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Now I have a comment to make and a question. Everyone will tell you how you shouldn't go for the sex and you shouldn't like the cuter guy. Now I know I live out the parts about the cuter guy being nice and all that. Everyone tells you not to do stuff, but in the end you end up not taking their advice at all. You end up doing the opposite. For instance I asked a question about should I like the boy who I've known since kindergarden or the hott one that goes to a diff school. Everyone says that the guy whos hott is a jerk but hes not. My point is it just cracks me up because you all waste your time writing how you shouldn't do things but in the end everyone always does the opposite. So whats with it? It's point less when people say follow your heart well you wouldn't be asking a question if you could!
So whats with all of this?
(I put it under sex cause people always answer the questions on sex)
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You crack me up because you totally just wasted your time posting this. If someone asks for my advice, and then does the opposite, I don't lose sleep at night. It is one of those things, where if I help someone through a problem, then it feels good. If they don't wanna listen, and do the opposite, then thats their own problem. Anyways, a good amount of people don't even really want advice on this site. They want reassurance. They know people will tell them what they want to hear for a five, so they don't really care what people say. If you wanna ask questions and do the opposite of what people say, then go for it. You're just immature and pretty damn stupid for doing so.
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So basically you already knew what you were going to do, but WASTED THE TIME of all who answered you, trying to help may I add (you asked their opinion, they did not go looking for you), and then had the nerve to redirect a question back to those who tried to help you insulting them. What does that say about you? Nothing good. Bad form. Give me a 1. I'll take it like a woman. Which which something you need to work on.
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They tell you to follow your heart because you are the one who has to make that final decision.
As much as we like helping others around here the fact remains that we don't know the person asking the questions Or the guys or friends they ask about.
Basically, we are just throwing suggestions your way in order to maybe help you decide.
Nobody would suggest you date someone for sex because that is the way it should be. There are far more important reasons to date someone.
You need to pick the one you get along best with. The one you will be able to go out and have fun with.
I wouldn't tell someone not to date any guy because he was cute. You date someone regardless of what they look like if you get among and have fun together. Looks don't matter. Some cute guys are very nice. Some think they are Gods gift to women. Its all in how they were raised.
A guy who goes to a different school...unless he lives close by, wouldn't be much fun if he couldn't actually go out with you.
Age makes a big difference there because an older guy can drive, making his location not matter as much.
All in all, we just hope you read the advice and maybe find something among all the answers that makes you go hmmm. Never thought of that!
We try to help people. I'm sure not everyone follows the advice. Makes us feel good though. :)
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..well first off your sayin y r you wastin your time answerin the question..no its why are they wastin the time askin the question if they arent gonna listen..this is a website that people ask questions so people cna answer and people cna listen..so if your gonna ask a question and not listen to what people say..dont ask the question..because people are just trying to be nice and answer the question
yea i no i spelt stuff wrong but i have a brokenn finggerrr`
annd thiss isnt to be rudee
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I definitely know what you mean. "Everyone" probably said that the hot guy was a jerk because you didn't specify otherwise. The only quality you gave him was that he was good looking, so we have to assume. The reason why people don't always take other people's advice is because other people don't know the whole situation. They don't know you personally, how you think, or the people you are talking about well enough to come up with flawless advice. So, the problem really isn't with advicenators being hypocrites or their advice being worthless, the problem is with people asking for advice being much too vague. The more information we are given the better advice we can give :) There's another point I want to make though too. You know that Alanis Morissette song with the line "good advice that you just can't take"? Sometimes people, even though they know what they should do and they're given wonderful advice about it, they can't do it for some reason. The reason is always different. I'm sure you can think of a time when you did something that you shouldn't have and I'm sure you can think of the exact reason why you did it. To someone else, you were wrong, but to you, at the time, you did what you thought was right. You may even still believe that it was right. What I'm trying to say through all of this is that, in the end it is ALWAYS your decision on what you do. We're not telling you what to do and we can't make you do anything. We're just giving advice using the information that we are given. Usually this turns out to be good advice because the information given is the information that seems important in the person's mind that is asking for advice. Sometimes though, it is not good advice, but that is nothing that anyone can help. About your situation, I would hang out with both guys (seperately) and choose the one that made me the happiest. If it doesn't work out there's always the other guy to try. Remember that there is no such thing as a soulmate, or "the one". There are tons of people in the world that you can be happy with. If you can't decide, I would say to go with the guy that is from your school because it would be much more convenient. I hope I was able to help you.
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I know what you mean but you cant base a persons personality on their looks. Not all hott guys are jerks. If you have know this one person since they were in kindergarten then you basicly know their personality if you are friends. I dont know why people do the opposite you just have to give them advice and hope they take but if they dont then they can deal with the consequences.
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Well, if you ask questions, then do the opposite of the advice given, you're still getting advice. You may not be taking the advice that people are telling you, but what they say is helping you decide. If somebody says that you shouldn't date the hot guy because he's a jerk, then you read that and you think "No, he's not a jerk, he's funny(or whatever he is)." and there you go, you've just made your decision.
For those who really know how to use this site, they'll realize that this site isn't for people to tell you what to do, it's for people to offer suggestions and advice, and you make what you will of it. They tell you something, you read it and think about it, and you decide yourself.
That's what's with all of this.
And when people say follow your heart, that might mean that you didn't give enough information and your question depends too much on your circumstances.
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people are juss stating their opinion. you aren't forced to take their opinion & use it. they're basically trying to help you out, not saying you have to do it. there's a lot of people on here that do give good advice, maybe some that don't. you shouldn't really say it's a waste of time, because it isn't. maybe you shouldn't of asked such a question. how can WE tell YOU who to like? that's your own decision, no one elses. it's their choice if they do the opposite.
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