about

my name's michaela..my friends call me kay, or kayla pretty much..im 14 years old (yeah i feel really young on here..there are so many older and more expierienced advicenators on here..o wel...live and learn) im not gonna go on about how "i give fantasmic advice!" because..that's an oppinion, and everyone should be able to have their own oppinion, so if you like my advice, thats great! and ill always be here to help you out. If you dont like it, well i'd love to hear from you about what im doing wrong so i can maybe improve a bit?
If you want to know more about me..well, i love to party and go crazy..thats like my life!! hahaha..trying to stay young as long as i can. I am really into art, painting and writing. I guess you could say i am a creative person. I like to listen to music. I like pretty much everything..rap rock r&b..you name it..EXCEPT i DESPISE country..blahhh =(..i have 3 amazing best friends..danni, kate, and izzi. They are all absolutly gorgous and amazingg..and they are always there for me. I couldnt ask for better friends. they tell me im beautiful..but i totally disagree on that one..i want to get a picture up on here..
thats probably not going to happen though..so if you want to check out my myspace..
http://www.myspace.com/xokaylao7
^^ check it outt..
i will answer questions through aim and email if you think its nessasary..
xokaylao2

advice

they say the proof of gods existance is within the bible, but the reason i should believe the bible is because god said it. in other words, i should believe god is real if he said these things. that is like believeing someone who says they are honest, because they told you so. what do you think

Yeah thats totally true.
I find it really hard to believe a book thats been around for thousands of years. Its been rewritten so many times. Its like a game of telephone..when everyone sits in a circle. one person whispers a secret to the person next to them..and they whisper it to the person next to them..and by the time it goes through the whole circle..it sounds totally different..

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my parents are going through a divorce, and i am devastated. how can i get over my stress?

you just need to keep your head up. i cant say ive ever expierienced this..but ive had family problems before and i understand how frustrating it can get. So just take each day as it comes...and try to keep your mind off of it. You cant completely rid yourself of stress. But, talking to someone might help take some of it away. I would probably contact a phsyciatrist. Ive been to one before. Its not awkward at all, it helps to have someone you can confess your feelings to confidentially.

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me and my boyfrend have been going out for 2 months and anytime we kiss i feel an urge to jump ontop of him is that normal

Totally normal,
I get that urge all the time when im making out,
Jump on top of him..trust me he'll love it.

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Okay so theres this really bad rumor going around about me that is not true at all!! And i dont know how it started or who thought of it. Why do people do this if they dont like someone and why waste your time? Any ideas.

Hey,
I think about that all the time. There have been plenty of rumors that have gone around my school about me before. Once they get back to me..it sounds completely rediculous..like somebody i dont even know will approach me and be like "so you had sex with blah blah blah" and i just laugh because its soo pathetic the things people say about other people..just shrug it off..because in about a week or two it will be old news and nobody will give a shit anymore..

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im 14 and me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a month now. i keep askin my mom if i can go to his house but each time she says no. i think she thinks we r gonna have sex and im only 14 im not ready for all of that yet. the most we would do is make out. how can i get her to let me go to his house??? we really want to see each other outside of skool but its kind of had cuz i hate when people come to my house and i like goin to his house and i've been there before but my mom wont let me go now. please help me.

Hey,
She doesn't think your going to have sex, trust me. My mom did the same exact thing to me when i was with this kid nick..
Just tell her that your a responsible girl and you need to be able to make your own descisions or your never going to learn anything..you should make it clear to her that you want her to know that your not in a sexual relationship with him and you wouldn't do anything you wherent comfortable with with anybody.
k pce :)

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Im like addicted to the computer, and i really can't stop. Is there a way to get me off of it? Please help.

Hey!
oohh boy, i suffer the exact same problem..lots of teens do..we just want to instant message..and chat..basically communicate within our own homes..
i dont have a problem with being addicted
but since you do..ill try and help you out a bit.
basically all you need to do is find something else to do..i go outside and hangout with friends and stuff like that alot more now..and i might spend an hour (at most) a day online when i used to spend like 5 hours straight..
try it!
pce :)

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what are those bikini things cheerleaders wear under their skirts? ever since bring it on came out i've called them spankies but what is the real name?

lolly's..
or something gay like that
basically their just booty shorts..
some people call them spanky pants

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my best friend and i are crushing on the same guy she loves him but dosent even like her and i told him i liked him and he might like me if he asks me out i badly want to say yes but at the same time i dont want to loose my best friend. what should i do?

Hey,
I dont think ANY guy is worth losing a friendship over. You will always have your friends..but guys..they'll leave you over anything..
think of which is more important to you..

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Alright my family has a really hard time with fighting. When i was little it would get so bad it would become physical. Just a fiew nights ago it became physical again but thats beside the point. I was wondering if you guys had any tips on how I could keep my temper down towards my parents.. Is there anything I could do to control it?

Hey,
I have a horrible issue with that. I am soo bad to my parents and i realize it too..(fyi..u no incase it makes you feel better that somebody is going through the exact same thing as you)..you just have to leave the room if you get really angry...let yourself calm down..and then try and talk out whatever your problem is. Thats what i do usually...but of course..it doesn't work 100%...
pcee (:

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Alright...weird question..but oh well. My boyfriend always likes to like suck on my nipples...(heh)...and now like a week later I have a weird scab thing and its never happened before..and we've been together to a year..so umm why did this happen now?

Hey,
I figure its probably like a nip hicky or somethingg..u no?
:) pce

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I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex?

Hey,
Personally, i dont think there is an exact age that you should start having sex. Im 14 and im still a virgin..and boyyy i am not complaining..but..i think that people have sex when they feel like they are ready..this time is different for everyone..
i think 13 is way too young to be having sex though..only because people that age are very immature when it comes to relationships and responsibilities..
pce :)

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ok look i shave down there and wen i do like a day after there is red bumps and they hurt a lil like wen i put on my jeans and i do use shaving cream and soap wen i dont have any

Hey,
You can't just rely on shaving cream...and you DEFINITLY cant substitute it with soap..after you shave "down thurr" you need to use a moisturizer..(or put some aloe on it) that should sooth ur area so you dont burn or itch the next day when the hairs start to grow in..
:) pce

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i was just wondering if this makes me fat.. because i think i am.. im 16 i weigh 107 and i wear size 5 pants.. just wondering what you think please be honest.

107!?! NOT FAT AT ALL!
dont think that way
:) pce

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k well I am a 14/f and i have been thinking about sex i am a virgin but i have not kissed anyone any guy i mean but i want to it is just i am scared that i will mess up i think a bout sex all the time is this normal

Hey,
Your jumping ahead hun...
you havn't even kissed a guy yet
you shouldn't be worrying about sex...yet
just take things one step at a time..
its normal for teens to think about sex all the time..really..it comes up in school convo's all the time for me..wether we're joking or not..we just have raging hormones..and we cant get sex off of our minds..but that doesnt mean we're ready to go out and screw..
:) pce

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How Do You Like Makeout With Some One I Never Have Before So I'm Like Scared I'll Do IT Wrong.... Ummm soo whoever knows give me some feedback please i rate high, and dont give me the b.s like oo practice on your hand lol ok thanks

Hey,
Ok..definitly do not practice on your hand..its a horrible idea..its nothingg like the real deal..macking is not that difficult..im really disappointed that when i was younger i asked a similar question to this one..and not one person gave me one of the most important tips of all..
GO SLOW...and dont try and do a bunch of crazy moves with your toungue..at least not on your first time..but guys like it slow..because its not really attractive if you have a toungue squirming around quickly in your mouth..its like a fish out of water..GROSS!
pce :)

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Everyone in my school thinks im a slut. I have made bad decisions in the past, and now im a totally diffrent person. No one will give me the chance though to be my friend. EVERYONE HATES ME!!!! How can i loose this reputaion fast and gain friends back?

Hey,
Don't worry about them. If theres one thing ive learned throughout my years at school its to completely block out everything people say...its tough..but if you worked so hard to change yourself..and they don't want to believe that your a different person..then clearly their oppinions are bullshit and you dont need to pay attention to them..(sorry for all the choice words but i hate how people treat eachother at school..it seriously pisses me off) Just keep your chin up..soon the rumors will pass and everything should get back to normal.
Personally i dont think you should want to be friends with any of these people..if they cant except you when you put so much effort into changing...You can acctually gain from this expierience..there are probably some people in your school that would take the time to talk to you..and be your friend..instead of following the crowd and ditching you cus your a "slut". Those are the kind of people you want to be friends with...and right now..is the perfect time to spot them.
Just keep looking on the brightside!
:) pce

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help

Hey,
I think he would respect you more if you asked for his permission first. I know it sounds kind of queer..but it acctually might make him stop and think that you really care about his oppinion and you respect him..let him know that you really care about his sister and you would never do anything to hurt her..and you just really want to have the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing with her.
Its alright to be protective of her..it is a sign of love..but you cannot go overboard with it...dont make her feel like its wrong for her to hang out with guys.
Well have a talk with the big brother..tell me what happens...
pce :)

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i really like this guy ...and its not like he doesnt know i excist we talk alot but he doesnt think of me in "that" way at all ...he goes for a different type that just is not me ..i dont know if i should change for him or let it go because i am just wasting my time. And hes kinda a bad boy so im not so sure he could hold a girlfriend even if i got the chance ...what do you think .. help me out please ?

ill rate high for helpful answers

Hey,
This sounds reallly corny..but DO NOT CHANGE FOR ANYONE!! especially not a guy..at such a young age..guys have no idea what they want anymore..their hormones are constantly bouncing off the walls...its pretty hectic to say the least. Well anyways..you could change yourself to impress one guy..and there could be 10 other guys who liked you the way you were before..think about that...
:) pce

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okay i like this guy lets call him bob so at lunch my friend told me that she likes him too and then i was fine with it but then in 7th hour this girl that i CAN NOT stand told me that she likes him also and i was soo madd i like this bob alotttt BUT i also have a boyfriend we've been going out for 7 months but i really like bob and so do alot of others apperantly what should i do

Hey,
Dont break a 7 month relationship for some guy that a bunch of other girls like. He has a choice between all of you and if you are not confident that he would choose you..you need to stay with your current boyfriend..

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i dont have my period yet and im 13years old. all of my friends have it too. is there like something wrong with me?

Hey,
Thats not a big deal at all. Everyone gets their period at different times. Some girls dont even get it until their 16! Believe it or not!..but yeah..you'll get it soon..and NO nothing is wrong with you :) i didnt get mine until i was 14..
hope i helped!
:) pce

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