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dad is in afghanistan
me and my dad are extremely close and last friday he went to afghanistan for a year. so basically every day from that day on ive been crying. (nobody sees me because i go in the bathroom--except the day he left when i couldnt control it any longer in class).
it really sucks that hes gone because i miss him soooo much. im not gonna see him for 6 months and when he calls he can only talk for like 15 minutes and most of the time when he calls ill still be in school so he talks to my sister and my mom. basically what im asking is how do i stop myself from crying everyday? and how can i stop missing him just a little bit? and how can i stop everything from reminding me of him? please answer all or as many of these questions as you can. thanks in advance.
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My dad went to Afghanistan as well. Is your dad in the army? Mine wasn't, he was working for some organization to help bring the country back on its feet... like that was going to happen over night!!!
Anyway, he was gone for a year as well and you know what? It wasn't easy for him either, being away from his family and not seeing his kids would be even harder. Even though he had Skype so he could call us and everything, he still missed us as well and even though he came home every now and then, it wasn't the same. For him, his longest stay was for 5 - 6 months as well and that was hard on me because I was doing my GCSE's, a time when I needed his support and with only mum there, we all found it hard and we had to work our butts off without him being around. I also felt like he was missing parts of my life which he won't get to see or be part of and that was the toughest part of it all: knowing that he wasn't there. Every time I heard a bomb had gone off in Kabul, I would spend the rest of the day in worry about him, even though I knew that he was safe.
So what I'm saying is that it will be even harder for him because he's got such a limited amount of time to talk to you and you being at school makes it even worse. You may not know it, but the rest of your family could be having a tough time as well. Talk to your mum about it, because she's going to be having a tough time as well.
It's natural to miss him, in fact I think it is great that you miss him because it shows me how much you love him and care for him. Take comfort in the fact that he loves you and thinks about you, but 10 times greater and more often.
I hope this helped,
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Aww I'm sooo sorry your going through this. Unless people have went through this, they will never really understand what you are going through. I just got my Husband back March of this year. He was deployed to Iraq for 7 months. Most definately the longest 7 months of my life. I fell into a deep depression and wouldn't leave my house other than to go to work. After the first 2 months thou, I began to find ways to deal with it as best as I could. I sent him tons of care packages! Believe it or not, It's great therapy! Also, make a countdown timer to when he comes home, every day that passes, puts you 1 step closer to your dad. You can go to: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
It's the USPS website where you can order priority flat rate boxes for free and have them delivered straight to your door for free and you can start concentrating on things to put in a care package for your dad. He'll LOVE everything you can send him and you can make him things to make him think of home! Send him tons of new pictures he's never seen and keep him updated as possible about your school, friends, any activities your into. My husband told me when he got home from Iraq that the thing that got him through it was ME. That I always kept him involved in everything that was going on in my life so he never felt like even thou he was worlds away, that he was left out of my life. Also, you can send him leters via MOTO MAIL. I absolutely LOVED Moto Mail. You write him a letter online and the "Militay post Office" recieves it, prints it out and hand delivers it straight to your dad. It is 100% FREE. Here is the website: www.motomail.us
I hope all this had helped you in some small way and if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to email me at dkphotography0403@yahoo.com I'm always here to listen. I promise....It will get better.
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Hey There
I know its going to be hard for you over the next 6 months
there is a device called a videophone where you and your dad can talk to each other face to face
and you can tell him exactly how you feel
tell him how proud you are of him
when ur at school if you feel sad talk to someone you trust and let out whats inside you
if you hold your emotions in they will keep building up and it can make you ill
crying is good, take as long as you need to let it all out then u will feel better
maybe put away any photos of your dad until you are strong enough to cope with it all
hope this helps
love
summer
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