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Regret blows.
All I can think is 'if I did this differently, then it wouldn't be like this" and how much it hurts to see him flirting with this girl he said he liked at the begining of the school year. He's the only guy I want and the only guy I didn't get tired of after a few weeks. And it's all my fault things are like this now. =[. Why do I always do this? I always push people away. It's always good BEFORE I start going out with anyone; when we're 'friends with feelings for each other', but once we're going out, I screw things up. I act differently, shy actually, because atleast when you're friends with them but still like them, they can't dump you, but I can't let loose once we are going out because then I keep worrying that they'll dump me if I do this, or I say that, or something. I started pushing him away from me and not talking to him as much as I did before we were going out, and then he dumped me. But if I weren't so scared of whatever I'm so scared of about it all, I wouldn't be in this situation of being so depressed over this.
Any advice? We haven't talked since he broke up with me over week ago. Not one word, but it doesn't seem like that is a problem for him since he's always talking + flirting with that girl stupid girl who flirts with everyone and every f-in guy likes her. I mean, I wish we would actually talk to each other, but it's awkward now. I can't just go up to him and be like "Hey"...
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Of course you can go up to him and be like "HEY" why not? The problem here is, that you act differently once you're dating, right? So the key here is to be your same old self, he knew you when you were friends, and how you were acting when you were friends is the reason why he wanted to date you! You have to be yourself, if you're an outgoing, smiling, bubbly, funny person, that's who he wants, NOT SHY! So go up to him and talk to him, flaunt yourself when he's around show him how cool you really are and see that he feels it when you show him who you lost! Look a little hotter the next time you see him too! LOL! Good luck!
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It's really sad how people change so much once they are in a relationship. Almost everyone does it. If a guy asked you out he likes you for who you were then not how you will start acting when you go out with him. If you happened to ask him out to begin with he said yes when he could have said no (a line from Hitch :-P). There's no reason for you to worry so much. He liked you and if things don't work out then there's not anything you can do about that anyways. "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?" Matthew 6:27. Once my boyfriend gave me a picture of myself from a year before we went out and said something to the extent of "this is the Lisa I fell in love with and I want her back". I realized that I was acting completely different from who I really was and thanks to him I started acting like myself again and we're still together. What you need to think about is that a friendship is a relationship and that a bf/gf relationship should be almost exactly the same as a "best friends forever" relationship. A boyfriend is exactly what it says it is. A boy that is a friend. Try thinking of a boyfriend just as a really close friend. Sometimes it's really hard, but I know you can do it! About the guy that you lost that you like so much, you should talk to him about what happened. Work up the nerve, go up to him and say something like "hey, can I talk to you for a second?" Tell him that relationships change you and you know that they shouldn't, but you couldn't help it. Tell him that you want him to give you another chance and that you will try really hard to be yourself this time. Let him know how you feel about him and that you would be really heartbroken if he said no. Tell him that you don't need an answer right away if he needs time deciding and that you will wait for him because he is worth it. I know a lot of people that have gone through this so know that you are not alone! I wish you the best of luck and I hope that I was able to help you in some way. <3
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