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Hey!

I'm Jacky. =]

I used to have a pic of me up but now I don't because that one was really old but I'll be getting a new one soon.

I was born in Augsburg, Germany although I've lived in many other places because my dad was in the army and right now I am currently living in Rochester, Minnesota.

I hate the weather here.

I wish I could move back to Germany because I love it there. All my relatives live there.

I'm sane here because I have my friends and family.

I'm pretty optimistic most of the time unless someone gets on my really bad side and I try to be positive. It's hard sometimes.

I love to give people advice. I'm pretty good at that.

I play soccer and tennis. I'm pretty athletic and I love to dance. I used to be in precision. I also love to sing.

I'm pretty outgoing even around strangers but that's nothing new. Haha.

If you want to get to know me more just IM me on aim or something or if you need advice just ask anytime because I'm on daily.

Thanks lots!
Jacky.

advice

Ok, so my friend has become serious with her BF. AND SHES COMPLETELY BETRAYED WHO SHE IS!!! Shes like super perky and totally self-centered all of the sudden. She used to be super nice and caring with a bit of goth-ness to her. Now all she can talk about how happy/lucky she is and completely ignores my problems or anything i want to talk about. I know she loves her BF, i'm not saying they should break up, but how can i tell her about this without looking like a bitch?
This Perky Narcissist is not the girl who used to be my friend.
I want my friend back =(

Ugh.
I know how this is.
I've been threw this with plentyy of friends.
Thing is, not much you can do when they're 'in love'.
Yes, you can talk to them about it.
It's just the way they're reacting because they think they have the best thing in the world.
Just talk to her about it though.
She shouldn't think your a bitch, just tell her that it's upsetting you because you feel like you're losing the way your friend is over a boy.
I'm sure she'll understand if she's a friend.
When you fall in love, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about.
I'm sure you even do, but I'm sure everything will turn out fine. :]
And trust me, when girls get a boyfriend they like so much, they'll definetly act more perky and self-centered.
It's just a girl being a girl.
Haha.
I hope I helped hun! :]
If you need anymore advice, just ask anytime. :D

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One of my best friends is in the relationship i think is bad.He is going with a 16 year old girl whom he tells people 18 or 19. He is 22. First of all when he is around our friends he says things about her like "that b!@#$...." or "she's so stupid" But around her its "hey baby or sweetie" At the same time she has on her profile that she loves him very much but wishes he loved her the same. Just last night they were talking on the phone when he says here talk to (me) I froze I didn't want to talk to her. Dont get me wrong shes a sweet girl and all. I just don't think that they are right for each other. I don't want to say the wrong thing and ruin our great friendship.

Ooh, so your best friend is going out with a youngin?
Hm.
Well, if he calls her bad names behind her back, I think that's pretty rude, he seems pretty two faced in my opinion.
If I were to tell you my honest opinion, I'd say that the relationship isn't right because of him, from what I'm hearing that's he's calling her.
But I don't know the details, so I can't really give a suggestive answer like that.
I'm just saying.
But, if you want to be honest and let him know you don't think the relationship is going right, go for it.
It can't hurt.
If he gets pissed, that's his deal.
There's no reason why he should, just explain to him why you think that.
I hope I helped! xx

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My a this guy are a little more than friends. I just found out few months ago got a girlfriend. Should I continue my relationship with him?

Hm, well, if you does have a girlfriend, maybe you shouldn't be more then friends.
It's really up to you, it's probably the wrong thing to do since how he has a girlfriend.
I'd say you can still stay friends with him even though it is hard, I know.
The thing I don't understand is if you and him were more then friends why did he go off and get a girlfriend?
Maybe this guy is too good to be true, or maybe he just doesn't know what he wants.
Whether I'm right or wrong, is besides the point.
You should talk to him about it and ask him what he wants.
Also, think about what you want.
I hope I helped hun! xx

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Okey. I have my cartlige done on both sides of the top of my ears. But today I did another peircing underneath them. so I now have two peircings at the top of my ear. but the thing is, on one side, I got it like on the bendy part of my ear. Is that very bad or is it ok to keep it there. And if I do leave it in and it gets infected, will it be able to turn into sumthing real bad or if I take it out will it stop being infected soon.

It's not bad to leave it there, but you should use some stuff to keep your ears clean so they don't get infected.
I've had it pierced to before, but I was stupid and left them out to long and it closed up.
But, you should definitely leave it in if you keep it clean, don't take it out unless it starts to hurt or it's just temporary.
By the way, I'm sure it looks really cute! :]
Hope I helped! xx

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It seems like every friday that my boyfriend and I go out to eat all the buffets serve fish. Why is it always fish friday? Can anyone explain or is it just some odd coincidence?

I used to wonder the same thing. :]
But I found out why from my mom, if you're a Christian Catholic, they're not supposed to eat meat on fridays, like chicken, beef, stuff that come from mammels I guess.
And on fridays you can eat anything but that.
I don't know why, but it has to do with Jesus and his decipals or something when they were having dinner together.
I'm not sure.
Hope I helped hun! xx

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wat brand of coundoms do u prefer

I would say Trojan with spermicide. :]
Because, if the condom broke, your chance of getting pregnant, would be even lower.
But, either that, or anything else that is Trojan. :]

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how do you give a hickey? like i know you suck on their neck but i like cant give one it wont work?

Well, have you ever sucked your arm so much that the blood went to the top and it turned all purplish blue?
Well, if you haven't. You should try.
All you have to do is suck, not too hard, but the best place is on the neck because their is less skin around that area and you can make blood come to the surface easier.
Sounds weird, but it's pretty simple. :]

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I have a really bad hickey.
How should I cover it up?
sdlgjhsfdl !

Hmm, well I would just dab some liquid make up on it.And if that'd doesn't work, just use some tanning lotion.
That should work too. :]
Plus, hickey's don't stay long, so you shouldn't have to worry too much, unless it's really noticeable.

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Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 11 months. We have has sex before and all that stuff. But not latley because were both scared of getting me pregnate because alot of younge teens our age are getting pregnate. 4 of my friends are pregnate , thats crazy. When were alone we get the chance to do sexual stuff. We do these things alot ad i mean alot , but we dont have sex. I just want to learn how to control my self and no one tell me dont put my self in that situation because doesn work . anything i can do to keep a good clean relationship .

Well basically, I know exactly what you're talking about.
I've been in the exact situation girl.
I was totally paranoid with my boyfriend when we first started doing sexual things. I mean, even when we had dry sex, I'd think I got pregnant or something.But honestly, nothing really happens, unless somehow his dick is inside you and he cums.
But if you are both scared of having sex, you don't have to be.
I use trojan condoms with spermicide, and I really reccomend that. The spermicide has a less chance of sperm getting inside of you.
Also, if you want some extra protection, try birth control. That would really minimize your concern.

I'm sure it'll all work out. :]
Hope I helped hun.

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Lately I've been really stressed out. I have a lot of hard classes at school and it's hard to balance all my homework and my job after school. Quitting my job is not an option, as I need to save for many things and put gas in my car. Anyway, lately I just stay up until 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning on school nights just to finish my homework, so obviously I'm really tired all the time. Then, on weekends, I work early, so I never get a chance to catch up on sleep. So I take a nap, and then half the day is gone and I have to rush to get everything done. So, in short, I'm very busy and it's really stressing me out. Any suggestions on a quick way to handle stress? Maybe a better idea to manage my time wisely?

Well maybe you should find a different job..
Or possibly get different hours for your job.
Because you shouldn't have to be staying up till 2 or 3 in the morning to finish HW.
That's the only option I'm thinking but otherwise I'm not sure because I haven't been in that situation.

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i have a little extra fat on the upper half of my legs, i'm 15/f and i was wondering what i could do to get rid of it. i do not have the time to go work out at the gym and i am quite flexible if that helps.

any tips would be apreciated, thanks

You should definetly do stretches, it really helps.


Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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i like girl on girl porn, and i want to try things with them, ami just experimenting?

That's dirty, but I know what you mean.
Yes you are definetly just experimenting and having urges.
It's your hormones and that's perfectly normal.
Do you think about guys like that to?
Well anyways it's not a bad thing to watch that, just don't take it to far as in watching it every sec. or something.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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ok so i wanna loose like 10-20 pounds. i know alot of people ask about this but i really wanna no how to do it fast because it bugs me alotttt. i wanna do it in a healthy way tho. and i know the key is to excersise and eat right. but i do both of those most of the time and i havent lost anything, i might have even gained a couple pounds. have any ideas?

Well for me I always did work out tapes like Billy Blanks.
He's really good and you see results right away in about a week or 2.
But you also have to eat right along with doing those exercises.
But just do some exercise tapes along with stretches first.

Hope I helped. =]
♥ Jacky

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could the doctors take a blood test and see i smoke pot? i know they can with urian. but with blood? even when they are not even looking for it?
also friday i have to go to the doctors for my pyshical. when they take my urian can they tell i smoke? or do they just not even look at that?

Yes they can tell if you smoke pot if you take a blood test.
You have to wait 30 days until it's all out of you but otherwise yes they can tell with a blood test.

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well i think the reason me and my boyfriend are fighting is cause of my ex. im not just tryna blame it on him im serious. cause he ims my boyfriend and stuff and says stuff like oh im on the phone with caitlin even tho were not. and like on new years he was like yo i got your girl in my bed and i was like not even in his room, and he tells other people stuff and they all tell my boyfriend. and then my boyfriend thinks i like him and my ex is just ruining everyhing =[. also today was my boyfriends birthday and i completly forgot because last night we were fighitng and my mind was just somewhere else. so hes also mad at me for that. he also thinks i avoid him? i love him very much and im going to be crushed if anything happens. he signs on everytime he gets mad and he wont answer his phone. if i leave messages he wont call back. i dont know what to do. ive tried talking to him but its just not working. HELP FAST!

First of all it would be a really good idea to stay away from your ex.
It's over, you don't want/need anything else from him.
He probably still likes you and is just trying to infere with your relationship.
You should really tell him to just back off, seriously or else you and your boyfriend are gonna start having more problems.
If your boyfriend really loves you I'm pretty sure he would really trust what you say.
Just tell him the truth and stay away from your ex.
All he's doing is pestering.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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i don't know why but i just randomly start crying.
like i get really upset.
i think it could be because i'm reading this book and the dad died, and maybe i don't want to lose my family.
or.. well like im in 8th grade and we go on a trip to d.c. in june.
we need 3 roomates and i have 2 we might have our 4th but its not deff and i dnt wanna get stuck with some weirdo orr.. being away from home, cos like when i went to uconn for 5 days away i got upset and i dont know why.

any ideas on how not to get like upset like things to think of.
i try to think of the guy i like but that only works for a little.

Funny, because I was the same way.
It's pretty normal.
I bet it's just mood swings and your hormones must be really kicking in.
It's nothing bad and a lot of girls mostly go through it.
I was always an easy cryer and very sensitive.
But I'm sure you'll be alright.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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i've had my period for two years, but i haven't had it in the last six months. the last time i got it was in the beginning of june. i've never had sex, besides, after six months i think i would know if i was pregnant. haha. my doctor keeps saying that everything is fine and just to wait..but this is really weird! has anyone else gone through this that could give me any advice?

i got a job in june, and also started a new relationship, that recently ended. i also started running. i figured maybe those could be reasons for me not getting it, but i thought that things should be getting back to normal by now.

The reason why you're probably having off days of your period is because..
Everyone is different.
No one has the same amount of periods and it's perfectly normal.
I'm sure everything well go alright and you'll start having it like you normally would again.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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ok last month i had a few blood droppings..barely anything and it only happened once last month. And idk if i have started or not.

You probably got or just started your period.
It's usually not heavy at all when you first get it.
But sometimes if you already have it, it could be light because of something you did like any sexual activity or something.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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Ok, so I really really really like this guy at my school. and the other day i went to my friends house and she had his number so we called him 2 times. i kept his number, just in case i wanted to call him and ever talk to him, since i have a huge crush on him haha! anyways, i really want to call him again, just to talk but i am sooooo scared to. when my friend was there, it was no big problem. so, should i call him? or just talk to him at school, which i do all of the time. idk what to do!! because, when my friend and i called him, i think he was kinda in shock because we called, he wasn't expecting it. and today he asked " why were you guys calling me?" and i was just like idk, we just thought we would. so..what should i do?? oh yeah, by the way, he doesn't know i like him. thanks guys!!

I think if you really have the confidence you should just call him up.
But otherwise you should ask him if you can call him sometime just to talk or hang out.
That way you can get to know each other and tell him your true feelings about him.
I'm pretty sure he was shocked that you call because girls don't usually just call guys out of nowhere.
But you should ask him about it.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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i just got my computer last christmas, its a laptop and fairly new. well lately its been being kind of slow and it freezes sometimes or takes a really long time to load or send or something. its new so why is it doing this? also when i try to send pictures on email to my friends it says my virtual memory is low and wont let me send it. please help me! sometimes i leave it on for long periods of time when i go away but ive tried to stop leaving it on overnight. and i have a popup blocker/virus scan. i have a lot of pictures so could that be the problem?


PLEASE HELP ME!!! ITS GREATLY APPRECIATED.

I agree with Thew that leaving it on for long periods of time causes it.
But that's not always the case.
You probably do have a lot of pictures and you might not have that much megabites for your computer to have that.
It could be that you don't have the best virus scan either.
You should really look into that, if I were you I'd use Norton Antivirus.
Just be careful.

Hope I helped! =]
♥ Jacky

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