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this guy on the internet
Ok here goes. There's this guy that I have been chatting with for the last 3yrs. I wasn't with anyone when me started talking . But I had a b/f that I married and he doesn't know that I chat with him. I can tell this guy everything. I was wondering should I tell my husband about him. I have never meet my internet guy and we don't talk about sex or cheating. I need some help. I only chat with him when my husband is at work. My friend know that I'm married and that. But that doesn't bother him. 29/f- 25/m
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How do you think your husband would react if he were told that you've been talking to a man on the internet when hes gone for the past 3 years? The conversation would probably not go well at all. Whether you both did or didn't talk about sex and cheating, its still wrong. Its like hiding something important to you from your husband. And if you think your husband shouldn't care, then put yourself in his shoes. Lets say your husband had been talking to a female on the internet, and kept it from you for 3 years. What would you think of this? You have to be careful with your actions here. It is painful to do that to someone thats suppose to know everything in your life. I think that you need to end this internet guy and start finding something else to do instead of talking to him, cook, clean, watch TV, go out with a friend. It may tear your husband apart, and yes, he can be torn apart, its a 3 year friendship, but since he was never told from the beginning, do you think he'll believe you? He will probably think, "Well, if it was just a friendship, and it was just friendliness, then why wasn't I told sooner?" You need to tell your husband whats been going on, and remember, if he takes it badly, then just hang in there, because he'll only be angry because he has no answers. Try very hard to answer questions for him even if the answer hurts. He'll need answers. Even if you both weren't together while you both were friends, he still should have been told.
-TheTeenGirl
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I think you should tell him, there's no use of hiding it if your only friends and you only talk on the internet. Just don't make a big deal out of it because then your husband might think somethings not right.
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Having someone like that is a very good thing. It's like a very trusted friend. I think that you should tell your husband about it. If he finds out somehow he might get pretty upset because you hid it from him. I think that just as long as you explain everything to him he won't mind. Maybe he'll end up being good friends with this guy too, who knows? It's really your decision what you do, but I believe that complete honesty is part of a healthy relationship. I don't always tell my boyfriend about some things right away, but I always do end up telling him and it makes me feel so much better. I really hate going behind his back. Maybe you should talk to your internet friend about the situation, he may have some good advice for you because he knows you a lot better than I do. Good luck, and I hope that everything works out well for you. :)
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