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what are the possible things i can expect to happen the first time i have sex, as far as physical feelings and emotional ? i mostly want to know how it will feel physically. or the things i can do so it will feel better.

Just a suggestion, you might get more clear responces from people if you specify if you are a male or a female. Men and Women as you know, feel totally different things when having sex, especially for the first time. I would be glad to answer but I don't want to tell you that your vagina is going to hurt and you don't have one you feel me hahaha

how do you fake an orgasm?im not that great at moaning lol..are there any other things? and please don't tell me not to fake it..im just wondering ;)

hahaha that was the first thing I was going to say was DONT FAKE IT hahaha ok well sometimes when you have a real orgasm your body starts spazing out so you could do that, i know there have been times where i just like flopped out hmmm how do i describe that...just kind of get totally bodily limp and just like see stars hahaha like a bright white light, that's a great orgasm! So you could fake that...not good at moaning...that's a hard one cause the body just kind of naturally moans when you are getting it good so I would practice cause that is going to be your best deal to make him think you are having a good time, unless you are doing this for a show or something...you can do the silent moan haha where everything is in your face...you know like you are feeling so good, but no sound can come out cause you got neighbors or parents in the next room so your mouth is open really wide but no sound is comming out hahahaha that would be a good one to learn. hope i gave you some good ideas...if you can get your hands on a porn and watch what the girls on there do and try to do it with your body and face without any sound then that will give you a good idea of how to do it without moaning. :)

so i gave my boyfriend a bj for the first time...he has alot of hair down there (he said he'd shave it next time for me) but yeah i didn't want to say anything but it smelt like b.o. down there....i mean, it was gross...i mean i don't expect it to smell and taste like cherries but idk is it suppose to smell like that? or is it just cause of him sweating and the hair or is that just the way cum smells? i didn't really mind the taste i just can't stand the smell...should i say something?

AMEN RAHZIE! That's all I have to say AMEN! You too babe...you shower too and then y'all can have a party!

well i have a friend that we get together sometimes. please no judging! anyways he has trouble getting it in! i mean hes cool and what not. but its a total turnoff. what should i do?

Hmmm sometimes my guy has the same proble and he is really good :) It's dark down there haha, maybe (if you don't) you could shave a little more...not bare but maybe keep it at like an inch or two, that helps...getting wetter before you let him get ready to put it in, that helps, you can help guide it, that really helps! haha We mostly have that problem when he is going from the back and what I hate is that he get's it in and then he pulls it out trying to be sexy and tease me, which would work if he could find it again easily hahahaha...just communicate with him...and you may have to help guide it in...you know make it sexy for your self...rub it on your clit while you are guiding it in... that helps and feels good. having a low light on, using some lube, spreading your legs open more...stuff like that :)

Whenever i read zane books they make me horny..After purchasing a new one today at the local bookstore and readin it i ended up masturbating until i had an orgasm and then my period came is that normal

i would think so, your period comes when it comes...I don't think the masturbation would have anything to do with it. You could be on the toilet and your period could come, you could be sleeping, you could be just rubbing lightly and it comes...you know, it just sort of pops up hahaha

I totally loved and miss Michael Jackson. I was anxious for the autopsy on Michael Jackson to be done and when it was my friend told me (because I don't have TV) that the family is requesting a second autopsy to be performed! Why?!

This makes me think that Michael Jackson was murdered or committed suicide! I mean, lots of people believed he hurt children so I understand the possibility of him being murdered is something to think about, and with all of the stress of people thinking those horrible thoughts it would make sense for him to finally snap and take his own life. I hope neither of those happened but I want to know!

What did they find out in the autopsy? Was it not cardiac arrest, which was first thought to be the reason of Michael Jackson's death?

Because people are sheisty! and they want their own doctors that they trust that will tell them the truth. That is why! i hope the come up with the real truth and handle this BS!

So I gave my boyfriend a blow job, but I'm pretty sure i only let him pre-cum but I'm not positive because i definantly swallowed something. But I heard pre-cum is just a little bit of fluid so I'm not sure. So my question is, do guys usually care if you didn't go full out? or are guys just happy there getting action?
oh and hes gotten head before but the girl couldn't make him cum.

WEEEELL this is a complex question. I think it totally depends on the guy and what he is wanting. I know sometimes my guy just wants a little bit of the sensation and he doesn't want to cum. I know some people probably take forever to cum and your jaw will definately start to hurt hahaha this is what I would do...I would do a little at the begining then a little in the middle and when he is coming close to cumming I would do it then too and you don't have to swallow it you can spit it out...unless you want to, I've read it has a lot of health benifits! hahaha I didn't believe it til I read a bunch of studies on it. You'll know if he likes it if he is like looking all relaxed or if he starts moaning a little (guys don't usually moan much, I think they think it's girly hahaha they tend to grunt though when they are giving it to you...) if his legs start moving around and if he's like making faces like biting his lip and stuff or doing that open mouth thing like UGH hahaha you know play with the balls, suck the balls, kiss and lick on the inner thigh! that one works! while you are stroking it! hahahaha And read some articles on yahoo about giving good blow jobs and hand jobs. Do this one...ice cold water, hot chocolate, drink some hot and suck then drink some cold and suck and alternate! hahaha and the ice is good too take some ice out and put it in your mouth first so it doesn't stick and then rub that on there and then put it in you and then rub it on there and alternate hahaha
I hope this was the kind of answer you were looking for, that's what I got out of the question
"did I do a good job abd how can I improve it..."
Ok Peace

how do you have sex in the water.

hahaha you just do it baby! Take off your undies and do what you do in the bed. Well naturally you can't lie down (unless you are in the bath then the girl can be on top...or the guy...in the pool though i would think it would be a girl wrap legs around body thing. Now I haven't done it in the ocean or anything but I would think that would require a little more skill for balance hahaha Peace

what is good or bad about masturbating

IT'S AWESOME hahaha That's the good part. If you are a girl the good part is doing it in the shower with the removable head. If you are a guy...I don't know haha. I think the only bad thing is if you over do it and you are so picky about it that when you go to have real sex you are all like *psh* you dont know how to please me hahaha i think that probably happens with women more than men cause like we have like over 2,000 sensitive spots on our clit alone so when you know where to rub and the dude doesn't listen that sucks. It also SUCKS if you masturbate before you have sex cause then you might not have the energy to do it (i've had guys do that to me hoping to last longer) The other good thing is that it can help you last longer if you have uninterrupted practice! If you are like super religious then maybe it is a sin for you so that is a bad part if you think you are going to be punished for it. Another good part is multiple orgasms and not having to be concerned with the "things" that happen when you have sex with another person (we all know what they could be) :P GOOD thing....being able to be as kinky as you want to be without anyone there to judge you hahaha (wow this is a great question to answer) Having a chance to figure out what turns you on and what some of your favorite spots are. Others you will have to have a partner cause some you wont be able to reach. TOYS...of which i have none :"( Good part: doing it in your own private house. Good part: Masturbating together before you have sex! AWESOME! Watching your partner masturbate is awesome hahaha such a turn on. Helps boost self esteem. You can treat your self sexy and accept that you are and be good to your self in more ways than one. :) Ummm haha i'll leave room for some other people to answer. :P

hey i was wondering..when you play with a guy with your hand its called a handjob..but what is that called when you do it to a girl..like rub them and play with their clit or just rub the area in general. (like without fingering)
thanks =]

This isn't an answer. So don't like mark me down cause you think it will be. I just wanted to say that's a WONDERFUL question. I am a girl and I would also like to know so if you find out let me know hahaha

It's very confusing. I suppose I should backtrack. So, I was in the shower one day and, having a few gay friends, I wondered what it must be like for them - you know, coming out, persecution and what-not. Then I thought 'What would it be like if I were gay?', which filled my with this awful panic. Then I was fine for weeks until I saw a program on homosexuality, which reminded me of that panic in the shower. So I thought to myself, 'Well, if you got scared does that mean you're gay?' and from then on it's been on and off. Sometimes it really gets strong and at others it is non-existant.

So, I think - so what if I am? So I watch some gay porn, think about having sex with some traditionally good-looking guys; that kind of thing. However, when I do it honestly repulses me. I shudder. I mean, I find nothing about the male form sexually attractive - nothing - but for some reason this 'what if you are?' thought persists, despite me having a large appreciate of female beauty, being aroused by women and sexually repulsed by men.

I'm an open-minded guy with similar friends; if I was to come out as gay or bisexual or whatever then I know they're fully support me, as would my family. If they didn't I wouldn't care - I wouldn't pretend to be something I'm not to anyone. It's just this 'what if?' crap that seems to niggle at me. I wouldn't mind if I just knew if I was bi or gay or whatever but I KNOW I don't find men sexually attractive yet, for some reason, the thought niggles.

I'm also feeling very, very down for no reason lately. I generally feel depressed half the time, anyway, but that's, I believe, down by hypothyroidism and that I sometimes forget to take medication. That and my diet, which consists of junk food, especially moreso since I stopped exercising regularly. So, I'm wondering, in essence, whether this is just a result of depression of a genuine sexual indentity crisis?

Again, I'd like to stress that I wouldn't mind being gay or bi - sexual desire is not something I'd let define me - it's just the not knowing crap that annoys me.

Thank you for any advice given and I apologise for the length.

You know what I go through something similar. Panic attacks, thoughts that sometimes get out of hand. I don't know how bad yours is but if it is like really bad where it effects your life and choices you should check out Lucinda Basset and her program. She has something for "what if" thinkers. Really helpful! The fact is that if you were gay you would know it. Your friends would know it, cause gay people usually have really good gay-dar. and you don't have to be gay to have gay-dar cause i have it. It's not like a prejudice or anything, I just know when someone is gay even if they look or act straight. I mean like me, I fantasize about lesbian relations and sometimes orgys, but when it comes down to it, i don't think i would ever be able to have sex with another woman, and just another woman, no guy around you know like a 3 some. I don't know it weirds me out, but i'm cool with lesbians and gays. But if I were gay it would not creep me out, I would be probably more worried about whether the person i liked would be freaked out. You feel me? So when the thoughts come, just feel them, allow them to flow, and keep you mind focused on not allowing yourself to get carried away with your immagination. There are a lot of people who go through the same thing. They call it an overactive immagination. You probably have some artistic tallents hiding away somewhere that are dying to come out and are comming out through your immagination haha peace.

I cant really get my hands on any KY jelly, so what are some other lubes I can use to give a hand job?

I used lotion before, as long as you don't get it in the tip hahaha Flavored massage oil is great casue you can taste it haha :P
The question is when you get the lube are you going to be able to give a good hand job, cause I can give you some sites with some Awesome tips hahaha!

well lately i've been watching like lesbian porn. ones with just females in it or just one female herself. & I enjoy it! A LOT. thing is though I absolutely love MALES! like everything about them . well not everything about them. yeah though . like sometimes it freaks me out about dating a female but if it freaks me out why do I like lesbian porn?

sorry if this confuses . i'm just saying what's in my head

I'm the same way. I really like to watch lesbian hentai or lestai porn. The weird thing about me is I don't like to watch human lesbians, i like to watch the Japanese anime cartoons only. Not even regular cartoon lesbian porn. I agree with the first person, different things turn people on. I am totally turned on by men. I kissed a girl before when I was in college when I was learning how to kiss, i didn't feel anything. Nothing at all, but a guy could touch my hand and i start to get wet...excuse the detail. :) Don't worry about what you like to watch, just do you. And shoot, if you one day decide to be a lesbian, or that you are a lesbian, then hey...do you. But if you are a lesbian, i'm sure you will know. :) You'll feel it in your heart. :)

I have never had sex but i told my boyfriend i have, i have been fingered, used vibrators and tampons. I was just wondering if there was anyway he would be able to tell that i havent had sex when we do have sex?

Yes. hahaha You better tell him. It is totally different when you have someone on top of you and rubbing on you and trying to aim his penis inside of your vagina. If he doesn't know, he may be rougher on you than you may be able to handle. He may expect things that you are not aware of. You may respond in a way that he may take to believe that he isn't pleasing you, when in fact you are just bewildered by certain things that may be going on. I would definately tell him. You also have to give him the choice of being the person to break your verginity. That may be very important to him, whether he wants to do that or not. If you can't be honest with him, then you should question why you are with him. If you can be honest with him, then you need to question why you feel you need to continue lie. Peace.

okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

i'm going to try to say this in the clearest most delicate way. First of all, we all do silly, stupid, and or inconsiderate things sometimes. Who knows why. So forgive your self. Yeah you hurt him, but who is he to judge you harshly, when you don't know what he may have done in his past, or may do in his future. So forgive your self. Now what you have to do is figure out why you chose to give in to peer pressure. Figure out everything you did in this situation and get to the core reason of why you did it. If you can't be clear with your self, how can you be clear with anyone else? Then you gotta let go of needing him. When you need someone so much that if they aren't around you want to kill your self, there is a problem. Don't allow him to be the excuse for your sadness. I went through bad depression and cutting. I was allowing people to be my excuse to be sad. The truth is with or without them, i would be sad or happy anyway. Because happiness comes from within your self. Next thing you gotta do is figure out what role he plays in your life. Boyfriend? Friend? Then what role he may want to continue playing, cause if he decides to forgive you, you gotta know what the standards are going to be. Then you gotta take some time and figure out who you are and what you stand for. If you need to ask me more questions or talk to me you can ok? But chill, don't be too hard on your self. We all go down that path in some form or another. Peace.

I'm a 19 year old female. I have a boyfriend and we have sex regularly. I frequently masturbate in order to reach orgasm. (He can't get me off by fingering me or going down on me - but we do continue to try). Recently when I've masturbated I've felt like I peed slightly. Is this possible and if so how can I prevent it. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend - it would be very embarrassing! Thanks!

Yes Girl! You are doing it right! You are cuming so hard that you can't controll your body. You ever heard that song where he said the girl misses him so much that she pees in the bed. hahaha I do it too. I mean if you don't want to do it then, if you can, use the bathroom before you have sex and try not to cum so hard. :P

I feel so lost. I was working as a cashier 5 months ago and I stole a gift card worth $33 from my job. I am 30 years old and have never gotten in trouble in my life before that. I was arrested in front of my coworkers and humiliated, went to jail, went to court and faced petty theft misdemeanor 1 charges. I got the sentence reduced to M4 disorderly conduct in hopes of not totally ruining my life. I have applied for many jobs and gotten turned down for all. I am getting married in a year, have no money. I have applied for minimum wage jobs and am qualified for much better jobs. I do know that I can get it expunged in 2 years, but how do I live until then?How do I feed my kids? I paid my fines,went to theft course, paid restitution, paying $550 in civil fines. And will be punished for the next 2 years. My life is falling apart for $33.00. Ending it all has entered my mind, I feel worthless!! HELP!

You know what, I feel this way a lot of times. Suicide sometimes feels like the best way to do things. You know what thoug, life is a challenge. It is hard writing this to you now even, cause i'm like who am I when I have felt the same way. It is ok though, There is always a way. Bob Marley says in one of his songs that when one door is close many more are open. That is so true of life. There are so many career opportunities that you can get involved in. Like "The Team" which is a network marketing group, Melaluca, that is network marketing too. There are lot's of things you can do. You have to remember that your choices don't define who you are. There are just moments in time. Things that happen and you get through them and you deal with the results and you work through it. There was a time when you couldn't walk and you couldn't get what you wanted, but eventually you got there. I'm sure there have been times where you may have lied and someone found out and didn't trust you the same, but you got through it. This is the same. $33 is not worth it, $1,000,000 is not woth it. There is no price on you life. There is no price on what you will learn in your life. There is no price on your children. You have to believe in your self and know that everything is going to work out. This is just a bump in the road, even though while you are climbing it it seems like a mountain. There is a book that I would like for you to read, and if you do not read they have it in a DVD...it is called The Secret. It is about the law of attraction. You can use this to better your life and your situation and how you view the situation. I am feeling kind of sad today cause I just got my first ticket ever (in my mom's car) and I am a great driver, and I'm 24. Things happen, you can get through it. There is another book that you may of heard of called A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. It is beautiful. You really should read it, anytime life throws something at me and I am feeling lost, I read this book. If you are not in a position to buy it, please, for you, go to Borders or Barnes and Nobles and read it. They let you do that for free and they don't bother you, you could stay there for hours. Take a note pad and take notes. There are so many stories that I could tell you of people who are feeling the way you are feeling right now. I would have to write a book. If you read these books though, and exercise what they teach you, I promis you, you will start to feel better and you life will improve. More than you could possibly imagine. You are successful. You will have the right career at the right time. You are a great parent. You can over come anything. You are great. Pray, if you pray...and trust. You will be fine. :) *kiss*
There are no jobs in this world that are loser jobs, there is a place for everyone, there are many people who have reached enlightenment because of working a humble job. My mom works a humble job and that place would fall apart without her, or someone working that position. I work a humble job, The owner of the most famous japanese yakiniku restaurant worked at mcdonalds for 4 years before he opened up Gyu-Kaku and became a millionaire. It will be ok. :) Hit me up if you need to talk...i will even give you my e-mail.
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Im kind of shy so im not all that loud during sex and until recently it hasnt been a problem but the guy ive been seeing kind of thinks i dont like him or like having sex with him so since im not going to be loud or anything like that considering his roommate and my friend are on the bunk above us usually how can i show him or whateve that i do like having sex with him?

Girl let me tell you, you do not have to be loud for him to know you like it. There are many things that you could do and probably should be doing naturally (if it is really as good to you as it could be) like gripping his back, moving your body around, when he is pumping into you, you pump back toward him, whispering and moaning in his ear, letting him give you a spanking, the fact that you are getting wet, cumming, the fact that your nipples are hard, gripping his hair, gripping his ears, rubbing his penis, rubbing your nipples and or clit while he is giving it to you, licking him, biting him...all these things are like really big signs that say "HEY! This sex is GREAT!" you know what i mean, and you don't have to make a lot of noise to do any of the stuff I just mentioned. Silent sex is the best sex sometimes. I don't blame you for not wanting to make noise with people around, but let me tell you...if you have the opportunity to do it making noise, i mean really letting go...you should do it, cause girl hahahaha you'll see!
Enjoy

i lost my virginity last night, but it hurt and it was reallllly hard for him to fit. he's pretty huge.. so i guess it's understandable.. but is this normal? im afraid that im just too small now. do you think this is perfectly normal? did other people go through the same thing? thanks

Yeah... "G" is right. I am just going to elaborate. The vagina is tight, the hole is small. It expands when you are getting some and gets smaller when you are not. If you have a baby it will expand even more and you will have to do exercises to get it to be small again. You may even bleed. I hurt for a few months when i started having sex. My stomach would hurt if it was to rough or if it went in too deep. It will take time for you to develop and strech out even with new positions. I am still expanding, even with regular (weekly) sex. What you should do with him is have him finger you. Add more fingers each time and have him go in a little at a time and take your time with the positions. Eventually it will feel great!
Peace

my period is always late. and i am a virgin. just for complete reassurance..theres no way i am pregnant right?

like sure he's 'came' on me and like im sure he's precame while dry-humping and such..but without his penis inside of me and cum coming out theres no way i can get pregnant, right? :) thank you.

Yeah, if it is always late, then you prolly just have irregular periods. Start writing it down if you don't yet, sometimes they shift depending on who you are around and how long you have been having them.

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