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Clingy ex-boyfriend
This is my 16 year old sisters problem, and I need to give her some advice. All advice appreciated!
A week or so ago, my sister ended her 2 year relationship with her first boyfriend. They were both very sad about the breakup, but it was a case of "love him" not "in love with him" any way, ever since he has been texting her a lot, more than friends would. She doesn't want to get back together with him, but that's what he is suggesting. He's acting like they are still together, but they are just friends now.
Any advice?? <3
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I actually had a similar situation when I was in high school.
The thing is, when you go through a break up, it's best to cut contact especially when you both need to move on.
They're not ready to be friends. I mean being friends also comes with being ok with they decide to date someone else. Maybe your sister might be ok with him dating someone else, but he sure won't be ok if she would.
So the best advice would be for them to stop talking. She doesn't have to be mean about it or anything, she just needs to tell him it's over and she needs to move on and so does he. If he starts begging or something, make it clear, then don't reply to him.
If she keeps talking to him, it's probably giving him the wrong idea. Like giving him hope that there still might be a chance. He's not accepting that it's over.
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Sometimes when we break it up with people, We need to cut complete contact with them in order to move on. It is hard, but this is apart of relationships. If he remains in somewhat of contact, He will not move on easily from it. Unfortunately, She is only 16 and she is still learning what a relationship is about. There will be many more relationships and each and everyone becomes a learning experience. At this point, She needs to be stern and tell him not to contact her anymore. If she has a facebook then she should probably consider blocking him, Do not answer his text messages, emails, calls. However, I really do think she should tell him to stop. Be straight to the point.
As far as getting over the breakup, It really helps when someone spends time with friends/family. It will help her to get her mind of it and move on. Try to get her out where she can meet new people etc.
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