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Hey, so heres my problem, theres this girl. We like each other. But we have(more like she has) made the decision not to date until were like 16. So thats fine i'm willing to wait. But theres a lot of other girls that like me. And i do want to date and she said that she doesn't care if i date while i wait. But.....well i really like her. Like almost love her. Cus we've known each other since like the age of 3. But i moved when i was 8. And now at 14 she shows up at my church. So i'm really confused on what to do. So PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Hey... To be honest with you.. If you liked.. or loved this girl as much as you say you do.. You will wait for her and not date anyone else.. Do you find people who are dating and love each other dating other people? well that was a bad example.. but.. Honestly.. if you love her like you say you do.. you will wait for her and not date other people.. but thats just my opinion..
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Don't throw away your high school years waiting on one girl. but don't throw away a potential love in the future keep in touch with her and hang out with her like friends do. then when you feel like the time is right ask her about dating now instead of later. If she really likes you and is worth it she'll agree.
GOOD LUCK!
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You have to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her you've tried to hold your feelings back, but you can't do it any longer as you love her so much. Why does she not want to date till your 16? Is it a religious thing or is it maybe an excuse to mask her fear? If it's the second option, then talk to her about it and try to convince her that you will take your relationship slow and will handle every problem together.
However, if it's the first option or she still wants to wait till your both 16, then I would suggest that you start having other relationships. I know it's hard but you have got to take your mind off her or you'll drive yourself insane. Whatever you do, don't compare other girls to her and try not to think about her, if you do hit yourself.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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Date other girls.If she doesn't change her mind out of jealousy she probably doesn't like you as much as you like her.If she isn't ready for the dating thing then respect her wishes and check others out in the meantime.
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you are both 14?
if you really like this girl, and you are willing to wait..then wait. even if she says she doesn't care that you date, its more than likely that she does and will be hurt if you do date someone else.
see what happens with your relationship, and maybe she might change her mind.
hope i helped.
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Ok look if i was in your position i would be deeply considering your feeling for the girl in which you are waiting for.... Like is she worth the wait and by how you described her she sounds like she is. Then i also understand the fact of the other girls likeing you it is understandable that you don't want to be alone.I am wondering if while you are with these other girls if you imagine them being the girl your waiting for?? If not then ok but before you move on to dating someone who could end up being the "one" you should sit down and get every little feeling out?
I hope i helped
~Cynthia~
Let me know what happens.
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Well tell her that your not open to a relationship like what she is surgesting tell her that you would like to go out with her but you cant put your life on hold for her.
Luv roxie
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Well, you could take her word for it and go ahead and date while she waits until she's sixteen, or you could not date, and wait for her. Theres a few pros and cons for each, and I'll list them. The "cons" for dating other people while you wait for the girl you like to turn sixteen:
-You could lose intrest in that one girl
-She might get upset and not want to date you
-She might lose intrest in you because you're dating other people
-It might hurt worse if you're dating someone, then you break up with them to date the girl you currently like when she turns sixteen.
The "pros" are:
-You'll know what to expect (maybe)
-You might lose intrest in her anyway, so you might as well date..
-She might lose intrest in you anyway, so you might as well date.
I don't think that it's a good idea for you to date while she's waiting, because she might think that you don't really like her (I might think that..) and might lose intrest in you. And if you're dating other girls, you might become much more attracted to them than you are to the girl you're waiting on. You see, it's full of things that could happen that would keep you from dating this girl when the time is right.
The pros and cons for not dating while you wait - "pros":
-You'll have less of a chance of losing intrest in this girl
-She'll be less likely to lose intrest in you
-You'll be closer to this girl when the time is right (because you'll not feel like you're double crossing your girlfriend to talk to this girl)
-The girl wont get her feelings hurt because you're dating other people (even if she said it wouldn't matter, it really does)
The "cons":
-You'll be waiting for almost two years
-You still might lose intrest in her
-She still might lose intrest in you
Ok, now, you do realize that I don't think you should date while you wait, but that's your choice. What I'm saying is, if you wait, and you do lose intrest in her, or she loses intrest in you, you can always start dating other people then. You're only fourteen, you have a long time to find the right person. I hope this helps you out! God bless!
-FunnyCide
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wait it out. TRUST ME.
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Hey if you really love her and like her that much then in the long way it was worth the wait!! and even if there are other girls that have your eye the one you love is waiting for you! I hope every thing gose good for you,
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Hi! First things first. DO NOT PUSH. A little patience will go a long way with this girl. Try to get to know her more by talking to her. You will have a better idea of how much she likes you. I think it's very admirable that she has chosen not to date until she is 16. However, your dilemma is that you like her now and you want to date her now. If you really, really like her, (almost love her) give her time and space but keep talking to her. Smile, be friendly without pushing for anything else. If you keep her at arms length, (within reach) you may find that she comes to you in her own time.
Good luck!
Linda
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