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Can help you with anything at anytime.
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I'm usually on about all the time.
Atleast 4 times a week, so I will def. get your message.
Don't be afraid to ask anything.
I don't get offended easily.
But, I can and will be a bitch if you get on my nerves.
I'm no label, just myself.
I had braces : ( for 3 years, so my teeth are lovley♥.
I guess my style is dressy, kind of 80's, vintage, hollister, abercrombie, the works.
I'm petite.
You probably won't ever see me without eyeliner♥.
Most people like me.
Not saying that you will.
Parent's like me.
Though, mine never agree with me.
I sneek out.
Party all the time.
Can make anyone laugh.
I live in downtown Chicago, fun place to be when you have your permit, ehh?
My house has a pool, so a girls gotta' tan.
Boys are confusing.
Girls are just plain confused.
I talk a ton.
i-Pod, Side-kick, and a bottle of Dr. Pepper♥.
Used to live in the OC, and totally serious.
Such hipocrits.
Thats another thing I hate.
I'm a very insecure person.
Trust is big with me.
My mom dad died when I was 9.
The step dad is the typical rich guy, spends his money on cars and a country club.
What can I say, it's not like I hate it ; ).
I swim and play tennis.
Tennis is better then swimming I must say.
Jolly ranchers are amazing.
Cats are fuzzy.

.:The end:.
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advice

I know "Pop Yo Collar" is a song, but my friend says its more then that, but she wont tell me what. Please tell!! I rate!!

I'm guessing she means to pop your cherry, but it's not. The song is just 'Pop Yo Collar' nothing more.
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okay im 14/f and my bf is 15. right so people say im like " pretty" & like shes a loser or fag or whatever. and i dont get offended because i dont care what other people think. but sometimes i feel like i dont like him & i think thats bad. like i could be with someone else ? but then he tells me he lvoes me etc etc. but other days i feel like i like him no matter what he looks like. im desperate for help .as if this didnt have that written all over it ! =)


..please help hun i just dont know what to do. & now i feel guitly talking to him when i feel like i dont like him.& he buys me all this stuff and he like loves me like too much and i just don't know what to do. and i dont want to hurrt him im his first gf and he said he woudlnt be able to live without me and all that crap etc etc. i don't know what to do !

Well the only real salution to your problem is to take a break from him. Let him know that he is too good for you and that you just need to sort out some things. If he takes it really hard then he might just be desprate because it is his first g/f. When you 2 take a break, see how it works out with other guys and such, then if you feel you want the old man back then stay with him.
I hope this helps you!
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we get to do a research paper on anything we want, what would be some good topics?

Woah, there is a ton to choose from. Maybe something to do with teens and peer pressure. Or stereostypes! Like how the world is just one big stereotype. To our names and race. Maybe something on trends and fashion statements that come and go.
I hope that helps you!
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What are the symptoms of Mono?
Please no websites.

Initial symptoms are:
-general lack of energy
-a loss of appetite
-chills
These initial symptoms can last from one to three days before the more intense symptoms of the illness begin. The more common intense symptoms include:
-a severe sore throat
-fever
-swollen glands

I hope this helps you!
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What are the symptoms of Mono?
Please no websites.

Initial symptoms are:
-general lack of energy
-a loss of appetite
-chills
These initial symptoms can last from one to three days before the more intense symptoms of the illness begin. The more common intense symptoms include:
-a severe sore throat
-fever
-swollen glands

I hope this helps you!
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xXx

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I just realized that I have this weird binging habit. When nobody's home, or when I'm at a friend's house, I find myself eating insane amounts of food.

Is there a way that I can force myself to control it?

Eat a nice breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Have little snacks inbetween. I also have that problem when I am at friend's houses. Just eat with your family and before you go to friends houses, then eat a snack there.
I hope that this helps!
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xXx

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I have a new hamster. When she is on her wheel, it is really loud. It is keeping everyone up and I was wondering if there was anything I can do. I am going to try to find a different wheel, but I am not sure if there are any quiet ones out there. Does anyone know what I can do for right now, until I can find a new wheel?

Thanks!

I would suggest to take it out. Don't let her use it until she gets a new quiter one.
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xXx

/editt: Sorry, I didn't know.

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my girlfriend thinks that im too innocent, how could i change? I hardly know any sexual slang,ect.

Tell her to teach you some things she knows. You will be less innocent and it will be fun for you both ; ).
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xXx

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Dear Advicinators,
I'm a 17 year old girl.
I reasently had sex with my boyfriend
The problem is I feel like I'm not as in love as I thought. I've resonly had Eyes for another guy. What do I do?
DA

Well there isn't much to do. You have just lost your virginity to a guy you didn't love. Let him know before you get in too far than you already have. Don't lie to him, tell him so you can end it. Then get to know the other guy. Don't just atomaticly rebound.
I hope this helps you.
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okay, so, my dad is totally changing his views on everything now, and I don't really know how to talk to him like I used to. I mean, I could tell him anything, and now its just kinda weird. He won't let me read Seventeen until he cuts some "articles he doesn't want me to see" out. He says that I am not allowed to date (whereas in 4th grade I had a boyfriend and him and my stepmom would always be like "did you call him yet" and stuff). Him and my stepmom used to ask me how to have kids on the sims, i am not even allowed to make my sims kiss now (which I do anyways, but still). They used to be so cool and all, but now they are so overprotective. I don't go to school (homeschooled) so I don't have those kind of problems. They think that I will fall into all these stupid fads and trends and sex and drugs (yes, i love fashion, and music, and yes i do try to impress people and stuff, but only to a reasonable extent). I like this boy, who i like, just met about six months ago, but I have only seen him a couple of times. I know that he likes me, but when we get to know eachother more, and if he asks me out or something, what do i say, i mean "i have to ask my dad" or "i'll think about it" will sound like i am a baby or he might think that i don't like him and he might just look for someone else. I don't think i could do something like have a boyfriend behind my dad's back, and how can i have a boyfriend in front of his back? How do I tell my dad I like this guy and he likes me? (by the way, don't say "well, this guy hasn't even asked you out yet, and he might not ever." i am asking in advance so that when anyone does, what the hell do I say to my dad and future boyfriend?) thanx i rate :) (srry this was long, don't even answer if you're going to give some retarded answer like "hmmm...idk umm.. DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND!") thanx again

I agree with the person below. Talk to him about it. Explain to him that it is okay and you already know this kind of stuff. Ask him what you did that made him so overprotected and such. Let him know how you feel about this situation. Tell him that, yes he should give you some boundrys here and there, but be realistic you need space, you are a teenager (I guess?). Then if he lets go a bit, then tell him about this boy and that you are just friends but what if the time comes that you become more then that. Tell him that you won't give in to drugs, sex, and drinking. Let him know you are responsible enough to handle dating.
I hope this helps you and if you need anything else, just ask me!
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Not good. My best friend and I like the same guy and he might like her back and I'm completely jealous annnd she doesnt know I like him.
I just got out of a relationship.

what to do?

This happens a lot of the time. Tell your friend you like him a lot. She then will know. Since you did just get out of a relationship it isn't the brightest idea to rebound to someone right away. Talk to your crush more, get to know him well. Then if he and your friend hook-up it won't last very long and you could just wait it out. If he doesn't go out with your friend then flirt with him and get him to like you.
Don't be jealous, just find yourself a different guy, which I know is hard but their are plenty of guys out there.
I hope that helps you.
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xXx

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I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

There really isn't anything wrong with him. He has seen porno and such. I would actually go with him, they are a lot of fun.
Don't think of it as him wanting to cheat, think of it as he just wants to enjoy himself. It's only just fun.
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I sit next to this really great guy in school (every class except my extra classes[french and music]). Well he has a girl freind and on monday he starts talking to me and he never talks to me. He asked me for a piece of paper. He asked me to help clean glue out of his desk. Then we start talking about our pets. Then yesterday he poked me on the sholder and smiled at me. What does this MEAN????????

It means that you guys are friends. He might even like you, but don't get to any conclusions until he and his girlfriend break up.
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i know this is a pretty stupid question, but who won the flavor of love ? lol i missed the season finale
thanks

I am IN L0VE WITH THAT SH0W! Noone has won yet, the end is this Sunday I think.
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xXx

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Hey everyone..my junior prom is sort of coming up and i wanna start lookin for a dress..does anyone know if the dresses are usually floor lenght or does it not matter..and where are some good places to look for unexpensive dresses?

Yea, it doesn't matter the length. I would say that Body Central or The Body Shop has cute ones. So does Macy's and JCpenny's. Jessica McKlintock has adorable ones but they are expensive.
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Doe anyone kno any good hair styles for medium length hair, not fancy just every day look im tired of ponytails and just leavin it dwn boring. thanks

Here is a list.
*half up, half down
*messy but cute bun at the top of your head.
*flipped ends
*that poofy thing like this http://www.natalieemerson.com/hillary/Natalie%20with%20Hillary%20Duff.jpg
*you could lightly curl the ends
*a low side ponytail
*low pigtails
*scrunched
*scrunched in ponytail
*loose curls
*tight curls
*straightened
*Make like a dome shaped thing like this http://news.xinhuanet.com/english/2003-11/17/xinsrc_06f85d70f52441a6ada1c433bc792317_042.jpg
*curled half up and half down
*pull your bangs to the center of your head (if you have bangs. If you don't just use some hair) and then secure with a bobby pin.
*low curly pony tail

I have a ton more if you need them.
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I have to write an essay about a serial killer for my english class. It can be about any serial killer I want, so I chose to write about Jeffrey Dahmer. Everyone else wanted to write about Ted Bundy or Aileen Wournoes (the Monster character that Charlize Theron played )
Does anyone know anything about Jeffrey Dahmer? I rented the movie Dahmer, and so far it looks like he just likes to kill for company, mainly gay guys.
Does anyone know if Dahmer was executed in prison? And did he ever kill woman, or just men?

I don't know anything about him, but google it. I googled it just a minute ago and found a lot of things about it.
I hope that helps you.
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Male/16
Ok i had invited 6 of my guy friends over and we were just hanging out in my room. We got sort of bored so we decided to play truth or dare (haha i know). The dares were pretty embarrassing. Everyone had done their dare, so when it was my turn i was in no position to turn mine down. They dared me to make out with my friend Derek until the song they picked out ended. Of course the song they picked was like 4 minutes long. It was odd kissing someone of the same sex, but i kind of liked it. After about a minute we got sort of into it and he started to take of my shirt and kissing my neck. The other guys were laughing so hard. So it was finally over and around 12:00 the guys headed back home. But Derek stayed a little longer. I really wanted to kiss him again so i went for it and, it went a lot farther than i expected...
So the next day he snuck out at like 5 in the morning before my parents were awake and i went back to sleep. I woke up around 8 to head to school and as i was eating breakfast my mom pointed out the hickey i had on my neck. She was like who gave you that, because you didn't have it yesterday and i was like i have to go. So i drove to school totally embarrassed. Just my luck at lunch my gf noticed the hickey and got really pissed and asked me who did it and i didn't know what to say. So now my gf won't talk to me and my mom wants to know what happened. I am also very confused how i feel. I wasn't really attarcted to my gf, but i really did enjoy being with Derek, so does that make me gay? And Derek called and asked if i wanted to go out with him but i don't know if i should. Should i tell my mom and my gf the truth?
Thank you, sorry it was long

If you really do not feel attracted to this girl, then you probably need to end it. You are just lying to her and yourself. Now if this is the first time anything like this has happened between you and Derek, then maybe you are just experimenting. Go out with him and see if you feel like you want to go further in your relationship.
And yes, tell your mom. She needs to know and she can probably help you, too.
I hope this helps you.
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xXx

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I've been working at a job for 5 months now. The job is okay, the people are nice, but I'm only making minimum wage. It would be nice to work somewhere part time and make 20 dollars an hour. Right now I work 25 hours a week and make 8 dollars an hour. Sometimes the job is strenuous, with a lot of lifting, unpacking, and pulling pallet jacks. I work in retail in the shoe and underwear department.
What kind of job could I apply for that I could make more money at? The skills have are: customer service, till training, stocking shelves, pricing, setting up displays, operating pallet jacks, and good work ethic.

Well, I'm not sure what jobs to recommend. But, do you have a college degree? Did you graduate? A lot of good jobs only want you to have graduated. I would visit:
www.monster.com
They can help you find the job you are looking for!
I really hope it goes well with you!
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hey,im 13 and im going to an awesome party with all my friends and there will be boys there to! i want to look my best,so i need a very stylish,comfortable,cute outfit that will suit and flatter some of the positives in me!! I am 4"7 (yea...short..runs in the family though!) flat..medium wavy layerd brown hair,big brown eyes,long eye lashes,black eyebrows,semi-tan skin,rosy lips,(im very italian) well,thats about it!i'd like to know the make-up i should use and what kind of out fit or an idea you have for me!! thanks!!!!!!

I hope I'm not too late. Sorry if I am!
Okay, lets see here.
You should wear a skirt, not a jean skirt, but a flowy skirt. If you don't have one, then wear some stretchy jeans, you want to be able to move your hips.
Wear a shirt that matches. Make sure it's not long sleaves, because it gets hot in there.
If your hair gets frizzy easily then wear it up because you will get hot and sweaty. If it doesn't get frizzy easily, then either straighten it or not.
Wear some gold, bronze, brown, silver, purplish colors for eyeshadow and black eyeliner. You probably won't need any mascara. Then just apply some lip gloss.
You probably will take off your shoes so that won't matter.

There you are! Have fun.
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