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Kill the crush
Okay, has anyone out there been in a situation where you think you're getting a crush on someone and you really don't want it?
That's kinda the situation I'm in right now. He's my guy friend...I refuse to like him. I have a boyfriend whom I adore to absolutely no end. My guy's perfect for me, and he has plans, and he loves me, and I'm safe with him.
My friend, though, has recently been hinting that he likes me, and he knows I have a boyfriend - so he won't try anything. Some little part of me, though, almost wants him to.
What the heck is wrong with me? I think part of it is because he's a good friend, and we have a lot in common...but I know for a fact that it wouldn't work - I've tried relationships where I had almost everything in common with the guy, and they REALLY didn't work. Especially not with someone as competitive as I am. I'm majorly into music, and those guys were too. (So is my friend I'm talking about here)
How do you kill a crush without making yourself hate the guy? (That's what I've done in the past, and I don't want to hate him 'cause he's a sweetheart...)
GAH.
Help? Lol.
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I'm in the same situation. XD I have a crush on some one, but I really dont want to, but then on the other side I kinda do. Even though I dont have a boyfriend, and he isnt exactly my friend. (of what I know of o_o)
Anyway, crap, I remember that he's your friend. Um, it depends. Who do you like better? Your current boyfriend or that other guy?
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You could tell him that he's a really good friend and you don't want to lose his friendship. But that it wouldn't work out into a relationship.Hopefully he'll relise that it's better to be friends with someone then to lose that firendship over a little thing as a crush.
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Of course. Happens to most people at some point or another. This is all about will power and trying to constantly keep in mind the effect it would have on your boyfriend if anything happened. Focus on the boyfriend if you are truly happy with him.
At least you realise that the grass isn't necessarily greener on this music guy's side- that'll give you more control than you think if you hang onto that thought.
I'd say try not to get into what could be deemed "romantic" situations if you think this guy might make a move or if you don't trust yourself not to get carried away in the heat of the moment (e.g: sitting in a dark cinema together may not be the best idea).
Other than that, business as usual, trying not to think about this crush at all. Try your best not to lose your friend in the process. Sounds like he means a lot to you and good friends are damn hard to come by (even harder to keep).
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If you are happy in your current relationship you shouldn't do anything to mess that up. Knowing how old you are would have helped a lot. Other than finding something about the person to dislike, I certainly haven't found a way to get rid of crushes other than good old fashioned time. It's okay to like other people when you are in a relationship, but if you are committed enough it won't hurt your relationship at all unless your bf finds out about it and is hurt by it. I think what you need to concentrate on is not hurting your bf. You CAN'T like your crush or you could lose the guy you have because he will find out. Make that the thing that's wrong with your crush. Make him seem like something that is getting in the way of your life, your plans, and your happiness. You don't want him to screw everything up for you! This way, you don't have to find anything that is actually wrong with him and you can remain friends because you'll just be taking a different attitude, not reforming your opinion about your crush. I don't know if this will work at all, but it's worth a try if you can't think of something better on your own. Hang in there, and I hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it to.
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Hey Girly
It sucks!but just think about your guy and how much you love him and.. you can just think about one thing you dont like about your guy friend. that way you dont hate him but you arnt falling for him
*~* hope i helped*~*~
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