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How to stop this from happening again?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month and we were supposed to hang out today but we didn't. So, he hung out with some other friends.
Well, I got a text from him saying something like "You make me depressed all the time and I need to break up with you". But about an hour later, he texted "I didn't send that"... His friends have texted on his phone before, but now I just don't know if I'm talking to him or his friends. I'm going to talk to him about this later, so any advice on what to say?
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Just let him know that it's hurtful and frustrating that it happened. Ask him if he can keep a hold of his phone so that you know that when you text him, you're actually talking to him.
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Obviously, his choice of friends isn't the best. Either they're in a age group thats very young and prone to do dumb things or they are older and never grew up and matured.
You might suggest he put a lock out code on his phone so his friends can't play this prank anymore.
If he is willingly handing his phone out to friends cus they don't have their own, you might ask if you can make a suggestion. If he says okay, suggest that he stand by watching them to make sure they are making valid calls like to check on a bank balance. He could tell them no texting on my phone only the most important phone calls until you can afford your own cell, and stand by and watch them. He could tell them if they abuse the use of his phone by texting you, that he will no longer allow them to use it.
Personally, If I were him, I'd make the ultimatum and if they dont stop, dump them as friends and find new ones. Sometimes dear, the type of people a person hangs out with is an indication of what that persons character is too or used to be. If he outgrew them, time to move on. If he really at core is just as childish as them which you notice unfolding over time, then end the relationship and move on to the next if it bothers you that much. This is part of what dating is about...to find out these weird things about the other, what you like, don't like but can put up with and what you absolutely won't tolerate. If theres too much differences and conflict, you need to move on. All relationships will have some conflict but it should not be 50% of the time or more. Good luck dear, I hope all goes well for you .
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Explain to him that you don't like the idea of him sharing his phone with friends because you keep getting nasty text messages and it confuses you with who you are talking too.
You can't tell him what too do, but express that it is bothersome and you find it inconsiderate of his friend to do something like that.
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