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A big mess, I know. HELP!!
Okay, so where do I begin. March the 23rd I met this wonderful guy. He was so kind to me, and we started hanging out. We flirted a little bit, and he had told my friend that he though I were really cute. Then after a few weeks I found out that he has a baby, a little baby daughter and I GIRLFRIEND! And I were like, "oh no, i must of gotten all this wrong, the wrong signals etc" So I though that I could be just his friend. But then that they came, the day when he gave me our first kiss. I was so confused. so I asked out this girl of his. And he told me, that it was'nt going good between them, and that their relationship just were fighting, and the only reason that they we're together was because of their baby. So we have been kinda "dating" the last six months. And we've been intimite and he says that he loves me, and that it's goind to get better, and that he will break it of with his GF, but it's just so hard right now because of the baby. The baby is now 8 months old. So everything were going great, he were so romantic, buying me roses, necklaces and doing stuff like that. But he were very busy, working all the time, working out, being with friends and his family. But lately, everything has been going REALLY bad. I have'nt hung out with him for 3 weeks. He rarely calls, or answer when I do. He does'nt say I love you anymore. And when we speak he says he's busy with work and stuff. He says he still cares about me, but Im not so sure. I really love him, but I dont think im going to be happy with him. He has to much responsibility, and i dont think i can handle that. He's 23, and Im 17.. Im still young, you know. What should I do?
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okay darling first off if the guy is still with his GF who he says he is leaving and you have been going through this for about 6 months---chances are he wont leave her. sorry but the baby isnt the only thing keeping them together. there is a thing called -joint custody- and he could break up with her and they could both see the baby. but if he is still dating his other gf that makes you the other woman and that is not a very good place to be. maybe the other girl doesnt know how he feels about all of that...but if he is still with her after 6 months of being with you, break it off, cuz its not fair to you.
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When a guy dates you
and already has another girlfriend.
you dump him.
leave him.
move on.
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You've answered your own question.
You won't be happy with him, he has too much responsibility and not to mention things have gone down hill lately.
You two don't seem very compatible, right?
Sure, he may have bought you gifts etc, but you have to actually be happy and connect in a relationship.
If you want to make it work;
You need to talk to him. Explain how you feel.
You could be over reacting and he's just extremely busy, or his feelings for you may have changed. Only way to find out is to ask if he feels the same.
Although there is one thing that worries me - don't forget he has a girlfriend. I don't see why he hasn't broke up with her if things honestly aren't working. Staying together for the kid will make it miserable when it grows old enough to understand. Kids can sense when their parents aren't happy - so it makes them unhappy.
Maybe he's trying to work things out with her?
I'm trying to list all the possible reasons here.. but the only real way to find out what's going on is to get him to tell you. Then you can get on with the rest of your life.
You're right - you are young. and if this isn't meant to be, you'll find someone who matches your standards and needs, because at the moment, your current guy doesn't.
I hope things workout the way you want them to.
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