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Q: Laura, I know your good at giving advice but I really don't know if you can help with this one. See I am mature enough to have sex, but I just don't know if I'm mentally ready. I mean what if I'm not good enough. Or she's not pleased with my erection length. Should I take a Muff Dive off the deep end or should I go in slow for the kill. Thanks.

Hey, ill answer your question after you answer mine...who are you and how old are u, do i know u...

Q: Hi, first let me say, Laura, you are so pretty. Now to my question. My male reproductive organ is intirely too small. (3 inches errect) I feel like a big loser in the locker room at P.E. I am also too scared to have sex. What should i do?

al rush your a loser my friend... :) dork...

Hey, thanks a lot. Wait...how do you know what i look like, i dont have a pic of myself on here do i?

First of all, how old are you?

2nd of all you dont need to feel like a loser, i mean afterall you cant exactly help it...if it makes you feel better try to avoid changing/showering in front of people...but you honestly shouldn't worry about what other people think...and you shouldn't rush into having sex, if your not ready, your not ready its not something you do just because everyone else does it... but if you are ready it's not size that counts... just remember that and if you need to contact me else where my email address is lalalalauralcl@aol.com

always here,

LC

Q: Well, I have this problem where i foregive people to easly and I dont let them know how i really feel. Like if some one makes me mad, i cant just come out and say what i think about it. Instead i just let it go, but then i get to worryed about what happened between me and them that night and wonderin how they feel. I want to ask them about it but, im scared i will look stupid if i do and ill mess everything up with me and them. What do you think i should do? And how do you think i should say how i feel?

look, i was once a worrier myself. what you have to do is just totally forget about worrying its your life you need to live it, you dont need to hide your feelings or your true self be straight up and tell people how you feel you can do this in a nice way just start by saying "look im concerned about our friendship or w/e" you need to tell them how you feel and fast. you can do it, have faith in yourself...you cant spend the rest of your life being a push over...you want to live life to the fullest and your not going to get anywhere by letting people walk all over you

much

Q: Well there's this guy that I've known pretty much my whole life. He's my neighbor but we've never really been that great of friends. We both play tennis so I see him kind of a lot in the summer. The other day we were talking online and he said we should hang out more. He's gonna call me when he gets back from basketball camp. I really wanna hang out with him but thing is, I don't know him that well. I don't know what to talk about with him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to talk about? How can I open up to him more? Thanks, any help will be appreciated! Oh and I'm 14/f

hey, well if you dont hang out with him your never gonna get to know him...so i suggest you do it! he's probably a really cool guy. just talk about his hobbies, your hobbies, friends, family, pets, interests, school, theres so much to choose from! just pick and dont worry to much about it...just let it flow!

always here, -lc

Q: Who is mike jones? and why does everyone say their him?

he's a rapper, and people i know do it because they think it's funny and plus in his songs he's always like "mike jones" yeah...fun...

always here, lc

Q: I'm 17/f and ive never had a bf. Everytime i like some guy, and he ends up liking me back..I get really uncomfortable and scared away. I dont do it on purpose, it just happens everytime. What could be the reason Im subconciously doing this?

this may be a sign that you are scared to get involved or that your uncomfortable with yourself. you have to be willing to take a risk...and if things dont work out, theres always a way out. dont worry so much, just do it. who knows it might work out very well.

always here, lc

Q: I'm thinking about making a cd with all the songs that make me think of the guy I like (much too weak a word, believe me) and then giving it too him, but I'm not sure what message that would send. We've been best friends for about five years, and while i'm willing to risk a great friendship for what i feel would be a better relationship, I don't want him to think i have a secret shrine to him in my closet (i don't, btw). any advice on how this might make him feel or the possible consequences to my following up on it?

15/f

Hey there.

Before you go giving him a cd with a bunch of mushy songs on it...maybe you should try talking to him. afterall your words are just as strong as any of the artists. The cd might freak him out a bit, but if y'all are friends y'all have to talk all the time, so hey whats the difference...just try having a casual convorsation about the two of you...tell him you want to bring y'alls relationship to the next level...but b4 you say anything make sure you say that what your about to say should not effect y'alls friendship if he feels differently.

good luck & best wishes

always here, lc

Q: My friend and I are really close. He's my best friend, and I'm really open with him. Sometimes we have really deep conversations, where I tell him anything I feel and he does the same too. We might even have conversations on the phone until 2 in the morning. My problems is that he's really confusing me. He won't make up is mind as to whether he likes me or not. Sometimes he'll hold me or give me those cute hugs from behind, and I really love when he does. We say "I love you" to each other as if it's a greeting. I think he's just leading me on because I asked him out before and he said that he liked me but he didn't want a girlfriend. Now, I don't know if I should ask him out again or what. I like him so much, and I think he likes me too. Should we go out because we're really close or will that mess up our friendship alot?

Im in the same situation, but i think ive came to a conclusion...if you love being with him and you love most everything about him i think you might be ready to take things to the next level, i mean it truly may ruin your friendship but i doubt it will be a permanent end ...it's a risk you need to take ...who knows what might happen...if he makes you happy as a friend think of how happy he'll make you as even more...

always here, lc

Q: i'm dating a guy who treats me like a princess, but when we're in the bedroom, he treats me like a prostitute. he spanks me(lightly), pulls my hair, and says things like "your're so, so dirty. someone needs a shower, she's so nasty." what's up with him.

It's great that he treats you like a princess...you can't find many guys like that...but b4 you rush and break up w/ this guy because he talks dirty to u in bed...talk to him...tell him you dont want him to talk to you like your a whore when y'all are in bed...tell him not to talk at all if thats what he has to do...

always here, lc

Q: ok i have this boyfriend his name is greg.. well he went on vacation with his family 2 puerto rico.. while he was gone i met this other guy ricky. ricky is rele sweet nd charming and we slept with each other at least 5 times. i dunno .. i don't feel the same with greg as i do with ricky.. ricky is wayy better in bed.. i ain't a slut or nothin.. well maybe i am but seriously what should i do? HELP i'll rate HIGH if you do `-MARIE

You should be straight up with your boyfriend...dont lie...the truth will get out sooner or later, trust me! Just tell Greg that while he was away you found another guy and the two of you just clicked, and you feel like you and this other guy connect on a much higher level than you and him (greg)

Tell Greg that you hate to do this, but you need to end the two of y'alls relationship...and your really sorry it happened this way but u think it was for the best.

You dont have to go into detail...just tell the truth...it easier than you think...

always here, lc

Q: I really like the kid im going out with. He asked me out a little over a week ago but I had said no because Im so busy over the summer. Now, I regret saying yes this time because I have way too much going on. Im gonna be a freshman next year and Im on the high school cheerleading squad. It takes up a lot of my time and im also playing softball all summer. I go to the cape almost every weekend, and I need some time to myself, plus I have a lot of work to do before I go back to school. I dont know what to do because I wont ever see him and I feel so tied down because im always worried about finding time to be with him. Should I dump him? If so, how should I do it in a way to let him know that we're still going to be great friends like we have been? I'll rate high

Look, im totally in the same situation and ive tried to handle it in the best way i could... well not the "exact" postion, but you'll get where im coming from...Me and this guy have been friends since b4 pre-k, yes that long! and about 8 months ago he told me he liked me and all this stuff, and i went along with it and i was like ok well we'll "talk" and stuff and see where it leads well he asked me out a few times and always said no because i didn't want to lose our friendship if we were to break up and its true i didn't and still dont...but now its summer and he's asked me out a few times this summer too, and my answer is still no these days, but only because i am WAY to busy not because i dont want to lose our friendship, im willing to take that risk now...but i dont want to have a boyfriend and not be able to see him. But you are a very brave soul for at least taking the risk and trying to see if it would work...i too am a cheerleader and i know how time consuming that is...personally i think you should dump your boyfriend if you dont want to spend your summer being "attached" just tell him how it really is, that you are really busy and you dont have time to see him as much as you would like to and you dont want to make him feel locked down when you two dont even get to see each other...just tell him that y'all will remain really good friends and the only difference will be you two dont have to feel like you HAVE to see each other and if u want to flirt, flirt. And y'all can pick up the relationship when school starts...when y'all can see each other. Or the other option is stay together but make it clear to him that you wont be able to see him as much as you would like and maybe not often ...at all... but the best choice would be to end the relationship until you have more time...

-listen to your heart...it knows best.-

~always here~ LC

Q: hello. my name is Keegan Hawk. I read your last thing you said to that guy that didnt think he would be cool if he didnt playl football. What are some tip to being cool in high school?

Hey Keegan.

Well here are some tips, hope they help.

- Dress nice but have your own style, you dont want to be seen as a follower or a "copy cat" so to speak.

- Have a good sense of humor

- Find "your" group of friends

- Attend school functions.

- Try talking to uper classman.

- Keep your personality at a "mellow" level, dont go getting mad over stupid stuff.

- Don't start fights...even if it does get you attention, people are just going to say how immature it was.

- Stay in shape

- and have a good time most of all!

~!!!~ dont do something you dont want to do to fit in though, ex. if some1 offers you drugs some people might think thats cool but a lot of people dont and if you dont want it dont do it to fit in and if people dont like you because u dont do it they obviously aren't your true friends! ~!!!~

always here, -LC

Q: i told my parents to f**k off and i got grounded for 2 weeks. do you think this is fair? because i was really pissed off.. i coulndt help it. lol.

honestly, i really think that is fair. I mean thats like saying "i killed someone but i shouldn't be charged because my brother made me mad b4 i did it" as you grow older you need to learn to control your anger, if you just go through life blowing up at people when your mad...your not going to get very far and its likely that you'll lose a lot of friends. i know it slips every now and then but try to be mature and do the whole count to ten thing...just keep it inside...and stay calm!

always here -LC

Q: Hey there Im from Trenton, Lousianna. and I have a little problem. I will be going to high school next year.I play JV Baseball and Basketball. But I dont want to play football. But im scared if i dont play football I wont fit in..and nobody will like me. What do you think about that?

Hey there .
Look if you dont want to play football, don't. End of story if your playing to fit in your not playing for the right reason, yet if you enjoy football...play your heart out. But dont do it because you want to fit in. JV baseball & basketball will keep you plenty busy and if you enjoy those sports you'll play well... if you play football and your heart isn't in it, chances are you won't play very well and people are just gonna hate on you because of that... and if people are pissed at you because your not playing and they dont want to hang out w/ you and what not...so what they're obviously not your real friends. Your real friends won't care what you do, they'll like you for you. Do what your heart tells you to.

always here -LC

Q: OK my best friend ashley is comming to visit me from CO on sunday and i dont want her to be bored or anything while she is here! Does anyone have any ideas of what we can do?? Thx a bunch!

Plan a trip to the mall & or movies...something fun...make her feel welcome!

Q: my dad is sooo annoying.. and he is soo strict.. and won't let me do anything hardly.. I always have to go to my mom... what can I do to try and get him to calm down.. cause he is mad all the time.. and what can I do to let me do stuff more?

Hey, look i understand where your coming from so dont feel like your the only person in this situation, your growing up and your not going to always get along with your parents. But to attempt to fix this problem calmy ask you dad to sit down and talk to you...just tell him that you feel that y'all aren't connecting much anymore and you dont want to grow up feeling like you dont have a dad to be there for you. Ask him what you could do to make his life a little easier ect. And if he agrees to try to be a little nicer and ect everything should get better, and if he just starts yelling at you maybe you should talk to you mom and try to get her to talk to him. And if that doesn't work, professional help might be a good choice.

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Hey boys and girls, im laura and ive been told im pretty good at giving advice at times although im not very good at taking my own advice, w/e im here to help you so if you have any questions dont hesitate to ask.