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Low Self-e-Steem 13 yr old
I live in baltimore and im mostly jealous of half of the girls at my school. Most of them dress better then me, look better then me, get my boys then I do, and all around have a better life then me. People always tease me about not looking right...or not dressing GOOD ENOUGH for their like. I tried killing myself...it didnt work, i just feel unloved and unwanted. Sometimes i wished i could just be them...and live the live they live there just perfect as hell! I started prosituting to feel wanted by boys...and for a while it was good and after some time after people starting finding out and calling me a hoe I guess i found out what's wrong with it. But, still now i love attention from anyone and i love making people laugh. and i HATE everything about myself...i feel ugly. I never feel pretty and people always tell me im ugly or what's wrong with me and i always think about it and then it sticks to me...and i hate myself more and more. People tell me dont care what people say but its hard, when your in my shoes. Everyone is just living this good life...and noone understands how i feel...and the boy that i like the most wont go with me but he would go with this other girl. (I guess she's better then me too.) Please someone help me! I dont want to feel this way anymore.
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first of all about getting boys.........The biggest turn-OFF is insecurity.......you need to be a stand-up gurl in order for other guys to think your a stand up gurl....if you feel sexy then you are sexy....stop that prostituting thats bullshyt gurl you dont need to do that and when people call you names dont listen its JUST words...anyways weather you beautiful or not is an opinion.....and personality does matter to guys so be more confident i know its not as easy as it looks but why not go shopping for new clothes?? ill bet theres some qualities you have that those other HOES dont...no ones erfect so there is something wrong with them HOES and i alredy found somethin without even meetin them
Theyre persoinality SUCKS DICK!! man anyone wyho disses people and disrepects people is GARBAGE they the ones who really aint shit.....if anyone is low enough to put someone down then there NOTHING. man gurl your probobly beautiful....think about the positive things about urself......dont like completely change but upgrade yourself.....if you think something looks good on you wear it!! and if u wear it like it looks good gurl people gon think it loooks good... man keep your head up....i already see something great in you....you seem really nice and thats something alot of honeys dont have.....no need for trying to kill urself...rather try upgrading your clothes and makeup........man if you need anything just ask US before doing anything stupid like tryna kill urself post some shyt up on this website you know we Got you...much love
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girl dont let them bitches get you down... ive been called a hoe too many times to count... i know how it feels. they dont know you... and theyre talking cuz they have nothing better to do... really, babe, these peoples' lives arent as great as u think, and i can guarantie it. you dont know what happens behind closed doors. and they dont now either, so they shouldnt talk. but you cant do anything about that except be yourself and youll find your place soon enough
about the prostitution... youre not a bad person... its simply what you needed to to, but hopefully you learned, and those guys dont give a rats ass about you... but im sure you have people that do. just stick by them and if you need anything IM me at Mzzweiner
much love
laura ♥
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Listen sweetie i haven't seen you, but i believe your beautiful in my eyes. You feel, you breathe, you think, and you want to love and that's beautiful. People can be assholes and I'm so sorry for you are getting the farty, booger, muddy end of the stick right now. If you believe in God he put you on the earth for a reason. I'm going through what your going through right now and i still have a good self esteem and try not to indulge what everyone says. It's hard as hell i truly know how you feel. I promise when you get older you'll see those people later in life and you'll have the great life and they will be fat, fugly, mean, lonely, and forgotten. It sounds like your not getting any motivation and strength to love yourself at home. Cause every thing that a child thinks and feels comes from their way of how they live at home and their families. Don't try to dress punk or look sad to others because that shows that they've won of putting you down. Don't let them win!!! Fight and try to go for more positive things in life. Be independent and be your own person and when someone says something mean to you just smile at them and go okay, really, thanks and keeping your head up high if you have no good comebacks. Talk to a counselor or anyone that you can get your feelings out to. Believe me killing yourself will just have you in hell and more miserable....TRUST ME!!! Their are people still on this earth care about you.....Hope i helped!!
(P.S. If you need someone to talk to i'm here to talk and help and to become your friends. I can always have more friends to talk to!!....go to my Advice Column and you'll see my screename and you can IM me at any time!!!)
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Your 13 years old, you still have your whole life ahead of you. A lot of girls go through an awkward stage during this time. If your really feeling so down you should talk to your mom, and maybe even a therapist. and NO therapy is not jut for crazy people, it really helps to talk and they could help you out with your self-esteem problems.
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mmm, okay first of all, you are thirteen girl, and your being a prositute?
thats crazy, was that your action of suicide? because your only that young and those guys could have taken you somewhere and never let you see the world again hunny.
And yes, girls become real jealous of girls at there school because they dress nice, look nice, popular, and crap like that. Don't ever say to your self that your jealous or that your ugly, your not. Nobodys perfect.
One of the girls at your school could have a yeast-infection but nobody would kno because if people found out then less guys would be around her.
another girl could have crabs or something. YOU KNO?
another chick could be TOTALLY FLAT.
don't worry bout it. those girls are just girls. and you are a person that needs to stop thinking of what people want you to be. IGNORE all the people that tell you the negative. tell them to fuck off.
don't do suicide actions, because you were put on this earth for a reason right?
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You definetly have a very big self-esteem problem and it's more than that alone.
When you are out prostituting, you aren't wanted and loved by the guys who have sex with you. They only want your body and the pleasure they get from having sex with you. They don't have sex with you because you are a good person, or good-looking, or anything that actually matters in a person. They have sex with you because they want sex, they'll have it with anyone. It has zero to do with you.
I know you're having it rough in school from everyone's comments about you and the way you dress, but when you really get so far down in depression to where you hate yourself and attempt suicide, you have to stop and ask for help. Putting yourself out to guys that will take you in for your body isn't making anything better for you and it will haunt you for the rest of your life. You have sex, you feel wanted and loved, but that's only in the moment those good feelings are there. They go away later on when you get called a hoe and all of those other bad names.
Reaching out to your parents or a counselor or a trusted adult means that you can be happier than just those good moments in the prostitution. You can be a happier person and more importanly, you can be happy with yourself. Which is important. All of your problems connect to your self-esteem. The way you think that nobody loves you or cares about you connects to your self-esteem.
Everyone has a crush on someone and gets turned down because they want to be with someone else. It doesn't mean that the other girl is better than you are. It means that it's that guy's loss that he doesn't want to have a relationship with someone as fun as you or as smart as you. That's another reason why you need good self-esteem, it's about knowing that if someone doesn't like you back, you can just know that it doesn't make you any less prettier, or smarter or any less of the things you were before.
There comes a time in everyone's lives where things get way too out of control and you just have to yell for help when it gets to a bad point. And you need to do that. No matter how much you fear it, or don't want to, if you really want to get better and respect yourself, you will get yourself some help even if it means making you uncomfortable. Sometimes we don't want to do or take things, but then later on we realize that we really needed it even though it wasn't fun to go through.
If you need more help concerning this situation, please reach me through my inbox.
-TheTeenGirl
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please calm down, suicide and prostitution are not the answers.
Do not ever let others get to you, i know it is ghard, i do, but you have to be your own advocate. If you want others to stand up for you, you must first stand up for yourself.
What about the theatre if you like attention and entertaining? theatre kids are usually super nice and open so long as you are nice to them. It is a way to kind of get out of your skin for a while and take on another's persona, to be better, to be worse, to be sexy, or to be crazy. check the theatre out!
As far as clothing goes: don't worry about it! and if you can't help it, check out the sale rack at GAP (they change their clothes all of the time so there is cute recent stuff for cheap all of the time!) Or sotres like wet seal and old navy are relatively inexpensive but fashonable at the same time.
what will killing yourself proove? how can you change who you are and how you are engraved in the mind of the world if you end your life early? If none of this works, is there any way that you could transfer before you get to highschool so that you could strat out fresh?
I am here if you need any help. please reconsider your fate because i guarentee that it will all be okay. MAy i reccomend reading "The Perks of Being A Wallflower"? it is a life changing book. just remember these things:
"NEVER let ANYONE make you feel inferior without your consent" -Eleanor Roosevelt
"If you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm" -Audry Hepburn
"I have had dreams and I have had nightmares, but i have conquered my nightmares because of my dreams" -Jonas Salk
"What les behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters comapred to what lies within us" -Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Destiny is not a matter of chance; it's a mtter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved." -William Jennings Bryan
"We are made to persist. That's how we find out who we are." Tobias wolfe
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