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arggh This EXTREMELY annoying girl!
There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it.
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My friends do this to me all the time and theyre not fat! All i say is "Psh, please shut up your such a twig!" and they laugh it off. So, dont be mean but say something like that. Make your point AND lighting the convo =P!Luck to ya-EmmaLee
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She's fishing for compliments and reaffirmation. If you give it to her, she can't take it graciously because she has some emotional issues. This girl really just needs some love, friendship and support. Be the bigger person and help her a little. The next time she says she's fat, tell her that if she says it again, you'll beat the crap out of her for insulting your friend, even if she IS that friend. That ought to make her realize both that she's annoying you, and that you're her friend.
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You know what i do when someone complains to be about there looks? I sit there and agree. and if they say "oh god im so ugly" I just say say "ok?" and if they get mad i say "you know how i feel so i shouldnt have to repeat it to you" and then ignore whatever else they have to say. You should try it. Good luck.
xO.Carrie
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I have found that honesty is the best policy. I don't mean tell her that she is gross or disgusting but just tell her that she is a littl chunky just like you just told us. She already knows she is over weight so you are not going to let this huge cat of of the bag she knows it already. For as long as you tell her that she isn't she will believe nothing you say because you are in fact trying to lie to her even though you are just trying to be kind. Maybe she just needs to hear the truth and then will do something about it. Suggest the atkins diet or that she lay off the HoHos so much. Start drinking a lot of water and/or diet drinks. Try and be supportive with her diet plan when she makes one and then compliment her a lot. You can be honest with people without hurting them. She already knows the truth just let her know that you still like her anyway. Good luck...:)
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"You are what you think you are. say your fat and you are fat bitch."
"Yeah, you are fat, what now?" jk, don't say that.
"If you're so worried about being fat, why don't you lose weight?"
"Look, there is too much crap going on in my life to listen to you whine about your problem. i have my own." even if there isn't. i have a very similar situation, and that line works ALL THE TIME. usually though, there is.
Whine about being skinny (even if your not). that'll piss her off.
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the only way is to kinda ignore her..thats kinda rude, i know but thats the only way it gets thru their head! ive had that happen to me TONS of times, and u just gotta ignore them..like when they call out ur name in the halls just look back and say wutsup and then KEEp walking and if she goes wait! be like no i gotta get to class..make it obvious because to me she sounds really rude and intruding..thats not kool to just barge in ppl...so0 thats whut i would do0 if i were y0u..
lOVe kristin
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when she complains again just be like "ok thats what you think about yourself but other might see you differently and you can continue to call yourself fat but its not going to make you look like a stick, you're fine the way you are it doesnt matter if you're fat or not." or something like that. you might want to make it sound a little nicer though, i tend to sound like a real bitch when telling people things who get on my nerves too. ok so i can be a real bitch lol. well anywayz, i hope i helped. good luck.
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