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Just want to know the difference
I hae to close friends that are pregnant. Unfortunantly one was raped and the other one was by her boyfriend. They are both considering abortion. Why is it that people think it is all right for my friend who was raped to get an abotion and the other one isn't. Both are still killing and innocent child...Please help me understand the difference!!
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This part is concerning your raped friend.
She was force to have sex.She had no will, to choose if she wanted to or or not.She got impregnated by her rapper. Not only is rape depressing physicalbut it's even worse mentally. How would you like to look achild and be reminded of the man who raped you. She probaly would neglect thechild if she kept it. So it's best that she abort. I'm pro life ad am against abortin but the only time i'm with is when rape is involved.
Now concerning your friend who had sex with her boyfriend willingly.
She had a choice. She said yes. She was reckless. I'mguessing she didn't have a back up form of bith control(birth control pills). She doesn't want to live up o her responsiblitys and neither does her boyfried so she takes the coward ways out and abort. Or maybe her parents forced her to abort.
Now you see the diffenrce.One had a choice the other didn't. One will be forever hounted by her rape. While the ohter can live her life on normally. I hoped imade it clear for you.
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Some people think that its ok for someone who go pregnant by a rapist because it wasn't their fault and it wasn't their choice. They didn't want to risk getting pregnant. They were forced to take that risk.
For someone who got pregnant by their boyfriend, they think its wrong because, they willingly took that risk, by willingly having sex with this person.
Basically it comes down to being forced to take the risk of getting pregnant and willingly taking that risk.
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well this is what i think if you got raped would you want to have a child that might come out looking like your rapiest i mean i wouldn't but i also think its wrong killing the baby so i think that your friend should have it and then put it up for adoption.................
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There is no difference. I am very sorry for your friend that was raped, but that is not an excuse. Adoption is a wonderful thing and I think that your freinds should consider that if they are looking towards abortion.
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there is no difference, both of them are just ing their unborn baby!!! ur right they r both still an child!!!! dont let them!!!!!!11
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I sorta agree with the girl before me. but your shouldnt ruin an inniocent life because of that. you can make like a bad memory into a happy one, babies are so wonderful!
and then, all her life, wont she be wondering what that little kid could have been??
*Kels*
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Well, getting pregnant after being raped is a huge thing. Abortion is probably the answer that everyone will give for rape. Why? It's scary memory, you aren't ready, it wasn't planned, and future problems...like when the baby grows up and asks about the father. Now the other friend.. people would say that it's not okay to have an abortion...is because she willingly had sex, knew the risks...and all of that. But it really doesn't matter what people think is right or wrong, the only this that DOES matter is...is what the mother feels is right. =) Only she can decide what is best for her, and the baby.
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The girl that was raped did not have a choice in having that child. Having a child at what I'm supposing your age can ruin your entire life. It's not fair to her in my opinion because of someone else's sick desires. However, the other girl probably chose to have sex with her boyfriend. SHE MADE THAT CHOICE so don't you think she deserves the punishment of having to raise the child more? I mean, she made that decision, and now she'll have to suffer the consequences.. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.
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Picture this: You are walking home from practice, it could be for a sport, play, anything really. You start to feel strange and stop to look around. You call out,"hello?" A man grabs you and before you know it he has you in the bushes, pinned down. You try to scream, but he has his hand over your mouth. He whispers," make a sound and I'll kill you. You shut up, of course, you want to live. He then proceeds to rip you clothes. You try to struggle, but he punches you in the face. You are stunned and see stars, you don't even see him take out his penis and shove it inside you, but you feel it. Oh do you feel it. You can feel your insides ripping with every unwelcome thrust. You can't help but to cry out. He backhands you accross the mouth,"shut up you stupid cunt." You try not make any more noise, but you let a few whimpers escape; you hope that he doesn't hear you. When he finishes he grabs you by the hair and holds your face inches away from his,"tell anyone about this and I'll find you and cut you into pieces you stupid bitch," then he punches you in the face again and knocks you out. You wake up in the morning, in the same bushes, bleeding out of your vagina, not to mention the variouse other bruises you have sustained all over your body. Do you really want a permanent, living reminder of that? A child that everytime you look at them you remember being violated. You can't help but to resent that child, they don't deserve it. The child would grow up feeling guilty of a crim they didn't commit. The child and the rape victim would be better off if the child had never been born.
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You make an excellent point. Many people think that being that the girl was the victim and this wasnt her choice, that she has the right to an abortion. Being that your other friend voluntarily had sex with her bf, many people are against that because she made the choice and should take the consequences. Abortion is a very highly debated topic, such a hot topic that im not even sure of my opinion on it. Thats the resoning many people use on the abortion topic.
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some people think its okay for somebody who gets raped to get an abortion because its hard for parents to raise a child they didnt exactly want or plan.. i think its wrong as well.. much luv dez x0x0
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Imagine you were raped in a rough way, just imagine it for a second.
Then you get pregnant, can you imagine having a child that belongs to someone that forced you to have sex with them. That child would be the reminder ALL YOUR LIFE that someone had raped you, forced you, against your will.
It would torture you looking at the kid knowing that his or her father was a rapist.
Then imagine trying to EXPLAIN to the kid what had happend when it was at an older age.
Personally, I don't consider abortion murder either. Incase no one knew what everyone is calling a child is not even an egg yet. It's not even as big as a bean but that's not the point. Just imagine you were raped and see her point of view.
As for the other girl personally, she should've been more responsible when having sex. That's why people look down on her and not on the other girl.
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Well i understand your confusion! abortion is a very controversial subject. some people believe that if a woman is raped it is more ok for her to have an abortion because it was forced upon her and it wasnt her fault and she shouldnt have to have a painful memory by having a baby with someone who hurt her so much...on the other hand it still is an innocent baby who also wasnt at fault. Woman are going to decide what they want...everyone has different beliefs and sometimes others just dont understand, we arent in their shoes so i guess the best thing you can do is support your friends no matter what they do because its what they believe in.
good luck!
yours truly,
shianne
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hey, as you probably already know, people have many different opinions about abortions, some aprove of it, some dont, and some do sometimes. your friend that was raped did not choose to have sex and it is not her fault that she id pregnant is she could not do anything at the time. your other friend took the risk of getting pregnant withher boyfriend, she knew what she was doing, knew the consequences of her actions, and still went for it and took the risk. it was her choice to have sex. from the way you put the question, it does not seem like you aprove of abortions- in any case. however, do you think it fair for your friend that was raped to change her whole life for a baby that she did not want at all in the first place? this is the question that you need to ask yourself. i understand why it might seem unhumane to kill the future child, but would the baby really want to be born when he would have no father and a mother that was raped? and your other friend, i'm sure she doesn't want a child that would be an "accident". even though you may not aprove of abortions, sometimes it is the best solution for the parents and the kid. i hope this helped you understand the difference better, much love
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i think none of them should get an abortion.....
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ok well the one who got raped it wasant her fault thats why its called RAPE and the other one it was her own fault she could told her boyfriend no and even if they used a condom she still ahd sex with him the other one was raped .. hope i helped. JESSiCA
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Heres my outlook on things.
If someone is raped (bless the poor thing..) and they end up getting a pregnancy from it, I say dammit they have every right to get an abortion. They were forced into the intercourse and they should have every right to deal with the results how they feel like it. Now on the other hand, someones boyfriend getting their girl pregnant is another matter. He AND she both knew the risks of unprotected sex, and they should not be given rights to get an abortion. They knew what could happen, and it did, because they weren't careful.. Thats my sight, anyway.
I'd say the raped /should/ get one, but the GF/BF will have to deal with the problem they themselves created. Its called tough love
<3 EJ
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omg! the fried who was raped did not want to have unsafe sax or sex at all, its not her fault at all. Its is never the victims fault!!! your other friend knew she was having sex and consented to it there for getting pregnant is her fault cuz she wanted to have sex even if she did not want to get pregnant she still knew the risks.
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i think most people think it is okay for your friend that was raped because she didnt want to have sex, she was forced to, but your other friend had sex willingly and now she is pregnant. Personally i htik it is wrong for both of them, even if one was raped because they are giving up a life of an unborn baby. But i guess i could understand the one that is pregnant. Hope this helped.
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well the one that was raped really had no choice to have sex while the other did and thats the consequences of a decision
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Your friend that was having sex should have her baby and take the responsibility. Your friend that got raped (if she wasn't sexually active) was not taking over the responsibilities that come with sex, because she was not voluntarily committing sexual acts. I think that your friend that got raped having an abortion is fine, because she was the innocent one in the situation.
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there is no difference in the sitation, the difference is in the opinion. i agree with you, theyre both murdering a child who has done nothing wrong. people just have different views on things, and thats the only way they see them. what i mean is, i understand MY opinion on this subject, and i could never understand the other side of it because i believe so strongly that its wrong. thats just how people are... :/
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there's a difference because the one didnt want to get pregnant, and the other one was just being a half wit
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its ok for your friend that got raped because she got raped. and for your other friend it isnt right because its her consequence that she had sex with him.yes you are killing a child but its not your decion its theirs. they might want to make this choice for the future.
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Dude one of your friends was raped she didnt take it apun herself to have a child. Everytime she would look at it she would think of what happend to her. as for your other friend she was just careless and made a decision she wasnt big enough to handle the consequences of. its her own fault that shes having a baby hasnt she heard of a little thing called a condom?as for your other friend its not her fault that she is having her baby she didnt ask for it.
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For the friend that was raped, well she didn't want it to happen. Not saying the other friend did, but the friend who was not raped knew the consequence. I still think it's a terrible thing to do, but it depends. If it were date rape, or if she willingly had sex, then it is in no way right, because even date rape you can control, you don't have to go alone with a person. But if it was an uncontrolled rape, something she had no idea could happen, someone forced her to have sex against without her consent, and she doesn't want the child she shouldn't have to have it. One of those girls willingly had sex, knowing all the consequences, and if she wasn't ready, she shouldn't have had sex. The other girl had no choice in the matter, is probably very scared, and can't handle a baby. There's the difference.
I'm against abortion unless you were raped, or there's a 100% chance you AND the baby will die. If you die and the baby survives and you have an abortion, then I think that's wrong.
Sorry if it's confusing.
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Your friend who was raped had no choice in the matter. That she is pregnant is not her fault. Another thing about that is blood ties, heredity. So little is known about personality development. Would letting this child live just be putting another rapist in the world? Sure the child is as innocent as your friend, but the father is still a part of that child. Your other friend, whose pregnant by her boyfriend is just taking the easy way out of responsibility. She had an active role in making this baby. She chose to have sex, she chose the man to have sex with. Unlike the raped friend she is as much a party of this baby's creation as the father. That's the difference. I don't agree with pro-choice abortion. A baby is a resposibilty, a special trust. Pro-choice is a criminal avoidance of obligation, duty and honor. However, I would not presume to blame your raped friend for aborting her's. I don't even know that I would not abort in that situation. I'd hope I wouldn't, but I can certainly see the need to clean every part of myself of the horror of the act. I can't imagine carrying a child created that way. I hope this gives you some clarity.
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The difference between the two stories is that the one was raped by a complete stranger and the other was by someone she knew. Even though it is technically killing a baby, difference situations are allowed. Both girls were raped unwillingly and hadn't planned to have a kid. But tell your friends that abortion is wrong and that there are other choices! Hope my advice helps! ♥ Jenn
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People probably think this because the friend who was raped could suffer a lot by having this child. Everytime she looks at it, she will have horrible memories of her rapist and this could cause her serious pyschological damage. She will always remember the rape but having this baby will probably make it worse. Your other friend has a boyfriend and could probably bring up the baby in a stable family. Personally I am for abortion because it can ruin your life if you have an unplanned pregnancy. They are not killing a child because at the stages in the pregnancy where you can have an abortion it wont have formed into a child yet.
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ok your friend who was raped should get abortion. It is not her fault there is a baby inside of her and if she cant handle it, she should get an abortion. The friend who just had unprotected sex should not get an abortion because it was her fault, she agreed to having sex and she knew the risks she was taking. She should face the consequences.
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Its alright for either to get an abortion. for a rape victim being pregnant by the man the forced his dick up you and then havin a child from it can devistate you yes indeed you will love that child if u go through with it but the child would be a mistake and the child would not be brought into this world bytwo loving parents the dad would be a rapist and most likely in jail. In turn the mom will have to explain about daddy's situation. HOW would that be for the child AND the mom huh? its stupid to make both suffer. For the friend that is pregnant by her bf. Yes it is killing an inocent child but look if she isnt prepared for a child why bring it into the world when the mother is unstable and which will make the child have a hard life and she aint married yet either so it will be hard to have the other parent help. To have a child you must be secure finacialy and emotionaly and mentaly its stupid to bring a chiold into this world when you can't takre care of it because all it does is make the child have a hard life.
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