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Here are some things about me.

A lot of people judge me on what they see but never really know whats going on. I'm not close to perfect and I'm not afraid to show it. So many things have happened to me that it seems surreal sometimes. But now I'm finally happy with myself and my life. So haters keep hating because I realized how blessed I truely am.


advice

hi i was wondering im 13 and i have acne..does it go away when you get older? If it does what age does it stop growing and go away?
Thanks!
I greatly appreciate it!

Every case is different. But for most people it goes away after puberty. I was the exact same age as you when I first starting to get acne. I tried so many products from ProActiv which was something I saw celebrities using on TV to Differin which was something recommended from my doctor. Nothing worked until I started to use Clearasil Ultra. It helped me so much. Like I said every case is defferent so the products that didn't work for me may work for you.
Below is the Clearasil Ultra website.
http://www.clearasil.us/what_ultra.shtml

I hope I help but if not just write me back.

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I hear it allot, in songs, tv, conversations what exacally does "grind" mean.. like in that one song. Grind with me? just wondering what it means thank you

Its a very sexual dance when a female rubs her butt or private area on the guys private area. It can also be the other way around because guys grind on girls also.

If you don't understand my definition then I recommend you looking at the second definition on the following site.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=grind

If you want a visual image then you should watch this music video on the website below.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=F-JDp5xlWJk

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ok so theres this song by chingy but i forgot what its called! all i can remember from it is it sounds like...like a strippaaa a one way rippaaa..sumthin like that lol. please help! =)

If this is the song you are talking about.
http://www.completealbumlyrics.com/lyric/131025/Chingy+-+Dem+Jeans.html

Then it is called "Dem Jeans."

Hope I helped, but if not feel free to write me back and I will try my best to help.

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I'm concerned about a couple of friends I have...I was wondering what age is appropriate to have sex...12?...14?...16?...18?...older?...they say they love the guy but come on...what's too young?

In my opinion, sex is something that should not be experienced until marriage. I know from experience that acting in sex is a very tempting thing and I also know that many people act in this before marriage but I think it is something that was designed by God to be experienced between husband and wife.
But if you dont agree with this (and ofcourse you dont have to) then I think the best time is when you are physically and mentally ready for it.

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okay so i heard a song the other day, and i can't figure out the name of it.

it goes something like "i'm so ashamed to love again.." i know it's sung by a guy, or group of guys. they sound kinda like nickelback.

it anyone could help me out i'd really appreciate it! :]

only search advicenators.com


I did a search by typing in the words above. There are five songs that have lyrics similar to those you gave but none had the exact same words. So I recommend checking out the first five websites that appear and see if one of them is the song you are looking for.

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um
i dont have any falts and i think were just tay at my house.. so i dont know about shoes

but yeah um can you recomend any movies
comdeys that we could watch

That's fine wear whatever shoes you feel comfortable in then.

Some comedies I would recommend are
-Nacho Libre
-Not Another Teen Movie
-Scary Movie 1,2,3, or 4
-The Break Up
-Click
-Only Human
-Napoleon Dynamite

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18/F

Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. I really want to lose my virginity to him. He is not a virgin but obviously I am.

I've talked to him about it and he says its my decision and he will stand behind which ever I make. (Wait or Not Wait)

Half of me wants to do something, then the other half is just like worried. I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man.

What do you guys thimk I should do?

Also, I heard you bleed a lot when you lose it. He has a rather large penis. So will I bleed heavy like on my period? Or just a little? And if I put my pants on afterwards, will I bleed threw my pants?

Thanks.

I am very happy for you. Since you know that you will be with this man forever, then it should be no problem for yall to wait until marriage. After all yall do have the rest of yall's lives together.
Think about it. You can either loose it now to a man who isn't even your husband. Or you can wait until you are marry and give your husband the most precious and honorable gift a wife could ever give to her husband.

In the end the decision is yours. Please don't take it lightly. I hope I helped but if not feel free to write me back.

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I know this isn't the right catagory but its the only one I could think of.
So anyway im a 14/f,
I masturbate every now and then, and I've looked at porn once or twice. Well my question is that if I get turned on by girls who doing sexual things with eachother does that make me a lesbian or bi or something? I have crushes on guys and I have a boyfriend and I've never had feelings for a girl, but I get turned on by girls doing stuff like that. Is this normal? Thank you so much for the help!

Yes this is completely normal. And I am speaking from experience. I had a phase just like you when I was going through puberty.

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Hey um you just answered my question about my guy friend whos coming to my house.

Um how can i be less nervous like any tips you have

and i think he wants help makeing a myspace..

and what isnt to dressy that i can wear

Hey Tory,
Well first I'll start off with some tips to help you stop being nervous.
1)Don't think to much. Don't try to think everything through. Ofcourse you shouldn't say everything that comes to your mind, but don't take forever just to respond to his questions or think about your next move.

2)Relax and don't stress. This date should be fun, not stressful. So try to enjoy yourself. If you are enjoying yourself, chances are he will enjoy himself. But if you are stressing yourself, chances are he will stress himself.

3)Flirt. Flirting is a fun and easy tool to help make the date even better. Laugh, smile, and give him a few compliments. Let him know that you are glad that yall decided to get together.

Now I will give you some tips on how to dress.
*Keep it simple but cute.*
DON'T
-wear a lot of makeup
-wear heels, stilettos, pumps
-wear tennis shoes (I don't recommend wearing tennis shoes because its to casual, but if you feel comfortable with tennis shoes then go for it but make sure they are clean)
-put on to much accessories
DO
-wear a little eyeliner
-wear some cute flats
-wear a cute blouse/shirt
-wear a skirt with some leggings or some nice jeans
-wear just a necklace or a couple of bracelits

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Hey! 15/f

I am really confused about my relationship with this guy that i met really reacently.

I met him outside of target while i was sitting in the car while my mom was inside. After a while of glanceing at each other he came up and knocked on my window and after talking for a little while he asked for my number.
We have been text messageing each other for a little over a week now and he wants to come vist me at my house. Since i have only seen him in person once it will be really werid for me and i am realy nervous about it. He wants to come over tammarow and see me. We both like each other and he is really sweet, but since i havent had a boyfriend before ans i dont hang out with very many guys im extermly nervous.
Do you guys have any tips onwhat we could do?
What to wear?
and Just and thing in general would be great!
Thanks so much!!!
Tory

1)Don't be nervous, trust me it will show. Just be yourself. Act as if you were hanging with one of your friends (just cut out all of the girly stuff)

2)Wear something simple but cute. You don't want to dress to nice because then it will look like you were really really trying to impress him; and sometimes that can be a turn off. I suggest something like a skirt with leggings and a cute shirt or some jeans and a cute shirt.

3)If he is coming over your house you guys could either watch a movie or walk around your nieghborhood. If yall decide to walk around then that would be the perfect chance for yall to talk more and get to know each other better. If yall decide to watch a movie that would also be a good choice. It would be really romantic and you wouldn't be pressured to have a lot of conversation. The type of movie you pick to watch will also help set the mood. If you pick a horror movie, you could get close to him on the scary parts. If you pick a funny movie, it would definitely be enjoyable because yall will be laughing most of the time.

I hope I helped you, but if not feel free to write me back.

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Any one know any good friendship qoutes they can send me?

My favorite friendship quote is
"A friendship that can end never began."

Here are some excellent websites with some really good qoutes on friendship.

http://www.expage.com/page/snowmonkey4/

http://www.friendship.com.au/quotes/quofri.html

http://www.indianchild.com/friendship_quotations.htm

http://www.theholidayspot.com/friendship/quotes.htm

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okay, so im having a party today
(14-15 year olds)
what songs should i put on my ipod?
nothing punk-- i've got alot of that already on there. lol.

Below are all dancing songs that I love. So I hope you enjoy them as well.

*Walk It Out-DJ Unk
*Stuntin Like My Daddy-Lil Wayne feat. Bird Man
*Get Up- Ciara feat. Chamillionaire
*Chicken Noodle Soup-Dj Webstar feat. Young B
*Do It To It-Cherish feat. Sean Paul of the Young Bloodz
*Lean Wit It Rock Wit It-Dem Franchize Boyz
*Itz Goin Down-Yung Joc
*Come To Me-Diddy feat. Nicole Scherzinger
*Everytime The Beat Drop-Monica feat. Dem Franchize Boyz

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hi, well why does the musical grease still appeal to a teen audience today, after 30 years of it being made. thanks.

I think its because we can still relate to the situations that were happening in the movie. Especially when it came to the love scenes and the peer pressure in the movie.

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ok so i have homecoming in 2 weeks and i was wondering what would clear up current and help prevent zits for the next two weeks. thank you very much. i wash my face twice daily and i dont have that much money. i can feel one coming just below my nose. what can i do to get rid of it fast. it hurts really bad.

(f/16)

When I had acne I used Clearasil Ultra and it worked really good.

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Ok, I dress very Chici-ish and my friends make fun of my fashion sence what should i tell them?

Tell them that you are simply being you're self because if you won't be yourself then who else will?

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my friend keeps telling me im a fuck buddy with this guy, and i kno he doesnt use me for fooling around... its me who usually begins everything and i kno he couldent jus resit, ya kno.. and he calls me to hang out and times we dont do ne thing.. and everytime im with him its like we going out but i woldent go out with him. so is this " fuckbuddies"??

Yes it is. Because that is just another word for friends with benefits.

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What is the safest and most inexpensive way to meet nice single guys? I already know it's not at the bar or on dating sites! Does anyone have any ideas?

It depends on your age. If you are a teen then these are some places I recommend.
-mall
-skating rink
-parties
-I'm not sure about where you live. But where I live there is this place called Flipper McCoys(its basically like a more mature Chuckie Cheese for teens)
-Carnivals
-ice cream polar
-beach

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I'm going to a new school this year she I don't have a lot of friends. There's a guy that talks to me, whose name is Alex. He has been nice to me unlike anyone else and he's fun. I think he's wanting to take things past friendship, but i'm not sure if he's a good person to get involved with. He's (from what he's said) probably not a virgin and he cusses a lot. I'm a Christian. Is he just going to drag me down? Should I even continue our frienship? I'm afraid of being all alone again without any friends. I'm not good at starting conversations or getting to know people.

You should want someone to lift you up and help you along the way in your Christian walk and your everyday life. If he already does things as a friend that may show signs of him draggin you down. Then I definitely wouldn't go with him. But its okay to be his friend. Who knows, maybe you can help him out.

There is a simple little secret to making friends and that is to be friendly.
-Smile
-Hold your head up
-be yourself
-laugh and be happy

You said your not good with conversation starters so here are a few that should help you.
-hi mi name is...what's yours
-are you from around here
-so what classes do you have

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13/f
are there any ways to get a guy to kiss you? i have a boyfriend but its very awkward whenever we want to kiss. how can i loosen the tension and enjoy the moment?

Send him signals that you want to kiss him.
-Be a little touchy
-look him in the eyes
-keep your breath minty fresh
-lick your lips
-stare at his lips

DON'T THINK when you are kissing him. Just enjoy it. Don't worry about if you are doing anything wrong.

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14/f

Okay so me and my boyfriend started having sex a couple weeks ago .. ik im probably going to get some smart ass remakrs saying im too young, or imma slut. so just save it please. But i Really love him so its worth it. But anyways the first time we did the condom broke, and then a couple times after he didnt use a condom .. Im worried i might be pregnant. tomorrow hes taking me to the clinic so i can get a pregnancy test cuz he doesnt trust the store bought ones.. Hes turning 17 on Sept. 11th and idunno what i would do if i was. I really love him and he loves me.. but im only 14. abortion is NOT an option.. idunno im really stressed out right now .. Im on 3 cheerleading teams and i would have to quit alla them.. GRR

sry this is so long.

When acting in sex there is always a chance that you can get pregnant. But since you'll did it without a condom the chances of even higher.

As a cheerleader myself, I know how you feel by not wanting to quit cheerleading.

I'm praying for you. If you need any other help or advice feel free to let me know.

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