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Sorry I have absolutley no idea what subject to put this under...

I'm 16/f. One of our family friends comes over a lot to our place. He's about 50 and smokes pot and drinks from very early in the morning to when he goes to bed. He's not drunk often because he's used to it. He always looks like he's gonna kiss me and always give me hugs. He grabs my ass and rubs my legs and stuff. I'm not scared of him or what he'll do because I can stand up for myself. Yesterday he was pretty drunk when he came over, I've never seen him like that and when he kept hugging me it felt like he had an erection. He kept showing me dirty stuff on his cell phone infront of my parents who are pretty protective of me and I was so embarrassed. We both have camera phones and he was taking a photo of me and when he took it I saw it slip down a bit so he took a photo of my breasts and saved it. He always makes comments like "that's a nice necklace" or "I like that shirt on you" so he can stare at my breasts. Whenever I say something like about my appearance he grabs me around the waste and whispers that im "f***ing gorgeous". What do you think I should do? I don't want to tell anyone because I think he's harmless and he's a family friend.

Thanks

Family friend or not he's being quite disrespectful to you. OMG, he's 50! Your like leading him on, showing him your body like that and he hasn't even earn the privilege to see you. You need to carry yourself like a lady your a confident woman with him and not like some other teenage lonely whore. Right now it's like your his "Family Friend with Benefits." If you want to be a hoe and sleep with a high, drunk, unstabled,old man go for it, but i say it's not a wise chioce cause you'll feel like crap and used. Sounds like you may be a bit desperate or lonely. That guy just sounds like another old fart trying to be young and perverted. He's 50, think about it....i know love has no age or sex, but think about also if you sleep with him and you get actually attached i don't think he'll totally break his neck to fight for you. In reality your a minor and the law doesn't take well to situatons like these. He could end up in jail and if your a virgin hold off for the right "young" guy first. Well hope i helped.

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15/f. when ever i masturbate, i usually get an orgasim quick, like with in 2-3 minutes, but it only last fo like 20 seconds, maybe less, and then the feelign starts to drift away really quick. Is this normal? thanks in advance

Hey that's perfectly normal.. try doin it slow and when you feel like your cumming stop and then start back up agsin. I'm sure as time goes on as you do that u start to take a bit longer to cum...hope i helped!

~cece!

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i like a girl and she cant make out good how can i help her out with out herting her feelings?

Tell her you found a new ways to kiss and make it like a game to try new ways to kiss each other and it won't seem like your telling her she's not good. If she asks why just say you found new ways that you wanna try. I think you should be truthful with her, but make it sound like you are the victim like say it's not you but i'm not feelin it. Then ask if you can try new things with her.

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ok so i feel very embarssed to ask this question.

but. im a lesbian.
and ive never done anything with a guy, but ive done stuff with girls.

but i was wondering...when do i consier myself not a virgin. i mean when it is a girl and guy it is obvious. but with 2 girls...its not so obvious to me...soo does any one know?

I believe lesbian sex is actually going down on each other with hands, self, or dildo. hope i helped!!

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My boyfriend and i were talking about him fingering me and me giving him a handjob...are we too young? i'm 13 and he's 14 and a lot of girls in my school have been fingered and have given handjobs..help!

First of all you better not be doing this because all the other girls at school are doing it. That's the stupidiest thing to do and you mau think it's cool, but it ruins your reputation and the guys i guarantee you will take about in the lockers rooms to each other and it won't be that your a nice girl!! If you want to do this on your own just by curiousity (and only by that and not by just how the girls are doing it at skool too!) and the guy is truthworthy enough to do it with you like you two were best friends and he would never tell. Don't tell me your doing it for love becuase i trust you jun you don't know what love means and i know the boy doesn't either. He's just tryin to get a freebee. Don't make anyone pressure you into this becuase it's just not fun that way. But if you wanna do it together on your own i advice you to wait until your in high school and if the your boyfriend gets mad you for it or dumps you cause you might not be ready to do it then he really didn't like you for you in the first place. hope i helped!!!

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18/G.
I am in anal sex since few months and feeling quit normal. we do this atleast three four times a week.Is there any health risk involve in anal sex? Pls. reply.

As the other advicenators were saying that you coulg get STDs and it isn't good for your butt. It sort of backs up into your system. For more info you can go to a gyno doctor and ak more about it. hope i helped!!

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i have this vibrating massaging thing and i put it down there and it feels wicked good.. and like within a minute i feel like REALLY good but it lasts litterally 5 seconds.. is that an orgasm and is this masturbating? also one more thing, by doing that is that bad? like would it affect my eggs in the ovaries and stuff from the vibration of the massager?

First of all nothing will happen to your ovaries or eggs. You may just have short orgasms. It's not that bad. You can talk to a sex doctor and see how you can make them longer. hope i helped!

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I live in baltimore and im mostly jealous of half of the girls at my school. Most of them dress better then me, look better then me, get my boys then I do, and all around have a better life then me. People always tease me about not looking right...or not dressing GOOD ENOUGH for their like. I tried killing myself...it didnt work, i just feel unloved and unwanted. Sometimes i wished i could just be them...and live the live they live there just perfect as hell! I started prosituting to feel wanted by boys...and for a while it was good and after some time after people starting finding out and calling me a hoe I guess i found out what's wrong with it. But, still now i love attention from anyone and i love making people laugh. and i HATE everything about myself...i feel ugly. I never feel pretty and people always tell me im ugly or what's wrong with me and i always think about it and then it sticks to me...and i hate myself more and more. People tell me dont care what people say but its hard, when your in my shoes. Everyone is just living this good life...and noone understands how i feel...and the boy that i like the most wont go with me but he would go with this other girl. (I guess she's better then me too.) Please someone help me! I dont want to feel this way anymore.

Listen sweetie i haven't seen you, but i believe your beautiful in my eyes. You feel, you breathe, you think, and you want to love and that's beautiful. People can be assholes and I'm so sorry for you are getting the farty, booger, muddy end of the stick right now. If you believe in God he put you on the earth for a reason. I'm going through what your going through right now and i still have a good self esteem and try not to indulge what everyone says. It's hard as hell i truly know how you feel. I promise when you get older you'll see those people later in life and you'll have the great life and they will be fat, fugly, mean, lonely, and forgotten. It sounds like your not getting any motivation and strength to love yourself at home. Cause every thing that a child thinks and feels comes from their way of how they live at home and their families. Don't try to dress punk or look sad to others because that shows that they've won of putting you down. Don't let them win!!! Fight and try to go for more positive things in life. Be independent and be your own person and when someone says something mean to you just smile at them and go okay, really, thanks and keeping your head up high if you have no good comebacks. Talk to a counselor or anyone that you can get your feelings out to. Believe me killing yourself will just have you in hell and more miserable....TRUST ME!!! Their are people still on this earth care about you.....Hope i helped!!

(P.S. If you need someone to talk to i'm here to talk and help and to become your friends. I can always have more friends to talk to!!....go to my Advice Column and you'll see my screename and you can IM me at any time!!!)

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Ok so i am in a huge band and i am one of the dancers. When i came to the band everyone warned me about this certain guy and i dunno how it happend but he pulled me in. I totally feel for him, i dotn even know how, i knew that is i did he would want sex, and the day it happend i knew it was going to happen. But i dont understand how i let it happen. Since when i went over to his house i knew what was going to happen i lied to him and told him i was on drugs. Cause he is a huge drug addict, which is bad since i have got into drugs laitly and i am trying to quit.

anyways to the point he kept asking me and asking me finally i got mad anough and i just said ok, we used a condom and everything then we had sex. it hurt so much and i cnat believe i did it. After that i went on the pill just to be safe. But he didn't talk to me for 2 months after
it broke my heart.

now we han gout again and stuff and we talk and everyting what is srsly wrong wiht me|?
why would i even speak to him after all that.?

Because in your heart you wanted to give him another chance. It's normal! I did it with the guys i liked, but i try not too though. He just wanted to use you at that time probably or you may have been on drugs and he didn't know what he had did until he was sober. He knew he did wrong once he thought about it maybe and departed himself from you for a while. Or he plainly just used you. If he said sorry about it than you can choose to give him one more chance, but if he just came out of nowhere and you guys started hangin out again i would talk to him and have him apologize. If he doesn't apologize don't waste your time with him. If he doesn't care about you why should you care about him? I want to know what did you mean by how you two had sex and it hurt you soo much??? hope i helped and w/b plz.

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My boyfriend & I have been together for a few months. Our relationship is starting to get physical and serious. He has always made the first move to kiss me, grab me, etc. I've never been that open to do that to any guy, even though I have strong feelings for my boyfriend. How do I go about being sexy and actually making a move on him? How do I get to be the 'dominator' this time around and be really sexy about it? (17/f)

Isay as ksome of your friends that are girls and maybe look on tv either on HBO, STARZ, or SHOWTIME and they have late night sex movies that give you a great example. hope i helped!!!!

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Okay here is my story ...

I'm 23 and I live with my bf ...I never had a real bf before so all this is kinda new for me..

I did'nt know what sex was and he taught me ..everything was going great but I still hold back ..he does a great job ..he turns me on and everything..I feel great when we have sex but my problem is I don't feel the need to do sex although it's great ..I just never ask him to do sex he is the one who always has to ask ..I never do it or sometimes I just don't feel like it

Last night I asked him how he thinks our sex life is going ..he said to me that it was going great but that I have to do more..... like ask him more often to have sex ..losen up more etc etc

Help me I don't want to lose this guy he is the best but I cann't help it ..whatever I do I keep holding back .,.....

I don't have nobody to talk to ...My mom left us sins we were 12 so as you understand sins than I have been anwsering my own questions but this is one question I can't answer that's why I need help.....

thx

Sweetie it's okay really....not everyone don't need to wabt sex all the time. I understand you completely. I suggest talking to one of your close girl-friends, the gynocaligist(mentrual cycle doctor)or go online and look for lessons and classes to go to. It's all possible and if you can't find anything online go and try to find a sex store (porno or sex toys maybe) and i'm sure they know where you can get help and advice from much better. Hope i helped!!!

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Okay, I'm 16 years old and I've been getting my period for a really long time. Ever since I started getting my period, I've had a really, really heavy discharge between periods. It's really uncomfortable and I feel like it's abnormal. I literally have to wear a pad between periods because my discharge is so frequent. Is this normal, at my age, or is it something I should tell my gyno?

Thank you in advance.

Hun, mine was almost that heavy too. I advice highly that you tell your gyno. You should always,always,always tell your gyno if your have problems or ANY questions. That's what their for. She can give you pills to make the period less heavier. If she says she can't she's a lie because i got pills for it. hope i helped!!!

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ok im a 13/f i have a horse but i keep it at this guys house b/c his mom takes care of it for me. Anyway i go to his house like every other day after school and he always invites this other guy to his house and i really hate the guy he invites. But the guy likes me and if i like even walk past him he slaps my butt and crap like that i hate him but i kinda like the attention. I dont no if i should tell him to stop or just leave it like it is. Plese help. O yeah im only 13 and i would not go any futher that a kiss with a guy so dont even tell me bout that.

Ummm....hun.....if this guy os not even around your age doing that then you should have told him to stop and told your mom immediatly. But if he isn't than tell him to stop and if he does it again that slap the shit out of him!! It makes you look like a whore if you keep letting him do that to you and that your an easy peace of ass or a toy to him. Watch it no matter how cute they are let them know your a lady (i hope!) and you shouldn't be treated that way. i kno i helped!!

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when my sister was younger she had an abortion and now about 4-6 years later, she had 2 miscarrages before she got pregnet and just had another one. does anyone think it could be from it. or maybe that she was molested at a young age.

i just wanted to know because it worries me. thanks!

Well yeah...it could be from the molesting messing up her pregnancy process so i think she should go to the doctor and check it out soon. hepe i helped!!

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well to really understand whats the problem is there are somethings your gonna need to know and i think it maybe confusing so just try to understand and i will also give you a ~5~

well i think my best frind is a lesb. but the thing is i think i am too and i think she likes me and i think i do too but i really dont kno i mean we both have had boyfriends and well i dont kno can you become a les. like awile after? but i think she was always one cuz wen i would spen the night at her house we would look at movies but like Not another teen movie and stuff like that, that shows naked girls and stuff and once when she was at my house we were waching a nother movie like that and even my causin who is a boy asked me if she was a les. and i said no but the other day when i went to her house she was rubing my leg and playing aound and i was too and at 1st it was kinda wird but then i got usto it and was ok i really dont kno whats going on but now like im haveing dreams about me and her toganther like both of us marryed (with other men) and us have somthing on the side i dont kno what to do cuz i think i like her too but the thing is what if shes just like really frindy i mean i kno her for a wile and what if when i talk to her about it she get creepd out i really dont kno what to do is this all in my head or am i really a les. i really dont wanna be but than again i think i like her i dont kno what to do how can i find out if shes really one and if i am one too please help thanks

will give you a ~5~

First of all dear just because she can maturely watch girls naked doesn't mean anything. She may think it's a natural thing and it doesn't make her feel weird because she has a girl body too. Just because she doesn't freak out on girls being naked doesn't mean she's a lesbian. I understand your confusion of what road to take. You know don't label yourself so quick. We all have attractions sometimes. Just because you may like your best friend doesn't mean your a straight up lesbo now. It sounds like you could be bisexual. But, as i said don't label yourself with it. If your in your teens definitely don't label yourself cause were now developing and trying to find sexual feelings for a gender (girl or boy). Just talk to her about it and see what she says like give examples like asking her "what if a girl was attracted to you?", or ask her this "be truthful....are you bi?" and if she answers yes then slowly ask her "do you like me???" And see where that goes. It's not like your going to marry her just try it out. Don't be closed minded on this you only live once!! Hope i helped!!

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Why does my vagina smell like a fishy substance

i've heard people talk about how vaginas smell but i dont think anyone elses does?.. i hope this isnt gross! i'll rate 5's!

Don't worry a lot of girls have that smell by either you didn't wash just that one morning or you were really sweaty in an activity and you sweat a lot down there. Don't worry about it too much. Just wash yourself everyday down there and just spary a little deodorant spray (not perfume) over your underwear a little after a sweaty activity if your next going directly to a shower after it. Hope i helped, hun!!!!!!!

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Okay I have three questions.
1) Could discharge be a sign of pregnacy?
2) Is there anyway I can take a test befor my missed period? Like if I waited at least 3 weeks after the guy came inside of me?
3) Can I get a Serum Beta HCG test at like a local drug store?

Okay for Q1- no, it's usually a sign if your menstrual cycle is coming.

Q2- yes there is a test for like that. Just go into a normal drug store and look in the pregnancy section and read the labels. It should be there. That one works two weeks in advance.

Q3- No

Answer 4...........Hope i helped!!

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I think I masturabte tooo much...
Like I just discovered it 2 days ago
and I already did it about 4 times...
Is that normal? And plus after I do it
I feel like a total pervert for doing it
and it's weird, but hwen I'm doing it it feels sooo good. Im confusedddd

Trust me it's perfectly normal!!! When i started to masterbate i thought i was perverted too!! But i realized it's just my teenage hormones. Ur horny and that's okay, but don't u dare jump in bed with someone for it. What for the right time. Watch dirty movies or look at porn either way if it satifies you then go for it. But don't use money too much because if you that is now addiction. So just stay cool and have fun with it!! Old people wish they had the pleasure you get as much as you do! hope i helped!!!



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Ok so I came out to my family and friends three years ago. I haven't "liked" any specific guys before or had crushed on them or thought they were hot or anything (like I look at pictures in magazines of naked guys and I think the photography is good and they look "nice" but I do that with girls too) and I always had "crushes" on girls and thought they were hot.
So last year I started dating a girl a year older than me (I was 18 and she was 19) and we used to get sexual and stuff but it never felt right. It would get really heated while we were having sex but I didn't like being with her like holding hands and stuff and didn't consider us a couple. Eventually we broke up because of it and I figured maybe we didn't have any chemistry.
So a few months ago, I met this chick and she's the same age as me (19) and we got to know each other and we started going out. The same thing happened to me only we didn't even have sex yet. It just didn't feel "right". I didn't feel like I should be with a woman.
I am so confused now. I'm a nineteen year old female and I'm not attracted to -anyone-. Is there something wrong with me? I'm not bi. I'm not straight. I'm not even gay. I don't understand. Is this just me? Because I want to be close to someone and be in a relationship but I don't feel like I should be with guys -or- girls!

Don't rush your hormones when you'll like "someone" you'll know. Don't think your strange or anything. You may be just trying to like everyone else and have a relationship but in reality you aren't quite ready. Anyway go out with a guy and see how it feels and then write back to me. Also it could be that you really haven't found the right person. So don't panic enjoy life and take things as they come to you. Hope i helped!!

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I am glad these kids have a place to go where they may get some logical advice about sex (and some bad advice too which is sad)

I am just wondering how many of you "adults" think that too many are having sex too early? To me, they know very little about the consequences--most questions are asked after the fact. Perhaps this shows that sex education is not done early enough and it is not effective enough. What do you think?

I may not be an adult (my a female and 15 years old), but i truly understand how sad and terrible it is that young kids like me are sexually active. It often comes from just being rebellious or having low self esteem to themselves (mainly from the communication connections throughout the household with their parents). The parents i think should talk more with the kids and try to get on their level and give them some old schooling. My mom talks to me about being a lady and that the name of the game is not to give it up and that's what makes the guys go crazy. Kids my age should know like me to stay a child as long as they can as in no drinking, getting sucked into peer pressure, smoking, and sex. I don't know what's the fuss about kids my age having problems resisting peer pressure. I got it plenty of times and frankly it never bothered me to say NO. But probably for some kids it's probably really important to be in the "IN CROWD", be like "un" unique or to be cool. My parents taught me to love myself very well and just stay a kid cause i won't be a kid for long! It basically all depends on the parents and how they teach things to their kids. As much as the responsibilities, talking with them, and learning and asking about life in the house. Specially it's also most important to have a firm, but calm obedience structures. Hope i helped with this from a kid's point of view!

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