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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




advice

my so called good friend called up my other friend and was just talking crap about me. but thats not what really bothers me because she says stuff about EVERYONE she ever meets and im used to it. but then she also told my friend she read my journal/diary whatever u want to call it and thats just like a big violation of personal space. and she called my friend up when i was on vacation and then today she called me and acted like she did nothing since she doesnt know that i know what she did. so shes being two faced. what should i do??

gettin back at her wont help. so my advice to you is ignore her. dont answer her phone calls. dont waste your time with her. she trying to be cool wit you so she can find more things to talk bad about you. just ignore and she will get the picture and leave you alone. hope this helps.
♥ Stephanie

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Well, okay. I had about 3-4 best friends. And I used to sit with them at lunch. Recently, I haven't been sitting with them because nobody talks to me even when I try to strike up a conversation. So now it's even worse. None of my friend's talk to me. Well, they talk to me sometimes, but not like 'your my best friend' anymore. One of my friends, David, doesn't talk to me at ALL. So I sat with them at lunch again and things went back to normal.

But I wonder - are they really good friends in the first place at all if they don't talk to me when they see me unless I sit with them at lunch?

i used to be in the same situation as you are in. they dont really care if ur there or not. it doesnt bother them. your just a "friend" to them. it doesnt matter wh at you say or do. my advice is to forget them and find better friends. (i am not tryin to say that they are bad ones). hope this helps.
&heart; Steph

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all my friends are ragging me that i don't wear any thongs i was wondering why people wear them anyways since they so uncomfortable and what should i do about my friends

i only wearng mine around my bf. he tells em he likes that stuff that is basically the only reason. some can be uncomfrontable. and others arent. they way mom thinks there used for is to not show underwear when you wear tight clothing..

♥ steph

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okay so my best friend has been seeing this guy, well shes been kind of ignoring me.. and then she made out with him last night for the first time, and she didnt tell me first..she told all my other friends.. who are her friends too, and they ended up telling me.. i dont know i got really mad about this and can u please tell me if im over reacting? bc i think she blew me off the other night to go hang out with him too.. plz help

that sucks that she blew you off but maybe she is having a hard time right now. it could be posisble her bf doesnt really like and some how convinced her that she shouldnt be talkign to you. my advice to you is try talking to her about it. if she blows u off then leave her allow true friends dont do that.
♥ Steph

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ok i was recently band from here for asking too many stupide questions so first off i whated to say i appologize to any one who read them also my quetion is if you did reed them and were affended then will you please forgive me i am not gay and i have never felt that way i was drunk and thaght it would be funny so please forgive me if you do will you please also send me a response saying you did i will feel mech beeter thank you

it is ok. dont worry about it. no one's perfect.
*~Stephanie~*

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my parents wont let me go to my friend's house tonight!!! they wont let me do anything tonight actually!!! they said that i havent been doing my chores... and he's (my friend) having like everyone over and he really really wants me to come! ='( can someone please tell me a way to persuade my parents to let me go? pleaseee i'll rate really high. and the party's tonight... so i need advice quick!

this is what i would do.(i have done it before and it has worked) ok go clean everythin in the house. EVERYTHING. dont say nothing to them about it just do it. take intergirty and inisative and clean. they will then be pleased and when you ask the to let you go they should let you. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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13/f

i was recently raped and im scared. the guy who raped me..was my bedt friends boyfriend (shes 14 hes 15 turning 16) and im scared. i have nightmares about it and im afraid to go to sleep..i keep getting calls that have perverted breathing for like 15 seconds then he hangs up i havent told anyone..and im SCARED!! he threatend to kill me and my family..what should i do??

you have to tell someone! tell your family about. if you dont tell anyone then no one will help you and your sistution will get worse and you will stay scared forever and hemight even do what he said he would so i would tell someoen right away. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok so last year (i was dumb and i regret it) this guy was EXTREMELY persuasive and i would never do anything like it, but this guy totally made me want to take pictures of myself. not nude but not much on. this year we dont at all talk-i mean at all and he goes to a different school. and i dont want to talk to him. but i always worry hes going to post the pictures of me on teh internet or send them to someone. it really bothers me and no one really knows of my friends/family. it scares me of the possibility of posting the pictures. i know its my fault, but sometimes persuasion works. i want help, but to anyone who reads this-just a reminder from someone, whatever you send to someone or put something somewhere-anyone has access to it. sorry its long.

if you used to talk to him and you guys were friends i dont think he would do something like that no matter what. i mean you trusted him with your pictures he should at least respect that and not only respectyou but himself. and you are right about pictures online. everyone should read that and understand it and be aware and warned. i dont think you should worry about it to much he might have just lost them or throw them away.

*~Stephanie~*

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ok here s my questoin , i come from an arab society and its not like we dont have girls in my college . . .its that i dont know what happens to me when i m with a girl i wanna get
when i am with anybody else i keep on talkin and talkin i mean that i m not shy and i have lots of casuall friends
what can i do , whats your advice for me 19/m

the more pratcie you get at it the more you used it and simple it will get. if you are having a hard time talking to girl then askt hem to hang otu with you one day and talk to them and get to know the. if this isnt what you are askign then i am sorry.
*~Stephanie~*

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y friend has a new bf and they have only been togther for three days and they have already kissed and well when she hangs around him she pretty much ignores us and well when she is older and she meets a guy then i dono she is 12/f and i am 13/f when she is older i hope she makes the rite decisions with a guy cause if she goes this fast when she is this old then well think about when she is older i just need some advice the guy is 13 and is a grade older than her and he is going to break up with her and she never got broken up with before i need advice on whether if ui should warn her or what

this is kinda of difficutl because you dont want her to be mad at you about it but then he dont want to be the one causing the probelms.my answer to this is just hint her about it. like in a joking way tell her that he will break up with her. and when he does leave her be a good friend and help her out. and about her doing things to early it kinda depends. if she kissing him on the check or a peck on the lips that ok but if it is the whole kissing then you got to talk to your friend and tell her to slow down. i mean i didnt kiss my bf until the third DATE.. so yea..
*~Stephanie~*

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OKay Im 13 female.. and my best friend is .. 12 male .. im serious he iS MY BEST FRIEND!
Well i accused my best friend of someting and ive been totally killing him and he just looks at me an f rowns.. and i cussed him out.. then i found out he didnt tell my secret.. someone else did.. and he told me wen i accused him HE WUD NEVER TELL anything about his BEST FRIEND and he said he loved me.. what do i do to apollogize.. and he tried to kiss me on the cheek and hug me.. and i turned around ! WUT DO I DO!!?!/
I WILL RATE 5!!

figure out a way to call him up or cotact him and tell him how sorry you feel and how you made a mistake. remember true friends are hard to find so you need to get him back and apologize and maybe if you have to give him a hug and a kiss on check just like tryed to do to you. hope this helps you out.

*~Stephanie~*

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Well, my friend and I were supposed to hang-out this weekend. I have called her numorus times, maybe 3 or 4. Most of the time somebody didn't answer, the line was busy, and then one time, her brother answered and told me she wasn't home. But, sometimes her brother will say she isn't home, even when she is. Well the thing is, I really want to get intouch with her. So should I just keep calling; it has been about an hour since I called. Should I just not call and wait til' she calls me. Or does anybody else have anymore suggestions?
Thank you so much if you can help!

just leave it alone. dont waste your time.. keep youself occupided doin other sutff and she will call. if not there always be another time.
*~Stephanie~*

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My best friend just got kicked off our school's cheer squad cause she failed math. This came as a complete surprise b/c the coach approved her when she showed the coach her report card. The principle informed my coach failing a class wasn't allowed if you play a sport so my coach told my friend to turn in her uniform she was off the squad. My coach said she ran into the bathroom and cried and refused to come out. ( She was also supposed to come home with me and spend the night after the game )

I feel horrible right now; me and her were such good friends on the squad and we dont have any classes together. I called her after the games I cheered at today but brother said she wasn't home. I personally don't know what to say to her; I'm bad at this sorta stuff. We have to wear our uniforms on game days and I'm afraid that will make her feel really bad to see us in uniform. What should I do? Please Please guys, I really need help.

you should talk to you coach and expail to her that instead of kickin her of the team the coach should put her probation or somethign but not boat her off the team. when i say probabtion i mean like let her stay on theam adn play but only if she stays after class and works on her h.w and if she needs help she will get it. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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So i spent the night at my friends house.
Her brother and I were watching a movie.
He got up to get something to drink.
I put my feet on the sofa,then he came back he didnt move my feet instead he grabed a pillow and layed on me.
Then later on her grabed my hands.
Awhile after that,i was on him.
As in he was siting down,and my legs were over his.
He out his face on mine.
As if,he wanted me to kiss him.
But i just huged him.
Later after everyone fell alseep,he kissed my on my forehead.
We talked a bit,then he stole my pillow.
So i was forced to get up and sit on the floor and take my pillow back.
He didnt let me have it back,so instead i layed down with him.
He held my hand,kissed are hands.
And kissed me couple more times on my forehead.
Then fell alseep.
Next day,It was like nothing happened.
Im confused,i mean did he just want someone to lay on and hold hands?

Please,dont delete.

Im not sure,what to think.


this is a hard question to answer but i will try my best to answer it.

i think this guy likes you but is tryin to hide it. it mgiht have been that last night he was feelin a lil horny and wanted you to do someing wit him but didnt. my advice to you is to go talk to this guy in private and explain to him why did what happened that night happen.
*~Stephanie~*

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Ok..well I've been going out with this guy and only a fewp people know, and i didnt want them to know bc when everyone knows then people start to screw up everything and can cause us to break up, so one of my friends asked me if i was going out with this one guy and i said no and named somebody else even tho i was going out with that guy and i lied to him for 3 months and i finally told him and now he pretty much hates me, i've been giving him space, is there anything else i can do?

i can understan were your bf is comin from and i suggest to give him some space( which you already did) then after like a 3 days call him up and explain to him how you feel.

*~Stephanie~*

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16/F.
My 2 best friends have been going out since the summer (don't worry, it's a guy/girl....) I'm really happy for them & all, but sometimes it gets annoying, because whenever I do get to spend time with either one of them (since they're constantly with each other), we always end up discussing the person's bf / gf. They are always asking, "So what does he/she say about me??" & I always end up having to spill the juicy, mushy details of all the "oh she/he's so hot" & all that. I feel less like their friend & more like their spy now! It really makes me feel used. So, my question is... is it wrong for me to want them / encourage them to break up (I know that seems kind of selfish, but....) or what am I supposed to do about this? I rate 5's for non-crap answers. ;)

i understand were you coming from but it isnt a good idea to try to break them up because then you will be stuck in the middle of it and each of them wants to get over the other and the might even talk trash about each other to you and i dont think you want that. my suggestion is to tell them how you feel about not wanting to tell each other about what the other says. just be like if you want to know how he feels about you all you have to do is ask him and he will tell you himself not me. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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okay if this is long im very sorry but i would like people to answer it anyways because i will rate high. okay so i have a really good friend.. and yes well i like him too.. but he dosnt like me, big shock there. and well around june my class has somewhat of a prom thing, and like he said he's not going to go because the girl he likes is a freshmen and she cant go because only 10th graders can go. and it like really aggravates me. because it seems like all he cares about is her and like he dosnt want to go unless she's there. and i dont know is it wrong to get aggravated? and what should i do..

thanks

honestly since your friend doesnt like you back and should like get over him he isnt worth your time.and if he knows you like it could be why he is acting so werid.. just leave it alone and dont think about it too much.
*~Stephanie~*

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I need some advice on a very very close friend that i know only over the internet. We are working towards meeting each other and becoming a proper couple (hes in australia, im in england). Recently he had a breakdown and disappeared for 4 weeks where i heard little from him. Ive been worried sick but now he is back but things seem to have changed greatly. He still has aversions to light and things.
however hes really dependant on me. i dont feel the same way about him anymore but i dont want to make his condition worse - so how can i tell him this?

to be honest with you i dont think it is the best idea for you to be talking to this guy. espacaily since you really dont know him and he left you for 4 weeks. four weeks is four weeks and that is a really long time. he shouldnt have done that to you. i bet you were hurt when you found out he was and not knowin when he will back or where he is or what is happening to him. i would slowly try to get myself away from him. like day by day try letting go a lil like talk less to him and dont think of him as much. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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I was just wondering, do y'all spend more time with your bf/gf or with your friends?

boyfriend even though sometimes i try balancing it.
*~Stephanie~*

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last night I was at the movies with my boyfriend and we were making out. Then after that I noticed that he had his arm diagnal across *down there*...does that mean he had a boner and was trying to hide it?? lol thanks for the advice!!

that has happened to me be4 he probably did but want you to feel it and back off you know. my bf has done that be4 to me except i moved his hand and felt it..
~*Stephanie~*

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