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Losing Virginity.

Question Posted Thursday October 26 2006, 3:09 pm


Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. I really want to lose my virginity to him. He is not a virgin but obviously I am.

I've talked to him about it and he says its my decision and he will stand behind which ever I make. (Wait or Not Wait)

Half of me wants to do something, then the other half is just like worried. I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man.

What do you guys thimk I should do?

Also, I heard you bleed a lot when you lose it. He has a rather large penis. So will I bleed heavy like on my period? Or just a little? And if I put my pants on afterwards, will I bleed threw my pants?


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duckieh20lol answered Sunday November 19 2006, 10:24 am:
Dear u,

Do watever you feel comfortable with doing its good that your boyfriend does not force you into doing it.

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Madalyn772 answered Saturday November 4 2006, 9:06 pm:
You have to go with your gut. If you have been dating for over 2 years, you should most likely be old enough to realize the consequences of having sex. It's good that he isn't pressuring you and will stand by your decision.

The bleeding that comes with losing your virginity is the blood from the hymen, which is broken when the vagina is penetrated. Your body will expand to accomodate his penis, don't worry about that. It may be a bit uncomfortable, but it shouldn't be bad.

The blood loss will be nothing like your period. Imagine a cut on your leg while your shaving and multiply that by 2. That's it. Not bad at all. I would recommend bringing a pantiliner with you, just in case. All girls are different.

Remember to use a condom, and be safe.

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fatalxheart answered Saturday November 4 2006, 11:31 am:
I was going through the same thing a few weeks ago. I'm worried about the consequences and it hurting and such, otherwise I feel ready, yet my friends are saying I'm not ready if I'm still thinking about it.

I truthfully believe no one is ever fully ready, but do what you feel is right. If you feel it is right for not only you, but both of you as a couple, then yeah, you may be ready.

I'm not going to to tell you whether or not you're ready, or if you should do it, but if you feel that it is right, then go for it. But if you have second thoughts, then it's just not meant at this very moment. Just wait a little while.

and i'm not sure about the bleeding, sorry. but i've heard that it varies from girl to girl. I suggest getting an old towel and having that under you when you have sex just incase.

Good luck! =]

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Melody answered Saturday November 4 2006, 5:39 am:
if you have any doubts, don't have sex. that's what i tell everyone. if you know you'll be with this man for the rest of your life, there is plenty of time to decide and no reason to make a hurried decision that's going to change your life from here on.

if you do decide to have sex, don't worry about his penis size. make sure you are relaxed and well lubricated. this expands your vagina and prepares it for sex as well as reducing friction. you may bleed, some girls do. it should be nothing like a period, though. you may get a spot in your underwear at most, it shouldn't go through your pants.

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kaycilane answered Tuesday October 31 2006, 12:57 am:
Well, i used to be just like you. dont't worry about it, it's no big deal. and you won't bleed much, if it all. Your hymen could have broken way before now. No big deal. don't worry.

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gerilynnxo answered Monday October 30 2006, 8:16 pm:
the desicion should really be all yours. i cant really tell yuo what to do; but if you are feeling that this is life lasting go ahead..

i think the bleeding thing varies. i dont thnk it matters how big it is either, as long as it can break it, i dont thnk it matters. i would put on a pantiliner or somthng. and i dont thnk you will bleed heavy on your period.

♥ gerilyyn

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stillstella answered Sunday October 29 2006, 3:12 pm:
I am very happy for you. Since you know that you will be with this man forever, then it should be no problem for yall to wait until marriage. After all yall do have the rest of yall's lives together.
Think about it. You can either loose it now to a man who isn't even your husband. Or you can wait until you are marry and give your husband the most precious and honorable gift a wife could ever give to her husband.

In the end the decision is yours. Please don't take it lightly. I hope I helped but if not feel free to write me back.

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karisue answered Saturday October 28 2006, 12:04 pm:
if you aren't 100% sure you want to do it, then don't. wait until you have no doubts in your mind whatsoever. it'll make it so much better also.

you only bleed if your cherry hasn't been popped. i'm 16 & i've been having sex since i was 13 (yeah, yeah) & i've never bled during it, not even once, mainly because my cherry was popped while i was running.

but if he does pop your cherry, it doesn't bleed a lot just a slight amount, enough to go through your underwear probably, but not your jeans. so i would take cautions if you put your pants & stuff back on, if you know your cherry hasn't been popped.

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Monica13 answered Saturday October 28 2006, 4:59 am:
Ok i haven't done "it" yet because 1:I am 13 2:i play safe.If you do do "it" theres a good chace you could get pregant,have a abortion,or badness. Badness=when you have a baby earily in life {& when you are not married} it ruins your life.Trust me I know,That happened to my grandmother.She was her mothers 2nd child and she didn't want her.Because she knew she couldn't give her the life the deserved.So she rarly saw her.Later in life,when she died,my grand mother was in viegina and found out she had triplete sisters.My grandmother is 63 and loves her mom even thogh she didn't want her.Your choice.Make the smart one.

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beenxtherex33 answered Friday October 27 2006, 10:07 pm:
yeah, it is obvious you probably won't be with him forever, but if you want to have sex with him, do what you think is right. you have been together for two years, and it really doesn't seem like he's pressuring you, so he'll probably respect whatever desision you make.. which is great. so about this losing virginity thing. i lost mine around this time last year.. and for some reason i didnt bleed.. & it didnt hurt at all, and my boyfriend [who i am still with today] had a huge penis. like 7 and a half inches & really thick.. so im sure if there was supposed to be alot of blood, it would have happened to me. the only reason you bleed is because he pops your cherry. [breaks your hymen..] and yeah.. i broke mine while trying to take out a tampon.. & that made me bleed but not alot .. so thats probably what you'll experience. it's not that painfull.. hopefully you'll be comfortable with whatever descision you make. good luck :]

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xoiiloveyou143xo answered Friday October 27 2006, 3:21 pm:
If you are having second thoughts about having sex, then you probably aren't ready. You will know when you are or not. As for the bleeding, it varies from girl to girl. I barely bled. I doubt it will be as much as your period, if the guy is gentle and patient with you...which I'm sure he will be.

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vanewc272 answered Thursday October 26 2006, 6:41 pm:
"I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man." I wouldn't completely depend that you found your true lover at 16 but you very well might have... if you've waited this long for sex, he obviously really likes you as a person so rock on unless you feel too for the bleeding, doubt it's that critical should probably stop fairly quickly and if you shower first yo pants won't get bloody ;D


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piglet answered Thursday October 26 2006, 5:40 pm:
i can only say do what you think feels right for you uv been together 2 and a half yrs he waited a long time there is no harm in him waiting abit long for you to do what feels right he seen a very nice man to wait fir you but abotu the bleeeding thing everyone is different some people bleed alot some bleed only a little thats all im going to say im not going to tell you what to do only you no whats right for you so go woth that good luck and all the best

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BrOokiEBaBeyyy answered Thursday October 26 2006, 3:59 pm:
Dont have sex with him now!! wait until your married because then you'll be sure that you are gunna spend the rest of your life with him

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VainTaraLynn answered Thursday October 26 2006, 3:44 pm:
Honestly, no one can answer this except you. We can give advice about what we wouldnt or would do, but ultimately its your decision. If you feel that you've been together long enough, and that you really love him & that it would be special, then I'd say do it. Only if you feel that you are ready and are able to accept the risks/consequences/benefits that could come from it. Know what you're getting into and what could or could not happen. Just be aware of everything before making your decision. Read about stories online of girls who have lost it and what happened afterwards to become familiar with situations that may arise.

As for the bleeding, everyone is different. I didnt bleed my first time, but some of my friends did. It all depends. The heavyness of it can vary. Ive heard in some cases it was alot, but it doesnt last. It just happens the moment the hymen is broken. If you do decide to do it and you do bleed, take a shower afterwards and it should stop, so when you put your clothes back on you'll be fine.

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