I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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Do you think it's wrong to only ever look at the bad in people? I always seem to see the good in people. I was trying to explain to my friend that I think people should not just look at the bad in people, but also the good (we were talking about this upcoming presidential election). She thinks i'm stupid for even thinking it, and that you have to see the bad in people. Do you agree with me or do you agree with my friend? Am I wrong to be offended by this? Let me know what you think. I mean if you've ever done something bad in your life do you want everyone to focus on only that? Or do you want them to see the good things you've done too? (link)
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Well, I think that it is a good thing that you should see both sides of a person: the good and the bad because if you just see the good, then when that person does something which you wouldn't have expected them to do, then you're in for a shock and then left confused about how you see that person.
Trust me on this, I've been there and done that and I found that if you just see the bad in others, you get a very balanced view of that person. And especially if it's something as important as presidential elections, because how you view that candidate, affects how you see the other person as well.
When somebody does a little bad thing, people can brush it off because they still know the real you and they know that you're not always like that. But if it is something big like murder or something of that nature, and you don't know that person, naturally, people will hold that against you for the rest of your life and it's difficult for you to change how they see you.
I'm kinda in that situation (but not with the murder thank goodness!!!) where my school friends kinda see me as this crazy person who's uptight and a little sadistic, but in reality, I'm not like that at all. I'm really a fun person to be around, a person who's willing to offer help and just listen to people if they've got a problem and can be quite funny sometimes! So you see? It's important for you to know a person through and through, the good and the bad, otherwise you may find it hard to change your views of that person later on if they do something which you'd never expected them to do.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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your confused about whether or not your going out/they really like you
when your waiting to be in a realationship
they have to choose between you and another person
your hoping its you
im sorry if i dont really make since
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Someday - Mariah Carey
I Wish You Knew - Mariah Carey
We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
I hope these helped,
triquetra
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i need songs about being lead on then let down
preferably very slow and sad (link)
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Love Takes Time - Mariah Carey
Can't Let Go - Mariah Carey
Don't Forget About Us - Mariah Carey
All I've ever wanted - Mariah Carey
Without You - Mariah Carey
My All - Mariah Carey
I Still Believe - Mariah Carey
Whenever You call - Mariah Carey
Endless Love - Mariah Carey
I Wish You Knew - Mariah Carey
Sprung - Mariah Carey (it may be an uptempo song, but it's got good meaning to it)
I Stay in Love - Mariah Carey
Thanx 4 Nothin' - Mariah Carey
For the Record - Mariah Carey
Last Kiss - Mariah Carey
They may all be by Mariah, but they've all got good meanings to them.
I hope they help,
triquetra
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Are there any websites that show celebrities that are Christian? I know there are a lot of Christian celebrities that we're not aware of, but I was wondering if there was just a website that listed them.
I'm not talking about strictly Christian stars either (like actors or actresses that ONLY star in Christian films and such) or strictly Christian pop-stars (like artists that ONLY do Christian music). I am looking for a list with people like Miley Cyrus, the Jonas Brothers, Britney Spears, and whoever else is celebrity and Christian. Basically, my goal is to find the popular celebrities that are Christian. Any denomination is fine as long as the celebrity is actually Christian.
Multiple websites would be helpful too if there isn't a website that actually lists all of the Christian celebrities. I am simply doing a project where I will be listing famous people who are Christian to inspire other people to become interested in God.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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http://www.adherents.com/largecom/fam_christian.html
And one other person who isn't on that list (and should be) is Mariah Carey
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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What does it mean to be a Christian exactly? I have always considered myself to be a Christian and now I wonder what being a Christian means really.
My best friend and I were talking and she seems to believe that being Christian means you have to go to church every day it's open but I don't believe that. I think my best friend has good ideas about Christianity in that we, as Christians, should be tending to (helping) others, Christian or not, but I am unsure about the need to go to church.
I know lots of celebrities are Christian, like the Jonas Brothers (all three that I'm aware of--Nick Jonas, Joe Jonas, and Kevin Jonas), Miley Cyrus (Hannah Montana), Alicia Keys, and Tom Hanks. I don't think they go to church every time the doors are open, but I know they do believe in Christianity and God.
To me, all of the Christian churches I've gone to have almost been like social gatherings. Maybe I'm just going to the wrong sorts of churches or maybe I have the wrong idea. Is it wrong for a Christian to NOT go to church? If a Christian does not go to church every, say, Sunday then does it make them any less of a Christian?
What does being Christian mean to you? What defines as person as being Christian? Any information, opinions, and links would be highly appreciated. (link)
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Okay, I may not be a christian, but going to a Christian school, I think I kinda get as to what it means to be a Christian.
First point: no, you don't have to go to church whenever the doors are open. There is no law in or out of the Bible which says that you're got to go to church full stop. And not going every Sunday doesn't mean your any less a Christian than anybody else. You can go whenever you want to go: it's your choice.
People go to church either to learn more about the gospel teachings, get communion, get guidance or just be part of the community there and see what's going on within the church. I guess, you can call going to church as a 'social gathering' because you come together under one roof to celebrate the Eucharist, the gospel etc. and then afterwards, you can 'catch up' with the people whom you know afterwards and see how they are.
Being a Christian to my peers is, you know, turning to God for guidance and support, telling him all of they're troubles, praying that he will help them get through those troubles etc. and just taking something away from the school services like what different Christian charity groups do in the world, what different christians do with they're lives etc.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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so my sister has been having trouble with the family... ALOT. i admit she is a pain in the ass and a demon at times but regardless she's my sister and i really feel that i ought to help her :S....
well she doesn't deny she loves the fam but what worries me is her pessimistic attitude towards them and towards life because of them... she believes everyone is evil and bad and she believes that there is no good at all and she must keep a wall to herself and fend for herself and put a barrier so she doesn't get hurt... my family is so borderline and dysfunctional so i understand why she's feeling the way she does... it's just that i don't want her being this pessimistic and impulsive and defensive about everything... i tried talking but she starts attacking me (and that is really really really hurtful!) or she blocks it out or she just ignores me... me and her have had a troubled past these past years but we're working on getting through it......what are ways which i could help her out and perhaps change her behavior and outlook... and create a sense of respect towards her elders? she seems to think everything is the right and she is equal to everyone or above them....
thanx (link)
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The problem is, is that it is very difficult to change somebody's outlook on life, especially if they're that worked up as something as important as life.
Obviously, your sister went through something very big which made her look at life in this way. Now, I don't know if you know what that is, but evidently, it involved something which struck a nerve with her and made her think this way. I can think of a few things, but bare in mind that they're just guesses since I don't know what your family is really like. Could it be something to do with the relationship between the parents and your sister? Did they have some big fight a while back which she could be reeling from? Or could it be the fact that because of the family situation, she believes that cutting herself off and acting the way she is makes her the stronger member of the family? I don't know, you know your sister better than I do.
Let's be even more specific here: when did she start acting like this? No child doesn't act the way that your sister is without a very good reason so there must've been some point in time as to where she began to act the way that she is. Ask her friends at school whether they remember as to when she changed... or if she has changed with them for that matter because then it could just be isolated as a problem with the family and not the world and life in general.
You say that you and her and trying to get through your issues? Then why is she blocking you out or ignoring you when you try and talk to her? I'm not saying that what you're doing is amounting to nothing, but if you were getting somewhere, she'd be at least be listening to you and not continue on fighting with you. Your sister may have got some issues with you which you may not be aware of and if that is the case and she's still holds against you, then you need to figure out what it is and work through that one first otherwise you'll get nowhere with her and you won't be able to sort out the problem which she has. Simple as that.
I'm not trying to be hurtful, far from it. I'm just trying to get you to see as to what could be going through her mind.
Cliff notes version:
1) Find out as to whether she's got any issues with you and see if that is why she blocks out/ignores you and work your way through that.
2) Find out as to when she began to behave the way she is. If you can't, then ask her friends if they know when she began to act like this.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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how do i stay FIT?
im pretty skinny
but i want to know how to stay fit and not gain any weight or lose.
so how do i do that. (link)
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I follow this pretty simple diet which helps me keep me fit and to be quite frank, there is no gain or loss in weight with this little diet.
What is it? The Special K diet. Just one big bowl of any flavour (personally, I go for the red berries) in the morning keeps me quite full until lunch and dinner... or if it's a really big bowl, then all the way to supper. But seriously, no weight gained or lost.
But be sure that you do excersise like once a day (even if it's just taking a walk) to ensure that the balance is correct and you're not just depending on the cereal.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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in order that we may find out for ourselves what we know in the way of imparted knowledge from the Prophets of Go (link)
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http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=%22in+order+that+we+may+find+out+for+ourselves+what+we+know+in+the+way+of+imparted+knowledge+from+the+Prophets+of+Go%22&btnG=Search&meta=
Since I don't know exactly as to where that comes from, here is a google search which I did which came up with these links.
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Okay, i need to sing in a b3-d5
i have no idea what these sound like. is there anyway you can give me a video for each? (link)
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http://video.google.co.uk/videosearch?q=singing+in+b3&hl=en&emb=0&aq=f#q=singing%20in%20b3%20note&hl=en&emb=0
http://video.google.co.uk/videosearch?q=singing+in+b3&hl=en&emb=0&aq=f#q=singing%20in%20d5%20note&hl=en&emb=0
I found these, but not sure if they're what you want. They're sung in the forms of songs, not individual notes. Read the information beneath the video screen to know what to listen for.
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well.. i'm taking business ownership, and our first assignment was to choose a business... my information is completed.. but the only thing missing is the slogan... i'm planning to run a restaurant, and call it "Little Bear" it's not a small or big restaurant.. it's a regular size. and it's a "Proprietorship" and etc. "Little Bear" is going to have chinese food in it, like.. fried rice, salads, and everything else.. even hamburgers! I'm supposed to type it up.. i'm not very sure if that's the only information i type up.. i'm supposed to pretend that it's "real" and give the form to my teacher to see if he'd accept it or not. But, the main problem is.. is the slogan.
please help me! i'm not good at slogans.. i've been sitting here since forever and i still can't think of one. any ideas? (link)
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"Little Bear give plenty Care!" (add a chinese accent, it sounds pretty good... well, from my point of view)
"Little Bear: best food prices anywhere!"
or
"Little Bear: best quality food anywhere!"
That's all I can think of!!
triquetra
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In my group of friends, there is a boy who I have always thought liked me a little bit. Well, of course I was flattered, but I just kinda brushed it off because I wasn't really interested in him and I didn't really feel like dating anyone at the time, especially him because it would just be too akward. I mean, I never really flat out told him I didn't like him, because I didn't want to hurt his feelings, but I just politely didn't respond to his attempts to flirt with me.
Now, also in our little social group, there is another boy who in the last couple of months, durring the summer, I have become extremely close to. We have become great friends with eachother, we understand eachother, and naturally, I have begun to have a little crush on him. Well, me and him are like, reeeally flirtatious with each other. I mean, we hug eachother all the time, we snuggle durring movies, we play with eachothers hair, touch eachothers faces, ect. People probably think were dating now that I think about it. But we are not, and we have never kissed or anything. But of course, I like spending time and flirting with him.
Well, my problem is, everytime my crew is hanging out together, Im flirting away with my crush, and then I look over to the other guy, and he just looks totally defeated. I mean, I know how it is- Its horrible to see the person you like flirting with somone else! I just feel horible when I see him watching us. So, what should I do? Should I tone down the flirting with my crush when the other guy is around? I dont want to, but I like the other guy just as a friend and I dont want to hurt him. But if I tone down the flirting, I may never get with the guy I like, and quite frankly, I like flirting with him because I really like him! What should I do??? (link)
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Who matters more to you: your friend whom likes you or your crush?
I ask this because it seems to me that you don't know as to whom is your first priority. It is either the boy whom you didn't respond to when he was flirting with you, or your crush whom you don't want to loose.
From my point of view, I think you should turn down the flirting because you said so yourself that you know how much it hurts to see somebody whom you like flirting with somebody else, so either flirt with your crush whenever your friend isn't around or just take it down a gear or two and do it discreetly. I don't think you'll loose your boyfriend because you're not flirting with him as often, because you're not loosing interest, your just considering your friend's feelings which is completely understandable.
However, if he does ask as to why you don't flirt with him as often, don't lie (not saying that you will), just tell him that you don't want to hurt your friend's feelings... or just let your crush know from the beginning as to what your intentions are and he should understand.
And even though this wasn't part of your question, I think you need to consider as to whether you want this relationship to become more than just flirting. Whilst flirting is a good way to show that you like somebody, dating just takes it a step further and lets everybody know that you're actually dating and you're serious about the relationship.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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me and my dad are extremely close and last friday he went to afghanistan for a year. so basically every day from that day on ive been crying. (nobody sees me because i go in the bathroom--except the day he left when i couldnt control it any longer in class).
it really sucks that hes gone because i miss him soooo much. im not gonna see him for 6 months and when he calls he can only talk for like 15 minutes and most of the time when he calls ill still be in school so he talks to my sister and my mom. basically what im asking is how do i stop myself from crying everyday? and how can i stop missing him just a little bit? and how can i stop everything from reminding me of him? please answer all or as many of these questions as you can. thanks in advance. (link)
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My dad went to Afghanistan as well. Is your dad in the army? Mine wasn't, he was working for some organization to help bring the country back on its feet... like that was going to happen over night!!!
Anyway, he was gone for a year as well and you know what? It wasn't easy for him either, being away from his family and not seeing his kids would be even harder. Even though he had Skype so he could call us and everything, he still missed us as well and even though he came home every now and then, it wasn't the same. For him, his longest stay was for 5 - 6 months as well and that was hard on me because I was doing my GCSE's, a time when I needed his support and with only mum there, we all found it hard and we had to work our butts off without him being around. I also felt like he was missing parts of my life which he won't get to see or be part of and that was the toughest part of it all: knowing that he wasn't there. Every time I heard a bomb had gone off in Kabul, I would spend the rest of the day in worry about him, even though I knew that he was safe.
So what I'm saying is that it will be even harder for him because he's got such a limited amount of time to talk to you and you being at school makes it even worse. You may not know it, but the rest of your family could be having a tough time as well. Talk to your mum about it, because she's going to be having a tough time as well.
It's natural to miss him, in fact I think it is great that you miss him because it shows me how much you love him and care for him. Take comfort in the fact that he loves you and thinks about you, but 10 times greater and more often.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well just like everyone else I like having music to listen to about what's going on in my lifee. But I can't really find anything good lately. Can anyone list me a few songs? I like the alternative, acoustic music. Songs about heartbreak and relationships and all the good stuff please? :) (link)
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We Belong Together - Mariah Carey
Don't Forget About Us - Mariah Carey
Shake It Off - Mariah Carey
Bye Bye - Mariah Carey
Without You - Mariah Carey
Make It Happen - Mariah Carey
Hero - Mariah Carey
It's Like That - Mariah Carey
Through The Rain - Mariah Carey
Sorry that they're all by one artist, but I'm a fan and they're the best which I can relate to in life situations of any kind.
triquetra
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i ALWAYS set stuff down and forget that i did, so i leave and then an hour or so later, when i realize its missing, i cant remember the last time i had it!!! (aka cell phone, schoolbooks, etc).
how can i stop doing this?! (link)
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I get this like all the time and there is no easy way to stop it. Sometimes, I would just literally forget that I'd been in that particular room and that is just not fun. So what I do is that I ensure that I look in all the 'usual places' where ever it may be and see if it is there, then if it's not, then I would just try and remember what I did before I put the article down.
For example, let's say I was watching TV and the phone rang downstairs, I would go and answer, leave the remote downstairs and come back to the living room to find it missing, then I would try and remember where I last had it and in this case, it would be downstairs.
So just try and re-trace your steps and try and remember even the little details because they could be important.
Not always full proof, but at least it's worth a shot.
Sorry if it isn't what you were expecting,
triquetra
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I'm 17 years old and was adopted a little over 10 years ago by people I love very much. I can't help but wonder, though, about my real family. I have so many questions I want to ask them and I just want to know who they are. I'm not necessarily looking for a relationship - I don't think I could ever even consider calling them mom or dad, but I just have so many thoughts going on.
I'm afraid of hurting my parents - my adopted parents, that is. I don't want to tell them that I want to search for my birth parents because I don't want to upset them. I'm happy that they adopted me and even though we don't always get along, I know I have a better life here than I would have.
Would I be hurting my parents too much if I tell them I want to search for my birth parents? Should I just give up and try to forget about it?
I don't know what I'd say if I found my biological parents, I just feel like it's something I need to do, but I don't want to hurt my mom or dad.
HELP?! (link)
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You've got every right to search for your birth parents, and I think that you should involve your adoptive parents as well. You wouldn't necessarily be hurting them because you're just trying to find out where you came from and who you really are. And even though they were great parents, you'd still like to know who gave you up.
But you've also got to consider the fact as to whether your real parents want to be found. I'm not saying this in a harsh and hurtful way, but you need to keep in mind that your real parents may never want you to find them. I don't know, you'll need to ask your adoptive parents.
It won't be easy to talk to them should you find them (and I hope to God that you do), because naturally, you'd want to ask them so many questions as to why they gave you up. Telling them that you're their daughter/son will never be a piece of cake because you'll never know how they'll react. But telling them gently that you're the son/daughter which they gave up I think would be the best thing.
Never ever give up on a question which is as important as this, especially for you, otherwise you may end up spending the rest of your life wondering the real reason behind the adoption, and never knowing the answer is something which nobody should go through.
Who knows? Your adoptive parents may be pleased that you want to find your birth parents, but if they aren't and they ask why, the simple answer is is that you want to know who they were. Remember, you've got every right to find out who your birth parents were.
I wish you the very best of luck in your search and I hope that you'll find your parents one day and may it be a joyous reunion.
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A local theater is doing the play Charlotte's Web and I have a chance to be a part of it. Problem is we open in about 2 weeks and I need ugly, old dresses for my character. Think old lady dresses. Nothing fancy, just UGLY. Another road bump is that I am plus size, so they have to be able to fit me. We looked at a local goodwill and they had three dresses that we could work with but I want more cheap and inexspensive options. Anyone know where I could possibly find something? (link)
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Ask your mum whether she's got any dresses which either belonged to her mother or belonged to her which she doesn't wear any longer and she'll let you wear for the play.
To be quite fair and honest, I don't think you'll get anything cheaper than something which came out of a charity shop unless you borrow one or somebody makes one (you know, out of old curtains etc.)
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i have a pretty good body, i would say im "normal". but one thing ive always struggled with is my hips. i can feel my hip bones in the front, and then if i move my hands a little bit back, its quite "fat" and its only in a little section on both sides. so if those are love handles, or whatever i would appriciate it if someone could help me get rid of them. i try but they seem to not go down, or if they go down its pretty much hard to tell. someone please help. im quite worried about them, and the homecoming dance is coming up at my school in 2 weeks. i would like them to go down before that. thank you so much! (link)
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One thing which I found helpful (and this is the the truth) was the Special K diet which you can do for over two weeks.
I find that just one big bowl in the morning is quite enough whilst having lunch and dinner at the usual times, just be sure to do plenty of excersise afterwards though.
And to this very day, I've managed to keep my body slim and 'in shape' by my standards.
So, cliff notes version: Special K diet (any flavour. Personally, I go for the red berries type) with plenty of excersise.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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if any of you have it, do u noe how to clear ur chat history?
thanks (link)
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Tools - Options - Chats & SMS - 'Show Advanced options' - 'Clear Chat History'
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I am a full time student through a community college but since I registered late, it's independent work I do at home. So I'm at home like all the time, my boyfriend works full time (we live together). I can't find a job. My friends and his are all away at school so at night are seriously bored to tears and get very very irritated with each other and frustrated that there's nothing to do. I seriously get so upset that we are such losers...we're only 20 and we live like 70 year olds! The days are just so long and monotonous because I'm stuck at home doing school work (and because I can't drive) and the nights are depressing and boring and awful. The spark is like gone from our relationship, seriously, because we are so pathetic and bored and there's nothing to do together at night. What can I do? I seriously can't go on like this, it's awful... (link)
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You're letting your school work rule your life. Don't forget that sometimes you need to have fun just to ease off the work load and just relax for a while.
As for your boyfriend, suggest that you go out somewhere together as a couple like the films or go and have dinner in a restaurant. Or call up your friends and ask if you want to hang out together.
And sign up to have driving lessons so you can go out and have fun without needing to depend on your friends to drive you around.
Find something to do: go out shopping, go to a fun fair, go and see places even if you've seen them infinite times. And during the evenings, watch a film which you both like together.
You complain, yet you don't try and fix it.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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okay so I just started my freshman year and I like this guy and I mean I really like him. but I don't even know him and I never spoke to him. it's like when he's near me,my heart begins to beat fast. and even when I think of him,I blush .ain't that stupid?lols. when I see him,I blush and squel. but I don't know him but I have those feelings like I have butterflies in my stomach when I see him. and I'm too shy to even talk to him . and he has a girlfriend. I don't know what to do. what should do? is this feelings weird? or normal? (link)
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I felt the same why when I found my first love. It's completely normal for this happen.
The best you can do is just talk to him, you may be shy at first but as you get to know him better, you'll find that speaking to him becomes easier. Introduce yourself to him first before asking about himself and tell him about yourself when he asks you. Or ask your friends about who is, what he's like etc. Do this in your own time, nobody is rushing you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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