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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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(Female, 13) I have 2 friend groups who I hang out with, one is funny and the other is popular ish and funny. The one who I used to hang out with way more was the first, but there is a girl in there who takes up all the attention I could be getting and is way better and prettier than me and who has many suitors. She makes me feel like I am her shadow, especially because we both draw and she is more talented and is very recognized for it. I hate myself because if her, and have been cutting since 12. I decided to leave the group for my other, and hang out with them at our only social time,lunch. I sit by them. Ever since, I have felt way better and it is really fun over there. My old group is convinced they use people and are mean, and blackmails me into coming back. My old friend who made me hate myself acrually seems a tiny bit sadder that I am gone. I texted 2 members of my old group about it and made it worse, so in the end I just apoligized for existing and left. I dont know who to hang out with. Old group or new?
You're 13, Peer pressure is everywhere at this age.
Just because someone can draw better does not mean she is better. Teenagers are stereotypical and loaded with drama. Apologizing for your existence? Why? This is the problem sweetie, It is not you, It never was you. If they can't except you as a person then fuck them. Popularity and talent is not what society is about, It's about being yourself and learning to be happy with who you are. Find new friends, Find friends who appreciate you for you. Nobody needs to be friends with assholes and don't ever let someone tell you no different. Ignore them and be yourself always.
hi im 16 nad ive been masturbating for about idk 1 month now and im a few days late for my perion so my question is do maturbating make you pregnant?????
No
The only way to become pregnant is if a penis or sperm comes into contact with the vaginal area.
The boy friend wanted to take a break from the relationship of 5 months he had certain issues in his head about us
To much to fast and feels smoothered we need to take a break
But 2ninutes before he said thst he sent me a text from the site where we first met and sent me a fluirt thinking it was funny
We saw each other tonight with his son
When I told him I him I missed him he paused and then said why we text everyday
I responded I miss you anyways it's one thing to text everyday but its different from when you don't see them
I want to know if taking break also means breaking up
Generally a break is the last straw before ending it. Unfortunately, In many cases a break does end up being a break up.
Break generally means you are temporary not a couple, So yes in another form you are temporary broken up.
19/f
I've been having sex more often and I thought the best thing to do was to get on birth control to be safe.
I just feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it. They've both asked me because I've been with my boyfriend for two years.
I was online scheduling an appointment to see my doctor and my mom was telling me what to fill in. Birth control was on there and she was like, "There's not need for that, you're not having sex right?" I knew that would've been the easiest way to say it but I said no. Then she proceeded on about how I was a good girl and stuff.
So I don't want to tell her because I don't want her to see me as a "bad girl" now.
Anyways, I know I can see my doctor by myself but I'm afraid it'll show up on the insurance. We have Kaiser and I can see my families medical records when I log on so I'm afraid that if I go, they'll see mine too. Is that the case? What should I do?
You are legally an adult, By law your parents are no longer entitled to know your business without your permission.
If you want to get birth control on your own, You are of age to do so. Do your parents need to know? No. You are now an adult, They will only know if you told them.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month and we were supposed to hang out today but we didn't. So, he hung out with some other friends.
Well, I got a text from him saying something like "You make me depressed all the time and I need to break up with you". But about an hour later, he texted "I didn't send that"... His friends have texted on his phone before, but now I just don't know if I'm talking to him or his friends. I'm going to talk to him about this later, so any advice on what to say?
Explain to him that you don't like the idea of him sharing his phone with friends because you keep getting nasty text messages and it confuses you with who you are talking too.
You can't tell him what too do, but express that it is bothersome and you find it inconsiderate of his friend to do something like that.
Hi,there this is not a question,i am just want to say thanks for your advice...its really helpful...
You are more then welcome, Thank you for posting
So sats are tomorrow. Im a senior so tomorrow is a really important day for me. Im pretty much stressing out so much already. The thing is that a week ago my boyfriend and i have gotten into a huge fight. And i brought up the topic of if we should break up. So were st that stage where we arent broken up but doesnt feel like were together. I previously mentioned he sai i changed him like changed his smoking habit his cussing habit and his rebelling habit and mch more andthat now he wants to be himself. I do want him to be himself and i absolutely enforce my no smoking though and he understands this. But lately weve been not talking at all like just barely. Its so scary cause i should wory about sts right now but i also worry abput my relationhip. I asked him to meet with me the day after sats for us to talk about well our relationship and i think that how im fiving his so muh alone time andthat we barwly talk will result in us breaking up so im so damn scared. I thought that by givig him alone time hed have time to understna d himself and his feelings but i dont know because it migjt be doing the opposite and he might just think that oh we barley talk anyways and it doesnt even feel like a relationship so we should migjt as well break up because i have no more feelings for her anyways i cant evencontonie a conversation with her. Lately i dont know if he even cares abor my feeling sbecause hes been so blunt to the poit that i get hurt. I dont know maybe wa just mad at me for changing him or something like bad mood or mad idk. But i dont know what to do about how to just focus on my sats and not think about my bad relationship. And at the same time i want to have advice about what you think is going on in his mind. Please post the response about what to do with my relationship and what hes thinking tomorrow beccause education is way too imporant to me. But ratherpost the advixe on how to lower my stress level and how to calm myself sown and not worry abput my relationship and sats both at the same time. I really just need to worry about sats for now. Please.
I believe you are the same person who asked a similar question here before?
At this point your relationship is over. It hasn't been said but there is no effort to want to improve this relationship on his part. Sometimes people are just not mature enough to actually tell the person how they really feel. You stated that he wanted to be himself which indicates he wants to be himself without being in a relationship. You cannot make a relationship work if only one person tries. I am sorry again, but you need to let it go and move on. We all told you this once before but by staying in contact isn't going to help you in the long run. He does not want to be in a relationship, This is what it all comes down too.
I'm 12. My boyfriend is 16. He was my first time. Is that a form of stuatory rape? Could legal action be taken? My principal asked me if I've had my first time because I got in trouble. Could they get him in trouble? I don't want to get him in trouble.. :( HELP!!
Yes
At age 12, This is considered highly inappropriate for a 16 year old boy to be having any sort of relationship with a 12 year old. Yes, He can be charged with statutory rape, corruption of a minor and even possibly charged to register as a sexual offender. Whether you agreed to have sex with him or not in the eyes of the law you ARE a minor. You are not legally able to consent to sexual intercourse which almost all states require the age of 16. You should not be involved with someone who is much older then you. I know you don't want to hear this but he DID take advantage of you. A normal function 16 year old would not be having sex with someone who is 12 years old. It is wrong and you need to stop seeing him or not only could he get in trouble but you could also get in trouble for encouraging it. Stop
This is my 16 year old sisters problem, and I need to give her some advice. All advice appreciated!
A week or so ago, my sister ended her 2 year relationship with her first boyfriend. They were both very sad about the breakup, but it was a case of "love him" not "in love with him" any way, ever since he has been texting her a lot, more than friends would. She doesn't want to get back together with him, but that's what he is suggesting. He's acting like they are still together, but they are just friends now.
Any advice??
Sometimes when we break it up with people, We need to cut complete contact with them in order to move on. It is hard, but this is apart of relationships. If he remains in somewhat of contact, He will not move on easily from it. Unfortunately, She is only 16 and she is still learning what a relationship is about. There will be many more relationships and each and everyone becomes a learning experience. At this point, She needs to be stern and tell him not to contact her anymore. If she has a facebook then she should probably consider blocking him, Do not answer his text messages, emails, calls. However, I really do think she should tell him to stop. Be straight to the point.
As far as getting over the breakup, It really helps when someone spends time with friends/family. It will help her to get her mind of it and move on. Try to get her out where she can meet new people etc.
I go to a really shitty community college. I don't want to sound like I'm being victimized, but I first want to bring out the fact that I am gay. Once during class my teacher pulled up a website that said I hate fags on it. I'm blatantly gay, and I'm trying to ignore it because there's not much I can do. I feel like he shouldn't be acting so unprofessionally. He doesn't teach in class and I'm wondering how he is going to get grades down if he asked the class if anyone wanted a midterm and no one raised their hand except me. Now we're not having a midterm and he keeps continuing to harrass me about it. Today he said, " So the class decision on midterms is still 30 to 1?" When I raised my hand for the midterm vote, he was really smart about it and said, "So you want a midterm? Okay we'll have one right now." I said no, I obviously would have failed it. He doesn't give us a syllabus, so I don't know what the schedule is. Who am I suppose to talk to about this? What can I do?
You may want to consult the Department of Education or perhaps contact the president of the college and explain your situation. You are being discriminated based on your sexual orientation. You must speak with someone who is above. You may want to visit the College website and see if you can find some more information and if not, Contact the information office.
I bought this shirt that is madeout of 100% rayon and these pants that are made out of spandex and polyesterwill my shirt and my pants shrink if I put them in the dryer or do I need to put them on the clothes line ?
Anything that has a spandex texture I wouldn't dry, Better to hang dry. Stretchy fabrics tend to shrink and never dry 100% cotton all the way!
So my boyfriend has lost interested in me and i dont know what to do. Like he says our conversations are so repetitive and seems like our relationship hasnt been progressing but rather getting worse... And i dont know how to like revive his interest in me. Sometimes i try a lot to be all happy and talkative but he texts me back with short answers leading me to keep on asking random questions to keep the converaation going. What do i do to regain his interest in me?! D: help! We're on the verge of breaking up right now too partly because of this reason. I know some might tell me that its best to break up since he should be the one giving effort if he cares but idk i just want to stay with him so please give me advixe mostly about how to keep him rather than tell me to leave him.
If someone isn't happy in a relationship, There isn't really much you can do to make them happy. Sometimes it isn't really you in general but rather them just not feeling it anymore. It could be other factors as he may like someone else.
Unfortunately, Acting happy isn't going to make him want to be in a relationship. It's this simple sweetie, He fell out with you. If you keep texting him, He may end up getting annoyed and may cut complete contact.
Sorry..
Me n my husband had sex I took his sperm in my mouth will I be pregnant
No
You cannot become pregnant by swallowing sperm. In order to become pregnant a penis and sperm must come in contact with the vaginal area.
I ran out of foil today and im getting sicker and sicker by the minut..I have no other way 2 smoke it and I REALLY don't wanna snort it b/c I get terrible nose bleeds from when I use to always snort my drugs. Also needles are NOT an option. Plus please don't say "just buy a pipe" or "just make a light bulb pipe" I cant do either of those so this is like my last option. So if I just got the can into the shape of tin foil would this maybe work??
Hello there
We are not legally authorized to give you advice on how to get or use drugs.
Normally 13 yearold girls such as me love jeans. Exactly skinny jeans, designer jeans, jeans with Hollister's logo all over it.
Thing is, I HATE JEANS. They are so tight and feel so weird to me! I like loose and free clothing, like sweats. But I can't wear that to school! I ugly enough as it is!
i try every size, but i hate wearing them. I feel the same why with tights or leggings.
I used to wear this stuff but now I hate it, why? And what can I wear so I look at least a bit pretty?
Have you tried changing up your style a little bit? It could be that you don't hate jeans but maybe just bored of the style.
I am 28, I like to wear leggings with a jean mini skirt and a sweater with ugg boots. I will sometimes wear tight skinny jeans with a long t shirt with heel boots etc. Do you like skirts? I have a really cute long plaid skirt with a black over sized sweater and BAM do I make that baby work! ;)
Try switching it up sweetie, If not then try going with sweatpants or yoga pants. It's that time of season anyway!
Be well
There is a tutor I worked with for math at my university. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. I definitely developed a crush on her but now way would I pursue it or anything because she is already engaged. I guess I must show signs of liking her because she flat out asked me if I like her. I decided to be honest and say yes, and I said it in like a jokey type way making it clear I know she is engaged and nothing can happen, but despite that she now seems to be avoiding me and is somewhat cold to me. Why? Does she think I have no self control? I am not going to try anything. For fricks sake she is the one that asked me in the first place
She is engaged, Whether or not you had intentions by what you said, It put her in a position where she became uncomfortable.
You implied that you wouldn't interfere but admitting you like her IS interfering with her and her fiance. You admitted it, If you didn't want to get involved then a little white lie may of gone a long way.
She backed off, Why? Maybe she thinks that if she had minimal contact that you would get over this crush. It could also be that she picked up that you liked her and then got a second opinion on it from someone else and she is following the possible advice she was given.
Sometimes it is best to put feelings aside and keep a relationship only what it should be. For her to ask if you liked her, You must of been showing some obvious signs. She may of not of known how to approach the situation so she bluntly came out and asked. All I can say is to apologize the next time you see her for making her feel uncomfortable and to try and put your feelings aside. No more word on how you feel, This is strictly tutoring and that's it.
so when u used clorox bleach on ur hair it worked?
Using Clorox bleach is a very terrible idea.
Household items are not meant for bleaching hair. All house hold cleaning objects contain toxic chemicals that can cause our lungs to clap if we inhale it. Skin to skin contact with bleach can also burn your scalp.
If you are looking to bleach your hair, You want to buy a bleaching kit used for hair only. Many people sometimes seem to get the idea that bleaching means using house hold items.
No, There are bleaching hair kits and there is bleach. These are two COMPLETELY different things.
Go to Walmart, Walgreens, CVS, Rite Aide or even Sally's and buy a hair kit. DO NOT USE HOUSE BLEACH
Hi, I'm a 20 year old female, currently on a journey to lose 50lbs and tone up. I'm eating healthy, about 1.100-1.400 calories a day and working out 3-4 times a week.
I've heard that protein shakes are good for females trying to lose weight & gain some muscle definition but I don't know how true this is.
Is there anyone who has experience with this and can give me some basic information? This is for research purposes. I will of course speak to my doctor before changing anything but I would love to have some information or insight on this.
Thanks very much!
Ah! In all my years on Advicenators this may be most knowledgeable question so "bows" I am greatly honored really.
I have lost 136 over the last 2 1/2 years.
Protein shakes are awesome but there are a few catches. If you are looking to loose weight, It's best to try and stick with lower calorie protein powder. I use Whey or RAW protein (Can be found on Amazon for around $25) I generally use Whey because I find it too be cheaper. (Usually ranges 15-$20) I like the Vanilla Cream which is about 130 calories per scoop and I have about 2 shakes a day so that would be 260 calories total. Shakes are awesome for meal replacements but are mostly beneficial pre or post workout. Shakes alone do not help you tone but you stating you are working out too which is awesome.
When toning up, It's best to stay clear of a treadmill. A treadmill mostly focuses on your legs and buttocks. To tone up, It's best to focus on more cardio exercise like weight lifting or any sort of abdominal exercise. (Zumba, Pilates etc)
Remember that the trick is to burn more then you take in. I like to blend up an apple and banana with cinnamon in my protein shakes. Greek light and fit yogurt is also a good friend of mine ;)
Just don't go and drink a shake and then munch on ice cream, No no. Shakes should be a substitute for meals but remember it is VERY important to eat regular meals too. Drinking shakes isn't going to take the weight off by itself.
Welcome to the bench ;)
This is regarding to my earlier post that my boyfriend said i changed him but its that i made him promise me that he would stop smoking an try not to cuss or rebel against his parents!! You guys all make me sound horrible right now. I really do love him for just like how he was himsel when we just met. I am willing to accept the real him but im so engulfed in guilt that i changedhim. I hope he can give me another chance but idk if he will.
I will change my answer only briefly from my previous answer.
You wanted him to be a better person, That's great.
It is either someone wants to better themselves or they don't. Your boyfriend now resents you for trying to help him and therefore he clearly doesn't want help nor does he want to change.
End it
So my boyfriend and i just got into a fight and he told me that the reason he stopped giving as muh effort in the relationship is because i changed him into someone hes not. I molded him into my perfect boyfriend without any flaws and now he wants to be himself. Since were senior now we have to really find ourselves before we head off into college so yeah. I feel so guilty that ive done this to him and the one time he decides to have a serious conversation with me about it wihtout knowing he wanted a comversaion i triggered his hormonal side. And now were in the biggest fight ever and almost breaking up since i brought up the breaking up part because i got tired of crying because he didnt give enough effort. But i also really want to be with him so much im willing to accept this flawed boyfriend because he said that the only way a couple will last that if they respect each other and their flaws. But do you think hed be willing to give our relationship a try again? Should i break up with him so he can find someone that wouldnt want to change him?? Im in self conflict. We're both seniors.
You have the wrong idea about relationships.
I disagree with Rahzie in which I very rarely ever do.
There is a difference in wanting to change and being manipulated and controlled into making you change.
It is absolutely wrong to try and change someone, A relationship is about loving someone for who they are. No guy/woman is going to want to be in a relationship with someone who is controlling and doesn't like them for who they are as a person. I most certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who puts constant pressure on me to be someone I am not. You don't own him, He is not your object. You aren't respecting him and now he is weighed down and on the brink of cracking.
You need to except people for who they are. The whole idea is to let the person be themselves, Learn to communicate and trust them. Unfortunately there may not be much you can do for the relationship at this point. It will be hard yes, but you should take this as a lesson learned. When someone gets controlled for a period of time, They end up not being happy and don't want to proceed any further. Let him go