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Q: my guy friend says he likes me but he is uncomfortable with me kissing him. what should i do?

Be pacient in time he will open up to you abd he'll be more comfortable with the whole kissing thing.Really i wouldn't sweat it now but if it goes on for like months then i would be questionable.

Hope i helped!!
~~Cynthia~~

Q: Hey, so heres my problem, theres this girl. We like each other. But we have(more like she has) made the decision not to date until were like 16. So thats fine i'm willing to wait. But theres a lot of other girls that like me. And i do want to date and she said that she doesn't care if i date while i wait. But.....well i really like her. Like almost love her. Cus we've known each other since like the age of 3. But i moved when i was 8. And now at 14 she shows up at my church. So i'm really confused on what to do. So PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Ok look if i was in your position i would be deeply considering your feeling for the girl in which you are waiting for.... Like is she worth the wait and by how you described her she sounds like she is. Then i also understand the fact of the other girls likeing you it is understandable that you don't want to be alone.I am wondering if while you are with these other girls if you imagine them being the girl your waiting for?? If not then ok but before you move on to dating someone who could end up being the "one" you should sit down and get every little feeling out?

I hope i helped
~Cynthia~
Let me know what happens.

Q: I feel like my life can't get any lower. Everything I was good at I am no longer good at. No matter how hard I try people are always a lot better. My grades are slipping and nothing I do makes me happy. I hate my life and I just want to stay in my room and be alone forever. What do I do?

Well honestly you can't keep yourself down.Look i was just like you about 1 year ago and i never wanted to leave the comfort of my room.But being in your room all your gunna do is realize everything you have done wrong.I think you need to get out there and find new things your good at and find new ways to bring excitement to your life again cause you have the rest of your life ahead of you but you won't go any where if your in your room.

hope i helped
~~Cynthia~~

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three months. We havent kissed yet, but i think i want to. How should i tell him??

I think you should to.If its been 3 months already.What I would do is be like::: Ok you know we ahve been together for 3 months and I think that we can take it to the next level.If your comfortable with it. I am almost positive that he will be so don't sweat it k hun!!! hope i helped

~~Cynthia~~
(rate me)

Q: I just started at this new school, although i;ve been there about 2 yrs ago. I met up with an old friend and we feelin eachother. But me..i aint the type of girl who haves boyfriends in school cuz they be acting immature. He's a year older then me....But im trying to see if i should give this a chance. holla back

You know who dis is...
Like i have been tellin you I think that personally your feelin him and the same goes for him so either you need to make a move or you need to make more passes at him to show your interested and you want to take it further. And if he gets the hints then take it from there.If not kick his fine lookin ass to the curb cause obviously he only tryin to have associates and not a girlfriend!! To tell you the truth I thik he got the message cause it seemed like it on the phone when yous was talking for like 5HOURS!! I think you should give the whole boyfriend in school a chance cause its always nice to have someone you love close to you!!!

Aiight !!
~~~~Cynthia~~~~
(Rate Me)!!

Q: Today i found out from alot of people that my boyfriends been cheating on me with this girl that i absolutly hate and wen i asked my boyfriend about it he sed it wasnt true and they are lying to me, but i dont know wether to trust him or not because he has cheated on me before and tryed to hide it but i found out and idk why but i let it slide (plz noone give me a lecture on that). His bestfriend even told me that which is why im questioning him but he keeps on saying its not true. I dont know what to do, should i break up with him even though hes saying it not true or should i stay with him? someone please help me! btw me and him are both 15 and weve been together for 10 months, and we also dont go to the same school. thanks for your helf

he's a damn liar i know him! and he is cheating on you, dont listen to him!!!! ofcourse he's going to say he isnt cheating on you! why would he tell you that he's cheating on you? if i were you i would go and kick his @ss to the curb and go beat her @ss for 3 reasons....
1)She disrespecting you
2)She a hoe
3)Just feel like kickin her @ss since you dont like her anyways!

let me know if you do kick her butt, rate me! hope i helped make up your mind ma!!

Q: well im 16 and started my periods when i was 13 and i havent told my mom yet!! (ive been gettin away with it through usin loadsa toilet paper n stealin pads off her n buyin them at school, if your wonderin). the thing is i cant tell her because shes really mean and honestly does hate me and wants to put me in care - she has told me herself that she only lets me stay here still cause she gets paid in child benefits. she would laugh at me if i told her...how do i tell her that i have started without her laughing?
please dont tell me she wont or shes been through it too or whatever because i know this woman and you dont. i know she will laugh its what she does.
besides shouldnt a good mom have asked her 16 yr old daughter if shes started her periods yet anyway??

Yea listen ma, you need to tell her because YOU'VE BECOME A WOMAN, and if you dont have a job to be able to buy your own pads and crap then you have to depend on her to get them even if you think she' ll laugh at you. I mean when you break it down its kinda better to have your mom laugh at you the first time you tell her about ur period then being joked the rest of the time your in school b/c you like had an accident which could've been avoided if you just told your mom! Please rate me. But also take into consideration what i told ya!

Q: Well there is the girl at my school who i like but i found out today that she dosent want to go out with me and i still have feelings for her and i just cant seem to get her outta my head even though i know she wont go out with me i am still crazy about her and i dont know what to do please help i reall cant stop thinking about her no matter what i do i just cant stop thinking about her like right now i am and i just dont know what to do.

**this is cynthias sister**

Yes yes,,,i was informed of who you are (i wont put ur name out we both go to the same school..LHS)
Listen ima break it down to you shorty...If she aint feeling you anymore,,,then what can you do? you've talked to her yea? told her that you still like it right? And.... doesnt she have a new boyfriend? Yes sadly this is true we all have to deal with these kinds of problems sooner or later...luckily its sooner for you this year huh?? But i'll let you know that YOU ARE her BEST guy friend and she DOES appreciate you being there for her dumbass!! beleive me i live with her i know these things boy!!! Keep ya head up lil man!!
Victory
(C im really not mean!)

Q: ohk im really scared! i think i MIGHT be pregnet. but see i did not ever have sex! ever! but i KIND of did anal.like it went it half way. can u get pregnet from anal? and like i always get my period before my mom, but she got hers today and istill dont have mine and im like really scared

Okay wow, see now obviously you shouldnt be having sex if you dont know how you can get pregnant! How young are you? 11?? Theres no chance in hell you can get pregnant frm anal sex. There arent any ovaries in ur ass..Take a couple sex ed courses. And all you people tellin her to get a pregnancy test, SHUT UP cuz yall dont know nothing either. Have KNOWLEDGE before you SPEAK on the subject.

Q: i really dont know what to say theres this girl i know.. the thing is i still have alot of fellings for her but one of my friends are with her.... the thing is my frind is going out with her but the catch is that shes best frineds with his ex and i think hes just useing her what should i do........?????????

hey
Well if you really think that she is being used you should tell her!! I know this is you mike..... I understand everything your saying i don't know what to do about it? I seen your other questions to. mike what are you doing? I don't know what to do about us i am really being torn between people.your my best guy friend and for now i think that is going to have to be enough i am really sorry but you know if you need someone to talk to about anything like your brother you know that i am here.....maybe there could be something in the future??

~~~~Cynthia~~~~
P.S whats up mike its megan!!!

Q: Hey Cynthia it's kristen, I want to say I am sorry about friday. I wasnt myself I was hearing so many different stories from ppl and goncha said u said that i was talking stuff about her, right now i just really regret ever doing what i did with the locker because we wouldn't be in this hell hole that were in right now i hope you can accept my appology and we can remain good friends like we were! and no matter what i am here for you even if were not friends which i hope thats not the case! ly bye!!
*kristen

Kristen
Hey hun don't worry about it.Its all in the past now we can look ahead!! Like you and .....S..... anyway so yeah i guess that's it so ttyl!!ly

Cynthia!!

Q: hey I'm 15 and I went with my dad to his commercial shoot and I talked to the make-up ladies alot. At the end of the trip they told my dad that I would make a great model and I should really look into it. I'm about 5'7, long dark brown hair (about 3in past my bra) green eyes, about 113pounds. I was wondering how you got into modeling and who the right people to talk to and call would be? Also, what are they looking for in a person to be a model? I would really appreciate the help. Thanks :o)

I apologize this is so late. Ok first i found my agent you can do that by just going around looking at different companys.Don't settle for the first one. Make sure your comfortable around them.Basicly what they want is confidence and energy.Its all about your pressence how you come off to them when do your meet and greets.Personally from the way you sound i think you would be a great runway and photographic model.Now after all of this i would look in to a modeling school.I attend Barbizon at the moment but pending on your location there might be some other one around there. Always keep your eye out in magazines and local malls because those are where i got my runway jobs. Basicly i would defintely pursue this if your comfortable in the businees. It can be rough at times but i think its all worth it!!
Hope i helped
We should stay in touch i would love to see how it all works out!!!
(Plz Rate Me)

~Cindy~

Q: I am 19 years old and have been seeing a girl for 2 and a half years. We recently broke up over christmas but have still been seeing each other because we get on really well as friends. I put my cards on the table so to speak and told her how i feel that i still love her and i want her back. She replied im still in love with you but i dont want to be in a relationship at the moment. When we see each other i keep on saying to her that i will get her back and she agrees with me she says we need time apart. Which i am willing to do if it means i get another chance becasue i really do care about her so much. The only thing i am scared of is there is another lad on the scene whos she assures me they are not seeing each other and just friends which i beleve, but im scared that when we are having our time apart she ends up having feelings for this lad and i wont get her back at all. What is the best way to go about trying to get her back? We went to the pictures lastight and it was goin brilliant then her phone went off and it was a text msg off this lad and her attitude towards me totally changed!

SRY this took so long! Ok well from wut your tellin me i totally think that she is leading you on!! I know how u feel aboout wanting your ex back 'cuz rite now i am tryin to do the same thing. Guess what i am not getting any further then you! I am not sure if she is feelin' you or not. But like the advice i give myself sometimes you just have to let go no matter how hard it would be!
Hope I helped!
PLZ rate me?

~Cindy~

Q: Hey...im a 14 year old bisexual and i want to have intercourse with the same sex...and i also want to tell my parents but i dont know how they will act... :( im kinda worried..

Signed..14 year old bi guy

I think u should just come out and tell your parents your decision. I am almost certain they will be accepting to it!!
Plz do me a favor and rate me
Really hope i helped

Q: I have a problem with my clothes. I don't mind the way I dress or anything...I just feel I need to change something..add more style to me. I usually wear jeans, skateboarding shoes, hoodies and fitted tees/layeredtees, what can I ADD to this to make my clothes more......exciting? Lots of tips would be great, and I'll rate you a 5 no matter what.

Well to begin with i am liking your stlye i myself like to skateboard and wear hoodies.Though if you want to make it more interesting one word "accesories" you never go wrong with them .
Ex: Bracelets,necklaces,rings,chokers,belts,.It really all depends if ur like everyday skator with the etnies,dc,adio,hawks, or wut not or if ur able to wear a purse and chandaler earings!!
~ Hope it helped ~

Q: I have a huge problem..im only 13 and weigh 98 pounds but i love to eat!! When i get home from school i eat like a bag of popcorn, some chips, and a salad just to make myself feel better. I excercise but not like a TON. and im healthy ..so whats wrong? I eat breakfast, then a snack, lunch, then a snack and dinner, then dessert. But, when im bored or sad - i eat. even if im not hungry..how do i stop this eating problem ?? =/

It seems like your eating to fill in time or even emotional feelings.What you should do is try to fill the time with something useful like a i don't really play sports but i model and its fun cuz i like food to but i control it and don't let it control me.You should like take up some kind of activity keep your mind occupied with other things!1

(I would try and lay off the snacking to )
Hope i helped plz rate me

Q: ok, if this makes any sense, plz help. what are the levels in a relationship? i know there's like friends, dating, kissing, french kissing, etc, but what's after that?

Ok u have to be a little more specific levels or bases???? because if its bases then after french kissing its feeling up going dow then sex!
Hope i helped u understand

Q: Ok, well my friends turned on me at the beginging of this year (7th grade)I have been hanging out with other peeps thati really like. Then all of a sudden this girl marissa imed me on aim and said that since i left they are now the most popular girls in school and i have no style! i to have style. maybe i have to have the RIGHT style. Should i go by what i think or be one of the crowd. and if it do need some "style tips" can any popular/cool 7th grade girls tell me wat would look good. i have brown hair with blonde highlights. i have blue eyes.i a kinda short. i mean, wat kind of clothes r in? am i doing my makeup right?

PLEASE HELP ME
JENNA

Ok look don't listen to them bimbos!! I am in 9th and when i was in 7th i went through friend fights and them talking about my style but hey who are they to tell you the way you should look rite! I am more then sure they are just hating on you cause u look better then them!!! If i were u f*#& them and be your self!! Always stay true to YOU!!

Q: Im 13 years old and all my friends have boyfriends. I dont and Ive never had my first kiss. I mean i saw a ten year old making out at school. Thats just wrong. But i had a boyfriend and it was my friend. Well i saw him for one day i said yes then i didnt hear from him in like a month so i guess he broke up....Ok well any advice and dont say ur day will come.

Ok hun let me to u like this......
I have totally been in your situation and i also hate the quote "your day will come" because who the hell knows when it will you no wut im saying!! So wut i would do in ur positon is forget about that dude he ain't worth it!! Now for your future... girl get out there and play the field!! Flirting never hurt anybody show some of your (single cute)
Friends your interested but don't come off like a hoe!!!

Hope i helped!!
~Cindy~

Q: ok well i dont eat anything really... i would say im becoming anerexiox. i know its not good for you but does it mmake you lose weight?

Ok look i can understand where u wouldn't want to gain weight or what not but doing this just makes you lose weight and it rotts the inside of your body !! If i were you i would stop and get help to save ur life!!!

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HMMM describe myself.... ok I really came to this site looking for answer to my own conceeded world.But then realized that i am much better at giving advice then taking!So I am here to help any one who needs it !You guys can hit me up on e-mail or wutever.

Ijust wanna holla at my bestest friends in the whole world!! Megan and Careen I love you guys so much. You guys are the best! I don't know what i would do with out you homie!!! lol Luv yas lots!!!!

~I LOVE S+M~
P.S
Megan wanna clean my oven!!! lol

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