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My college teacher is very rude to me


Question Posted Thursday October 3 2013, 4:32 pm

I go to a really shitty community college. I don't want to sound like I'm being victimized, but I first want to bring out the fact that I am gay. Once during class my teacher pulled up a website that said I hate fags on it. I'm blatantly gay, and I'm trying to ignore it because there's not much I can do. I feel like he shouldn't be acting so unprofessionally. He doesn't teach in class and I'm wondering how he is going to get grades down if he asked the class if anyone wanted a midterm and no one raised their hand except me. Now we're not having a midterm and he keeps continuing to harrass me about it. Today he said, " So the class decision on midterms is still 30 to 1?" When I raised my hand for the midterm vote, he was really smart about it and said, "So you want a midterm? Okay we'll have one right now." I said no, I obviously would have failed it. He doesn't give us a syllabus, so I don't know what the schedule is. Who am I suppose to talk to about this? What can I do?

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adviceman49 answered Friday October 4 2013, 11:35 am:
Your first step is to have a meeting with the department chair. You have two complaints both of which are his unprofessional manner.

1. He has demonstrated to you that he is anti-gay. That in this day and age is not only unprofessional it has to be against school policy if they receive any state of local monetary aid.

For this problem the only corrective action acceptable is his immediate suspension pending dismissal.

2. You have paid good money for this class and receiving nothing close to what is expected in return. To my mind that is theft of service.

Possible corrective actions you could demand.
A. Allowed to withdraw with passing grade.
B. Allowed to withdraw and receive full tuition credit for this class and allowed to take it next semester.
C. Allowed to withdraw and receive a full refund for the tuition paid.

If you do not receive satisfaction with the department chair you then make an appointment with college diversity administrator and the college president. You make the same demands with them.

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Dragonflymagic answered Friday October 4 2013, 12:03 am:
Its not just a matter of discrimination against you...but it sounds like the teacher isn't really teaching the students anything and doing poorly as a teacher aside from the discrimination fact. If you say nothing, then whether you take a test or not, he could easily give you a failing grade whether its true or not. You've paid to take the class so you deserve a good chance to learn on whatever subject he is teaching. You need to bring this to the attention of those in charge over him, the principal, and if that doesnt help, the school board.
The majority of people in todays world are afraid to 'rock the boat' so to speak and lack any backbone to say something and try to set things right. It takes a person like you with some personal strength of character to bring this out into the open. I am sorry to hear how you're being treated. May your angels go with you and bring favor to you as you seek justice.

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jmills43 answered Thursday October 3 2013, 11:49 pm:
I agree with the person who answered above, talk to somebody above your teacher and do it soon. My suggestion would be either the president of the college, the dean of students, or the program chair. I'm sure online you can find something about making a complaint of discrimination....another idea is to go to the main information area of the college (like a front desk) and ask someone there to direct you.

You'll definitely want to make a formal complaint though.

Depending on the state you live in, there may be discrimination laws that protect sexual orientation which community colleges HAVE to enforce, because they're public institutions.

If not, don't worry. I'm sure if you make a formal complaint to someone above him, something will be done. Garunteed you're not the only gay student (or blatant one) at the college, most likely not the only one in the class. Take a stand

Let me know how it goes :) good luck

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Xui answered Thursday October 3 2013, 10:17 pm:
You may want to consult the Department of Education or perhaps contact the president of the college and explain your situation. You are being discriminated based on your sexual orientation. You must speak with someone who is above. You may want to visit the College website and see if you can find some more information and if not, Contact the information office.

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