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I am a 15 year old female who likes females. I am gay, yes, get over it.Anyways I have tons of experiance in gay issues as well as medical issues cause i've had my fair share of medical problems. Trust me.
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ok so basically ive gotten advice from her before thanking if i was bi or not. Well most people said it was probably a phaze.. Well its not i am i know for a fact. i havent told any one yet not even my best friend.. Well i want to tell her but im afraid. okay so basically How do i tell her? she supports gays and all so i know she will support me but im just worried how she will act around me if i do.. Should i tell her cause im wanting to really bad. and if i do tell her how should i tell her? what to say and all. ill rate for answers
thanks guys
I told my gay friends first, then my closer friends. My best friend was the hardest person in the world to tell. She actually was the last person i told (not including my parents)
Best friends can tell, usually. She told me "yeah, i'm not surprised for some reason."
She probobly already knows, and if she doesnt, well, i'm sure she wont take it THAT hard.
Thinking about coming out is the worst part. Once you are out to people, you dont really think about it.
I'm still not out to most classmates, co-workers, ect, and well actually friday a gay guy in my chemistry class totally *accidently* outed me to someone in class and i was pissed. ANyways, yeahto get back on topic, she'll understand.
Whats a web site that I can get on at school? That I can get through blocked sites.
www.idoxy.com
I'm at school right now, and i'm using it to get on here
=)
Why don't you update your column anymore? You give wonderful advice.
Anyways, lately i think about doing sexual stuff with girls. Like when i go to sleep i'll think about girls. And what i want to do to them. I wanted to ask someone who can relate a little bit. Do you think that I am lesbian. Or is this just puberty?
Thank you =) And thank you for choosing me to ask.
Depending on weather or not you think about guys, too, you maybe bisexual or a lesbian. You may also be simply confused.
You have to realize it's natural to question your sexuality.
I can't tell you if you're a lesbian or not, thats just something that you have to figgure out. The answer, also, doesnt come overnight. It takes a while most of the time.
what is fingering?
It's just when you slide your finger over someone, sexually. Most of the time it's in a teasing manor. like if a guy fingers a girls boobs it means he's not touching them, but put his fingers all around them.
what happens if my pores are open? is it good or bad?
You want your pores to be closed and unclogged.
14/f
So I have sweaty palms all the time, no matter how cold it is. Now, I was going to put deoderant on my hands, but on the instruction label, it says "underarms only". Am I going to get a rash or something if I put deoderant on my hands? Or is there some other (inexpensive) product I should be buying?
5's for all
You can try different products, but the problem will still be there just the symptoms would eb cured.
If you want to cure the actual problem, you should look into "sweaty palm surgery". It is fairly risky but if it's a problem that is persistant and something you just really can't stand, then it might be a good idea.
Of course, you should wait untill you are older.
I'm pretty sure i'm a christian. But i sometimes doubt God and if he's there or not. Does this mean that, if i like... died tomorrow, i would go to hell. Am i not allowed to doubt God? It seems like the only people who are considered religious are the ones like "i'm sure he's real b/c i've read his word and i believed it" but... i'm a very doubtfull person and i can't just believe things like that. Does this mean i'm not going to Heaven?
It is human nature to question God and religion. I believe that you have a right to information on other religions and you SHOULD be able to do research and find something you really believe.
I honestly believe in God. I think there has to be a higher diety that created the world. There's just no other explination.
Okay, onto another subject-- Homosexuality. I am a female whos attracted to females. Does that mean i'll go to Hell? I honestly don't know. But I kjnow its just how I feel and I can't help it. I mean I can choose to act upon it or not, I guess. But why should you have to choose to act upon homosexual feelings?
If you can act on heterosexual feelings and have that be okay, why can't you love someone of the same gender? Why isn't it about LOVE, why is it made to be about gender?
In accepting who I was, I had a huge "I'm going to hell and I hate myself" phase, which i'm not entirely out of. I am questioning weather or not a person really CAN be gay, ect. I just don't know.
How CAN someone know?
You just can not simply know. You have to decide what you truley believe. And I don't think there's anything wrong with believe in something. Untill it gets to the point that you think ONLY your beliefs are correct. That's not good.
I hope I helped, and feel free to contact me individually.
so lately i have been thinking that im fat and when i eat i feel real bad. i havent really ate anything in the past 2 days and i want to go anorexic. i know theirs a better way to lose weight then that. what should i eat and what exercises should i do and for how long?
right now i do 25 sit ups in the morning, then after i eat dinner, usually from 6-7 i ride the gazelle for 30 minutes and then i get on the bike and go 8 miles. after that i do 25 situps. then right before i go to bed i do 30 sit ups. is this enough?
That is plenty. I would say you're on the verge of OVERWORKING yourself....
Just stay healthy
ok i want a subprofile but that you can do other things with icons & such not like madpro er subprofile where it's juss text. it gets boring. i did try buddy4u & it was so gay because it has to be perfecttttt & every time you save it it gets all messed up. any other ideas er websites??
thanks!!
Here's an idea-- why don't you STOP using "gay" as an insult.
hi. i'm 15/m and an in-the-closet homosexual.
here's my problem: there's this guy at my school that i really like-and i mean reeaaalllyy like. he's a really good friend of mine, too. we hang out pretty much every day. problem is, i don't know if he feels "that way". How can i find out if he likes me too without telling the whole world that i'm gay?
I would tell him that you're gay. Just see how he reacts.
If he is disgusted, then you know it wouldn't have worked out and you know that he's just immature and closed minded.
If he IS disgusted, not even friensdhip would have worked out in the first place.
Put yourself out there, and just tell him. It would be a weight off your shoulders. Plus, if he is gay too it would be the perfect opportunity to tell YOU that he's gay too.
That way, you would know if theres a chance. And if you lost his as a friend, you know it wasn't worth even liking him.
Well...it goes like this me and her are girls and were both 14 years old. We've experimented together before 3 to 4 times (no below the belt). We loved each time, but she feels that everytime after we get sexual she the next day she feels like a lesbian. She can never look at it as it was a great mind blowing experience and loves to do it. She keeps doing this ego thing sayin' i'm totally straight all the time. I am to, but i like havin' some kinky fun and she can't admit it though. She knows i want i have a strong eager for pleasure and sex, but i also want to stay a virgin until i'm in college or until 17. She's now going out wit this guy and he really doesn't make her happy like holding her and kissing her or saying imtimate sweet stuff to her. A couple of times she's told me that she really wants all that stuff. From my heart i tell her how guys are cravy to not go at her and just gaze at her beautiful figure and gorgeous green eyes. When i say those things i mean to her she says, "i wish u could be my girlfriend, but u kno how i feel about the whole lesbian thing." Just saying for me i want us to be together like that, but she really doesn't want it like i do. I can't get the words out that i want to experiment again. We haven't done it since May 25, 2005 and its now really killing me everytime i stare at her i just want to feel her lips on mine and lips and tongue on my neck making me feel in heaven. What do i do she's my best friend and i love her very much too. Do i tell her my feelings or just try to let go even though she is amazing at pleasuring so GOOD!! Help me!!
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I am a very popular female at mi highschool, and mi highschool is known for a lot of lesbians and gay males. It is crazy because I always said how it was nasty to date the same sex. Well I am realizing that I am attracted to females. Well it's one inparticular tho. It's like no one turned me out or ne thing I just catch mi palms sweating wen I get around her and me daydreamin' about her. It's even more crazier because we are so close. I don't know what to do, maybe it's just lust but I really like her. I am afarid because mi cousins would kill me if they knew, I want to tell her but don't know how. Should I give hints or just tell her? Wen would be the right time to tell mi bf and mi fav. cousin. It's not like I care if others know, I just need those three people to kno. PLEASE HELP me, rate 5's for any useful advice
Well I was at the point you are about a year ago. Anyways, you may be bi/gay, but then again you may just have a simple crush.
It happens. You aren't necessarily gay or bi. Just give it time, and let yourself feel what you feel.
Don't be afraid of it and don't worry.
If you do realize you are gay (or bi) don't tell people right away. Let yourself get used to the idea before you tell your good friends. If you have gay friends, they are great and I recomment coming out to them first. If you ever need help, i'm here!!
Ok for starters, here is some brief beackground information:
New Girl= Katelyn Everyone likes her (almost everyone). She dresses like a hooker *lol*. She has all the guys tied around her finger. And The worst thing yet. She sat in MY Lap! :|
I was sitting in Gym and the girl comes up to me and wrappes her arms around my neck and sits in my lap! So I said "Kayelyn I'm Not That Way!!" and She said "I'm not either!". So she got off. Then About a couple of minutes later she did it again. What can I tell this girl? I'm a GIRL! I'm Not Bi, or Lesbian I am STRAIT!!!
It doesn't mean anything. Shes just affectionite. Get over it if it makes you uncomfortable, or just tell her your not touchy-feely. But seriously, don't be such a homophobe.
Oh and about the gay porn, so what??? So what if she IS bi?
Why in the hell does it matter? Honestly? WHat's the big deal?
If she knows your straight, then she WON'T make a move. Trust me.
my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do?
Trust me, they are not worth it. Don't do anything but pity them for being so closed minded.