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baaaaaadd habbit!
My friend smokes..and hes 13. Im trying to ask him to quit and i give him my point of view. Ive tried almost everything in the book..so dont say talk to him. i have.
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Try telling someone else that you trust that he's smoking, and they might be able to help more than random strangers online.
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Tell his parents, I mean its just going to get worse if nothing happens, he will assume its okay. His parents are athority and tell them not to tell him who told them. That way he wont know who told, you to can still be tight.
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Get help. Go to the school nurse, the guidance counselor, his parents, any adult that can be trusted. This guy has to realize that smoking can KILL him. He can get so sick and die much earlier in life than he should. Just get help. It might be tough, but you gotta.
Good luck.
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take awai his cigs... & threaten to tell his parents... that will only work for so long tho... eventually u will have to tell his parents...
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Wow. That's such a young age to start smoking at. Well, first off. Does HE want to quit? If he doesn't want to, no need in trying to talk him about quiting. He's the only one who can do it, not his friends. If he does want to quit, get him to just start smoking less and less everyday. If that doesn't work get him on the patch or that gum stuff.
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ok all right well mayb u should just make him he u tryed everything u could o well and he still smokes and only a preteen hes messin up his body not urs ok so i think mayb u should talk to his parents or urs about the habit ok ok
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if youve already tried talking... then try SHOWING. Print pics off of the net of people who have smoked... its so nasty. Some have yellow teeth and mustaches and eww its so gross. And some smoke through their throat! if he starts that young who knows how he'll turn up with all that nitotine in him
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if hes already started its a very addicting habbit. theres really no way to "talk" anyone out of it .. and even if hes told you not to tell you really should, you dont have to tell his parents but you could try to find him some help. or maybe try to find ways to stop him from from spending his money on useless cancer sticks. hes 13 i dont think theres many ways to get them when your not even the legal age.
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Okay so if talking hasn't worked then its time to get the facts.... download pictures of effcts of smoking...
such as Dirty yellow fingernails..
yellow teeth
Bad Wrinkles when your 20...
Show him a picture of a healthy lung and a smokers lung.. thats one of the things that scared me never to smoke...it was truly sumthing u would lose your appetite over...
then get a smoke smell on your clothes and let him smell it.. see if he likes that smell.. i bet he doesn't.. its disgusting...
then its time to get down to business with the facts... try talkin to him one more time.. but this time have info to back everything up...
such as..
The Effects of Smoking
Smokers who have heart failure can automatically eliminate a major source of stress on their heart by quitting. Each puff of nicotine temporarily increases heart rate and blood pressure, even as less oxygen-rich blood circulates through the body. Smoking also leads to clumping or stickiness in the blood vessels feeding the heart. People who quit smoking are more likely to have their heart failure symptoms improve.
If he says something like "I just can't quit its 2 hard..." then give him some of these
Keep busy doing things that make it hard to smoke, like working in the yard, washing dishes and being more active.
Fight the urge by going places where smoking isn't allowed and staying around people who don't smoke.
Avoid situations that tempt you to smoke, like drinking coffee or alcohol.
Find a substitute to reach for instead of a cigarette. Try a hard candy.
Don't give up if you smoke a cigarette. Just resolve not to do it again.
Remind yourself that you're likely to feel better if you stop smoking.
Tell family members and friends that you need to quit smoking and need their support. If your friends smoke ask them to stop w/you.
Also include when have ur 2nd talk...that it causes cancer and heart problems.. and most people who start smoking at that age don't live past 30... i know you said for me not to tell you to talk to him.. but the only way for him to really understand is if you keep talking.. you can't give up on that stuff!
-Hope I helped-
Good Luck...
xoxo
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Well, I dont think you can do anything more. So just let him be. Its can only be his decision if he ever decides to quit smoking.
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let him smoke, if he likes it then let him. smoking is fun...in my opinion of course...
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tell him dat u dont want 2 b friendz w. sum1 who smokes if dat doznt wrk jus live w. it. hes gunna suffer 4 dat dum decision he made
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well...I mean I know alotta people that smoke...I sue to then quit...I mean it's their life...I understand you care about him...but...sometimes cigerettes and calm you down...and help you be relaxed...cuz that's what it did for me...well sorri I couldn't help
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DOnt talk to him ... give him silent treatment thats not good and if he gets caught hell go to jail !
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talking to him is probably the only thing that could work and i hate to tell it to you but thats it.. tell him that you are worried about something bad happening to him and and you dont want to loose him.. theres not much else that you can do.. i have an 11 year old cousin who smokes and drinks and my dad smokes too and i feel the same way you do about your friend, he knows its wrong but he does it anyway.. u could also tell an adult and maybe they could knock some sense into him, otherwise there isnt anything else u can do.. believe me i've tried..
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Why don't you try talking to an adult and have them talk to him that helps sometimes.
*Haleigh Ann*
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okay say u want something really bad like realy really bad...then one day you get it your happy n everything but you just dont want it as bad cuz u have it ya know? my friend really wanted to stay out late (past his curfew) and his parents let him but when they let him..it was no fun so he went home. dont tell ur friend "SMOKINGS BAD STOP U HAVE TO STOP" cuz thats just going to make them want to do it more if u tell them "you know wat...i care about you a lot and i dont want you to hurt yourself. i dont want to control wat u do because its your life you make your own decisions. some of them i wont support and others i will support you 100% smoking..i must say i dont support because i care for your health but if your going to do it im just saying be careful and i'll always be here for you because your my friend." things like that stick in peoples mind always!! sure they may start smoking but one day they will realize wat u said and thnk about it. telling someone you care means a lot...i promise.
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u have 2 get ur friend off it i have had 2 many experiances w/ smokin pot and stuff and i dont want it 2 happen 2 ne1 else just tell him this story and its mine and its tru: a bunch of my friends r in drug rehab now and one them has lung cancer and the doctor sed he has until the end of september 2 live! ive nown him since kindergarten and now im gonna lose him. another one of my very good friends died earlier this year from smking pot. a month b4 that i tried 2 get him off it...i tried 2 help him....but he couldnt help himself...he was found by his parents in his room on the floor w/ foam comi out of his mouth and blood dripping down his face. he only did pot for 2 months!! so plz just explain 2 him the consequences.
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Well, if you really have tried everything, then there isn't anything else you can do. You're going to have accept him for who he is on this one and put up with it.
If you don't want him to smoke AROUND you, then that's perfectly fine. You could always ask him to refrain from smoking while you guys are in the same area.
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well since you have already talked to him then all you can do is leave it be. just don't talk to him about it anymore. its' his life and he'll have to deal wid it.
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well the only thing you can do is talk to him.ask him questions like - where do you see yourself in the future?how do you want to die?do you want to die beacuse of smoking?if you have children later in life, do you want to tell them you might die of smoking?
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Kate
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ok even thought this is still concidering talking to him, ask him why he does it. and show him like pics of lungs of people who do and don't smoke. sorry, i really dont know what to tell you but i hope this helped even just a little. good luck.
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I say... Talk to a teacher or an adult. Or have a doctor talk to him. Honestly, there is nothing you can do to make him stop smoking, its just something he's going to have to realize on his own. You are obviously a friend who cares, and you don't want to sit back and watch your friend smoke years off of his life... so keep being supportive and try to help him. You don't need to talk to him about it all the time, just remind him every once in a while. Make hinted points of walking away when he pulls out a cigarette, and bring up photos of smoked out lungs. Do whatever it takes, you're doing a great job. Even though it doesn't seem like you're affecting him at all, you are in some way.
I hope I helped. Hang in there. If you need anything else, feel free to ask.
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