I need one so I don't know how the other ppl feel. He also wants to raise the taxes, which I'm of course against.. Kerry is all for the government.. not to mention he's soo trashy.. I mean to sit there and let those celebrites bash our President is just so so trashy. And then to come back with the response that " They have the right to speak their mind, I am nobody to tell them they shouldn't say how they feel"... well yes that's true, they have rights.. but my goodness there's a difference between not agreeing with what the president is doing, and completely trashign him as an individual. But thank you sooo much for letting me write this in here, I needed to get a few things off my chest about it, I could go on alot longer but my God I've taken up so much space already.. sorry about that.. But thank you.

your rite, bush is the best, thats i guess just our and sum others opinion, but i really hope he's president, kerry has rallied against us, he'd prolly sell us or sumthin to another country hehe, well it wouldn't be funny if he did, but in my opinion, and i guess in urs?...he's just not rite for a president, bush i really want him to win, at 1st my mom was confused on the subject, i gave her my reason's for bush, and now her n my dad, and my WHOLE family, which is like 50 adults, ya kno aunts uncles n older cousins, well they're all votin 4 bush!!!!

BUSH ALL THE WAAAAAAAAAAAY :-) :-) idc if ne1 disagrees wit me I LOVE BUSH, dang if he was yunger he'd be my man
nah, my man is Joel hehehe

Im glad u expressed ur feelins to me, i totally agree!!!!!!!!!!! :):):):):):):):):)

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okay well here it goes ... well i went to the fair w/ a few friends -n- we were in line for the zipper -n- some girl behind us, she looked about 17-18, started talking to us and well she asked me if i played softball and i said i did and then she asked me my name and i told her...and then she goes well do you know who i am and i said no and she held out her hand for me to shake it and said "well i'm your sister, crystal" and it kinda scared me cus i haven't seen her in 8 yrs., she gave me her number but i don't know if i should call her b/c i'm scared to get to know her b.c we are half sisters and she knows my dad and i don't...so wut do i do????? PLZ HELP!!

CALL, it will be the best thing u ever do, belive me i have a half brother, from my mom, he's the greatest, he lives in NY and we live in NC, but actually he just flew down friday, and we were up all last nite, and were still up hangin rite now, it's fun to have siblings that age, cuz they're WAAAAAAY cooler when their like 16-25

it's awesome, call ur sis, and ask about the bros, unless the bros aren't hers too!!

u won't regret it

then again this is just MY advice, and knowing my half bro makes we SOOOOOOO happy

u don't hafta take my advice, the final decision is urs!! also ya kno, this is wut i'd do, but idk u well enuff to kno if u could handle forming a relationship wit sum1 u haven't seen since u were 5!

Hope i helped!
hope ya do the rite thing (w/e that mite be)

GL wit ur sis and/or bros!!
~-*SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy*-~

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HeY! Besides taking Midol or asprin, what a good way to realive or get rid of cramps?! ThAnKs!! I really need the advice! =)

warmness, like sum ppl use heating pads, sum ppl take hot baths, sum people really stay sctive, i find warm baths, and midol or advil helpful (u r talkin about period cramps? if not then idk how to help u)

Hope This Helped in the least bit, just a lil tired, i woke up at 7 yesterday mornin, and i haven't slept since, and 2day i'll hafta be up b4 8, WOW will i be tired!!

hehe sry off topic tho

~*~SoUtHeRn_ChIcKeTy~*~

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i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!

take a chance n call, if it's the wrong number, then say o whoops sooooorry and kinad laff, just don't call in the middle of the nite or anything, make it a time when no1 would get upset if it's the rong #

Hope this helped!
take the chance! :-)

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