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hey well my name is Amber. i'm pretty much an average teenager. i love my friends and everything like that. but i also love to help people out. i like to give advice &i try my hardest to help people be happy. when i help someone it makes me happy :]] so don't be scared &askk. i'll answer anything!

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will my hair be severly damaged if i straighten it 3 times a week for 30 days? thank you =] ♥

my mom's a hair dresser, trust me.
i straighten my hair all the time, and yes, i have split ends, but it looks fine. just DO NOT CUT YOUR OWN HAIR!! you NEED professional scissors to cut hair. make sure you go to your hair dresser and get regular hair cuts, and your hair should be fine.

i have a pair of pin-stripe pants (like the fancier ones) but they aren't full length, they cut off at my knee.

what kind of shirt would look good with it?

please don't tell me to just go through my wardrobe trying things on- i've tried i'm looking at buying.

definately a white shirt. it should be dressy, but cute. it depends on where you wearin it.

13/f

I like this guy named James. i have heard from everybody that he likes me. and then everyone knows that i like him and also ppl keep saying that he is going to ask me to be his gf. and then today he finaly asked me. and i said yes. and then now this other cute guy that is new came to my school today/ he is a major hottie! but im still thinking of wether i should stay with james or go with the new kid Jake. everone and all of my friends think that i should stay with with James. im not sure who to choose. should i stay with james sinse he already asked me to be his gf and use jake as a back up?

Thanks!! :)

its rude to use anyone as a back up.
don't do it.
but yes, you should stay with James only if you really like him.
don't use him.
if you think you'd rather be single and flirt with Jake, then break up with James.
if you truly like James, then you should deff. stay with him.

Okay well I have a hickey and I was wondering if anyone knows how to get rid of it or make it so nobody can see it? Reply Back Pleasee! Thankss :]

foundation.
most deff. foundation. i used dream matte mouse foundation and it covered it perfectly, just make sure you blend it in good.

Ok i have been dating this guy for a awhile, and hes soooooooooo sweeet!!! But, when he is with his friends, he acts like we are just friends and like doesn't wanna hang out with me, like at football games, he will just walk by me and not say anything, and i feel like if i ask him why he will get mad, is that bad that i worry about asking him questions like that? Like i love him sooo much and i don't wanna break up, but when hes with his friends and like acts like he is avoiding me, sometimes i feel like i wanna break up. what do i do?

okay so all guys act atleast a little different infront of theyre friends, they're gay. and if its something thats really bothering you than you either have to talk to him or break up with him. i was forced to make this same situation and i ended up breaking up with him. i still like that guy and we are still friends so i guess everything is pretty much okay so maybe you should just break up with him. its a hard decision, i know. but there's not much else you can do. hope i helped

Tonight possibly, or eventually sooner or later, im gonna hang out with my ex boyfriend..who was deffinitly my first love. I like this kid so much, even after we broke up at the beginging of summer till now my feelings havent changed. I tried being with other guys over the summer, but everytime i was with them all i could think about was my ex. Reasons why we broke up were cause he thoguht i didnt wanna be with him. just little things he said. and we fought so much, but over basic things like jealousy. My friends also were a big reason we broke up, they didnt want us together.. and they told him things that werent true. Anyways, schools started.. and now we're in the same school together. I see him everyday, and it hit me the other day. Whos he gonna take to homecommin? i flipped out. Seeing him in school with another girl or anywhere, would honestly kill me. I just wanna tell him very soon in person, how i feel. He used to always tell me i was the closest thing to love he ever felt. One of the guys i tried talkin to over the summer, made me realize how i treated my ex. If i had actually understood that i did that, i wouldnt have. Now I know, and I just need to tell him i still am like in love with him, I dont wanna be with anyone else, and i understand what i did wrong. Its not that easy though, cause right now its like our second time hanging out since we broke up, and things are still awkward

In person, how should i tell him this. I have so many ideas in my head but some are commin off to strong, and i cant just force him into anything. I need help! :(

omg, girl i am like in a very similar situation. but i think you should tell this boy that you still like him. you can't be like i miss you and i want you back or anything because like you said, that is commin off too strong. but i think you should deff. tell him you like him. ask him how he feels about you. as much as it may hurt, knowing the truth is a thousand times better than wondering. trust me. and then take things from there. good luck, and i hope i helped.

My dance teacher just said I could make up my own jazz/hip hop routine for my 12th year recital. Anyone have any good ideas for songs?

something up-beat. maybe like a techno version of a song. anything with an easy count workss :]]

I used to use bearshare to download music but lately it hasnt been working. Does anyone know of a good website to download from or a certain program?

lime wire...
qo to www.limewire.com

Hello Amber,
Well let's see i need help with this girl we've been going out for about a month now and well my feelings that where there arent there anymore and we havent talked for a while now and when we do talk we talk for about 5 mins then where done we go to diffrent schools and we live about 15 mins away from each other and we really never see each other at all and her feelings have changed for me too because she's told her friends and she's told me that her feelings changed so yeah can you help me out? do i keep going out with here or do i break up with her?

i think yawl shoudl break up. thinqs will be better that way. if you both start to miss eachtoher, then deffinately qet back toqether because that means you probly have true feelinqs for eachother, but if you don't miss eachother then breakinq up was the riqht choice. if yawl break up and wun of you still likes the other, but the other doesn't like them back, then you should try your hardest to qet over them, because they obviously weren't riqht for you cuz everythinq happens for a reason. hope ii helped!!

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hey i kinda have a proublem... my boyfriend that i love very much, i would do almost anything for him but he makes stupid choices sometimes and gets his self in lits of trouble.. but anyways he did something stupid and got caught and his mama blams me (i think) and i didnt do nothing it was him, what should i do cause she wants to talk to my parents? omg i dont want her to cause she might say the wrong side of the story? amber please help me,, what do i do ?? if you need to know the story give me advice and i will IM you and tell you! help amber I LOVE YOU

*need help with problems*
*any help for me? *

well, first i think you should talk to your bf. ask him to tell his parents the true story and how it wasn't your fault at all. if that doesn't work, then maybe you should try talkinq to his parents yourself. it may be hard, but if you really don't want them to tell your parents, then it miqht be the best thinq to do. sound sophisticated [biq word hehe] and explain them the true story and askt them to forqive you and then ask them to please not talk to your parents. and if that doesn't work, then you have to let them talk to your parents, but tell your parents the true story first and hope that they believe and trust you! qood luck!!

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Okay so i went` tah the movie`s && i went wiith thiis boy ii previiously lov3d && it was cool gr3at ii had fun && everything but then liike riight after the moviies he diitched me for my other friiend yeah we're cool && everything but iit kiinda hurt muh feeling`s =( But I meann iidk wut tah do.? HeeLp?

well tell him how you feel if its ah serious thinq like if you really still like him but if you don`t still like him then don`t worry about it;; you`ll have to qet used to him not wantinq to be around you all the time.
hope ii helped.. xo

ok i have these 2 friends && they're not the type that seem like they would have a lot of problems in there life..especially one of them..well anyway..i found out about a month ago that she cuts herself then i found out she carved a guys name into her ankle..&& then about a week ago i found out that the other person does it too..&& today i found she carved a guys name into her ankle too && that the other girl carved another guys name into her leg && not just like the name but "i love" && a bunch of marks around it..i want to believe that they're going to stop bc they've said that they are..but they obviously havent && i dont want to say anything && them like never talk to me again && ik that i should tell && that its a really serious problem but then i think that if i dont tell them && they end up killing themselves because of it idk what i would do if they did && i hadnt said anything..help plz!!

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h0pE i hElpEd!!

yo. i had sex with my friends dog. what should i do? im pregnant now? pleassssssssse help me amber. geese. please

you are qunnah have puppies!! can i buy wun?!?

OK Im 15 an I've been dating the same guy kinda on off for 4 months. It was I guess you could say kinda perfect the 1st mth but after that we started fighting about little stupid stuff. Then I heard from ne of his friends that he was cheating on me with a girl from his school. (We dont go to the same school.) When his friend told me this I broke up with my bf the next day cause I knew he would lie to me about it. Then he called and talked to my sister about the whole thing and I gave ii another try. Well . . then he never called an when I asked him about it he blamed it on baseball pratice and work and all this other stuff. So I was like ur to busy for a gf so I'll give you some space. And I didnt hear from him or see him til about 2 weeks ago. It was akward and stuff but I dealt with it. Then he started talking to my sister about things that he shoulda been asking ME. Not her. Well we just started dating again cause I still like him an I thought we might could make it work. So we started goin out again. Well I called him like 2 nights ago and he was all Hey Shug and hes NEVER like that. Then he starts asking me if I love him and stuff and TELLING me all this stuff like me and one of my friends had to flash him and all of this other stuff and Im sorrie but no guy is going to tell me what I have to do. Then after that I just handed the phone to my sis an she talked to him for almost 3 hrs. When I do something he doesnt like he tunes me out and wants to talk to my sister and he talks to her about problems he has with me. So she always ends up fixing things I guess I could say. And it aggravates me. IDK what to do anymore I think that he doesnt deserve another chance after this. What do you think I should do about this???
Sorrie Its really long I just dont know what to do anymore. Any advice you have for me would help alot. Thanks

well if you truly like him && you think its worth ah try aqain then qo ahead buht personally ii don't think he deserves another chance. ii`m SURE you can find anuther quy WAYY better. the whole talkinq to yer sister thinq;; well some quys have trouble tellinq people they care about thinqs that bother them. or its also possible that he has ah thinq for yer sister. you should try tellinq him && yer sister exactly how you feel because if you don't then you'll never know if completely leavinq him or just stayinq with him && not sayinq anythinq was the riqht choice;; so tell them how you feel && don't hold back. lemme know how that works!
hope ii helped

Do you think its okay to teach your child to hit someone back if they hit him first?

yes. ii think that is ah very qood idea because it is self defense && if sumwun is messinq with you then they deserve to be punched right back.
HOPE ii HELPED!!
ex'`*oh ...me

I live in an apartment with my mom. We want to get a cat and the landlady said we can if it doesn't have any claws. We aren't sure if thats ok to do to a cat. I no one other person who has a cat like this and the cat seems happy. What do you think?

alot of people qet their cats declawed. tha thinq is is that when it happens it causes the cat pain buht afterwards they are fine. so that is ah perfectly fine idea. HOPE ii HELPED!!
ex'`*oh ...me

okay my friend mel is like super gorgeous. one of those people that are wow. but latley she has been pretty insicure about herself. and she is usually the total opposite. it might be because begginging of junior year but im not sure. she has been quite pale and pretty damp and drowisy. then when we went shopping she dropped a full size at AF and half at hollister. im really worried. when we went to in and out she refused her fave burger. i dont know if shes starving herslef or what. im worried she is and im worried shes taking laxitives. should i just comfront her about what im thinking, or should i just let the fase end [ hopefully its just a fase]. i dont want to seem noisy or an ass. how should i do this?

well whenever ii start talkin junk about myself usually my best friend will call guy that likes me or used to go out w// me or thinks ii`m hawt or sumthin to make me feel better. try to prove to her that she is gorgeous!! && about the eatinq thinq you could try to HiNT about eatinq disorders && stuff like that && like say somethinq like ii heard that Lindsay Lohan had ah eatinq disorder && that reallyy worries me cuz they are really bad. idk whut ii would do if wun of my friends were like that ii would be so worried. or sumthinq like that!! && if that doesn't work then confront her about it && tell her you are really really really worried about her && you don't want anythinq to happen to her!
hope ii helped!!

okay first off im sorry this is long... okay im 13 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years.. i know thats long lol.. anyways .. this year we're going to be going to dif. schools.. he'll be in middle school and ill be in highschool.. hes in 6th im in 7th...well .. i love him more then i could explain. but my boyfriend.. eric thinks ill find someone else at the highschool... i know it could happen.. but it wont because i love him.. and hey who knows he might meet someone else.. and im just so worried things wont work out for us.. what do u think i should do..? i rate all 5's !!! THANKS!

well ii`ll start here - itsz completely possible that you'll both meet new people && there is nothing wrong with that. yawl could each be happy with a new person, buht if you continue seeing eachother like every weekend && the feeling doesn`t fade && yawl trust eachother then your relationship should be completely okayy && if he does meet a new person;; then ii`m sure you could find a much better high school boy buht for the most part;; ii wouldn`t worry about it.

hope ii helped!!

I just had surgery and i can't really walk very well and i have to go to registration at middleschool in 2 days. I am not sure if i will be better by then and i am nervous that people will think i am a weirdo if i walk around limping. What should i do?

you shouldn`t worry about whut other people think && ii know that isz ah hard thing to do. buht if they ask you why your limping && stuff just tell them the truth && alot of people usuallyy have alot of sympathy for hurt people. good luck && ii hope ii helped. let me know if this answer isn`t good enough!!

my best friend who i love like a sister ran away today to MY house! i told her to go back. but she wouldnt. finally i got her to call her dad and then a police officer came to pick her up and bring her home. now her mom and dad hate me because they think i told her to come to my house. i wasnt expecting her at all!! one minute i was talking to her on AIM then her away message said out. wont be back any time soon. then i heard a knock. but how can i get *especially her mom* to like me again? HELP! any useless answers will recieve a 1. any good answers will recieve a 5.

well;; if you haven`t alreadyy tried explaining to them your side of the storyy and your situation;; then do that;; buht if that doesn`t work;; be ah MAJOR suck up. make them ah cake or sum browniesz or sumthing and ask your friend for ideasz of whut to do for them;; offer to do yardwork or housework for free or anyything you could do tah earn their trust back. HOPE I HELPED!!

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