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Well, lately my eye had been twitching. And this had never happen to me. Why does my eye twitch? And what causes it to twitch?

Thanks in advance.

When your eye twitches, it can mean a couple of things.

* Corneal irritation or injury
* Stress
* Lack of sleep
* Fatigue
* Prolonged staring or eye strain
* Neurological disorders
* Possibly Hereditary

I'm sure everyone has had this at some point - I know I have and it lasted around 2 days because I was so tired.
If it doesn't ease off or you've had it for a while, get yourself checked out to see what's causing it for you.
Hope it stops soon!

Okay, so where do I begin. March the 23rd I met this wonderful guy. He was so kind to me, and we started hanging out. We flirted a little bit, and he had told my friend that he though I were really cute. Then after a few weeks I found out that he has a baby, a little baby daughter and I GIRLFRIEND! And I were like, "oh no, i must of gotten all this wrong, the wrong signals etc" So I though that I could be just his friend. But then that they came, the day when he gave me our first kiss. I was so confused. so I asked out this girl of his. And he told me, that it was'nt going good between them, and that their relationship just were fighting, and the only reason that they we're together was because of their baby. So we have been kinda "dating" the last six months. And we've been intimite and he says that he loves me, and that it's goind to get better, and that he will break it of with his GF, but it's just so hard right now because of the baby. The baby is now 8 months old. So everything were going great, he were so romantic, buying me roses, necklaces and doing stuff like that. But he were very busy, working all the time, working out, being with friends and his family. But lately, everything has been going REALLY bad. I have'nt hung out with him for 3 weeks. He rarely calls, or answer when I do. He does'nt say I love you anymore. And when we speak he says he's busy with work and stuff. He says he still cares about me, but Im not so sure. I really love him, but I dont think im going to be happy with him. He has to much responsibility, and i dont think i can handle that. He's 23, and Im 17.. Im still young, you know. What should I do?

You've answered your own question.
You won't be happy with him, he has too much responsibility and not to mention things have gone down hill lately.
You two don't seem very compatible, right?
Sure, he may have bought you gifts etc, but you have to actually be happy and connect in a relationship.
If you want to make it work;
You need to talk to him. Explain how you feel.
You could be over reacting and he's just extremely busy, or his feelings for you may have changed. Only way to find out is to ask if he feels the same.
Although there is one thing that worries me - don't forget he has a girlfriend. I don't see why he hasn't broke up with her if things honestly aren't working. Staying together for the kid will make it miserable when it grows old enough to understand. Kids can sense when their parents aren't happy - so it makes them unhappy.
Maybe he's trying to work things out with her?
I'm trying to list all the possible reasons here.. but the only real way to find out what's going on is to get him to tell you. Then you can get on with the rest of your life.
You're right - you are young. and if this isn't meant to be, you'll find someone who matches your standards and needs, because at the moment, your current guy doesn't.
I hope things workout the way you want them to.

14/f
my boyfriend and i have been dating a year this friday.
i love him to death, like id really take a bullet for him to death. And yes i really mean that.

Well he kinda flirts with other girls. (he used to be a "playa" before he met me)

well when im mad at him, or i want someone to notice me because he doesnt, or because i thought he was flirting with another girl, i tend to flirt with guys,normally these two specific guys, just to make him jealous sometimes, that and i want attention. Well today he kinda brought it up.
He said him and his other friend were talking about how they noticed it last year too. he didnt say exactly what i did or who i did it with. but im pretty sure he meant that i was flirting with this guy, and since last year. he said he didnt want to start anything so he wouldnt tell me.
i want to tell him what i did because i feel guilty even though all i did was flirt and give these guys hugs.i want to explain to him about how i was jealous but i dont even like the guys, except for one but he is like an older brother to me. i know my boyfriend thinks i like these guys but i really dont. and i dont want him to get mad at me for what i did, and i know it was totally wrong..(i liked the attention i didnt get from my boyfriend)
so how do i tell him that it didnt mean anything and that i was flirting with those guys??

I don't think you should tell him you were "flirting". It could make things worse and make him lose trust for you.
Just explain to him you wanted a bit of attention. Everyone needs some form of attention - you just went the wrong way about it.
Tell him you never really realized you were being flirtatious (even though you did) and say you'll think before you act and put an end to it.
Don't get upset over it. Just explain and things should turn out just fine.
Best of luck.

this kid that i liked for the longest time is being such a douche bag. seriously.
wen i was sleeping over my friends housee, and
his friends kept on calling me and asking me if i would go out with him like a million times, then his friends IM me from his sn pretending to be him complimenting mee and asking me to hangout and all that shit, and then after the convo he ims me saying sorry that was all my friends..
but in the middle of the convo my bestfriend who is cousins with him ims his bestfriend asking if he liked me nd his bestfriend said yes he does.
i was happy
then my friend asks him if he likes me nd he said no and she said well why do you act as if you do and he said because its funny, and she was like i dont find it funny, why wont you do it to someone else and he was like becausee.. and she was like why just say it. nd he goes i dont know
that was after i left her house from the sleepover
she didnt show me that convo because i was happyy she didnt want me gettin in a bad mood,
then one day i broke down i was like this is pointless and stuff he should make a move nd then she was like wanna see something and she shows me the convo and i was like ... wow... and she goes see ? he thinks its funny!

then i was like he crossed the line, so i imed him and i was like hey i have to talk to you and he goes ok nd i was like stop playing the little games your playing with me, i know wat youre trying to do and its to make me upset, just because i like you doesnt mean u can toy with my feelings like that and he goes tru dat and then he kept on saying that to everything i said, and then i was like you hate me now? and he goes tru dat and i was like ok well i would like to know wat i did wrong and he was like you were born nd i was like why r you such an asshole nd he goes because your an asshole nd then he was like i hate you because your an asshole.

then like 3 days after that i was hanging out with his cousin who is my bestfriend and my other friend, and we were walking around his house and he was there and he brought it up nd he goes that was my friend chris who talked to her. it wasnt me.

then at the mall one day he kept on staring at mee and wen i looked at him he kept on staring for like a second and turnd away, he kept on doing thatt

he was pretending he liked me all along because this lasted from like last yearrr, nd that shit just happend like last month. he like lead me on this whole timee, i stil remember the first convo we had nd the first time we met. he was soo different, its making me so upset =[
i dont know wat to do.
i think he's starting with the whole "im gonna pretend i like you again beacuse its funny to see you get hurt" kinda thing

I'm not quite sure what your question is exactly, but I have a few pointers for you seeing as noone has tried answering/helping.

If I was in your position, I'd ignore him. Don't bother to IM him, or talk to him if you see him. Don't act like his silly games are getting to you (even though they are).
Once he sees you don't care any more, he may make the effort to be nice to you and apologize (that is if he actually truthfully likes you).
He's being a general immature teenager at the moment. and he's not worth your time.
I know you're hurting, but if you take my advice, you will probably see a change in him.
After all, he probably doesn't want to lose you.
and if he continues to be a jerk, who the hell needs him any way? You can do so much better.

Ok so you know how people say that everything means something wel when you drop something and a guys picks it up for you does it mean anything cause i dont think it does but my friends keeps saying it does

I wouldn't read too far into this. Look out for other signs if you want to know if he likes you.
Him picking something up is just generally being nice. You'd do the same, right? :)

This guy and i have liked eachother for like 9 months now. He is getting mad at me because i won't go out with him but i dont want to because of how he ahs treated his other gfs and he isnt treating me too well right now. Well I found out today he kind of likes this other girl and I am so upset! But then i am so sick of everything he is doing to me(like things like this) and it's like i don't even know if i like him. I almost don't want to. I still have feelings for him and I want him. What should I do?

This is quite confusing.
I assume you're jealous because he likes someone else. If you wouldn't go out with him, it's only fair for him to move on. Now it's like you're holding him back. Why? - because you actually do like him but can't admit it freely because he isn't treating you too well and because of his past.
My personal opinion;
Long story short, you like him, I take it he still likes you, so why don't you give it a try?
You can explain to him you want to see how it goes. If you see no change in him, then fair enough. Move on because there's no point liking someone when they aren't good to you.
Whatever you do, I hope you choose what will make you happy. Good luck.

ok, so i got my industrial pierced about 3 and a half months ago. i washed it like they told me and put saline on it 2-3 times a day for the first month or a little more. it healed up nicely and has always been fine ive never had any problems with it. ever since a couple days ago, around the bottom hole and basically the whole top cartilage of my ear has been really rough, dry, and is flaking and peeling a bunch. not to mention its now raw bc ive been picking at the peeling skin. the piercing is still fine but the skin around it is driving me crazy. any idea what i can do? if it makes a difference, my mom dyed my hair on sunday, so maybe it irritated it? how can i get it to stop peeling and flaking?

I've had that on a piercing. Turned out the salt I used to clean and soak it with dried out my skin big time!
It will heal up in time. Just keep the area moisturized. Perhaps put a bit of vaseline on the flaky area a few times a day, being careful to not actually get it into the piercing itself.

ok, so i'm 13/f, and i guess i'm like totally uneducated or something, but could someone please tell me what 1st,2nd, and 3rd bases are? i'm totally confused! thanks in advance.

Everyone has different opinions.
This is the most common, though:
1st: French kissing
2nd: Handjobs
3rd: Oral
Homerun: Sex

I'm currently in the process of getting braces. I've had spacers in for the last week and yesterday I went in and they took the bottem spacers out and glued these metal bands around my teeth (they said those were the things that were attached to the braces?) Anyway, those metal things are cutting into my tongue really bad. Is it something I just have to get used to or did the nice lady doing my teeth screw up?

Sounds pretty normal to me. When you first get them on and every time you get them readjusted, it can be quite painful and uncomfortable. Next time you visit your orthodontist, ask her what you can do about it. If you got given the wax strips, they help a little.
Hope you stop hurting soon! :)

I noticed on a question you answered about this girl had a boyfriend who had an issue getting his penis in her with a condom. And you advised her to use lube. I know lube stands for lubrication but what is it? Is it Vaseline or what?

Thanks in advance

Whatever you do, do NOT use vaseline. Vaseline is oil based and can damage the condom.
Look around for water based lubricant such as KY-jelly. They really aren't hard to find. It basically makes sex etc not dry and easy for the penis etc to slide in.

EDIT:
In answer to your feedback;
yes, that's right. You can put it on yourself as well. Anywhere you like :) May I add you can also purchase flavoured ones and sensation ones, so have a nice look to see which you'd like.

started talking to rob two months ago. he moved an hour away but we manage to stay together, and hang on weekends. its ben rocky lately because hes extreely jealous to the point where he is just so mean. he assumes i go out/get drunk and hookup / flirt with guys. its so bad that i cant even go out anymore. i like him so much and every night i go out that im not with him, he makes me so upset when he calls and i end up goin home at like 9. my friends are sick of it because i am now depressed and dont do anything, but i just cant imagine losing him. he was never like this when he lived 10 mins away. hes 23 and im17 so there is an age difference but it just sucks because what am i supposed to do since hes not here, completly lose my social life? we are going away this weekend together and i was thinking about getting him a few nice sweatshirts or whatever. is it too soon, would he be weirded out? and what do i do to get his trust?ive already deleted all the guys in my phone and he still checks it, he also has my facebook name and password and had me delete my myspace

thanks

[Thankyou for your question.]

Your boyfriend is too controlling. It's normal for him to be jealous, because he can't exactly see what you get up to since he isn't there, but making you lose your social life and deleting petty internet profiles is rather crossing the line.
He needs to build more trust for you. Moving away seems like it's put a bit of a strain on your relationship. When you see him at the weekend, you need to explain to him. Tell him how upset it's making you feel.
I take it you don't do the same to him. For all you know, he's the one that could be going out "getting drunk and hooking up" - but you trust him. and don't make him feel guilty for still living his life when you're not there.
Deleting all your guy friends phone numbers is going too far also. He shouldn't feel the need to check your phone. I know you're trying to make him understand you are a loyal girlfriend, but if you carry on this way, you're going to lose alot of friendships etc.
Just have a talk with him and try to make him understand.
Perhaps within a bit of time, his trust will build, because there's not alot else you can do considering you don't see him lots.
I know you're in a fairly bad position at the moment. but if you have a decent conversation with each other, you will probably be able to resolve things.
If it carries on though, I don't really see an effective way of the relationship working. In a relationship, a key necessity is TRUST.
As for the sweatshirts, if you have the money, I think it's a nice gesture. I don't see a reason for him to be weirded out.
I really hope things will work out for you.

well i have braces and i relly want to give my bf a blow job but will the braces get in the way?if i do give him on will they hurt him?

Seeing as you won't be scraping your teeth along, no, they won't get in the way. They might irritate the insides of your lips though because you'll be covering the braces with them..

Hi guys, right now ive got myself completly confused about my female parts lol
Ive been having periods for about 3-4 years now, but heres the thing my vagina seems completly weird Im a virgin btw but i dont seem to a hymen but i have like a bit of skin right above my vagina which feels completly gross to touch. Im completly worried as I dont know what it is, and also my vagina appears to be too small.
Am I being worried about nothing, or is it something really important?
Thanks in advance!!
xo

I think you're worrying over nothing. Everyone's female parts come in different shapes, sizes and colours.
If you seriously think something is wrong, you should get checked out but I feel you're over reacting. Perhaps use Google to search or look at pictures. They would definitely put your mind at ease, as you would see you probably aren't alone.

does not staring your period always mean your pregnat

Not at all. Periods can take a while to regulate. and if you've changed your diet and or stressed, it can affect it.
You must check if there is a possibility of pregnancy though.

Ok....do any of ya'll guys out there do anything sweet for your girlfriends....stuff "just because"...not for any particular reason. If so what do you do? And for the girls.......what have your boyfriends done for you?

Buy small yet meaningful gifts which aren't pricey, call them randomly, kiss them unexpectedly, leave them random notes in places you know they will find them...

My friend, she's a virgin and her b/f(well now ex) he fingered her and she said that he said he used four fingers on her! She said it didn't really hurt, till after she went to the bathroom and she bleed a tiny lil, but the next day she was fine. Is that normal? and how could four fingers not hurt? and what is the normal amount of fingers used?
thanks!

There's no right or wrong. Perhaps she was relaxed enough and enjoyed more.
I think the average is around 2, but don't forget it's all about personal preference.
Some people do bleed after for different reasons (torn hymen, accidentally scratched inside etc).

when my boyfriend fingers me, like a lot, i usually tend to bleed...but when we have sex, i don't.
why is this?

and its not because of his fingers nails, they are really short..

Maybe he's being a bit rough without knowing. You don't necessarily have to feel him being rough either. A common problem is not being lubricated enough before he does it.
It's quite easy to tear the vaginal tissue.
Just have him be a little softer and more gentle. and if possible, use lube.

Hi, I have something going on that i need advice with. Im talking to this guy for about two months and in the first two weeks i had explained to him that i dont feel comfortable with him being friends with people he had romantic interests with, he says they are only friends. Two weeks into the relationship i said to him that we cant be together because of this friend, that he had romantic interest in, and now tells him about us. we didnt speak for two days, when i called him back we started talkin again, one week after, he told me that he and this "friend" that i had a problem with, had done something sexually, to him he said that since we had called it off he was single. Now he wants me to accept this person as a friend and be ok with it, otherwise we cannot go further. I have strong feelings fo him, we have been arguin about this back and forth, we broke up five times and the last time was for four days. i called him my heart couldnt take it, he stills says that he wants to keep this person as a friend cause they have done nothing for him to let him go. Wat should i do. Unsure.

Thankyou for your question.
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about this ordeal.
If I'm being perfectly honest, it seems like he's using you both for when it suits him. You say you didn't speak for 2 days.. and in that little time, he had already gone and done something sexually with this other person. Then expects you to be cool with it. Noone in their right mind can be cool with knowing their boyfriend is good friends with someone he jumps back and forth with and has romantic interests in.
He needs to consider your feelings at this point - which he obviously isn't doing.
You should have a serious talk with him and explain how weird it makes you feel to know he has some sort of feelings towards this other person as well as you.
If he can prove to you he is only interested in you, perhaps you can work around it.
It's impossible for anyone to know what's going on inside his head. He may really regret what he did or doesn't see it as a big deal.. Or he could just not care.
He is giving you an ultimatum - either you accept his friendship or that's it.
Fair enough, but you have to make him understand that yes, he can remain friends with this person, but if there's any obvious flirting or anything considered more as a friendship, then that's it too.
Follow your heart at this point. If you think it can honestly work, give it a go.
Although, if you've already broken up 5 times over it, it doesn't seem as if you're very compatible.
If I were in your position (which I have been, but not as severe), I'd have the talk and give it a try out for a few weeks. If he's basically being a jerk, you can do better.
I really hope things work out for you.

15 (almost 16)/female
This is embarrassing but I am almost 16 and still a virgin. I have made out like twice(but i find myself not to be the best kisser becuase i think about it way to much b.c im afraid ill mess up) . No fore play, sex or anything. Not because I dont want to but Im afraid to do it wrong or mess up. Also when it comes down to it Im nervous about my body, but thats not a big concern to me tho. And compared to 80% of my friends Im like the most unexperienced. Its not like i couldnt do all the stuff, but my fears are keeping me from them. Well my questions are..
How would I give a hand job or blow job that will pleasure him?
If i happen to discharge on a guys fingers when he fingers me..is that normal?
Any suggestions or good advice? I need it. :[ Im pretty pathetic to think about it.

1.

They will give you the best answers, as noone here is allowed to go into detail.

2. Of course it's normal. If you're wet, it shows you're turned on by him.

Finally, you're normal. Everyone goes through it at some point.
16 isn't necessarily old and you shouldn't be embarrassed because you're still a virgin etc. Who cares if your friends are doing it and if you're less experienced. When you find the right guy, it will make it so much more worthwhile and special.
You really have nothing to worry about. I'm sure whatever you do, the guy will be pleased anyway. Plus, if you ask him to, he will guide you and tell you which feels good, because all guys like different things. With practice you'll become better and better, so to be honest, it's not really a problem.
Put yourself in the guys position..I'm sure he doesn't know what he's doing 100% either!
You may just not be ready mentally. There's no reason to be afraid.
Just give yourself a bit of time. and when you're in a decent relationship, your fears will disappear.

For the past 3 months or possibly even longer, I've been noticing random bruises on my arms, I'm not sure if they're bruises i's just what they look like, but they're smaller and more purple. They don't hurt either, and I won't see it one hour then two hours later i have a bruise and I know for certain that I never hit that area. Plus, the bruises are always on the under sides of my upper arm, the part that's covered when you have you're arms at your side, or you see when you tie your hair in the mirror. I'll have one on one spot, and then the next day I have it on the next arm. It's happened more then once and they last 2 weeks to a full month. So what I'm wondering is is this a medical condition type thing or what? It's bothering me because I have people thinking my boyfriend gets aggressive and grabs me too tightly. Sorry it was so long, I was trying to be more specific rather than vague.

I get random bruises too. However, I'm pretty positive as to why I have mine - I'm small, thin, rather pasty, hardly get any sleep, crappy immune system, and have the symptoms of anemia.
So that could be one of the problems. You may be anemic.
Others could be:
*iron deficiency.
*Vitamin K deficiency.
*You can do it in your sleep (it's quite common actually)
*Could be due to medications if you're taking any.
I could go on for a while, but it's pretty pointless, because we aren't doctors who can give a proper diagnosis.
With all symptoms, something small can turn into something pretty serious.
If it happens more, go to your doctor.
Get diagnosed and put your mind at ease.

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