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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help
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Sorry for taking so long, I've been really busy. I hope I'm not too late answering. If you really want to go out with his sister, try talking to him first to see if it's ok. If he doesn't want you going out with his sister, then don't. Friends always come before relationships. It sounds like you really like her, so I hope things work out for you. That's cute how you're all protective about her, that means you really care about her. Good luck, hope I helped! ♥ Erin
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whats more important to you? Friendship or a relationship? you have to decide beforee you can go forth with anything else. There will be plenty of others out there. But having a bestfriend means sumone who stays true and must be speical to be your bestfriend. Maybe talking to him and asking him how he would feel about it first will trigger your decision, to see what you feel is right.
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aw thats like really cute.
i would just talk to her brother and ask him if its allrite, and even if he says no then i'd go for it cuz he shouldnt decide who his sister dates! =] xo
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well, Just listen to this.
As you are the family freind kind of guy. so spend some time with the both of them, and try including the little sister in your activities. (that will help to make her open up and stop acting as weird. she may still act weird around you but it will slowly subside)
After a while, find a way to ask her out in a kinda secretive yet casual manner.(you know, kinda like, "we just go watch a movie together or something")
[yeah you are feeling protective because you are a litlle jealous.(or something)]
I also recommend that you some how hint to your friend about his sister, kinda compliment her in his face or show that you care for her. He will notice this and ask you if you are checking her out. if he doesn't you bring it up.
If he says he doesn't mind go ahead.
If he minds. go ahead.
If that is too ambitious for you, just stick to complimenting her.
younger girls dig when us big guys do that.
I am not sure if I organized my thoughts quite right there, but if you think it makes sense and you want more stuff on it. just ask.
Cj
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Hey,
I think he would respect you more if you asked for his permission first. I know it sounds kind of queer..but it acctually might make him stop and think that you really care about his oppinion and you respect him..let him know that you really care about his sister and you would never do anything to hurt her..and you just really want to have the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing with her.
Its alright to be protective of her..it is a sign of love..but you cannot go overboard with it...dont make her feel like its wrong for her to hang out with guys.
Well have a talk with the big brother..tell me what happens...
pce :)
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well maybe you should ask her brother first...try and get on his rly good side...i think that would work...Good Luck and I hope I Helped! =)
Samantha Lynn
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your probally jealous when her guy friends are over and thats why your really protective. its your choice if you want to risk your relationship with your guy friend and his little sister because if you ask her out without telling him then he will be pissssssed & if you ask out his little sister and she says no it would be kind-of aquward. but if you like her alot then just talk to your guy friend and be like..i think i really like your sister and dont get mad bc we have been friends for a long time and u should understand so im going to ask her out then write her a note or somthing asking her out and tell her to reply!!
hope thigns work out!
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<u>How old is this girl? Is she close to your age or a little younger?</u> If she is a little younger she may not see you that way. If she is close to the same age the reason all these guys are hanging out is because she is starting to see other guys in the same way that you see her. Your body is maturing and you are starting to look at girls in a different way. She is doing the same thing. You just may not be one of the guys on her list. I can’t tell you how to avoid losing her brother as a good friend. If you pursue this that is probably what is going to happen. A brother’s protectiveness over his sister is inevitable. I can tell you how to pursue this girl if you want but chances are your friend is not going to approve of the relationship. <u>Are you ready to take that chance?</u> Another thing to think about is that if this doesn’t work out between you and this girl you run the risk of losing both friends. <u>Are these risks you are willing to take?</u> I need you to answer these questions if I am going to be able to help you. <u>Also, if you could give me some names it would help.</u> They don’t have to be their real names it is just easier to explain if I know the characters of the story. Let me know, I really want to help with this one.
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First, I need YOU to help ME. Seeing as you went out of your way to pick me to answer your question, you could at least have the common courtesy to compose a respectable question. Despite being only two sentences, this was still a pain to read, especially when you spelled words such as "my" and "and" incorrectly.
Maybe I would be a tad bit more inclined to answer your question with an organized, thought out response, had you come to me with a correctly spelled and grammatically solid question. If you aren't going to put forth enough effort to make your question legible, I don't see why I should put forth the effort to give you solid advice.
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umm well i would suggest thinking something like this through very thuroughly. you would deinetly want to find out how she feels and i have o ask how odl is she, becuase if shes really young like 13-sih then she will probaply be kind of immature when it comes to relationship things, and she might not even be ready for a realtionship. And I think that if you were to ask her out you must be very sure of your feelings. clearly you do like her <3 and i think if you unsure about it and have a bad feeling maybe you should love her from afar, just wait it out, she might develop feelings for you, or you might just feel like now is good time to ask her out and take the chance, and if you do, hats off to ya! your really brave, I dont think i would be able to lol. but it would probaply be best to go with gut instinct and follow your heart, best of luck <3
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well,i think you should put yourself in your best friends place for a moment. How would you feel if 1 of your friends liked youre sister?
Being protective means he loves her, and he'll even protect her against his best friends if he has to. I think it would also put some stress on yours and his relationship, not to mention his sisters.
Do you know how she feels about you? Are you getting any hints that she likes you in any way?
I think for now, because for 1 thing shes probably only 13 or 14, you should probably leave things as they are. My bro is 3 yrs older than me and all his friends just saw me as his lil sis. Until i got to be in like 8th grade, then my bro started to get really protective of me too, and i basically grew up with his friends, and thats all i saw them as. None of his friends i could have seen myself dating so its kind of a touchy situation.
You have time. Wait and see what developes down the road. If things are meant to be with you and her, you will find each other someday!! Just be patient~
Good Luck~
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how old is his little sister? im not sure if it is a good idea to go for her.. if it was my bestfriend liking my little brother it would be weird but maybe you could talk to your friend about it and ask him
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Hey. Aw that's so cute. Well, I think the best way is to talk to her in person alone, like without her brother being around. Just to see if she has mutual feelings towards you! :)
After that, if she does; then talk about starting a gf/bf relationship with her brother not knowing at first and then telling him a little bit into the relationship. That'd probably be best.
Of course he's going to handle it like all big brothers do! But, eventually he'll get used to it, atleast he knows that she'll be dating someone close to him, y'know? I mean I bet he'd rather her date you [his best friend] then some randomer from like her school that he doesn't know! =] Hope I helped.
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well it all depends who you like better . i wold talk to her brother about it before you make a move
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Hey hun!!
That is really sweet! It seems like you like this girl a lot. If I were you, I would just make sure you tell this girls brother that you have liked her for a really long time, and you would really like to go out with her. Make sure you let him know that you won't treat her wrong at all, and you'll be the sweetest guy to her. He's probably just very protective of her, because he doesn't want her to go out with the wrong guy and get her heart broken. He needs to hear from you that you will be the best boyfriend you can be if you go out with his sister. If he sees how much you like this girl and wanna go out with her, I'm sure he won't mind. To make him feel more comfortable, you could also tell him that he's more than welcome to hang out with you and his sister if he ever wants to, to make sure everythings alright between the two of you. I really hope I helped you out hun! If not, I'm so sorry. Leave one in my inbox if you have anymore questions. Luv ya! Good luck with this!!!! Make sure you let me know how this goes okay? I'm sure you'll do fine. If you do end up going out with that girl, please be really sweet to her. Don't break her heart!!!! <3 KiMmY
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i dont think your protective over her cuz u feel like a brother to her i think you feel protective over her in a boyfriend type of way. a similiar sittuation happened to one of my friends but in the sister perspective. she had hooked up with her brother's best friend and he wasn't mad at her about it but they actually stopped being friends. However, that wasn't the only reason why. I think you should talk to your friend about it first, and hopefully hell understand. If he doesn't, then you have to respect that, and you don't want to ruin your friendship with him.
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This has nothing to do with her brother! You have to remember that. If you want to ask her out, go for it. If she doesn't like you like that then do your best to make things normal again. If her brother has something against the two of you being together, then talk to him. I'm sure that if you tell him how you feel about her that he'll change his mind.
**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~
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ok how old is this girl? well anyways i think that you should tell her bro. If he really is your friend he should listen to what you have to say. You should tell him that you like his sister but that you would never do anything to hurt her. you should sort things out with your friend. Then after you know how he feels about this you should think about it. do you really whant to go out with your friends sister? First make sure you know what your doing. Then once you sure you should ask the girl out or do what your going to do. im sorry if i wasnt that helpfull but i tried. Im also sorry if i confused you!
~* OpenSecrets*~
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Ok well...honest opinion..it's not to smart to hook up with your friends family, but you say you love her soo....I think you should tell your friend's little sister that you think she's cute & that you think you liek her....now i dont know if she likes you so don't tell ehr you love her or go into huge details, just say a couple things..and maybe you should write a note to her..sdo it's not akward....like it would be if you told her in person. Based on what she says back...liek if she lieks you too then tell your friend that you don't want any problems with him...so you thought it was only right to tell him that you and his sister liek eachother. Now if he freaks out...ask yourself this question "Is going out with his little sister worth ruining our friendship?" If the answer is yes then go get your girl but if not just move on.... Good luck..if you want let me know how it goes..just drop one in the inbox! ♥ caitie
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Before you do anything, make sure that she likes you back. Talk to her about it when your friend leaves or something, but make it casual so she doesn't start acting weirder around you. If you find out that she likes you back then talk to your friend about it, tell him you really like her and she feels the same way, tell him that you could have asked her out without consulting him, but you don't want to ruin anything between you and him. Also, make him realize that you are ALOT better of a choice then any guy that shes hanging out with now... because he KNOWS you and he KNOWS that you would treat a girl right. If he says no, have his sister talk to him about it.. girls are good at getting things out of their big brothers O:o) and if for some odd reason none of those things work, you have 2 choices.. you could stay loyal to your best friend and give up on her, or you could always sneak behind his back :o) good luck with everything!!!
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you are in a difficult situation but what you need to do is ask your best friend if he would mind if you asked his sister out on a date. i know that this is a free country and you should be able to do whatever you please, but when it's your best friends sister, you need to make sure you won't be freaking out your best friend.If he says yes than go for it, but if he says no try to reason w/him that your a nice guy and you wouln't ever hurt her. good luck!
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Well talk to your friend. Be like "Dude.. what would you do if I dated your sister?!" Jokingly of course, and see his response. You don't want to risk your friendship over a girl. But just remember, it's also a free country! Good luck!
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How old is your best friend's little sister exactly? Brothers tend to be protective, when it comes to guys dating their little sister. You can't help it that she has guy friends over that she's hanging out with. If you really want to risk your friendship with your best friend, ask his sister out and if it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be. Yes, he may get mad but you can always talk to him before hand and find out if he would have a problem if one of his good friends dated his sister. Your question confused me a bit.
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Um it seems that you really like this little girl, you seem like you care for her a lot and you don't want her to get hurt.Maybe you should tell her how you feel about her.The truth is better and maybe she likes you.
hope I helped
xOx
Megz
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I know how much it sucks to hear this, but before doing anything, you need to decide who is more important to you: your friend or his sister because the first thing you have to do is talk to your friend about it. If he's cool at all, he won't stop being your friend or anything, but he probably will say no. From there, you can either just listen to him and try to get over her, or make a move anyway. It'd be smart of you to see if she's interested in you at all, though. Try flirting with her and see her reaction. If she's interested, then you could always ask her to talk to her brother. Of course, if it's cool with both of them, then you're golden. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
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i wouldnt really say that you are in "love" with the girl. but you feel protective because you like her a lot but you feel like shes your sister. to avoid not being friends anymore, you should stay just friends and dont tell her that you like her, it will result badly...
hope i helped!
f- helpingbuddy01
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ok well first off all i think your best friend would rather you go out with his lil sis since he noes and trusts your more then he would trust anyone....then second of all yea ur def. in love with her if you get jelouse when she hangs around with other gys just tlk to your best friend bout it before you do anythin becuz trust me he would rather see you go out with her then some other guys since he trusts you.....
hope it hellped
cooney
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Ask your friend how he would feel if you had feeling for his little sister. See why's the deal with all these guys. Since you've known them all your life, you might just be confused about how your feelings towards them are because the relationship between you guys have grown. If you really that you like his little sister then you should just ask her how she feels. I know you dont want to ruin your relationship with them so think carefully. If things dont work out with you and his sister things are going to change and that just means that you were meant to be like a older brother to her than a boyfriend. She may be sending your mixed messages because she isn't sure for herself. Just follow your heart, but think carefully. Hope this helps! Sorry that its sooo long!
-Manda
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aweee!! okay lol before you ask her out you should talk to her brother and tell him but if he says that you shouldnt then you have to take the risk of losing a friend or going out with his sister if you love her that much then i guess you should go for it no matter what her brother says but im sure if you talk to him since you guys are good friend that he will understand and he wont mind as much as if it were a different guy that he didnt know if you need something drop one in the inbox [♥]
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ok...well here it goes this is a little bit of a different question than i've ever been asked before; but i will do my best! well i think that you being 15 and your own person should be able to go out w/ whoever you want. but, it is your good friends little sister. i would talk to him about your feelings for his little sis first. make sure it is just the two of you, and tell him you have something really important to tell/ask him. and just say it. say something like "well ok we've been friends forever right, and before i've been able to tell you everything without you freaking out. so please just listen and be cool about this. see lately i have been kinda having some other feelings besides "friends little sis" for you little sister. and dude please don't be mad b/c i'm not just hanging with you to see your sister. and you know me well enough to know that if i went out with her, i wouldnt be some scum bag to her, and i really hope none of this will change the friendship between me and you." and just let the ball stay in his field. maybe say this over the phone so you can just leave after this, and not stick around for an ockward silent sort of fight. but yes admit your feelings, and if he's ok with it, then go ahead and ask her out. i have a feeling that even though he's really protective over her, since he knows youreally well, he might be alright with you and her
xoxohelpachick good luck!!
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can you please tell me the ages of you, her bro, and her then ask me again. It would help.
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definately go to your friend first. you probably don't want to, but it'll save a lot of drama. if you don't feel comfortable with telling him, idk i think you should juss because you guys are friends & he'll probably really appreciate it. plus he trusts you so he knows you won't do anything to hurt her soo ask him. it is a different story if she likes you er not, but i think he should be okay with it. i think he would rather have you date his sister than some random guy he knows nothing about. talk to him about it & then you can see if you can ask her er not.
-hope that helped!♥
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First off thanks for droppin it in my inbox, feel free to do so again.
Reminds me of the 6th Harry Potter book, which no offence, if you've read it, you will know what I mean. If you havn't thats ok, but I won't give it away incase you want to find out on your own. Hmm this is a tough situation. Have you talked to the girl, as in do you know if she would consider you a friend or more than a friend? Ask her how she see's you as, whether as a good friend, a brother, more than just a friend, etc, then go from there. Try not to let on that you might be liking her, because it could just be a temporary thing that, when acted upon irrationally, can have permanent consequences. So in other words, I would say you would first need to really sort out your feelings, to find out if it is that you really do love her or if it is just a mere infatuation, spur of the moment thing, or just because she is with other guys.
If it seems to you that you really do love her, then...try not to act too quickly. You've known her all your life, so how do you think she would react to something like that? Would it upset her, or would it make her feel appreciated? That part is up to you to find out, and I think the best way would be to just ask her how she would see you, then you could determine your approach. Again, not wanting to risk breaking your friendship with her and her brother is the smart thing to think of and do. Just because you love her [I know, theres always the 'what if she doesn't love me back' idea in the back of your head], it doesn't necessarily mean that you need to act upon it. What I mean is that it doesn't mean that you need to ask her out. You can let her know that, of course, but still being her friend is perfectly fine. In fact, you can even go from there to build a stronger friendship, whether is the older brother/younger sister type, or more than just friends type - either way I'm sure you'll win her heart over in friendship.
I think you should definatley tell her first, instead of her brother. If you her brother, he might immediatley take it the wrong way, and present it the wrong way to his sister, and have things turn into one huge mess, doing damage to your friendship with them. So tell her first, and present it to her in way where...you aren't asking for anything in return, simply just to let her know, and that you'd want to know what she thinks about it, whether good or bad. If its bad, then ask her to keep it between the two of you. If good, then see what you can do to have things go well between the two of you so that you can both develop a stronger relationship and then tell her brother about it.
Well I hope that helped, and good luck - sounds like a tough one. Let me know how it goes, and feel free to ask me about anything you weren't sure of.
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A noble question indeed.
Personally, I have never been in such a situation. But I will offer the best advice I can.
If this is your best friend, I think he should be able to understand that you care about her, won't want to hurt her, and won't be one of the "typical" guys who gets what he wants and goes. The first step is probably making sure your friend is okay with it. If he approves, than, well, woot.
At that point she's a girl you care a lot about, and your best friend supports you in it.
I suppose you grab the three wood and go for the green at that point. Aren't sports analogies great? Go with whatever seems natural, whatever you think would be the best way to "break" it to her, whether it be asking her to a movie or confronting her with how you feel. I don't know how the actual relationship is between you guys, so I will not suggest a method.
Best of luck.
-Schlichtinator
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omg i am so srry i didnt get back 2 u sooner it is totally my fault! i have not been on here in a very long time! if you would still like help with this plz just inbox me with yes or no! again i am so srry! __TT__
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