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Do you think its okay to teach your child to hit someone back if they hit him first?
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i think that kids should hit the other one bac
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yes i do believe that if a kid hits one kid the other should be tought to defend her or his self and hit them back hope i helped XoshannonoX
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yeah
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I think it's important not just to teach your children about self-defense, but that there are other avenues to consider when being threatened.
Sometimes being the bigger person means NOT reciprocating violence. In other situations, it could be considered appropriate.
The problem with telling your children it is acceptable to hit others is that it's difficult to draw a clear picture of the appropriate situation. As others have stated, the last thing you want is for your child to become the one who hits first.
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defanetly its called standing up for your self that what my mom always tells me.hoped I help.and good luck.if you need anymore advise just ask and please rait.thanks.
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Yes. Self defense is a very important thing to know in society today.
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yes but make sure they know that its ONLY ok to hit sum1 in defense. its not ok to start fights with anybody.
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no
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My parents have always told me never to start a fight but if someone punches you or hits you, then you have every right to defend yourself by hitting back. I personally dont see a problem with it, but then again Im not a parent because Im only 16.
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no its not okay.
once you tell your child thats it ok to hit someone back, they begin to think it's ok to do other stuff like stealing and lying..
what if your child turns into a bully? because its ok to hit someone?
but i wouldnt advise you to tell your child its ok, you need to tell your child that if someone hits you, you should tell an adult or the teacher. if you would like some more advice about this, i suggest you go on this website it should be helpful to you..
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Absolutely. Self defense and the defense of others are two things I find noble and helpful.
That being said, I would reccomend teaching them a primarily non-striking technique such as Judo or Aikido.
Hitting leads to injuries. Injuries lead to lawsuits and scars that never heal. :-(
If the goal is to protect yourself, then damage to your opponent isn't the goal, neutralizing your opponent is.
I will tell you from vast experience that putting someone who throws a punch at you on the ground and helpless by way of a wrist-lock is more effective than beating them near to death.
Embarassment is what takes care of bullies, not beating. All your child needs to do is make it known that he/she isn't going to be the bully's punching bag, and the rest will take care of itself.
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thats how i was raised and its helped
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no. just teach them the difference between self defense and just fighting. if they're being attacked by a stranger then it's okay to hit them.
modelkate11
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yes. ii think that is ah very qood idea because it is self defense && if sumwun is messinq with you then they deserve to be punched right back.
HOPE ii HELPED!!
ex'`*oh ...me
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No. Are you a teen mother or soemthing?
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First develop a way to avoid physical abuse. IE talk way out of it....
If that doesnt work, you need to toughen the kid up. My dad (who was a navy seal) beat me (jokingly of course...not like. Commere boy...I gots me a bat...Needs to do some testin...nothing like that...) all the time. I was a tough little soldier. If some kid hit me, I would try to calmly talk my way out of it. If the other kid is a freaking moron and wants some action, your kid needs to give him hell. Beat him out of being a bully!
Hope I helped!
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its only ok to teach your child if you know they will win
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yes ,self defence , when kids are little and they get hit and dont hit back when they grow up their ego and self esteem is low and they let everyone walk all over them , they also act out because they are upset ... when the child does get older teach them its better to use words but if they are really getting hurt to fight back .
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violence is never the answer but every school has bullies so just teach them how to defend themselves...rather than fighting back*
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Definately not. Doing such will cause them to get involved into fights and riots. It will make him an agressive person, and he will begin to hit when not even triggered eventually.
Not a good idea.
-Steven
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no way ever! b/c that makes the child believe that its ok to be aggressive. Not only play aggressivness but real life too. You're basically tellin' the poor child to be a bully and get into truble. Just tell the kid to say to the bully "i don't like being hit. it hurts me and my feelings." and if you think that that may make your kid seem like a softy then you're obviuslly thinking too highly of him/her. its just a child. and if the bully proceeds to hit your kid. Personally have a chat with your kids teacher and the bully's parents.
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It really depends on your feelings as a parent, mostly. But do keep in mind that policy in most schools is that if there is mutual combat, no matter who threw the first punch, both kids will be punished.
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wtf ever happened to "turn the other cheek".
Yea if he's going to get hurt really bad then he should put a stop to it. Watch what you tell your kids they take it literally.
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It's okay. Because your children need something to defend theirself. If they just stay calm, their friends will hurt them. Hope I helped!
-ViTaChaN-
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Hey,
Only if you explain to them that they are only suppose to fight for self defense and not go picking fights with people just because they know how to punch..
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hi. yes bacause if not they would be pushed around. uh another good thing for them is karate.
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it is if you look at it as self defense but you better becareful because he might use that on an adult.. just becareful what you teach a lil kid because they really learn fast... hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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Maybe this is just because I'm a chick, but I would say it's not wrong exactly, it's just not necessary.
If it were me, I would focus on instilling my child with intelligence and respect. Let them know that physical violence isn't okay, give them the problem solving skills to find away out, or avoid most situations that might call for physical violence (as well as protect them from those situations myself, while I'm still able).
A child with intelligence and confidence will hit back if they must, it's only human. But I see no reason to condone that behavior by teaching it.
Maybe I’m just an idealist.
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NO!!!! i wouldnt recommend it. because if you think about it if you tell your child that he/she will think that no matter what its okay to hit. my dad told me that and now i wish he didnt because i got the idea that hitting was okay and for years i had a bad habit of hitting. i also got in a ton of trouble.
~hope i helped
*** funkymunky ***
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depends really. if your child has a violent nature then no, its just provoking the behavior. if the child is young, no. if its an older kid, i think they should learn to defend themselves but not intentionally hurt someone back. if the hitting is at school, both will get in trouble for their actions regardless of who started it. hope this helps! <3
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ONLY as self defense. If the kid that hits your child is simply playing or isn't going to hit him again, don't tell him to hit the other child. Always try to use a different method before physical contact. Yell, scream, tell the teacher / adult in charge etc. etc. If your child were to hit another child and accidentally hurt / draw blood, you could be in a lot of trouble. I believe it's a better idea to teach self defense only when necessary, and to always try and reason with the other child first. And if that does not work, to tell an adult, scream etc. before hitting.
-FunnyCide
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I'm a teen and my opinion is to first say I dont want to fight you so lets just end it....and if the enemy keeps hitting I think its time for selfdefiense to kick in...all these rule about suspension from school are crazy....im going to defend myself in a fight and school will be the last thing on my mind..i'll only be thinking about my safety! My parents ofcourse say dont fight but then they tell me to defend myself against an attacker well i dont care it's a peer of mien ora 40 yr old man i comsider someone fighting me an attacker and thats that so yes i thinks itrs right to teach your kid to defend themselves..but to never start the fight! ♥
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Yes. I think it's perfectly fine, then again that is what I was taught. I was taught to DEFEND myself, not hit someone back if they hit me for no reason. They should only hit back if it's self defense. I would teach my kids the same thing. I think that if someone is continually hitting them, then yes they should hit them back. But if they just do it once then leave it alone. If they do it more than once, then that would be a reason to defend yourself.
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Hey Hun! Yes I think its ok. Thats what my dad always told me to do.
Hope I Helped!
Britt
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