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hes extremely jealous
started talking to rob two months ago. he moved an hour away but we manage to stay together, and hang on weekends. its ben rocky lately because hes extreely jealous to the point where he is just so mean. he assumes i go out/get drunk and hookup / flirt with guys. its so bad that i cant even go out anymore. i like him so much and every night i go out that im not with him, he makes me so upset when he calls and i end up goin home at like 9. my friends are sick of it because i am now depressed and dont do anything, but i just cant imagine losing him. he was never like this when he lived 10 mins away. hes 23 and im17 so there is an age difference but it just sucks because what am i supposed to do since hes not here, completly lose my social life? we are going away this weekend together and i was thinking about getting him a few nice sweatshirts or whatever. is it too soon, would he be weirded out? and what do i do to get his trust?ive already deleted all the guys in my phone and he still checks it, he also has my facebook name and password and had me delete my myspace
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he needs to be a man and grow up!
i mean you're not acting all possesive and psycho towards him. you're not mega jealous, because you trust him! he needs to just calm down. you DO need a social life and to hangout with friends. He's got you locked up in a cage. tell him to trust you . it's all he can do dear. and if he can't seriously find a guy who can. love and relationships are based on trust and honesty. and you shouldn't have to delete anything just because he's insecure about himself. sometimes people are so jealous because theyy know them-selves aren't behaving. try asking him what he's doing all the time. see how he likes it. but really sit and have a talk with him. it's rediculous for you.
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Your boyfriend is too controlling. It's normal for him to be jealous, because he can't exactly see what you get up to since he isn't there, but making you lose your social life and deleting petty internet profiles is rather crossing the line.
He needs to build more trust for you. Moving away seems like it's put a bit of a strain on your relationship. When you see him at the weekend, you need to explain to him. Tell him how upset it's making you feel.
I take it you don't do the same to him. For all you know, he's the one that could be going out "getting drunk and hooking up" - but you trust him. and don't make him feel guilty for still living his life when you're not there.
Deleting all your guy friends phone numbers is going too far also. He shouldn't feel the need to check your phone. I know you're trying to make him understand you are a loyal girlfriend, but if you carry on this way, you're going to lose alot of friendships etc.
Just have a talk with him and try to make him understand.
Perhaps within a bit of time, his trust will build, because there's not alot else you can do considering you don't see him lots.
I know you're in a fairly bad position at the moment. but if you have a decent conversation with each other, you will probably be able to resolve things.
If it carries on though, I don't really see an effective way of the relationship working. In a relationship, a key necessity is TRUST.
As for the sweatshirts, if you have the money, I think it's a nice gesture. I don't see a reason for him to be weirded out.
I really hope things will work out for you.
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