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Dump or not?
Okay, I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend that I've only been with for like around a month. But when I'm around him I don't really feel comfortable with him anymore and a few days ago he tried to get me to smoke with him by saying if you loved me you would... and i was really mad cuz im not big on drugs. I don't really want to be with him anymore, But he likes me alot. If you were me what would u do?
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ok it sounds like hes just trying to persuade you to do things you dont want to.. hes not worth it and especially if you dont want to be with him you shouldn't break it gently to him though! tell him you stillw ant to be friends but only if he cuts out the drugs adn shit.. tell him that if he really cares about you he'll do it. he shouldn't be doing that stuff anyways and tell him that you really care about him as a friend and don't want him getting hurt by that stuff!
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well if he's really hott stay with him cause he likes you alot but when you get into the drugs and he says that just say if you love me you wouldn't do drugs!! x0x0 Kay
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i think you prolly should dump him if hes trynna get you into that stuff and tellin you somethin lyke tha only way ta prove to you that you loved me was to smoke this joint.... AND you dont wanna be with him anymore ...you'll be a lot better off w/o him
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i say dump him if he is that low to use that line on you then he doesnt give a damn sorry but he doesnt care about your feelings so i say you can do better
more power to you
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wow this is tough, but if u dont like him anymore nd hes pressuring u to do things then u should break up with him..but if u do just be as nice as possible nd tell him u want to stay friends (if thats wat u want).
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if i were u i would tell it to him straight. i would say "i dont want ur drugs and if u loved me u wouldnt be forcing them on me." but thats just me. anayways if he did like u alot he wouldnt be asking u to do something that u dont want to do. anyways im sure u will make the rite decision....good luck and i hoped i helped...
P.S. rate me if i helped thanx
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ok well u dont feel comptfortble around him nd he makes u do stuff u dont want to do well then dont go with him it seems like u dont really care fo him i would break up with him nd try to advoid hanging out wit him alot
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If I were you,I would break up with him.It dosen't matter if he likes you alot.What matters is how much you love him.But you said yourself you don't feel comfortable around him anymore.And if he loved you he wouldn't pressure you into smoking.
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Break up with him, but if you like him alot too.Tell him how you're feelin about all this, but that's only if you want it to work too.
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well theres no reason you should stay with him if hes going to pressure you into things and if you dont like him any more. and the truth is, you'll probably hurt him more by staying with him when you dont like him, than you will by dumping him. so i guess i have to say dump him, but its all up to you how to break it to him. hope i helped you out =)
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If i was in your shoes i would talk to him about it and say hey you know if you really love me (put that line on him) you wouldnt make me do things that I dont want to do let alone that arent healthy for me. so just stand up for yourself and if that leads to a breakup then so be it he wasnt worth the while-trix
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DUMP HIS ASS!!!! Gurl are u serious?!?! he loves u n he makin u do drugs?!?!? I DONT THINK SO...somone who loves u or cares bout u even a lil bit they wouldnt want u to get involoved...a guy whos 14 or older they know wut they doin...they kno that drugs or smokin or w/e its no good...so plz...n plus if u dont feel comfortable around him then y are u keeping him?!?! to feel comfortable n comunication in a relationship its the key! so trust me...dont stay wit him anymore DUMP HIM...n get ur self a nice guy that will treat u like u deserve ;) (princess) :-D good luck xoxo effy
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i would end things..but thats me i dont wanna put ideas in ur head...but if someone that loves you pressures u to do something bad then thats just wrong! good luck and i hope u make the right decision
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yeah, I don't see how anyone can really like you a lot and care about you if they are saying that to you. He doesn't seem to care. I would never tell anyone to smoke because of that reason. I smoke, and know how terrible it is. Before I started I always asked my boyfriend to stop because I didn't want him to hurt. He never would have told me "if you love me you'll let me smoke, and you'll smoke with me" If he loved you then he wouldn't try to pressure you into doing things that you don't want to do. You deserve better than that. I would dump him.
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from what you said..it doesnt seem like he cares about anyone but himself!! if you dont want to be in a relationship w. him n he makes you uncomfortable..then you should get out now! in these kind of situations you HAVE to put yourself first...i kno u dont want to hurt this guy..but dont let him hurt you either!
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If that were me - I'd probably kick the living crap out of him. It doesn't really matter if he 'likes you a lot' because the guy is a loser. Feeling uncomfortable with him should have been the first sign to break up with him. Him pressuring you to do anything is grounds for an ass kicking, or at least dumping him. If you stay with him I can pretty much guarantee those 'If you love me you will' statements are going to continue, but they will be worse. Suddenly its going to be "If you love me you'll have sex with me" and crap such as that. Consider yourself lucky if you get yourself out of the relationship now before its too late and you can't get yourself out.
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i would dump him
if sum1 tried to use my relationship to do sumthin bad like drugs, he'd be gone like yesterdays garbage
if he loved you, then he would'nt try to pressure u into sumthin u don't wanna do
either explain to him how u feel and give him a chance, or do wut i would do, and dump him
There are pleanty of fish in the sea, GO FISHIN lol
hope this helped ya atleast a lil bit!!
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I would dump him. If he liked you alot he wouldn't pressure you into doing things like that. He is so not worth it
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Anyone who wants to get you to do something you don't want to do, and uses the line "If you loved me you would" can't be good for you. He may like you, but it doesn't sound like he respects you. Besides, you don't even feel comfortable around him anymore. If I were you, I'd leave him.
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I would break up with him. You can do so much better. Even though he likes you a lot, he's hurting you by saying "If you love me, you'll do this" thats pressuring you to do something. If he loves you, he wouldn't do that. Just break it off to him easy. Just be like "I think we would be better off as friends, I just don't think this is working out" You don't even feel comfortable around him, try looking for a guy who wouldn't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. I hope this helps!! =D
xoxo Kourtney
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Well if he likes u so much he wouldnt make u do something you dont want to do. If you dont want to be with him anymore i would just tell him cuz u deserve to be happy and u should feel comfortable around the person you with, or try to talk to him and work things out. Hope i helped some.
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I would tell him that that if he loved me then he would respect me and not force me to do somthing I don't want to, like do drugs.
It also sounds like he could be really bad for you, so I would get him alone so he wasn't distracted, and tell him basically what you said here, that you don't feel comfortable around him, and you don't really like him romantically either, so you think it would be best to break it off.
Good luck
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If you dont want to me with him dont be with him, a guy shouldnt pressure you into do something you dont want to do.. I would move on, you could do better and there are plenty of other guys out there
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