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Now I have a comment to make and a question. Everyone will tell you how you shouldn't go for the sex and you shouldn't like the cuter guy. Now I know I live out the parts about the cuter guy being nice and all that. Everyone tells you not to do stuff, but in the end you end up not taking their advice at all. You end up doing the opposite. For instance I asked a question about should I like the boy who I've known since kindergarden or the hott one that goes to a diff school. Everyone says that the guy whos hott is a jerk but hes not. My point is it just cracks me up because you all waste your time writing how you shouldn't do things but in the end everyone always does the opposite. So whats with it? It's point less when people say follow your heart well you wouldn't be asking a question if you could!
So whats with all of this?
(I put it under sex cause people always answer the questions on sex)
I definitely know what you mean. "Everyone" probably said that the hot guy was a jerk because you didn't specify otherwise. The only quality you gave him was that he was good looking, so we have to assume. The reason why people don't always take other people's advice is because other people don't know the whole situation. They don't know you personally, how you think, or the people you are talking about well enough to come up with flawless advice. So, the problem really isn't with advicenators being hypocrites or their advice being worthless, the problem is with people asking for advice being much too vague. The more information we are given the better advice we can give :) There's another point I want to make though too. You know that Alanis Morissette song with the line "good advice that you just can't take"? Sometimes people, even though they know what they should do and they're given wonderful advice about it, they can't do it for some reason. The reason is always different. I'm sure you can think of a time when you did something that you shouldn't have and I'm sure you can think of the exact reason why you did it. To someone else, you were wrong, but to you, at the time, you did what you thought was right. You may even still believe that it was right. What I'm trying to say through all of this is that, in the end it is ALWAYS your decision on what you do. We're not telling you what to do and we can't make you do anything. We're just giving advice using the information that we are given. Usually this turns out to be good advice because the information given is the information that seems important in the person's mind that is asking for advice. Sometimes though, it is not good advice, but that is nothing that anyone can help. About your situation, I would hang out with both guys (seperately) and choose the one that made me the happiest. If it doesn't work out there's always the other guy to try. Remember that there is no such thing as a soulmate, or "the one". There are tons of people in the world that you can be happy with. If you can't decide, I would say to go with the guy that is from your school because it would be much more convenient. I hope I was able to help you.
hi, um im a 16/f. I have 2 weird yellow spots on my right breast. It looks almost like I was marked with a highlighter, but I wasnt & its not brused or anything. I was wondering what it could be or what could have caused it. Please I need help...
Whenever that happens to me it's a bruise. They're seriously the color of mustard and they last for so long. Another thing that it could be is a birthmark or a "beauty mark". I don't know how long you've had the spots, but if you are worried about them or they haven't gone away for awhile, maybe you want to ask a doctor about it. I know that if you do that it'll be totally embarassing, but that's what doctors are for! It's always better to know and maybe be a little embarassed than to have a serious health problem. Good luck!
I am a 25 year old female with a huge life decision to make.I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now. And i love him with all my heart, he's pretty close to being perfect. Hes kind, caring, smart, athletic, he's the whole package. And of chorse im not satisfied. My problem is, i still have a crush on my high school crush...i know it sounds silly because high school was 8 years ago for me, but yes there has not been a single day since high school where i have not thought about him in some way. After high school we kept in touch at college for about a year, and after that we kinda lost touch. But that didnt stop me from thinking about him all the time. I always compared every guy to him, and every guy i dated i always told myself if "Bob" (my high school crush) were to ever come to me and say he wanted to be with me i would breakup with whomever i was with and date him. About 2 and a half years ago me and "bob" found each other again. We began talking again, it was like we never lost touch, we picked up where we left off. The problem was that i had a boyfriend whom i really care about and love. "bob" on the other hand was single. And since i already believe that him and i are soulmates i thought that was a sign, because he is so gorgous that him being single wasn't bound to last long. Just like high school every female that lays eyes on him instantly is drawn to him. I have opted not to tell him my feelings because of my boyfriend. Him and i still talk on occassion, and maybe once or twice a year we hang out and catch up on "life". I have found out from sources that he too once had a crush on me in high school. And when we do see one another he always asks if i still have a boyfriend and when he finds out i do, he asks if im happy, and if i see a future with me and my boyfriend. He has been in and out of a few relationships, but i know the time is going to come soon when he thinks he has found the person he wantst to spend the rest of his life with, and when that happens i would have lost my chance to tell him anything forever. And this just kills me because i want him so badly. I want to be able to tell him everything on my mind. I want to tell him that i love him...yes i do love him, but i cant tell him that cause its not fair to my boyfriend. But at the same time this is just killing me inside. All i want to do is just get everything out in the open so i can have a sense of relief. Im curious how he would respond to my feelings. i truely believe he is my soulmate, i have always been drawn to him. i believe he is the person im suppose to marry. Whenever i have dreams of him (which are often) i try to hurry and go back to sleep just so i can be with him. What do you suggest? am i crazy? is this jsut a silly crush?...well i dont think its just a crush because the crush evolved to me loving him....and you see the reason wny i never told my crush my feelings when i was single was because i am really shy, and i thought that he was too perfect for me and that he could have any girl he wanted so why would he choose me....and i use to push him away big time a few years back because i was affraid of my feelings for him, and i was affraid of getting hurt if i told him. But now i feel an almost need to tell him my feelings just so i can get on with my life. What do i do? please suggest....
Okay, there's a big difference between having a crush on someone, loving someone, and being compatible with someone. I'm going to pose a question to you that I want you to really seriously think about. One of my very good friends asked me the same question about a year ago and it is a huge part of what helped me get into the relationship that I am still in today, which is a very happy one. Are you attracted to him physically or emotionally? Don't answer it right away and think about it for both guys. Think about it a lot. Physical attraction and emotional attraction are very different from each other. Love is having a deep connection with someone that can take quite a bit of time to build. You can love the way someone looks and the way someone acts, but to love someone means to love their mind. Love is loving someone's personality, their values, their thoughts, their beliefs, and what they know. "Just like high school every female that lays eyes on him instantly is drawn to him." That right there tells me that you are attracted to Bob because he is good looking and maybe a little bit because you "can't have him". You are really overrating him in your mind. I'm not saying that you don't like him emotionally or that you don't love him, but you are focusing in on physical attraction, which is not a good thing. The most important thing in a RELATIONSHIP is compatibility. You can love someone to death, but be completely incompatible with them. Don't throw away your happiness with the amazing guy that you're with. There is no such thing as a "soulmate" or "the one". Crushes come and go, love can even come and go sometimes. There are so many people out there that you could end up with that you would be completely happy with for the rest of your life. Fantasies aren't quite the same when you actually live them. Be thankful and glad with what you have, because even though there are other options out there, you KNOW that you one you have is a keeper. If you separate and go off with Bob, maybe you'll be happy together, but if you aren't your current bf probably won't and really, sad to say, should not take you back. It's okay to think about Bob and fantasize about him and wonder what it would be like to be with him, but don't throw away the dream you have for a dream that might not come true.
well my boyfriend matthew and i have been going out for three weeks. hes 15 im 14.
ive never had my first kiss :(
but EVERYONE thinks that i have.
he has had his first kiss.
so he thinks its weird that i dont want to kiss him yet.
i dont know how to kiss.
like.. friday he was like, we need to stop being shy or whatever and we kissed, but it wasnt a long makeout session or something because i had to go like right that second. so yeah, my first "makeout" i have no idea what to do.
* taken shy girl
The only way that kissing will feel less awkward for you is to practice! The more you do it the more confident you will feel about it and the more you'll get into it. It is very normal for you to feel this way, don't worry I felt this way too. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 18 years old either! I just knew I was going to be horrible. One thing that you can do is TELL your bf that you don't know how to kiss and ask him for pointers. This way he can kind of like teach you how to kiss, which is really fun. Just talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and he will be more understanding and he will want to help you. Good luck!
we're goin to the movies on friday and i wanna get close to my gf. any tips? i'm gonna kisser too.
One of the best things you can do is go to a scary movie. Then what you do is tell her to hold your hand and if she gets scared to squeeze. My bf did this to me and I loved it! I'd squeeze his hand even when I wasn't scared! Then once she gets into that put your arm around her (as if you are trying to protect her from what she is afraid of) and give her your other hand to squeeze. This puts you in a really good position for making out because it turns you towards her. Good luck and have fun! ;-)
Okay, has anyone out there been in a situation where you think you're getting a crush on someone and you really don't want it?
That's kinda the situation I'm in right now. He's my guy friend...I refuse to like him. I have a boyfriend whom I adore to absolutely no end. My guy's perfect for me, and he has plans, and he loves me, and I'm safe with him.
My friend, though, has recently been hinting that he likes me, and he knows I have a boyfriend - so he won't try anything. Some little part of me, though, almost wants him to.
What the heck is wrong with me? I think part of it is because he's a good friend, and we have a lot in common...but I know for a fact that it wouldn't work - I've tried relationships where I had almost everything in common with the guy, and they REALLY didn't work. Especially not with someone as competitive as I am. I'm majorly into music, and those guys were too. (So is my friend I'm talking about here)
How do you kill a crush without making yourself hate the guy? (That's what I've done in the past, and I don't want to hate him 'cause he's a sweetheart...)
GAH.
Help? Lol.
If you are happy in your current relationship you shouldn't do anything to mess that up. Knowing how old you are would have helped a lot. Other than finding something about the person to dislike, I certainly haven't found a way to get rid of crushes other than good old fashioned time. It's okay to like other people when you are in a relationship, but if you are committed enough it won't hurt your relationship at all unless your bf finds out about it and is hurt by it. I think what you need to concentrate on is not hurting your bf. You CAN'T like your crush or you could lose the guy you have because he will find out. Make that the thing that's wrong with your crush. Make him seem like something that is getting in the way of your life, your plans, and your happiness. You don't want him to screw everything up for you! This way, you don't have to find anything that is actually wrong with him and you can remain friends because you'll just be taking a different attitude, not reforming your opinion about your crush. I don't know if this will work at all, but it's worth a try if you can't think of something better on your own. Hang in there, and I hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it to.
how do i get rid of stress? i feel bad after breaking up with some1...like realllllly bad..please give me some suggestions♥
There are lots of things that people can do to cope with what you're feeling. What will actually work really depends on the person. Basically what you need to do is find something to fill your time that you will get really into so that you don't think about stuff too much. Some of my suggestions would be to join a club, activity, or sport if you're not in any of those things already, read...there's lots of great books out there, exercise (this works really well for me), find a new hobby, buy a new game, buy a new gadget, or anything else you can think of. I'm sure that you'll find something, good luck!
Yes Pills. Me and My two closest friends pop in and outta school. Cough Drops are all we take though. And yes its wrong but we actually are sick and use them just a little more than the suggested dose. I probably take 20 a day for the past week. Is this harmful and should we stop?
Absolutely! You should stop right away. Stuff like that can be really addicting. Maybe you should try just sucking on regular candy like mints or creme savers, or chewing gum. If you find that it's really hard to stop or that you can't you should talk to someone about it. A school nurse, a counselor, doctor, hotline, your parents...having too many cough drops when you're sick isn't a HUGE problem (not at this point anyways) and probably just asking your parents about it might help you out. Good luck!
This question has probably been asked a million times.. it's one of those "do you think he likes me" questions. lol. There's this guy in my math class & I think he might like me but I'm not sure. He gives me a hug almost everyday & he's very sweet to me. He calls me babe and doll. He gave me his phone number and also said he wanted to take me out sometime. And one day he took one of my ponytail holders from my wrist & told me he was going to wear it that night during the game (he plays football) & he did. He also told me he saw me at the game. He also just looks at me for no reason & tries to make me laugh. He's sending all the right signals it seems like but I don't know.. I went though some of this with the last guy I liked and it turned out he didn't like me. So I really don't know what to think & I needed someone else's opinion. Thanks. =)
It really depends on how he acts towards other girls. See if he does similar things with them. He may also just think you're pretty and want to flirt with you. He doesn't necessarily want to date you. None of what you said is a surefire way of knowing that he would date you. The only way to know for sure is to ask him! He definitely LIKES you, but maybe just as a friend. My advice to you is to call him and invite him to go to a movie with you or something, but don't say anything about it being a date unless he does. Ask him like you'd ask a friend. The way he responds to this and acts on your "date" will give you a better idea about how he feels about you. Who knows? Maybe he'll even ask you to be his girlfriend when you go out together. I hope that everything works out between you two! Good luck!
Well my boyfriend of 6 months recently went off to college and things are fine we are working that part out and are for the most part, ok with the distance. But he is always telling me about these "hott chicks" he saw or talked to. He also was telling me of how his roomates ex lets him take naked pictures of her and I replied with a "Well thank you for telling me that, I needed to know (sarcasm)" and he also told me that she was going to come over and strip for them. Then told me that he was joking. I just dont know what to do, or how to approach him about it. I really want this to work but it might put a strain on our relationship if he continues it and GAH its pissing me off!!
Thank you! I will rate high for good answers:D
This reminds me a lot of a question I answered for someone a few days ago. I don't know if I can say it any better so here's part of what I said then and a little stuff that relates to you specifically!
Guys will always look at other girls and girls will always look at other guys. I used to find it to be extremely annoying when my boyfriend talked about how hot other girls were. It made me feel bad about myself and made me feel like our relationship wasn't as strong as it really was. I even got kind of jealous sometimes. Truth is, because he's sharing that with you, it seems like you two have a really great connection. You trust each other and want to have a really healthy relationship. I've learned that when my bf starts talking about girls to turn it into a kind of joke by talking about them too. I feel totally bisexual when I do it, but it's actually really fun. I basically pretend I'm a guy and think of things that a guy would say. He'll be so surprised and he'll like it a lot more than he probably should. It's a way to shift his attention more from her back to you. It always works really well for me, but if you feel uncomfortable doing it or something just know that when he talks about it he is really just doing what he thinks he should...sharing everything with you. If it bothers you a lot talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel and he will at least try to stop doing it. He probably doesn't realize what he's doing to you. Don't talk about how hot a guy was as a type of comeback though, unless it's a complete joke and he knows it. You don't want to purposely make him feel the way that he's making you feel. Guys can be a tad bit more sensitive to it since girls don't do that as often and you could really hurt his feelings. If you do find out that he does the stripping thing though, that's not good at all. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
i'm 16. i'm on birth control. my boyfriend of two years and i had sex the other night and he came inside me. i was just wondering if it is 100% positive that you do get pregnant if you get came inside of, and the whole birth control thing. thanks in advance for thoes who help. i'll rate good.
You should probably know a little more about birth control if you're taking it, but what birth control does is it tricks your body into thinking it's pregnant. It releases hormones to do this and because of these hormones your ovaries do not release eggs. Egg and sperm have to meet for you to become pregnant. It's really hard to get pregnant even if you aren't using any kind of protection at all because only one egg is released every month (about halfway between periods. There's a span of only a few days when it's even possible to get pregnant and then sometimes the sperm don't even make to the egg before they die. Birth control is NOT 100% effective, but it's really close, it depends on what exactly you are using, but it's normally about 99% effective. As long as you take your pills when you are supposed to EVERY TIME you are supposed to exactly when you are supposed to there is basically no chance of you being pregnant. I will give you some advice though...use a condom anyways ;-). Hope I was able to clear some things up for you!
ok so.. im 15/F, and the other night my boyfriend hinted (very openly) that we should have sex. and well im ok with it, but im a virgin and hes not. and well i dont know what to do, and i mean what if there are other people around (yeah most likely we'd be at a party with his friend, and his friends girlfriend who have sex like everywhere). and yeah well i dont exactly know what im asking, so im sorry for that but anything.. i mean anything would help.
Do what makes you happy. Think a little selfishly...this is something that only you and you alone can decide. I do, however, don't want you to have any regrets. Sex is something that should be shared between two people that are extrememly committed to each other and love each other. This is the reason why some people say wait till marriage. This is your life and your choice, but MAKE SURE that you are ready, this is something that you want to do, and you know ALL of the risks that you would be taking (emotional and physical). It's something you need to think about a lot before just doing it. I'm glad that you are because so many people don't. Take your time deciding so that you're sure of your decision. Good luck! Remember do what makes YOU happy.
I don't know what's wrong with me but i always feel like i have to cry. I don't think its depression. Then again it could be. Maybe it's just that something's missing. I get annoyed fast, when i would just let it pass before. And eveybody seems to be agitating me. Maybe it's that i'm lonely, or that im just sad. Can someone help me?
sad and falling down*
Hormones can really do that to you. If you're female that sounds a lot like PMS. If you're really worried about it, it doesn't go away soon, or it gets worse, you should probably talk to someone about it. A school nurse, counselor, doctor, or even a hotline can help you. I hope you feel better really soon and I hope that I helped you out :)
All I can think is 'if I did this differently, then it wouldn't be like this" and how much it hurts to see him flirting with this girl he said he liked at the begining of the school year. He's the only guy I want and the only guy I didn't get tired of after a few weeks. And it's all my fault things are like this now. =[. Why do I always do this? I always push people away. It's always good BEFORE I start going out with anyone; when we're 'friends with feelings for each other', but once we're going out, I screw things up. I act differently, shy actually, because atleast when you're friends with them but still like them, they can't dump you, but I can't let loose once we are going out because then I keep worrying that they'll dump me if I do this, or I say that, or something. I started pushing him away from me and not talking to him as much as I did before we were going out, and then he dumped me. But if I weren't so scared of whatever I'm so scared of about it all, I wouldn't be in this situation of being so depressed over this.
Any advice? We haven't talked since he broke up with me over week ago. Not one word, but it doesn't seem like that is a problem for him since he's always talking + flirting with that girl stupid girl who flirts with everyone and every f-in guy likes her. I mean, I wish we would actually talk to each other, but it's awkward now. I can't just go up to him and be like "Hey"...
It's really sad how people change so much once they are in a relationship. Almost everyone does it. If a guy asked you out he likes you for who you were then not how you will start acting when you go out with him. If you happened to ask him out to begin with he said yes when he could have said no (a line from Hitch :-P). There's no reason for you to worry so much. He liked you and if things don't work out then there's not anything you can do about that anyways. "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?" Matthew 6:27. Once my boyfriend gave me a picture of myself from a year before we went out and said something to the extent of "this is the Lisa I fell in love with and I want her back". I realized that I was acting completely different from who I really was and thanks to him I started acting like myself again and we're still together. What you need to think about is that a friendship is a relationship and that a bf/gf relationship should be almost exactly the same as a "best friends forever" relationship. A boyfriend is exactly what it says it is. A boy that is a friend. Try thinking of a boyfriend just as a really close friend. Sometimes it's really hard, but I know you can do it! About the guy that you lost that you like so much, you should talk to him about what happened. Work up the nerve, go up to him and say something like "hey, can I talk to you for a second?" Tell him that relationships change you and you know that they shouldn't, but you couldn't help it. Tell him that you want him to give you another chance and that you will try really hard to be yourself this time. Let him know how you feel about him and that you would be really heartbroken if he said no. Tell him that you don't need an answer right away if he needs time deciding and that you will wait for him because he is worth it. I know a lot of people that have gone through this so know that you are not alone! I wish you the best of luck and I hope that I was able to help you in some way.
I'm an Aethiest. I strongly believe that there is no god. I respect other people's religions, and I don't try to convert people or anything. Now, I've been in scouting for years. Lots of years. From a Tiger Cub Scout in 1st grade to a First Class scout now (I'm kind of slow with scouting). Anyway, the requirement for every class that says to live the Scout Oath and Scout Law in your every day life is now being enforced. My parents made me describe each part of the Law and Oath in great depth. When we reached Brave and Clean, I was starting to slip up. And then we reached Reverent.
Boy Scouts expects everyone to believe in some sort of god, and be straight. Gays and Aethiests have been kicked out in the past. And since Boy Scouts is a private thing, government can't interfere. People have tried to sue and lost the case. Now, I want to keep scouting. I love being a Boy Scout. Plus, it'll look good on my job application forms when I'm old enough that it won't be against child labor laws. =P So my options are:
a) Quit scouting (I don't want to. Really.)
b) Believe in a god (I'm not going to change my beliefs because of this. It's not in human nature.
c) Lie about my religion (Also against the Scout Oath. Not good.)
So obviously, I'm screwed. What should I do? It's putting so much pressure on me...
Wow, I never really thought about that, but girl scouts is the same way. The girl scout pledge says "On my honor I will try to serve God and my country...". Very interesting. I never had a problem with it because I am Christian. Boy Scouts is a great program to be involved in and I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Well, I think that you should talk to your scout leader (or whatever it's called, I don't know that much about boy scouts :-P) about it. You could also talk to all the members of your troop (or whatever they call it :-P) and let them know about your beliefs. If everyone is okay with it than I think that it might be okay for you to remain a member. "God" can be interpreted in so many ways. You could refer to the first living cell or what you believe to have caused it as "God". If you feel like you're going against your religion, though, I would suggest maybe joining something like 4-H? There's nothing about God in their pledge even though Christian values are important in it. If you don't know what 4-H is, it's like a co-ed agriculture based scouting program. I'm a member and I am very proud of that. It's a great program and there's probably a club in your area. The agriculture thing...the club I'm in doesn't do anything with agriculture so don't worry about that. 4-H is all about community service, leadership, and development of self. It's a great program that, like scouting, looks really good on job applications and stuff. I hope I helped you in some way. Good luck!
Ok here goes. There's this guy that I have been chatting with for the last 3yrs. I wasn't with anyone when me started talking . But I had a b/f that I married and he doesn't know that I chat with him. I can tell this guy everything. I was wondering should I tell my husband about him. I have never meet my internet guy and we don't talk about sex or cheating. I need some help. I only chat with him when my husband is at work. My friend know that I'm married and that. But that doesn't bother him. 29/f- 25/m
Having someone like that is a very good thing. It's like a very trusted friend. I think that you should tell your husband about it. If he finds out somehow he might get pretty upset because you hid it from him. I think that just as long as you explain everything to him he won't mind. Maybe he'll end up being good friends with this guy too, who knows? It's really your decision what you do, but I believe that complete honesty is part of a healthy relationship. I don't always tell my boyfriend about some things right away, but I always do end up telling him and it makes me feel so much better. I really hate going behind his back. Maybe you should talk to your internet friend about the situation, he may have some good advice for you because he knows you a lot better than I do. Good luck, and I hope that everything works out well for you. :)
My computer just recently got fixed so it ran just like a new computer, now idk what happened but it doesn't let me go on aim and idk its being gay.. does anyone know any good and free virus scans? please help! i rate high
Go to http://free.grisoft.com/freeweb.php/doc/1 and go to the bottom of the page. Click on "Download AVG Anti-Virus Free Edition Now!" and you'll be good to go from there. It's the anti-virus software that I use and it works really well for me. Also...you may want to download something like Ad-Aware...it catches tracking cookies and stuff that a virus scan wouldn't. Good luck!
is there a way you can make your shirts tighter as in shrinking them to fit?
Set the washing machine on "hot, hot" (lol) and then put the clothes in the dryer right after they're done. The hot water makes them shrink better. Keep an eye on them in the dryer though, you don't want them shrinking too much! One more thing...washing your clothes in hot water makes them wear out a lot faster, so only do it once or twice. They can only shrink so much anyways. Good luck!
when i try to watch mtv over drive and music videos like the window pops upp and everything but the media player thing just says ready and i keep trying to press play and nothing happens..please help! thanks
That happens to me sometimes. I refresh it and that always seems to work after at most two tries. If it doesn't work I'm sure someone that's a lot smarter with computers will give you a better answer! Good luck and I hope that I helped you!
okay, so this guy i am "together with" which means we are pretty much going out without the label. anyway, he says he likes me alot, but doesnt think we would be able to have a relationship because he doesnt think i would want him to finger me, or i wont give him head. and the truth is, i just think it would be akward.. but ive gone out with him before.. and i really want a relationship with him.. he doesnt want to have sex with me.. just do everything else. but ive never given anyone head, and ive never been fingered.. im 14.. and i didnt think i should be doing that stuff.. what should i do?
Your "boyfriend" may not want you just for sex, but it's a possibility. He could just want to take the next step in the relationship, try something new with someone he trusts, or just have some fun. It's really your decision what to do, just make sure you know why he wants to do it. The first time you do something like that will be awkward no matter what age you are. If you are in any way UNCOMFORTABLE however don't do it. My advice is to talk to him and try to figure out what's going through his mind. If you're okay with it maybe it's something you should do. Even if you don't end up with this guy it's like good practice or something. Anyways, I can't tell you what to do, but I hope at least a little of this helped you in some way. Good luck!