Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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MY BEST FRIEND has turned into a real jerk. Me and him loved each other and he just turned me away. He tried to kill himself and that really got me worked up and i guess i said a few things i sholdn't have but i miss him and he's sending me these e-mails that r insulting me and saying he's glas i'm out of his life. What should i do? (link)
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If I were you, I would leave him alone for about one week. Don't call him or try to talk to him, etc, but try and make eye contact with him sometimes so he knows you still really care about him.. Write him a letter or even a poem explaining how you feel and how sorry you are and how much you cherish your friendship.. He sounds like a pretty stubborn person but thats alright its just going to be alittle more difficult resolving things. Another thing you can do is buy him something special, nothing big, just something simple that symbolizes an inside joke, etc.. Great luck
love kristin
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Im back, i really liked your advise but i forgot to mention some other stuff. I want to let this girl know how much i care and that i do love her. I do love her but i dont want it to be in a BF,GF kind of way jus because it wouldn't work. she wouldnt want it and i dont think it would work, at least not now. How do i tell her i do love her but one level beneath BF,GF. I know she cared about me too and i want to show her i know that. She's in a couple of my classes so it wont be that hard to start conversations with her. it thanksgiving break for us and we get 3 weeks off school, how should i meet up with her. thanks (link)
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Okay this is what I would do: Go hang out with her somewhere, either the movies, out to lunch, etc, just somewhere..Maybe not the movies cause thats like a date kinda place, but like out to lunch or breakfast.. And this is what I would say, "listen. you are seriously like one of my closest friends and like i dunno...it just feels like i have this connection with you that i never really felt with a girl.. I want and need you to know that I care about you so much, not just at a friend level and not even at a gf level, I dont even know what kind of love and care it is.. but i just need you to know whata special person you are to me. seriously do NOT get friggin scared off of this cause I know it might sound weird.. im not expecting anything back from you at all.. I just wanted to let you know that I love you.." and make SURE you keep saying that its more than a friend kinda thing but not a gf kinda thing, its like u see her a such a great person and you feel happy around her that it feels like love.. if you wanna know if she feels the same, i know that she will have some sort of responce after you say whut u needa say, and if for some reason she gets shy or whatever be like, 'and i wanna know how you feel about me as a friend and as a person.." then she will get into it..i really hope this helps, great luck and i would love to know how everything turns out
love kristin
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19/M- okay so i know this girl who talks to me every once in a while, but doesn't want to get to attached to anyone. I really enjoy talking with her and I think she such a nice person to be with. Im not sure if she likes me though and i need to know if I should try becoming closer to her or would that scare her away. I'm a year older then her and she jus started college this year. HELP! (link)
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Hey there. I think that you should totally try and talk to her more, but the fact that she told you that she doesnt want to get attached might mean that she was hitting that she [may] not be into you like that. It totally depends on how she said it though, so that is for you to decide. I think you should try becoming closer to her as her friend at first, then after you 2 become really good friends, slowly admit to her your feelings for her, but you really never know, by that time you may realize you dont like her in that way, I doubt that though.. Good luck and if you have any more questions that require more detail please let me know!!! Good luck
love kristin
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I care a lot about what my friends think of me. I was preppy, and I want to go punk. I got some cloths liek element shirt and volcom and stuff. But when my friends get mad at me they call me poser, even before I got this new stuff. They also say I hav real bitchy attitude. And this past summer a lot of family issues happened, and my friends know that and still call me a bitch. Do they really mean it when they call me a bitch and a poser? Or are they saying that just because there mad? I told them how when they say that it hurts and they dont seem to care. And me and one of my best friends just got into this big fight! She has been ignoring me and calling me bitch and poser. But were friends again.... Do you think she styll thinks that? Or was she talking out of anger? PLease dont sey get new freinds cas i dont want new ones! wat do i do? (link)
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Hey..I know that must really hurt being in that kind of situation.. Im going to be nothin but real wit u, and I do think that they really feel that way, about how youre a poser, etc.. I think that they just like using the word, 'bitch', so i dont think they truely mean that, but about being a poser Im sure they mean that.. When you are trying to be something you just arent, thats whut a poser is. Im sure you know that.. I think that it really annoys them that youre trying to be something u arent, and ur 'following' what their doing even if its not you. I would go back to the way you TRUELY are, and i bet you anything they will stop thinking that of you. when u guys fight Im sure they will resort back to calling u a poser, but whEn they do be like, "look at me, do i look like a 'punk' to you? I dont think so. I was stupid be4 by trying to be something im not, but this is really me and u guys dont like it then screw u." once they see that u are standing up for ur self and who u really are, they will start respecting you. good luck and i hope this helped.!!
love kristin
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written by friend :
Hey im 14 and this guy is 16 .. Soo we hang out all the time but my BEST friend hates him and thinks hes bad and stuff.. but whenever his around me hes really sweet my friend just says .. Oh he just wants a piece of ass and all this other stuff.. and i think my friends parents are itimated that he can drive ( because he drives me places). Were not going out by the way but everyone thinks we are becuz we act like it. hes a drinker too =/ liike he has this rep that he always goes to parties and gets drunk and throws up everywhere ! .. so yea =/ what should i do? should i stick with him.. i mean i like him but my friends hate him =/ PLEASE HELP (link)
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Sometimes when you become really interested in a person, you fail to see his flaws..But the people around you who love you, like your friends, seem to ALWAYS catch that persons flaws..which is such a great thing because they are only looking out for you and only want the best. If your friend/s thought this guy was a pretty decent guy to date who had flaws, obviously, because no1 is perfect, then they would encourage you to date him and to try something new. But in this case, they really dont like him at all,which says a lot. You really gotta think about the ups and downs in this guy. If he drinks and parties and even has a rep, then smoking and taking drugs Im sure are something else that he has probably tried also. I would think about it again if this guy is really for you. Remember, the people you love only want the best for you. And since they dont like him, he is obviously not the best and may even be a bad addition to your life..:-/
love kristin
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I have a problem...i like this guy justin. I have liked him for like 3 years and recently my REALLY good friend Shilah started liking him and he liked her too...they went out for like 1 week and she thinks she loves him but i like him alot and recently we started "talking" like b/f g/f... and i told my friend about it and now she is mad at me... but i liked him first what do i do? Do i go for him and say forget her or do i forget him?
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Amanda (link)
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That sounds extremely cute about what you and justin have. BUT..theres always a but :-/..but you cant do that..Thats so bad karma. Plus u are hurting your friend a ton. You dont wanna do that .. right? I hope not..I would back off definitely, if he asks whats wrong explain it to him... tell your friend that you like him too but you love her way more and your going to back off because of the situation...Youre going to loose a friend if you dont..:-/
love kristin
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I have an exboyfriend that I don't like-like but I do like him as a friend. I want to be his friend but every time I get around him I don't want to talk becuz the last time we did he said why did you break up with me. I ran off so I couldn't answer but I broke up w/ him bcuz I think that i was using him. i haven't had a boyfriend in a while so i wanted one real bad so i went out with him. we hugged but didn't kiss and it still didn't feel right. How do I talk to him without hurting his feelings or making him mad? (sorry its so long) (link)
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I really think that you should go on with your life acting the exact same around him than u normally would if u never went out with him..if he brings it up again, roll ur eyes and be like seriously i dont wanna talk about it..and then make it OBVIOUS that u really dont wanna talk about it.....be kool about it not like mean, be just be frank..dont run off if he brings it up!!! hehe thatll hurt him even more, it realy will...
love kristin
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(*Names changed to protect the innocent)
My Boyfriend *Mickie is the so sweet and nice to me! I really like him...he is also very cute. He treats me like a princess. Well before Mickie asked me out i had a big crush on *Ronnie but Mickie asked me out and i forgot about it for awhile. Lately I find myself flirting with Ronnie, and i like it. I am really drawn to him. But i dont want to break up with mickie...he is so nice. (link)
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It's very hard to have a boyfriend when you are REALLY attractive physically and emotionally to someone else..The thing you should do if I were you, is to end it with your boyfriend. You said he is "so nice," which is TOTALLY good but you want to think of your boyfriend as HOTT PERFECT SWEET ROMANTIC PROTECTIVE SEXY , etc, not just nice you know? Im not saying break up with your boy friend and go for this other guy, i think you should just break up with him and be single until you find a guy who you look at with the above things..maybe itll be that other guy u like? good luck,
love kristin
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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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the only way is to kinda ignore her..thats kinda rude, i know but thats the only way it gets thru their head! ive had that happen to me TONS of times, and u just gotta ignore them..like when they call out ur name in the halls just look back and say wutsup and then KEEp walking and if she goes wait! be like no i gotta get to class..make it obvious because to me she sounds really rude and intruding..thats not kool to just barge in ppl...so0 thats whut i would do0 if i were y0u..
lOVe kristin
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Hey yawl i have a question,ok here it goes.im in the popular group (not to be conceited)but my friends are too and well they kindof get on my nerves sometimes.they brag alot,and they think they are all that and that they are the best things in the world.and they r really bossy.oh yeah we are all girls.and they are always always annoying me.should i tell them how i feel?or let them keep on? thanx Haley (link)
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well usually with tha "popular group" if some1 tries and says how they feel, tha other girls will get pissed off and be even more rude..atleast thats how it is at my schooL...s0 if i were u, id just let them keep being who they are..annoying bossy stuck up, etcetc...u cant realli complain cause thats juss who they are, hence the name, "the popular group" and if ur raelli unhappy and u know u cant change them, then dont be that girl who hasto be friends with only the popular girls cause thats just stupid...if ur realli unhappy get new friends.. i know thats hard but do w/e u can to make u happy..
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Okay I have this friend and she has been my friend for about a year. Anyway she is like always bugging me she never shuts up and she always bugs me and my boyfriend. She is always trying to get us to do things, and she makes us on the sims 2 and made me get pregnant on the game and him have an affair with the maid. I mean she is a really good friend but she is always like butting in to our relationship and it gets on me and my boyfriends nerves. I just wish that she could but out of me and my boyfriends relationship. My boyfriend thinks that she likes to try to make us do stuff because she can't get a boyfriend.
Please Help Me
(*)Haleigh Ann(*) (link)
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Hey..wow thats kinda a weird friend?? hehe jk..but like every1 else prolly said, u gotta talk to her about it..thats the onlyyyy way shes gunna really get it..i mean there are other ways to hint it, but itd be mean, so tha only nice and mature way to do it is by telling her how u feel..the next time she doesnt something stupid like that and she laughs or thinks its funny, kinda roll ur eyes and be like, "listen u and me are hella good friends..and if u ever had a prob wit me id want u to tell me..i dunno it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable when..."etcetc..u know whut i mean?? whut shes doing it totally outta line and not her place at all...she does it cause she knows she can..cause u havent put ur foot down u know? shes disrespecting u and ur bf so u gotta take care of that...if u need ne more help leave me one in my inbOx..k?
love kristin
oh yeah and if she wont leave u 2 alone, dont invite her places, dont take her with u guyz when u hang out, dont pick up her calls when u 2 are together and if she asks to come with u guys if u ever go out be like..we are gunna go just tha 2 of us like kinda a date thing....sorry :-/..say that or something
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ahhh im soo confused and scared... ok this weekend me and my friend went over to my boyfriends house and we were hanging out and then everyone had 2 go off to different places, so my boyfriend told us to call him after we were done with watever we were doing, so we did and he was like "we're trying to figure out what we're doing so we'll call you back wen we figure it out" and i made him promise... well me and my friend we're sitting in side my house waiting for his call and he never called, so we just went to this party for a lil bit then came back to my house, well my friend called my boyfriend back up and they were like "yo come over to my house" and this mad me mad, because he never called us back and then hes gunna tell us to come over (and all this anger was building up inside of me cuz he never calls wen he says he will anymore) so i took the phone away from my friend and i was yelling at them (i didn't know wether it was my boyfriend or his friend on the phone) saying "how the he** was he gunna not call us and then tell us to come over after us sitting there waiting for his call and we ended up having to call him" and they said to just come over and i said watever and gave the phone back to my friend and they said to call back in 10 mins and they wud pick us up. well we called back in 10 min and they were like "we dunno wat we're doing now so call back in 5" so we called back in 5, and the phone was shut off!!!! so i was soo mad the rest of the night... but anyways wat im getting to is, i feel bad for blowing off on them yet still mad because they did that to us... so how do i approach them 2 apologize, and wat shud i say... and what do you think about how i acted and wat they did to us??
PLEASE ANSWER!!! i rate high (link)
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EW. girl if I were you, I'd break it off with him!! He hella disrespected you. Even if all they were doing was sitting around watching tv, he said he was going to call you back like 20 times, but did he? No, and oh wait..he even turned his cell phone off?? He obviously knew that even if he did that shit, you wouldn't break up with him, cause if he was scared you were going to break up with him because of that, he wouldn't of done it in the first place. SoO break up with him!!!
LoVe KrIsTiN
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I just started at a new highschool September 8th so ive been there for three days i only knew 2 people they introduced me to alot of there friends ive tried to be really outgoing but like ill be talking to someone i nkow in the hallway and then when one of there friends see them and they know that person well theyll start talking about people that i dont know so i feel like left out cuase i cant be in the conversation i feel like im bothering some people by always asking if i can sit with them and stuff.no one that ive met ever says hi to me in the hallways or anything i have no one to walk with its wierd...theres like this free 10 minutes to do w/e you want well i usually o in the cafateria and try to talk to the 2 ppl i know but there so cought up in there old friends they basically forgetthat im there..and like in my old school alot of guys would talk to me here they dont...but its only been three days...should i give it time??i just need help i want friends so bad ...after a while do you think the guys will talk to me or anyone for that fact ??just tell me everything you think...when will i fee like ive fit in ? thankyou so much (link)
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give it time, i promise you that if u give it maybe acouple more months or even more, ull have tons of friendZz..and its onlii been 3 days !!! it takes soo long for guyz to notice girlZz even if they are hecka pretty!!! just wait ull see..one thing tho dont follow ppl around or nething cause then they might get annoyed of u and u dont want that..its okay to eat by urself trust me no1 will think nething, onli that ur new.
love kristin
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anyone have idea`s when there stressed.. or shitty mood and feel blahh how to cheer up.
any thing im out of ideas.. (link)
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i usually take loonnnng hot showers when im stressed out...it helps me so much..
love kristin
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I have a friend and me and her have been friends sense 4th grade we're in the 8th now , but lately she has been thinking that every single one of her exboyfriends likes me. I keep telling her that its not true, but she still thinks it. I dont want her mad at me over something like this. Its not like I like them back is what I tell her. What should I do? (link)
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alota times girls can see right thru their ex-bfs, especially when they think they like their best friends...all u can do is act like u dont care at all..if she ever says nething about it,be like ew u think he likes me..ugh..oh well sOo wutcha doin this weekand..or like change tha subjeCt and totallllly act like ur uninterested..dont argue back and say like no they dont, dont think that...cause trust me thatll get u no where...if she keeps talking about just keep on saying..i dunno maybe who cares..n stuff like that...
love kristin
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i have this one friend of mine who whenever other people are around, especially guys, she gets really obnoxious. She become loud and annoying trying to be the center of attention. She put on her annoying girly act, and its just frustrating because she never acts this way when its just me. How can i show her obnoxious she's being without her screaming at me? (link)
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pretend that u overheard acouple guys say that she was hella annoying and fake and loud...n be like yeah i told them to shuttup, but then it got me thinking and u act TOTALLY not urself when u are around guyz..get into it that way...
love kristin
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my friends were all at a party.. and they started talking smack about some ppl they didnt like... these happend to be my friends.. so i just sat there and didnt say anything.. later i went and told my friends what others were saying .. and now some ppl are mad at me.... i meean shouldnt they be careful about who there talking crap about... well i apoligized and told um sorry.. but there still mad... plus get this.. last time someone was talking shti at a party it was about me.. and im glad someone told me... so waht do i do...? signed tell the truth?
~*a*M*y*~ (link)
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i kinda understand where the other ppl are coming from..cause its annoying when the person who is sitting there listening to shit being talked about ur friends but doesnt even say nething, but then go off and tattle to their friends..i can understand that. next time say something! those are ur friends..im glad u told ur friends tho, u did the right thing. good luck
~kristin
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A couple of my friends always tell me that im so gorgeous and they wish they looked like me n stuff... yeah, its flattering but it makes me feel uncomfortable and a lil guilty or something. should i do something? or what can i do so that i wont feel uncomfortable... thank u (link)
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be like..thanks thats realli sweet, but i wish i looked like YOU. and turn it around and make them feel flattered as well. i hate it when i give some1 a compliment, especially like omg ur gorgeous. and all they do is say, thanks. lol i dunno i juss cant stand it. hope i helped!!
~kristin
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Hey, (14/f) I am friends with my exboyfriend. We talk a lot, and are pretty close. I am going to a different school this year so it's going to be really hard to see him and talk to him, but i really value our friendship. Whenever we talk though he alwayse brings up other girls, and how hott they all are. I know that I shouldn't get jelous since we are just friends now, but i do. So I can't deside weather he is making me feel jelous so i dont forget him, or if he is just talkin to me like a close friend.
-Really confused (link)
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a part of me thinks that he is trying to get u jealous. then tha other part of me thinks that he is just talking to u as a friend. but guys ur age are VERY immature so i bet hes just trying to get u jealous. play tha game alil, and say something about other guyz..ask him for advice on a "guy u like"..itll get to him, TRUST ME! just be prepared for him to trii and make u even more jealous..
~kristin
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umm.. i have this friend and she is like my best friend but ever since her and this other girl that she met have became closer friends she has shut me out and i dont know what i should tell her and so i said something to her about it and she told me that she didnt want to tlak to me ne more if you have ne advice that would be helpful plz answer me i will rate everyone that answers my question thanks alot
-DesPErTlY WoRrIEd- (link)
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maybe make one more trii talkin to her bout it, show that u care, but dont over do it. after that last trii, just wait and wait, once her and her lil new best friend get ina fight shes going to run back to u, TRUST ME. but u cant always be that person whos goin to be there for her whenever she needs some1..dont let her take u for granit. remember one last trii, then trii hard and move on, ull be able to find a better friend than her..
gO0d luCk..
~kristin
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