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First Time. . .
ok so.. im 15/F, and the other night my boyfriend hinted (very openly) that we should have sex. and well im ok with it, but im a virgin and hes not. and well i dont know what to do, and i mean what if there are other people around (yeah most likely we'd be at a party with his friend, and his friends girlfriend who have sex like everywhere). and yeah well i dont exactly know what im asking, so im sorry for that but anything.. i mean anything would help.
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Do what makes you happy. Think a little selfishly...this is something that only you and you alone can decide. I do, however, don't want you to have any regrets. Sex is something that should be shared between two people that are extrememly committed to each other and love each other. This is the reason why some people say wait till marriage. This is your life and your choice, but MAKE SURE that you are ready, this is something that you want to do, and you know ALL of the risks that you would be taking (emotional and physical). It's something you need to think about a lot before just doing it. I'm glad that you are because so many people don't. Take your time deciding so that you're sure of your decision. Good luck! Remember do what makes YOU happy.
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Well you cant expect to ask for advice on sex, and then tell us "no lectures".
Sex isnt something that is suppose to be so casual. Its shared between 2 mature people that are in love, and doesnt "happen" at a party. Do you feel left out because you are still a virgin?
You should be proud! Youre gonna give up your virginity,(something you can NEVER take back) and this guys gonna leave you down the road. You dont sound like you have alot upstairs if you have no clue on what to do!! Hes not a virgin! He probably likes to be the first for his girls, is that why HES the 1 that suggested to have sex? Whats the matter, is he not happy with how your relationship is right now? You will regret it someday!!! Because i guarantee you and him will not last. Make a guy respect you, save yourself for when you know the time is right. You are very young, and if your gonna give it up to the first guy that comes along, your in trouble girl. Your in for alot of heartache, because thats what comes along with having sex. Girls take it more seriously than guys do at this age. Hes gonna use you and move on to another girl wholl be just like you> naive!! teenage guys talk with their dicks and not with their hearts.
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well do you want to have sex for yourself, if your doing it for him then DONT DO IT
i wouldnt do it at a party because sex is very personal and initmate just because ur bfs friend and your bfs friends gf do it everywhere doesnt mean you have to ....
good luck <3 lizzie
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ok think about this..this is your virginity. if your going to lose it..make it special. dont just lose it at some party in an upstairs bedroom..have a romantic setting ..get a nice hotel room maybe (if you know any 18 year olds who could buy the room for you then leave..)
i think you should wait until you really want to have sex. you should wait until your desiring to have sex..not just being 'ok' with it.
wait as long as you have to...a month..a year...10 years.it doesnt matter. dont do anything your not ready for.
and use protection if you decide to do it.
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Sex can be a wonderful thing if it's CONSENTUAL. Don't have sex with him if you're hesitant; if you're not hesitant and you understand that possible consiquences of being sexually active, go for it.
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dump him as soon as you can or tell him how you feel i personally wouldn't do it until im married cause having sex wen your 15 is way too young if you do it you could make a big mistake in your life and if you have kids when your older and they asked you when ur first time was and you tell them it will encourage them to folow in your foot steps and you don't want that right?well i would dump him as fast as i can even if the whole school is doing it!
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