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what age is the right age?
I'm concerned about a couple of friends I have...I was wondering what age is appropriate to have sex...12?...14?...16?...18?...older?...they say they love the guy but come on...what's too young?
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I think between 16 and 18 would be a really good age because your maturing and you know what you want and your feelings. Also, if you get pregnant, it's not that bad, unlike 12, 13, 14, or 15.
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dear u,
you should tell ur friends to wait till they are 18 or older
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No one can say whats to young. Everyone believes something different. Some people think that age shouldnt matter. If someone understands what they are doing, the problems that could happen if something go wrongs.. and if they are truly comfotable with their decision.
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It might seem wrong if a 12, 13, 14, or 15 was having sex, but that doesnt mean they are not ready for it. It depends on the level of maturaty (spelling?) of that person.
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If you friends want to have sex, that is their decision, you can try to help them choose wather or not their decision was right, but in the end,. they will do what they think is right. Help your friend understand that sex is searious, and to use the correct protection to keep her/him from getting hurt.
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I personally don't think there is a right or wrong age to have sex. If you feel comfortable with making that decsion then you should be able to take actions on that decision,.. everyones is different so theres not clear answer to your question.
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It all depends on the person. Personally, 12, 14 and probably 16 are too young. My advice to them is to wait until after high school. When they turn 18, they become adults and manage their health.
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Well it all depends if they (in meaning the girl and the guy) both have a strong connection with each other and they are both confortable with each other and wont break up with one another. What i mean is that they must be ready and comited to be having a baby.
MY cousin had sex with her boyfriend (and i am keeping it a secret and allowing her to confront her fears in telling her mom herself) and she is 12. She says she was ready, but the question is, is she really??? Can they really pull this off ON THEIR OWN??? and do they have the time to spend with the baby???? school is important and i feel they should not do it until they are out of shool...and i mean out of college too.
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well, i think that 16 is an ok age to have sex. 15 and under.. not a good idea. i lost my virginity when i was 14.. and i definitly regret that. i wasn't ready at all. they shouldn't be doing it just because they love him. it should be because they love eachother and that she's ready.
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Haha. Great question. Why? Because nobody is asking whats the legal age to have sex. Everybody knows that. Eighteen.
Now it becomes a personal opinion.
Well of course, we all know that young teenage girls fully comprehend what true love is and are fully capable of maturely expressing themselves. They might really really really really really like the guy, but what they don't like is the responsibilities and/or consequences that come with sex. People push that aside. "Oh that won't happen to you," is what the media says to us.
If they are not ready and willing to deal with raising children and take full responsibility for everything, then they are too young. I'll call it at 18.
Why not wait until marriage? You don't even have to look at it as a religious thing - do you wanna spend your life with someone who's been around with other people?
Really, those stories about 12 year olds are not only disgusting, they are pathetic. Do you know how the rest of the world sees teenagers, like all the grown ups? The same way we see 4th graders. When we were in 3rd and 4th, it didn't seem that young at all, see what I mean?
Sorry for rambling on... For a more direct answer, as I'm sure people have said, it is different for everyone. Some people really could handle it at 14, while others could break and fall apart at 16. I say 18 is legal, so why not? Hope that helped.
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There is no set "right age"
it is different for everyone.
but these days there are so many teens who choose to have sex and then they later regret it. Just try to talk to your friends and make sure they know what they are doing.
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In my opinion, sex is something that should not be experienced until marriage. I know from experience that acting in sex is a very tempting thing and I also know that many people act in this before marriage but I think it is something that was designed by God to be experienced between husband and wife.
But if you dont agree with this (and ofcourse you dont have to) then I think the best time is when you are physically and mentally ready for it.
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I am 14 and haven't had sex. I'd have to say 18. that way you are old enough to make all yer own decisions (:
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Ok, i think that you should not have sex to express your love for one another because there are other ways. Plus, if you feel you are in love, and you really want to have sex, than think about your situation. Are you old enough to have a child, and to get a job, and will you handle the pressure of being in school and having a baby, will you even be able to go to school, will your guy stay with you, are you willing to reverse your life's work, because sex can lead to babies, and abortion, and problems you will face. I reccomend you wait, until you are ready, and mature enough to tell your parents, and dont be stupid and have it at age 12, be smart! I would rather someone have it at age 45 and be ready for it, then a 14 year old. And with all of the social diseases going around. There are risks. I feel the youngest age, if anything 17 , and i personally still think that is too young, but if you feel you are ready go ahead, but it will come with alot hurdles.
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Well actually it doesn't matter about the age it just matters if you are ready emotially and physically and if you are actually in love with this person.
You should know if you're in love with them if you've been with them for awhile.
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I think it really depends on the people involved, different people mature at different rates and are ready at different times. Obviously, having sex at the ages of 12, 13 and 14 isn't a particularly good idea because generally people that age aren't physically and emotionally mature enough to have sex.
Also, the legal age of consent is there for a reason (in most countries 16-18). Having said that, you do get 15 year olds who are ready and do it safely and maturly.
If you are worried about your friends, then try talking to them about it and try to make them think about whether they are actually ready.
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i'm not going to be rude, but i am going to be honest.
there is no right age for sex.
it's all based upon when you are ready.
there aren't such things as too young, or too old. it's up to you & no one else.
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i think you should have sex when you're in love. i also think you really can't experience TRUE love until you're at least 16 give or take. i don't think you're ready to make those kind of decisions before that age either. i guess there really isn't an appropriate age. just whenever you're responsible enough i suppose.
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I think if someone's gonna lose it in their teen years, 16 is about average if not 17. that's when most can actually make somewhat educated choices. but i do think 18 is better... an adult that could raise a child with a job. 12 is too young. a lot of girls don't even have their period yet and the boys... they're still little boys. 14 is still pretty young but it's not uncommon. i think they should find other ways to show their love for the time being. oral.. fine so be it but jsut having sex cuz they think thats the only way to express themselves is a little extreme for someone young. <3
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Love or not, no matter how old you are, you shouldn't have sex until you are ready for it. This website has a list of all of the things you should consider before having sex. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
I don't feel that many young teenagers are mentally mature enough to fully understand the meaning of sex and how it relates to love. Sex and love are very complex and teens are still developing mentally. Having sex at a young age can have detrimental emotional consequences, not just physical. I've seen it happen and it's not pretty.
I would say that sex before the age of 18 is stupid and before the age of 16 just isn't right. There is always the risk of pregnancy. Your friends think that its going to be special for them. Guys and girls view sex very differently. Guys tend not to attach meanings to everything like girls do. Your friends are going to get their hearts broken and its going to be even worse if it's by the guys they lost their virginity to and thought that because of that they would be together forever. They may not see it now, but a few years from now, they will most definitely regret having sex at a young age. Have you ever heard anyone say "I wish I'd had sex when I was 13"? No, it's always, "I wish I had waited".
Try to talk some sense into your friends. The decision is always theirs, but be a good friend and at least try to help them do the right thing. If they end up doing it anyway, be there for them when it all falls apart. They will need your support. Good luck.
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It depends where you live. I believe 12, is wayy too young, I mean, you'd be like a beyond slut, if you did it then. 14 you'd be a slut then. 16.. where I live, is where its more common. 18 then, is basically no big deal.. everyone does it then. Well, most. Do it when you want, not when its approiate. You just gotta think of the bad things, about what could happen. I'm only 14, & i've got guys coming to my house all the time. I turn them down though, of course.
I hope I helped, okay bye.
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I've always believed that you are too young to be engaging in sex if you can not support a child on your own. I suppose that breaks down to 18, because then a full-time job would be more feasible, seeing as how high school is completed around that time and no longer being a minor, they can legally agree to whichever contracts or finacial loans they need.
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WOW. ok, 12 and 14 are deffinetly too young. If your friends feel comfortabgle doing it at this age, then let them go for it. 16 and 18 are better ages, Im not saying they should have sex, but it a better age then 12 and 14. I wouldn't worry about it. Its not your life, its theirs.
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emily
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